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Is it legal for a 17 year old girl to go out with a 25 year old guy?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

A person who we know (single mother) is allowing a 25 year old male to stay with her daughter, to us this seems bad! Just wanted to know if this is legal?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

16 is the age of consent I think . So yes it is legal

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Age of consent is 16, so work it out for yourself

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Yes, she's over 16 and of legal age unless she lacks the capacity to make a decision herself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sixteen is the age of consent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

maybe the mother isnt allowing them to have sex if its under her roof.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the response

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep it is and being honest if it was my daughter I would rather she was under my roof with him than anywhere else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Legal but would raise an eyebrow.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep it is and being honest if it was my daughter I would rather she was under my roof with him than anywhere else. "

so ya could steal him!?-disgusting! JK for u next!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In the US it depends on what state you live. The age of consent ranges from 16 to 18. Is it right? I think it comes down to the individuals involved. Is she mature and responsible? Is he taking advantage? It's hard for me to pass judgment on a couple I don't know personally.

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By *xpresMan over a year ago

Elland

Unless he is like a teacher or a support worker and she is his student or a vulnerable girl he is supose to have a duty of care over her...

if the above dont count then yes its legal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One of my best mates married his Mrs in the late 60's when she was 18 and he 26.. They stayed married until 2000 ... Then she found someone her own age (49) .... Girls mature earlier than boys so find older more attractive. If she was 37 and he 45 would it be of such concern ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont think there is a law to dictate the legal age for dating.. heck my first bf was 12 lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dont think there is a law to dictate the legal age for dating.. heck my first bf was 12 lol"

Lol I guess we are all just assuming they are sleeping together

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

met my hubby when i was 17, didnt elvis start dating pricila when she was 15?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dont think there is a law to dictate the legal age for dating.. heck my first bf was 12 lol"
That sounds so wrong Giles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"met my hubby when i was 17, didnt elvis start dating pricila when she was 15?"

I'm pretty sure Jerry Lee Lewis married his cousin at 13, not sure social services would be OK with that these days though...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"met my hubby when i was 17, didnt elvis start dating pricila when she was 15?"

Well if Elvis did it that's OK then lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn't matter if the boyfriend is 60, as long as she is over 16 age gaps are very individual so can't be judged from outside the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I met my husband when I was 14 four year age gap but my parents were very strict. 8 years is a big gap but it's legal so if her parents are happy no one's business really

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By *orthyorkypairCouple over a year ago

North Yorkshire

perfectly legal as age of consent is 16!

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

No, it's completely illegal and we should send a mob with pitchforks to his house immediately to drive him out if town or string him up.

Signed

Sheriff Buford T Justice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some 17yr olds are very mature.. If this was my 17 yr old there's not a chance this would happen.

But at the end of the day it's up to the individual

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Kate was 17 when we met,I was 24. Both my parents and her parents were against our relationship.

It's nearly 34yrs this year

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Dont think there is a law to dictate the legal age for dating.. heck my first bf was 12 lol That sounds so wrong Giles

Oh that does sound wrong lol.. we were the same age

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Kate was 17 when we met,I was 24. Both my parents and her parents were against our relationship.

It's nearly 34yrs this year

I was 18 & my ex hubby was nearly 27, we managed 15 years

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My mum was 20 and my dad 39 when they married in 1968, had he not sadly passed away, they'd still be together now. Age is really just a number.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

I was 45 she was 19 we managed 1 night but what a fooooooking night lmao

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if the guy is 25 he is still a young man, not like some dirty old man.

when my hubby met me i was 17 but he thought i was in my twenties, i acted older because the rest of my family were much older than me.

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

Perhaps the mother prefers them to be in the family home rather than sneaking around, I know I would

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By *ichaelangelaCouple over a year ago

notts

Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah, I was 18 when I met my 24 yr old husband.

Crikey when I was 17 I was seeing a guy of 42!!

Wouldn't be best pleased if my daughter did though to be honest....

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"if the guy is 25 he is still a young man, not like some dirty old man.

when my hubby met me i was 17 but he thought i was in my twenties, i acted older because the rest of my family were much older than me."

Awch

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I started going out with my husband when I was 17 and he was 26...we lasted until I was 32 although to be fair I was a scarily mature sexual predator even at that young age

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By *eavenNhellCouple over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

"A person who we know (single mother) is allowing a 25 year old male to stay with her daughter, to us this seems bad! Just wanted to know if this is legal?"
what does the mothers relationship status have to do with the question and what bloody business is it off yours ?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"No, it's completely illegal and we should send a mob with pitchforks to his house immediately to drive him out if town or string him up.

Signed

Sheriff Buford T Justice"

He'd fry their asses in molasses

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When we met , Ann was 16 and Paul was just about to turn 25 , 15 years on nearly and we're still together ,although we never slept in Ann's parents house even as a stay over ( ok there was this one time but Ann's parents were on holiday at the time ) it's not illegal and can sometimes work out ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

it's only an 8 year age gap. Add 10 years to each of them and noone would bat an eyelid

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By *eavenNhellCouple over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

one also wonders if the roles were reversed 17yo male 25yo female would the op be sticking there nose in ?

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By *icketysplitsWoman over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"it's only an 8 year age gap. Add 10 years to each of them and noone would bat an eyelid"

The eight years as a proportion of life lived is where the concern comes in. It means nothing about maturity and how people feel though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"it's only an 8 year age gap. Add 10 years to each of them and noone would bat an eyelid

The eight years as a proportion of life lived is where the concern comes in. It means nothing about maturity and how people feel though.

and its legal which was the original question

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By *isexmistressWoman over a year ago

Prestwich

"No, it's completely illegal and we should send a mob with pitchforks to his house immediately to drive him out if town or string him up.

Signed

Sheriff Buford T Justice"

I saw this in a film once..

All because the locals saw strange lights and goings on at night up at the Baron`s house ..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A person who we know (single mother) is allowing a 25 year old male to stay with her daughter, to us this seems bad! Just wanted to know if this is legal?"

Would it make a difference if she were 18 and him 26?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"A person who we know (single mother) is allowing a 25 year old male to stay with her daughter, to us this seems bad! Just wanted to know if this is legal?"

You are not clear on what you mean by 'stay' so i'll assume you mean he visits their house and stays until the next morning.

You are not clear whether the male and the daughter are in a sexual relationship but for the sake of this thread i'll assume they are or that it is sex that you are concerned about.

You ask if it is legal.

Yes.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"A person who we know (single mother) is allowing a 25 year old male to stay with her daughter, to us this seems bad! Just wanted to know if this is legal?

Would it make a difference if she were 18 and him 26?"

Of course. She'd be able to vote.

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By *hrissie1961Woman over a year ago

dumfries and galloway

They could get married in scotland

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Of course it's legal and 17 isn't young in today's society it wouldn't really raise a eyebrow with me, if he was some 40 plus guy I'd be thinking dirty old sod

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Of course it's legal and 17 isn't young in today's society it wouldn't really raise a eyebrow with me, if he was some 40 plus guy I'd be thinking dirty old sod

Or lucky old sod :D

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How can you not know that the age of consent is 16?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just to throw a spannee in the works.... Are you sure the guy is staying over with the daughter and not the mum?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

its legal, i went out with a 38yo when i was 17 x

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By *ercedes62Woman over a year ago

Northampton

"Yep it is and being honest if it was my daughter I would rather she was under my roof with him than anywhere else. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the response guys, I do know the age of consent is 16 but I'm sure certain laws were changed recently so this has been cleared up, our only concern really is that she ain't been taken advantage of, the guy seems to be into his "" and alcohol and seems to be encouraging her in this. And the only reason I mentioned that the mother was a single parent was that she spends a lot of time away with her partner and don't really seem bothered.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's legal for her to go out with him at 15 if they are not having sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

At 17 she is over the legal age of consent so it's legal. Unless she is registered with a mental health issue in which case it would be for her parents to protect her.

I can see why the mother would allow it as preferable to her daughter just going to a park or somewhere plus they can assure that contraceptives are available.

Personally I'd be more concerned why a 25 year old wants a young teenage child for a girlfriend as she is still classed as a minor. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"They could get married in scotland"

Every cloud and all that.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

"the only reason I mentioned that the mother was a single parent was that she spends a lot of time away with her partner and don't really seem bothered."

If she's not really bothered it may be because she knows the two of them really well, and that there is nothing to worry about.

In ages gone by she would have been married and had a few kids by now! And is more of a relaxing influence, and people will get and experiment with it, regardless of whether dating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Each to there own. I don't agree with ""

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep it is and being honest if it was my daughter I would rather she was under my roof with him than anywhere else. "

Same here.....ruby

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Thanks for the response guys, I do know the age of consent is 16 but I'm sure certain laws were changed recently so this has been cleared up"

I don't understand this. What do you mean?

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By *iceduoCouple (FF) over a year ago

manchester

"At 17 she is over the legal age of consent so it's legal. Unless she is registered with a mental health issue in which case it would be for her parents to protect her.

I dont think it sound like she has major learning disabilities...

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By *iceduoCouple (FF) over a year ago

manchester

"Thanks for the response guys, I do know the age of consent is 16 but I'm sure certain laws were changed recently so this has been cleared up

I don't understand this. What do you mean?"

yea teachers cant fuck anyone under 18 that they are teaching.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Thanks for the response guys, I do know the age of consent is 16 but I'm sure certain laws were changed recently so this has been cleared up

I don't understand this. What do you mean?

yea teachers cant fuck anyone under 18 that they are teaching. "

Is the 25 yr old the girl's teacher then?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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If my daughter was to say her bf was way loser than her ...she is 16/17....the man is 25/35/45....

HELL F/N NOOOO

I would make him disappear ............

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Its different if she would be at the age of an ADULT .......She can date or xxx whom ever then can't stop it

BUT AT 16/17 .......call me old fashion .......

Same goes with my son ......

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QUESTION ::::16/17 yro daughter gets pregnant from 25/35/45 yro man DADS MOMS

will you like your new son inlaw? ???

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By *rtemisiaWoman over a year ago

Norwich

My daughter is almost fifteen but she is very tall and looks about 18. She is pretty mature and doesn't really have an interest in boys her own age, or boys older than her. When she is ready to date, I think she may go for someone older than herself, but if he hurts her, her dad will do for him and bury him in the garden!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My daughter is almost fifteen but she is very tall and looks about 18. She is pretty mature and doesn't really have an interest in boys her own age, or boys older than her. When she is ready to date, I think she may go for someone older than herself, but if he hurts her, her dad will do for him and bury him in the garden!"

Is your OH Tony Soprano

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By *bro07Man over a year ago

Teesside

8 years difference isn't that bad! My friends at 39 and 38 dated a 19 yr old

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

FFS only asked a simple question and got my answer! Personally I wouldn't allow it under my roof. But I guess it all comes down to what kind of parent you are! I don't think most decent fathers would agree with it. But each to there own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"How can you not know that the age of consent is 16?

Not if your in a position of trust it's not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

But I wouldn't meet a 16/17 year old!

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"How can you not know that the age of consent is 16?

Not if your in a position of trust it's not."

You haven't answered. Is the 25 yr old the girl's teacher? You hadn't mentioned that so I'm confused about why it's coming up now?

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

But I wouldn't meet a 16/17 year old! "

But you're not a 25 year old

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

But I wouldn't meet a 16/17 year old!

But you're not a 25 year old

Even if I was 25 I wouldn't date a 16/17 year old. I would feel ashamed personally.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

But I wouldn't meet a 16/17 year old!

But you're not a 25 year old

Even if I was 25 I wouldn't date a 16/17 year old. I would feel ashamed personally."

That's your personal choice. Your moral standpoint isn't the only one or the "one true way".

There may well be things you do that he wouldn't. We're all different. It makes life interesting.

You're happy, as has been pointed out, to fuck women 11 years younger than you. He's happy to date, (we don't know they are having sex), someone 8 years younger than him. They're both happy, it seems.

You aren't the young woman's parent. You aren't either of the people involved. It's not illegal in any way. I'd say you should probably mind your own business, to be frank.

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By *igcovcockMan over a year ago

Coventry

The question you ask is at legal for a 17 year old girl to go out with a 27 year old man, there are no laws governing how old you have to be to go out with any one. It is illegal to have sex with anyone under the age of 16.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes its legal

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

My mum started dating my dad when she was 13 and he was 18.

Wrong in your eyes OP?

They've been married for 46 years.

Sometimes age gaps work.

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By *ranthamThroatMan over a year ago

Grantham.

"Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

But I wouldn't meet a 16/17 year old!

But you're not a 25 year old

Even if I was 25 I wouldn't date a 16/17 year old. I would feel ashamed personally.

That's your personal choice. Your moral standpoint isn't the only one or the "one true way".

There may well be things you do that he wouldn't. We're all different. It makes life interesting.

You aren't the young woman's parent. You aren't either of the people involved. It's not illegal in any way. I'd say you should probably mind your own business, to be frank."

Bit harsh as the OP was asking ( for enlightenment ) if it was legal not if she was being a nosy busybody.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My mum started dating my dad when she was 13 and he was 18.

Wrong in your eyes OP?

They've been married for 46 years.

Sometimes age gaps work."

Well maybe not back then. But would be considered wrong now

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By *stwoCouple over a year ago

anywhere

I am 62 m'y Wife is 51 thats à bigger age gap.have we been wrong all These years?lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

But I wouldn't meet a 16/17 year old!

But you're not a 25 year old

Even if I was 25 I wouldn't date a 16/17 year old. I would feel ashamed personally."

Yeah it's not right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am 62 m'y Wife is 51 thats à bigger age gap.have we been wrong all These years?lol"

You are both mature individuals so it is fine. 11 and 22 is same age gap but completely wrong isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep it is and being honest if it was my daughter I would rather she was under my roof with him than anywhere else. "

This I have two now grown up daughters. I think if they are going to

Have sex anyway... Where there's a will there's always a way, at 17 she is definately legal. So I'd rather at least although, not perhaps being best pleased keep an eye on them. Rather than them shagging in some back

Alley or park. Prob been already said but, too lazy to read the whole thread,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Legal but frowned upon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's legal. If it wasn't I would have thought her parents wouldn't have allowed it

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

But I wouldn't meet a 16/17 year old!

But you're not a 25 year old

Even if I was 25 I wouldn't date a 16/17 year old. I would feel ashamed personally."

I was seeing a 17 year old when I was 26, met him on a night out and thought he was older. Guessed he was about 22, didn't find out how old he was for a few weeks, by the time I did we were getting on so well I didn't care. 4 years we were together x

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By *ranthamThroatMan over a year ago

Grantham.

"A person who we know (single mother) is allowing a 25 year old male to stay with her daughter, to us this seems bad! Just wanted to know if this is legal?"

To clear up the ambiguity....are they having sex?...this would help a lot of bad judgement calls, as a lot of assumptions being posted the forum.

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By *xpresMan over a year ago

Elland

Even if they are having sex its still not illegal UNLESS he a Duty of care ie teacher or carer etc then its totaly legal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's legal. If it wasn't I would have thought her parents wouldn't have allowed it"

Lots of parents dont care if its legal or not.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was 17 and was dating a 28 year old. Went on to marry and have kids with him. Some people frowned upon it. Each to their own I've always thought

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By *igcovcockMan over a year ago

Coventry

"Legal but frowned upon "

Only frowned upon be some not all.

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By *ranthamThroatMan over a year ago

Grantham.

"Even if they are having sex its still not illegal UNLESS he a Duty of care ie teacher or carer etc then its totaly legal "

TBH as it's not the OP's child and initially the post gave a half story I doubt any reply would give the answer as we only have a " friend of a friend " type thing, we don't know the full story - we don't know if an educator or care taker is involved...if the post had said either were then I would have replied otherwise, so I appreciate your stessing the of duty of care.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

But I wouldn't meet a 16/17 year old!

But you're not a 25 year old

Even if I was 25 I wouldn't date a 16/17 year old. I would feel ashamed personally.

That's your personal choice. Your moral standpoint isn't the only one or the "one true way".

There may well be things you do that he wouldn't. We're all different. It makes life interesting.

You aren't the young woman's parent. You aren't either of the people involved. It's not illegal in any way. I'd say you should probably mind your own business, to be frank.

Bit harsh as the OP was asking ( for enlightenment ) if it was legal not if she was being a nosy busybody.

To begin with, yes but they've since said they know the age of consent is 16.

And since then it's moved on to "I don't agree with...", "I wouldn't. .." and "I would...". The original question had been answered by then so that was obviously taking the thread in a new and judgemental direction.

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By *ranthamThroatMan over a year ago

Grantham.

"Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

But I wouldn't meet a 16/17 year old!

But you're not a 25 year old

Even if I was 25 I wouldn't date a 16/17 year old. I would feel ashamed personally.

That's your personal choice. Your moral standpoint isn't the only one or the "one true way".

There may well be things you do that he wouldn't. We're all different. It makes life interesting.

You aren't the young woman's parent. You aren't either of the people involved. It's not illegal in any way. I'd say you should probably mind your own business, to be frank.

Bit harsh as the OP was asking ( for enlightenment ) if it was legal not if she was being a nosy busybody.

To begin with, yes but they've since said they know the age of consent is 16.

Yes I agree.

my apology, a lot of replies took a long time to load on my browser and I missed them before replying to you, yes it has become very judgemental I agree as we haven't had the full story - unless I missed an update from OP, I keep scrolling to find out if it was a sexual "thing"

btw why does Windows keep using American blooming spelling for judgemental? grr lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think you should be concerned. Maybe he's just staying over to keep her company.

I was 15 when I met my ex and he was 26 .. We married, had 4 kids and were together for 26 years.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Well you are 36 and happy to meet people from 25 which is 11 years younger than you. A

Just saying.

But I wouldn't meet a 16/17 year old!

But you're not a 25 year old

Even if I was 25 I wouldn't date a 16/17 year old. I would feel ashamed personally.

That's your personal choice. Your moral standpoint isn't the only one or the "one true way".

There may well be things you do that he wouldn't. We're all different. It makes life interesting.

You aren't the young woman's parent. You aren't either of the people involved. It's not illegal in any way. I'd say you should probably mind your own business, to be frank.

Bit harsh as the OP was asking ( for enlightenment ) if it was legal not if she was being a nosy busybody.

To begin with, yes but they've since said they know the age of consent is 16.

Yes I agree.

btw why does Windows keep using American blooming spelling for judgemental? grr lol"

No problem.

The OP has been very vague on a number of points. I don't think they know if it's a sexual relationship, and why would they? It's a personal thing between the two people involved. And the comments about adults in positions of responsibility seem totally irrelevant, based on everything said so far.

My 'phone defaults to all sorts of random spellings and words. The joys of auto-correct

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If i was 25, I wouldn't personally be wanting to date someone who I couldn't even go to the pub with.

But it's not illegal and if they're all cool about it, then there's nothing anyone can do or say.

Age is just a number and in a couple of years the age gap won't even seem like a big deal it's just because she's 17 now.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

When I was 17 I would have loved to go out with someone of 25, but when I was 25 a 17 year old seemed like a child. I don't think any legal and consensual relationship is wrong though whatever the ages it's when coercion and abuse come into play that I have problems.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS only asked a simple question and got my answer! Personally I wouldn't allow it under my roof. But I guess it all comes down to what kind of parent you are! I don't think most decent fathers would agree with it. But each to there own."

Never see the point in this kind of statement. Surely nobody on here can in any way judge what kind of father the person is in question, or the daughter, or her partner.

It just leads to lots of ignorant twaddle based on actually nothing. And why end it with 'each to their own' when that's clearly not what you believe? At least have the substance to stand by your opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i think you are probably right.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Although having read the original question there's no mention of a father - just a single mother?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Although having read the original question there's no mention of a father - just a single mother?!"

Dads are usualy more strict with their daughters though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am extremely close to a couple who got together when she was 17 and he was 28 and married. He divorced his wife and married her.

If they were stopped from being together, I wouldn't be here now and my mum and dad are still together 30 years later.

As long as both halves are above the age of consent and there is no abuse of position or power taking place, it's nobody's business but theirs.

crystal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Legal but frowned upon "

Not by everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's disgusting , the world has gone Mad , I Was saying the very same thing to my sister in bed this morning ??????????

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

"Legal but frowned upon

Not by everyone."

Definitely not by me

I did used to get some funny looks though x

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"A person who we know (single mother) is allowing a 25 year old male to stay with her daughter, to us this seems bad! Just wanted to know if this is legal?"

Seriously? Of course it's legal!

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Legal but frowned upon

Not by everyone."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Legal but frowned upon

Not by everyone.

Lets just give a smile to the responsible parent who is smart enough to know you can't order a 17 year old about, and it's better to give safe space than force them to use the back seat of the car in some dodgy layby frequented by doggers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes its legal to fuck a 16 year old.. no prob.. you will always get those that say about morals and things, ignore them as its up to you.

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By *oulou45Woman over a year ago

Bucks

"Yep it is and being honest if it was my daughter I would rather she was under my roof with him than anywhere else. "

. I was going to say the same as you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Legal but frowned upon

Not by everyone.

Oh but it's so much more fun to rant, moan and be hysterical - don't be all rational

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's disgusting , the world has gone Mad , I Was saying the very same thing to my sister in bed this morning ??????????"

That sounds interesting.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's disgusting , the world has gone Mad , I Was saying the very same thing to my sister in bed this morning ??????????

That sounds interesting.

"
YEs it sounds like some role play lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's disgusting , the world has gone Mad , I Was saying the very same thing to my sister in bed this morning ??????????

That sounds interesting.

YEs it sounds like some role play lol."

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple over a year ago

in Lancashire

young women, females or girls are by and large more mature than lads, boys, young men of the same age..

for most 17 yr old young women their opposite 17 yr old male is a giggling child when they want to be 'grown up' and treated like women..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A person who we know (single mother) is allowing a 25 year old male to stay with her daughter, to us this seems bad! Just wanted to know if this is legal?"

Completely legal. She is old enough for consensual sex, and marriage, under British law.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"met my hubby when i was 17, didnt elvis start dating pricila when she was 15?

I'm pretty sure Jerry Lee Lewis married his cousin at 13, not sure social services would be OK with that these days though..."

Was legal in Missouri .... But not in other states or when he brought her to uk.

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By *igcovcockMan over a year ago

Coventry

I have a young daughter, when she is 17 I do not want her going out with a lad who just wants her for sex, unfortunately that means she would be better off with an older man. I know what 17 year old boys are like, i used to be one myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"A person who we know (single mother) is allowing a 25 year old male to stay with her daughter, to us this seems bad! Just wanted to know if this is legal?"

It's legal yeah is bit of age gap but so what if he treats her well not anyone else's business or up to them to judge

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By *igcovcockMan over a year ago

Coventry

"A person who we know (single mother) is allowing a 25 year old male to stay with her daughter, to us this seems bad! Just wanted to know if this is legal?

It's legal yeah is bit of age gap but so what if he treats her well not anyone else's business or up to them to judge "

The most sensible thing i have read on here so far!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a young daughter, when she is 17 I do not want her going out with a lad who just wants her for sex, unfortunately that means she would be better off with an older man. I know what 17 year old boys are like, i used to be one myself."

It'll be ok when she's 18 to have casual sex though?

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By *aceytopWoman over a year ago

from a town near you

met my ex when I was 15 he was 22,we where married for 22 years

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By *igcovcockMan over a year ago

Coventry

It'll be ok when she's 18 to have casual sex though?"

No what i am saying is that when my daughter is 17, or 18 for that matter, she is more likely to find a man who will treat her right if she is with an older man. Trust me on this one ok. I know what 17/18 year olds are like i was that age myself once.

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By *igcovcockMan over a year ago

Coventry

It'll be ok when she's 18 to have casual sex though?"

Any how we're not talking about casual sex, we're talking about age gap relationships

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What is most shocking is that some don't know what the age of consent is in the UK.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It'll be ok when she's 18 to have casual sex though?

But you're happy to have casual sex with an 18 year old yourself

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By *igcovcockMan over a year ago

Coventry

"What is most shocking is that some don't know what the age of consent is in the UK. "

No one waits till there 17 to have sex anyway.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"young women, females or girls are by and large more mature than lads, boys, young men of the same age..

for most 17 yr old young women their opposite 17 yr old male is a giggling child when they want to be 'grown up' and treated like women.. "

Exactly!! Age and maturity are so misaligned between the genders.

A young woman reaches full maturity, in terms of brain development, between 21 and 22 years of age. A young man does not reach full maturity, in terms of brain development, until nearly 30 years of age. So a 17 year old female and a 25 year old male are probably around the same maturity levels!!

As long as he's treating her right it's no ones business than there's and it's completely legal

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By *igcovcockMan over a year ago

Coventry

It'll be ok when she's 18 to have casual sex though?

But you're happy to have casual sex with an 18 year old yourself"

If a 18 year old girl wants to have sex with me and I want to have sex with her then that us between me and her and non of anyone else business, its not illegal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It'll be ok when she's 18 to have casual sex though?

But you're happy to have casual sex with an 18 year old yourself

If a 18 year old girl wants to have sex with me and I want to have sex with her then that us between me and her and non of anyone else business, its not illegal

I never suggested it was. I would have thought however that you might have the same respect for your daughter to make a judgement about her choice of future sexual partners and activities in the same way you are happy for girls of 18 to with you (or not).

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By *igcovcockMan over a year ago

Coventry

It'll be ok when she's 18 to have casual sex though?

Again the question was about a weather it is right for a 17 year old girl to go out with a 25 year old man, it was not about casual sex.

But you're happy to have casual sex with an 18 year old yourself

If a 18 year old girl wants to have sex with me and I want to have sex with her then that us between me and her and non of anyone else business, its not illegal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jimmy Page likes this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As legal as it is for him to fuck her at 16 it is actually deemed illegal for him to posses explicit images of her until she is 18.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"As legal as it is for him to fuck her at 16 it is actually deemed illegal for him to posses explicit images of her until she is 18."

Crazy but true

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