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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just wondering if I put that I am shy on my profile whether that would make me more appealing or less? You gotta pick one. No 'won't make a difference answers'.
I am not actually shy by the way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just wondering if I put that I am shy on my profile whether that would make me more appealing or less? You gotta pick one. No 'won't make a difference answers'.
I am not actually shy by the way "
Don't recall it asking me if I was shy. Is this a new thing? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you're not shy then why put it on your profile, just be open and honest "
Because I been told my profile and pics makes me look vain. I have changed it a bit and reduced number of pics but I want to seem more approachable. I don't mind lying |
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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago
MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire) |
"If you're not shy then why put it on your profile, just be open and honest
Because I been told my profile and pics makes me look vain. I have changed it a bit and reduced number of pics but I want to seem more approachable. I don't mind lying "
excellent, thanks for the warning. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Then why lie and put that you are? Dishonesty is unappealing. "
Because men like to lie in order to increase their chances as they obviously know their current personality isn't doing them any favours....Feel free to correct me if I am wrong in your thinking OP  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you're not shy then why put it on your profile, just be open and honest
Because I been told my profile and pics makes me look vain. I have changed it a bit and reduced number of pics but I want to seem more approachable. I don't mind lying
excellent, thanks for the warning. "
No worries |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Then why lie and put that you are? Dishonesty is unappealing.
Because men like to lie in order to increase their chances as they obviously know their current personality isn't doing them any favours....Feel free to correct me if I am wrong in your thinking OP "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.  "
Yeah exactly we gotta try different things to increase chances. I think if I put that I am shy, maybe women will quite like it because at the moment, they don't expect me to be shy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Will you start threads about pick teasing women who agree to meet you then leave you standing cos they realised you lied?  "
No getting the meet is the hardest part. Rest is easy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're not shy then why put it on your profile, just be open and honest
Because I been told my profile and pics makes me look vain. I have changed it a bit and reduced number of pics but I want to seem more approachable. I don't mind lying "
Not sure this will help you. You might find starting or replying to 35 threads a good idea to get this one off the trail! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you're not shy then why put it on your profile, just be open and honest
Because I been told my profile and pics makes me look vain. I have changed it a bit and reduced number of pics but I want to seem more approachable. I don't mind lying
Not sure this will help you. You might find starting or replying to 35 threads a good idea to get this one off the trail! "
Lol no not fussed if forum people see it |
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"So now anyone that uses the forums and clicks on that little green arrow finds out your a liar, thats just done you the world of good lol."
Until this threads drops off the end but the op doesn't meet of the forum so he is safe lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So now anyone that uses the forums and clicks on that little green arrow finds out your a liar, thats just done you the world of good lol."
I have never met anyone from forums.if every single person in forum all said they would never ever meet me, it makes no difference. I still would get meets using the methods I have |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So now anyone that uses the forums and clicks on that little green arrow finds out your a liar, thats just done you the world of good lol.
I have never met anyone from forums.if every single person in forum all said they would never ever meet me, it makes no difference. I still would get meets using the methods I have "
Then surely that begs the question as to why you would change those methods by pretending to be something you're not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?"
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So now anyone that uses the forums and clicks on that little green arrow finds out your a liar, thats just done you the world of good lol.
I have never met anyone from forums.if every single person in forum all said they would never ever meet me, it makes no difference. I still would get meets using the methods I have
Then surely that begs the question as to why you would change those methods by pretending to be something you're not?"
Just trying something different. I need to make myself seem more approachable |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one "
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it |
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"So now anyone that uses the forums and clicks on that little green arrow finds out your a liar, thats just done you the world of good lol.
I have never met anyone from forums.if every single person in forum all said they would never ever meet me, it makes no difference. I still would get meets using the methods I have
Then surely that begs the question as to why you would change those methods by pretending to be something you're not?
Just trying something different. I need to make myself seem more approachable "
Why not just be more approachable? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So now anyone that uses the forums and clicks on that little green arrow finds out your a liar, thats just done you the world of good lol.
I have never met anyone from forums.if every single person in forum all said they would never ever meet me, it makes no difference. I still would get meets using the methods I have
Then surely that begs the question as to why you would change those methods by pretending to be something you're not?
Just trying something different. I need to make myself seem more approachable "
You need to just be yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So now anyone that uses the forums and clicks on that little green arrow finds out your a liar, thats just done you the world of good lol.
I have never met anyone from forums.if every single person in forum all said they would never ever meet me, it makes no difference. I still would get meets using the methods I have
Then surely that begs the question as to why you would change those methods by pretending to be something you're not?
Just trying something different. I need to make myself seem more approachable
Why not just be more approachable?"
How. I am approachable in real life. But my profile isn't I don't think. I asked a few people all who said they thought I would be very vain and arrogant. Don't want people to think that from my profile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Which is one more than you  "
How you work that out? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So now anyone that uses the forums and clicks on that little green arrow finds out your a liar, thats just done you the world of good lol.
I have never met anyone from forums.if every single person in forum all said they would never ever meet me, it makes no difference. I still would get meets using the methods I have
Then surely that begs the question as to why you would change those methods by pretending to be something you're not?
Just trying something different. I need to make myself seem more approachable
Why not just be more approachable?
How. I am approachable in real life. But my profile isn't I don't think. I asked a few people all who said they thought I would be very vain and arrogant. Don't want people to think that from my profile"
I don't get that impression from your profile |
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To be honest I'd take the lists of things you want etc off as it just makes you look like you are finding a person to tick off certain boxes.
I get that that you have fantasies etc but do you really need to list them like a shopping list? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So now anyone that uses the forums and clicks on that little green arrow finds out your a liar, thats just done you the world of good lol.
I have never met anyone from forums.if every single person in forum all said they would never ever meet me, it makes no difference. I still would get meets using the methods I have
Then surely that begs the question as to why you would change those methods by pretending to be something you're not?
Just trying something different. I need to make myself seem more approachable
Why not just be more approachable?
How. I am approachable in real life. But my profile isn't I don't think. I asked a few people all who said they thought I would be very vain and arrogant. Don't want people to think that from my profile
I don't get that impression from your profile"
I have changed it a but now though to be fair but but I want it to say 'this guy seems nice and I feel comfortable to message him' I think the whole I am a shy guy thing can work |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'd take the lists of things you want etc off as it just makes you look like you are finding a person to tick off certain boxes.
I get that that you have fantasies etc but do you really need to list them like a shopping list? "
Yeah people mentioned that too. But I do get messages also saying they like my list. It's a marmite thing but yeah, I may take that down. Will think about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest I'd take the lists of things you want etc off as it just makes you look like you are finding a person to tick off certain boxes.
I get that that you have fantasies etc but do you really need to list them like a shopping list? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it "
That's true, But they always get found out in the end |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it
That's true, But they always get found out in the end "
Nobody questioned me on it yet. I am not talking major lies. Just things to improve chances or make you come across a certain way |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My profile is totally honest...no point in lying as lies always get found out in the end!  "
But your a women. It's very different for you. Successful guys would know what I am talking about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it
That's true, But they always get found out in the end "
They do indeed. Always best to be honest and upfront, if you're not what they're looking for then accept it and move on. I can usually tell if someone is lying, had a guy try to convince me he was a fireman once. What he didn't know was that I've been a firefighter for 20 years!! Sad thing was he would have been the type of guy that I would have met but the lies put me off. |
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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago
A seaside town near you! |
"My profile is totally honest...no point in lying as lies always get found out in the end!
But your a women. It's very different for you. Successful guys would know what I am talking about "
Whys it so different for a woman? Surely there are women on here that lie on their profiles? |
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Surely the point of your profile is to ensure you meet the people you want to meet and get what you want - there are enough people on here with there own preferences that whatever yours are there are compatible people out there - it is unfair to others to waste their time
Lying may get you some short term gains but people talk and you will soon find you are left alone if caught lying |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My profile is totally honest...no point in lying as lies always get found out in the end!
But your a women. It's very different for you. Successful guys would know what I am talking about "
So the successful ones lie |
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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago
A seaside town near you! |
"My profile is totally honest...no point in lying as lies always get found out in the end!
But your a women. It's very different for you. Successful guys would know what I am talking about
So the successful ones lie "
My thoughts exactly hun!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My profile is totally honest...no point in lying as lies always get found out in the end!
But your a women. It's very different for you. Successful guys would know what I am talking about
Whys it so different for a woman? Surely there are women on here that lie on their profiles? "
Because as a woman, you don't need a profile or even pics. You just put status up saying you want a fun and messages will role in. So you can afford to be honest. If it puts a bloke off, there 10 other blokes still looking to meet. Not same for guys. We have to try different things to gets meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it
That's true, But they always get found out in the end
Nobody questioned me on it yet. I am not talking major lies. Just things to improve chances or make you come across a certain way"
What type are lies are you talking about then, Sexual technique/Staying power/where you live? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Surely the point of your profile is to ensure you meet the people you want to meet and get what you want - there are enough people on here with there own preferences that whatever yours are there are compatible people out there - it is unfair to others to waste their time
Lying may get you some short term gains but people talk and you will soon find you are left alone if caught lying "
No it's just enough to get my foot in the door. My profile needs to be as appealing as possible |
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over a year ago
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"My profile is totally honest...no point in lying as lies always get found out in the end!
But your a women. It's very different for you. Successful guys would know what I am talking about
So the successful ones lie
My thoughts exactly hun!!!"
I'm stepping away from this one before I really speak my mind |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it
That's true, But they always get found out in the end
Nobody questioned me on it yet. I am not talking major lies. Just things to improve chances or make you come across a certain way
What type are lies are you talking about then, Sexual technique/Staying power/where you live?"
No things like 'I am shy' lol. It just shows me in different light to what I am probably currently seen as |
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over a year ago
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"My profile is totally honest...no point in lying as lies always get found out in the end!
But your a women. It's very different for you. Successful guys would know what I am talking about
So the successful ones lie
My thoughts exactly hun!!!
I'm stepping away from this one before I really speak my mind "
Good idea lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it
That's true, But they always get found out in the end
Nobody questioned me on it yet. I am not talking major lies. Just things to improve chances or make you come across a certain way
What type are lies are you talking about then, Sexual technique/Staying power/where you live?
No things like 'I am shy' lol. It just shows me in different light to what I am probably currently seen as"
How do you know how you are perceived by the majority of people on this site?? |
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"Surely the point of your profile is to ensure you meet the people you want to meet and get what you want - there are enough people on here with there own preferences that whatever yours are there are compatible people out there - it is unfair to others to waste their time
Lying may get you some short term gains but people talk and you will soon find you are left alone if caught lying
No it's just enough to get my foot in the door. My profile needs to be as appealing as possible "
I'd say it is your first message that needs to appeal more than your profile as that is what is looked at first, if that is not a generic message then they will look at your profile to find out a bit about you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it
That's true, But they always get found out in the end
Nobody questioned me on it yet. I am not talking major lies. Just things to improve chances or make you come across a certain way
What type are lies are you talking about then, Sexual technique/Staying power/where you live?
No things like 'I am shy' lol. It just shows me in different light to what I am probably currently seen as
How do you know how you are perceived by the majority of people on this site??"
I have shown myself one way. It's just time for a change to keep fresh. My meets have told me about what they thought about my profile |
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over a year ago
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"Surely the point of your profile is to ensure you meet the people you want to meet and get what you want - there are enough people on here with there own preferences that whatever yours are there are compatible people out there - it is unfair to others to waste their time
Lying may get you some short term gains but people talk and you will soon find you are left alone if caught lying
No it's just enough to get my foot in the door. My profile needs to be as appealing as possible
I'd say it is your first message that needs to appeal more than your profile as that is what is looked at first, if that is not a generic message then they will look at your profile to find out a bit about you"
Yeah I agree. But I am talking about those who look at my profile before I message them. If I can change my profile to to encourage more to message then that's a result right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it
That's true, But they always get found out in the end
Nobody questioned me on it yet. I am not talking major lies. Just things to improve chances or make you come across a certain way
What type are lies are you talking about then, Sexual technique/Staying power/where you live?
No things like 'I am shy' lol. It just shows me in different light to what I am probably currently seen as
How do you know how you are perceived by the majority of people on this site??
I have shown myself one way. It's just time for a change to keep fresh. My meets have told me about what they thought about my profile "
They met you then so they probably liked the way you came across in your profile or they wouldn't have. I can't get my head around why you're wanting to put something on your profile that isn't you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it
That's true, But they always get found out in the end
Nobody questioned me on it yet. I am not talking major lies. Just things to improve chances or make you come across a certain way
What type are lies are you talking about then, Sexual technique/Staying power/where you live?
No things like 'I am shy' lol. It just shows me in different light to what I am probably currently seen as
How do you know how you are perceived by the majority of people on this site??
I have shown myself one way. It's just time for a change to keep fresh. My meets have told me about what they thought about my profile
They met you then so they probably liked the way you came across in your profile or they wouldn't have. I can't get my head around why you're wanting to put something on your profile that isn't you."
So I can increase chances of meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it
That's true, But they always get found out in the end
Nobody questioned me on it yet. I am not talking major lies. Just things to improve chances or make you come across a certain way
What type are lies are you talking about then, Sexual technique/Staying power/where you live?
No things like 'I am shy' lol. It just shows me in different light to what I am probably currently seen as
How do you know how you are perceived by the majority of people on this site??
I have shown myself one way. It's just time for a change to keep fresh. My meets have told me about what they thought about my profile
They met you then so they probably liked the way you came across in your profile or they wouldn't have. I can't get my head around why you're wanting to put something on your profile that isn't you.
So I can increase chances of meets "
Being yourself is the best way to get meets, lying won't do that. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"the irony is at least he seems to be being honest in this thread  "
The further irony is he wont meet any one off the forums, my thoughts are more along the lines of no one in the forums would meet him! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Mine is honest,
Apart from my name
Yeah but you only had one meet?
Not had any meets,
But i still wouldn't lie on my profile just to get one
That's fair enough but you are up against a bunch of blokes who all lie so you up against it
That's true, But they always get found out in the end
Nobody questioned me on it yet. I am not talking major lies. Just things to improve chances or make you come across a certain way
What type are lies are you talking about then, Sexual technique/Staying power/where you live?
No things like 'I am shy' lol. It just shows me in different light to what I am probably currently seen as
How do you know how you are perceived by the majority of people on this site??
I have shown myself one way. It's just time for a change to keep fresh. My meets have told me about what they thought about my profile
They met you then so they probably liked the way you came across in your profile or they wouldn't have. I can't get my head around why you're wanting to put something on your profile that isn't you.
So I can increase chances of meets
Being yourself is the best way to get meets, lying won't do that."
I don't really see it as lying. It's showing me in a different light that's all . Maybe small amount of lying |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"the irony is at least he seems to be being honest in this thread
The further irony is he wont meet any one off the forums, my thoughts are more along the lines of no one in the forums would meet him! "
Hey I agree I pissed off a fair few on here but hey ho. Can't change it. |
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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago
A seaside town near you! |
"My profile is totally honest...no point in lying as lies always get found out in the end!
But your a women. It's very different for you. Successful guys would know what I am talking about
So the successful ones lie
My thoughts exactly hun!!!
I'm stepping away from this one before I really speak my mind "
Shuts gob with you heheh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People post threads all the time asking how they can improve their profile. Sometimes they clearly twist the truth to display themselves in a better light- as encouraged by forumites....
Why is it any different if they OP says he is shy? He's not claiming to be a millionaire or anything outlandish! |
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over a year ago
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"People post threads all the time asking how they can improve their profile. Sometimes they clearly twist the truth to display themselves in a better light- as encouraged by forumites....
Why is it any different if they OP says he is shy? He's not claiming to be a millionaire or anything outlandish!"
Very good point stars. Very good point indeed. Deserves the thumbs up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All I'm gonna say here is that I feel if you're 'playing' the site in order to get more pussy I just feel that saying you're shy is a bit lame and unimaginative. So many other ways of attracting women's attention and getting them responding to you...and probably the top of all of them is a GSOH.
You're profile looks ok-ish. You might want more humour and less photos though. You've clearly got a good body...you only need one or two pics to show that...not 11...it's the number of photos which suggests a level of vanity which is a bit unappealing. I personally don't have any problem with the shopping list, I tend to think it's quite nice to read what people would like to get up to. The bigger problem, I'd say, is the list of 8 requirements which you're looking for in a woman which precedes them. Now I'm a bloke so I'm probably not a good source of wisdom on this but that switched me right off as it conveys to me that you're looking for something specific...and that just smells of prima donna high maintenance rather than chilled out easy going dude. Just my 2p 
Think of it like you're a train. You want women to get on your ride. You are proud to be a mighty fine looking train. But where are you going? Is it gonna be an exciting journey? I think a lot of women would rather get on a rickety old exciting train to adventureland than a highly polished intercity to dullsville
Of course...no lies on our profile, we're a sexy couple...no need to lie |
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Shy is such a cover all expression that if someone uses it then it is more helpful to be informed how they are shy, and what help they may need. If it is not true then it would be very wrong and stupid to add it. |
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"If you're not shy then why put it on your profile, just be open and honest
Because I been told my profile and pics makes me look vain. I have changed it a bit and reduced number of pics but I want to seem more approachable. I don't mind lying "
then try it out for a week or two and see if you have any success. Loads of people lie on their profiles one more won't make any difference |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All I'm gonna say here is that I feel if you're 'playing' the site in order to get more pussy I just feel that saying you're shy is a bit lame and unimaginative. So many other ways of attracting women's attention and getting them responding to you...and probably the top of all of them is a GSOH.
You're profile looks ok-ish. You might want more humour and less photos though. You've clearly got a good body...you only need one or two pics to show that...not 11...it's the number of photos which suggests a level of vanity which is a bit unappealing. I personally don't have any problem with the shopping list, I tend to think it's quite nice to read what people would like to get up to. The bigger problem, I'd say, is the list of 8 requirements which you're looking for in a woman which precedes them. Now I'm a bloke so I'm probably not a good source of wisdom on this but that switched me right off as it conveys to me that you're looking for something specific...and that just smells of prima donna high maintenance rather than chilled out easy going dude. Just my 2p
Think of it like you're a train. You want women to get on your ride. You are proud to be a mighty fine looking train. But where are you going? Is it gonna be an exciting journey? I think a lot of women would rather get on a rickety old exciting train to adventureland than a highly polished intercity to dullsville
Of course...no lies on our profile, we're a sexy couple...no need to lie "
Yeah some good points in there but I don't think 11 pics is too many. I had loads before but cut it down. Only couple of body pics and rest clothed so I think that of now. The 8 criteria points before list is meant to be a joke. Not very funny I know but it's not serious. I will change it once I think of something. The shy thing maybe isn't such a good idea |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right I have changed my profile. I did put the shy bit in there. This guy sounds like bit of a sap and too nice but I think it will improve my chances of meets. Will see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right I have changed my profile. I did put the shy bit in there. This guy sounds like bit of a sap and too nice but I think it will improve my chances of meets. Will see. "
Let me know if it works mate and I might try the shy card  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Right I have changed my profile. I did put the shy bit in there. This guy sounds like bit of a sap and too nice but I think it will improve my chances of meets. Will see. Let me know if it works mate and I might try the shy card "
I already got a message from a chick so good start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right I have changed my profile. I did put the shy bit in there. This guy sounds like bit of a sap and too nice but I think it will improve my chances of meets. Will see. "
Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile. "
Pity, mine is and can't be bothered to lie as I then would have to remember the lie and I doubt I'll manage that well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
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My point when I said this, was that most people don't use their real name. Most people don't have a sexual history on their profile of everyone they've ever had sex with. Most people don't list every single personality trait/ like/ dislike etc etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
My point when I said this, was that most people don't use their real name. Most people don't have a sexual history on their profile of everyone they've ever had sex with. Most people don't list every single personality trait/ like/ dislike etc etc.
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Most people don't start a thread informing people they are going to lie on their profile lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
My point when I said this, was that most people don't use their real name. Most people don't have a sexual history on their profile of everyone they've ever had sex with. Most people don't list every single personality trait/ like/ dislike etc etc.
x
Most people don't start a thread informing people they are going to lie on their profile lol"
Yes they do! They do it all the time, they just word it differently.
They ask what they need to write on their profile 'to get people to shag them'. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
My point when I said this, was that most people don't use their real name. Most people don't have a sexual history on their profile of everyone they've ever had sex with. Most people don't list every single personality trait/ like/ dislike etc etc.
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Most people don't start a thread informing people they are going to lie on their profile lol
Yes they do! They do it all the time, they just word it differently.
They ask what they need to write on their profile 'to get people to shag them'. x"
Asking for advice yes, doesn't mean what they put is a blatant lie. But if it gets more meets then great. Hope he doesn't meet a woman who loves shy guys or he'll have to play shy all night lol |
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By *al2001Man
over a year ago
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My profile is very honest.if u lie ull exclude the ppl ull put off by ur lies,thus u wont have as good a meet as u mite have if u connected properly with someone by being urself
if u want to seem approachable,as u say u are in real life,try be urself on forums,while u dont seem rude or anything ur attitudes a bit...meh
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think the way your profile is written gives the impresion of u being quite a confident person. So personally dont see the point in just saying ur shy. Especially if u dont come across as shy whilst messaging or in ur pics |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think the way your profile is written gives the impresion of u being quite a confident person. So personally dont see the point in just saying ur shy. Especially if u dont come across as shy whilst messaging or in ur pics"
Yeah but I didn't say I was particularly shy. I said I was shy at first like most other people. Just telling them I get nervous etc too probably puts them at ease |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd just think its a bit daft pretending to be shy just to get more meets..its like pretending u have a massive knob and actually dont have one?..the meet will suss it out lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah but it's just a foot in the door to start messaging. If I met, they wouldn't just stand up half way through and say 'you are not as shy as I thought' and storm off.
The only purpose of it is to try and increase amount of people who send me a message because it shows me in a different way to my old profile which kinda showed me as a pervert lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Lol no not fussed if forum people see it
people lurk you know, dont post but mooch and read and you never know"
Yeah I may miss out on one or two people that way but oh well. It's not many in the grand scheme of things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do you care if people think you're vain, if you think you are good looking, fit and confident enough sod what people say about your pictures. I wouldnt meet you if you were closer because a, you dont show your verification summary/any verifications - I like seeing other peoples opinions of my potential meets. And b, if I got chatting to you I'd probs get a bit annoyed at your egotistical ways. But hey thats my input. Not that you'll take any notice vecause lyings a better way to do things. And yes my profile is truthful. Don't see the point in lying since its onlysex I use this site for unless I luckily meet ladies. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why do you care if people think you're vain, if you think you are good looking, fit and confident enough sod what people say about your pictures. I wouldnt meet you if you were closer because a, you dont show your verification summary/any verifications - I like seeing other peoples opinions of my potential meets. And b, if I got chatting to you I'd probs get a bit annoyed at your egotistical ways. But hey thats my input. Not that you'll take any notice vecause lyings a better way to do things. And yes my profile is truthful. Don't see the point in lying since its onlysex I use this site for unless I luckily meet ladies. "
Yeah but I am not vain. And it is not a trait I want others to match me with. Yeah I have hidden my verifications for a specific reason. Understand that may put some off. I use to show summary but it shows I also met t.girls, guys and couples and it got to the point where there were too many meets so took that off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do you care if people think you're vain, if you think you are good looking, fit and confident enough sod what people say about your pictures. I wouldnt meet you if you were closer because a, you dont show your verification summary/any verifications - I like seeing other peoples opinions of my potential meets. And b, if I got chatting to you I'd probs get a bit annoyed at your egotistical ways. But hey thats my input. Not that you'll take any notice vecause lyings a better way to do things. And yes my profile is truthful. Don't see the point in lying since its onlysex I use this site for unless I luckily meet ladies.
Yeah but I am not vain. And it is not a trait I want others to match me with. Yeah I have hidden my verifications for a specific reason. Understand that may put some off. I use to show summary but it shows I also met t.girls, guys and couples and it got to the point where there were too many meets so took that off. "
So if you have too many meets, why do you need to change your approach to get more???????? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Why do you care if people think you're vain, if you think you are good looking, fit and confident enough sod what people say about your pictures. I wouldnt meet you if you were closer because a, you dont show your verification summary/any verifications - I like seeing other peoples opinions of my potential meets. And b, if I got chatting to you I'd probs get a bit annoyed at your egotistical ways. But hey thats my input. Not that you'll take any notice vecause lyings a better way to do things. And yes my profile is truthful. Don't see the point in lying since its onlysex I use this site for unless I luckily meet ladies.
Yeah but I am not vain. And it is not a trait I want others to match me with. Yeah I have hidden my verifications for a specific reason. Understand that may put some off. I use to show summary but it shows I also met t.girls, guys and couples and it got to the point where there were too many meets so took that off.
So if you have too many meets, why do you need to change your approach to get more????????"
Lol because I have changed approach many times. It's the reason I have had meets. This is just another change which will last a couple of months. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do you care if people think you're vain, if you think you are good looking, fit and confident enough sod what people say about your pictures. I wouldnt meet you if you were closer because a, you dont show your verification summary/any verifications - I like seeing other peoples opinions of my potential meets. And b, if I got chatting to you I'd probs get a bit annoyed at your egotistical ways. But hey thats my input. Not that you'll take any notice vecause lyings a better way to do things. And yes my profile is truthful. Don't see the point in lying since its onlysex I use this site for unless I luckily meet ladies.
Yeah but I am not vain. And it is not a trait I want others to match me with. Yeah I have hidden my verifications for a specific reason. Understand that may put some off. I use to show summary but it shows I also met t.girls, guys and couples and it got to the point where there were too many meets so took that off.
So if you have too many meets, why do you need to change your approach to get more????????"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do you care if people think you're vain, if you think you are good looking, fit and confident enough sod what people say about your pictures. I wouldnt meet you if you were closer because a, you dont show your verification summary/any verifications - I like seeing other peoples opinions of my potential meets. And b, if I got chatting to you I'd probs get a bit annoyed at your egotistical ways. But hey thats my input. Not that you'll take any notice vecause lyings a better way to do things. And yes my profile is truthful. Don't see the point in lying since its onlysex I use this site for unless I luckily meet ladies.
Yeah but I am not vain. And it is not a trait I want others to match me with. Yeah I have hidden my verifications for a specific reason. Understand that may put some off. I use to show summary but it shows I also met t.girls, guys and couples and it got to the point where there were too many meets so took that off.
So if you have too many meets, why do you need to change your approach to get more????????
Lol because I have changed approach many times. It's the reason I have had meets. This is just another change which will last a couple of months. "
Bizarre. I'd rather just be myself and meet the right people for me but if it works for you, crack on! |
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Maybe stop trying to be a ' playa' , be yourself and not what you think others want you to be? Why pretend? once someone meets ya won't they see your not the shy, walk flower type? Confidence deff out shines shyness for me! Embrace who ya are! And Shine on! |
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"I doubt anyone is totally honest on their profile.
Damn hope some are, I am, it's very important to me.
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Ours is honest in all the important details the details that would possibly help in identifying us are incorrect enough to cast doubt though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A much better profile dude. I didn't see the word 'shy' in there so perhaps you decided you didn't need it. One change you should make is that your friends think you're hard work....surely that should be hard working lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A much better profile dude. I didn't see the word 'shy' in there so perhaps you decided you didn't need it. One change you should make is that your friends think you're hard work....surely that should be hard working lol "
Ah yeah well spotted lol. Yeah I did have shy bit but took out because someone messaged me and brought it up questioning how shy I am so I don't think it impressed her. So put the shy thing in 'tried, tested and failed' section . It makes me sound like too much of a sap anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think there's nothing wrong in your approach airing your question / view in the forum ~ makes for an interesting read for sure!
Your profile as it stands now is pretty good. Not so keen on the status update by that's just my opinion.
As for shy on a profile it's not an attribute I am looking for so would I would not take it any further with that person. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think there's nothing wrong in your approach airing your question / view in the forum ~ makes for an interesting read for sure!
Your profile as it stands now is pretty good. Not so keen on the status update by that's just my opinion.
As for shy on a profile it's not an attribute I am looking for so would I would not take it any further with that person."
Changed status and yep, accept shy thing doesn't work great |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My profile is totally honest...no point in lying as lies always get found out in the end!
But your a women. It's very different for you. Successful guys would know what I am talking about
Whys it so different for a woman? Surely there are women on here that lie on their profiles?
Because as a woman, you don't need a profile or even pics. You just put status up saying you want a fun and messages will role in. So you can afford to be honest. If it puts a bloke off, there 10 other blokes still looking to meet. Not same for guys. We have to try different things to gets meets "
Your profile as it is now appeals to me ! You seem confident but not cocky !
A problem you may have by saying you're shy is when you then meet and you are not what the lady was expecting it may be a very short meet 
I'd just see how the new profile goes xx
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