an unconditional and genuine apology tha clearly demonstrates you've understood what you did wrong and the impact it had on the person.
i say unconditional as its up to the recipient as to whether they wish to accept the apology or not and i should also be big enough to accept the consequences of my actions, including them staying mad at me.
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"is the hardest word they say
What do you do when you know you were wrong about something or somebody?
How do you put things right? "
im quite lucky.ive never got to say sorry.because im always right.  |
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over a year ago
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"is the hardest word they say
What do you do when you know you were wrong about something or somebody?
How do you put things right?
im quite lucky.ive never got to say sorry.because im always right. "
Why am I so not surprised, Mr Saucy |
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over a year ago
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"is the hardest word they say
What do you do when you know you were wrong about something or somebody?
How do you put things right?
Sorry, i don't understand the question?"
Just for you lol - in the unlikely event you might have been wrong about somebody and upset them - how do you make up, put things right between you and the other person whom you may have inadvertently upset. |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"is the hardest word they say
What do you do when you know you were wrong about something or somebody?
How do you put things right?
im quite lucky.ive never got to say sorry.because im always right.
Why am I so not surprised, Mr Saucy "
did the always right bit, give me away. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"is the hardest word they say
What do you do when you know you were wrong about something or somebody?
How do you put things right?
im quite lucky.ive never got to say sorry.because im always right.
Why am I so not surprised, Mr Saucy
did the always right bit, give me away. "
Just a wee bit lol |
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"is the hardest word they say
What do you do when you know you were wrong about something or somebody?
How do you put things right?
Sorry, i don't understand the question?
Just for you lol - in the unlikely event you might have been wrong about somebody and upset them - how do you make up, put things right between you and the other person whom you may have inadvertently upset."
Inadvertently? Mine are always full on.
Your question supposes the injured party knows?
In that case, as SDM said, be honest, admit it, sincere and full apology, possibly in writing too, and move on. If bridges are burnt, don't rebuild, build more.
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I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
Some things run to deep and no matter what is said an apology no matter how heartfelt would never be accepted.
At that point let go and get on with your life |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
Some things run to deep and no matter what is said an apology no matter how heartfelt would never be accepted.
At that point let go and get on with your life"
Funny thats what a lot of cheating partners say as well. |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
Some things run to deep and no matter what is said an apology no matter how heartfelt would never be accepted.
At that point let go and get on with your life"
yep your so right there ...its not worth worrying about |
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"So, Mushroom and Petillante - you are really saying - sometimes it is simple best to move on rather than to rebuild?"
Not always no. Sometimes though the damage is done and no rebuilding is allowed.
And even with the benefit of hindsight, i reckon a number of the wrongs would still be done.
What is wrong to one party is not always wrong to another. |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
Some things run to deep and no matter what is said an apology no matter how heartfelt would never be accepted.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Funny thats what a lot of cheating partners say as well."
??? |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
Some things run to deep and no matter what is said an apology no matter how heartfelt would never be accepted.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Funny thats what a lot of cheating partners say as well.
???"
Cheaters always avoid an apology too! |
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"So, Mushroom and Petillante - you are really saying - sometimes it is simple best to move on rather than to rebuild?
Yes, no point living in the past, only makes you bitter and twisted"
You are quite right - i guess it is about personalities - I dont hold grudges, I simply cant as I feel it is a waste of energy and it would be costing MY energy so I rather forgive and forget |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
Some things run to deep and no matter what is said an apology no matter how heartfelt would never be accepted.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Funny thats what a lot of cheating partners say as well.
???
Cheaters always avoid an apology too!"
So do cowards |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow."
here s a hankie |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie"
have a drink calm your nerves, my apologies |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie
have a drink calm your nerves, my apologies"
ooops did not hit the right spot...;-)
Shall we let mushroom have a glass of you know what for his you know which? |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie
have a drink calm your nerves, my apologies
ooops did not hit the right spot...;-)
Shall we let mushroom have a glass of you know what for his you know which?"
oh definately, see sorry isn't hard to say lol |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie
have a drink calm your nerves, my apologies
ooops did not hit the right spot...;-)
Shall we let mushroom have a glass of you know what for his you know which?
oh definately, see sorry isn't hard to say lol"
I am still "thinking" sorry over the last episode  |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie"
got a sheet? |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie
have a drink calm your nerves, my apologies"
no need to apolgise lol my mistake, twice over lol lol |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie
have a drink calm your nerves, my apologies
no need to apolgise lol my mistake, twice over lol lol"
a man admitting... to making a mistake - I am ... lost for words lol |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie
have a drink calm your nerves, my apologies
no need to apolgise lol my mistake, twice over lol lol
a man admitting... to making a mistake - I am ... lost for words lol "
LOL That'll be a first |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie
have a drink calm your nerves, my apologies
no need to apolgise lol my mistake, twice over lol lol
a man admitting... to making a mistake - I am ... lost for words lol
LOL That'll be a first "
Do you think he is regretting his statement or considering a new approach? |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie
have a drink calm your nerves, my apologies
no need to apolgise lol my mistake, twice over lol lol
a man admitting... to making a mistake - I am ... lost for words lol "
how long have you got? |
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"I've also find that some people don't deserve an apology.
At that point let go and get on with your life
Jeezuz , i was scared there for a minute. I read that last line as wife.
Wipes brow.
here s a hankie
have a drink calm your nerves, my apologies
no need to apolgise lol my mistake, twice over lol lol
a man admitting... to making a mistake - I am ... lost for words lol
LOL That'll be a first
Do you think he is regretting his statement or considering a new approach?"
Or regreting considering a new approach |
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how long have you got?
How long do you need "
He is a man - he is more intelligent - by definition - we must surrender now!Assuming position!
What is the pose of a surrenderer? |
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how long have you got?
How long do you need
He is a man - he is more intelligent - by definition - we must surrender now!Assuming position!
What is the pose of a surrenderer?"
I'm worried have you been out in the sun too much, you are rambling woman |
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how long have you got?
How long do you need
He is a man - he is more intelligent - by definition - we must surrender now!Assuming position!
What is the pose of a surrenderer?"
i'm reflecting on hands and knees
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how long have you got?
How long do you need
He is a man - he is more intelligent - by definition - we must surrender now!Assuming position!
What is the pose of a surrenderer?
I'm worried have you been out in the sun too much, you are rambling woman"
a naked rambler? can cross my garden any day. |
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Difficult one - if member of family has been admitted to hospital his mind would have been on other things I guess. Not much comfort to you being the one let down, though. Maybe he as not able to text while in hospital? |
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I was let down badly by someone I thought was a friend this weekend and I wish they thought I was worth a proper apology but he thinks it easier to walk away. Unfortunately these situation affect your mutual friends/play mates too. All because the wrong doer doesn't want to say sorry properly. Personally I hate unpleasantness and would prefer to clear the air. |
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Difficult one - if member of family has been admitted to hospital his mind would have been on other things I guess. Not much comfort to you being the one let down, though. Maybe he as not able to text while in hospital? "
iv done that once i had let a guy down twice, once with kiddo being poorly another time a family member in hospital luckily he understood and didnt hold a grudge! i think in a situation like that no one could be expected to text just for somethin as trivial as a meet i know when it happened to me, it was the furthest thing from my mind to text anyone x |
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Difficult one - if member of family has been admitted to hospital his mind would have been on other things I guess. Not much comfort to you being the one let down, though. Maybe he as not able to text while in hospital? "
yes I agree with you but he texted me a whole 24 hours later after the party. I texted him on the Thursday and he got back to me on Sunday at midnight. I suppose she could have been in hospital for days. |
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"I was let down badly by someone I thought was a friend this weekend and I wish they thought I was worth a proper apology but he thinks it easier to walk away. Unfortunately these situation affect your mutual friends/play mates too. All because the wrong doer doesn't want to say sorry properly. Personally I hate unpleasantness and would prefer to clear the air."
I had a "situation" with somebody last year, which left us not as friendly as we had been and it was a real shame as it could have been aired and sorted then. Luckily I met the person again earlier this year - I took the opportunity to mention how I felt and that I was sorry our friendship had cooled off as a result of one event.
It was amazing that it only took that statement to bring things back to what they had been before the EVENT - and I am so happy we have reconnected again.
My suggestion - try and clear the air - the swinging world is a small world and it is just nicer to be clear and at peace with people IMHO - best of luck xx |
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"I was let down badly by someone I thought was a friend this weekend and I wish they thought I was worth a proper apology but he thinks it easier to walk away. Unfortunately these situation affect your mutual friends/play mates too. All because the wrong doer doesn't want to say sorry properly. Personally I hate unpleasantness and would prefer to clear the air."
I tend to go firstly to the person directly if I feel a problem is in the air.... the trouble is 'some' people still try and feed you a pile of bullshit. |
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It is probably also about the need for people to tell fibs - and once yuou told one you have to continue the story - and that makes me wonder why people are doing this in the first place. Usually people tell lies/ fibs whatever you call it becuase they are in fear. In fear of being caught out, being told off, in fear of whatever the consequence.
In the swinging world, in theory there is no real need to lie though - is there?
Hence no need to feed bullshit?
Just an observation really |
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"I was let down badly by someone I thought was a friend this weekend and I wish they thought I was worth a proper apology but he thinks it easier to walk away. Unfortunately these situation affect your mutual friends/play mates too. All because the wrong doer doesn't want to say sorry properly. Personally I hate unpleasantness and would prefer to clear the air."
Honey...anyone who knows you...just cant believe how anyone would treat you..with such a lack of manners...absolutely his loss sweetie...  |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"I was let down badly by someone I thought was a friend this weekend and I wish they thought I was worth a proper apology but he thinks it easier to walk away. Unfortunately these situation affect your mutual friends/play mates too. All because the wrong doer doesn't want to say sorry properly. Personally I hate unpleasantness and would prefer to clear the air.
I tend to go firstly to the person directly if I feel a problem is in the air.... the trouble is 'some' people still try and feed you a pile of bullshit."
The swinging world is full of bullshit, just a matter of sorting through it.....gloves please!!!! |
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