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I know this a swingers site but how come a single guy cant get any love?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right i know fab is a swingers site and all but a few friends told me to join the site after a rather messy break up which ended in divorce  But what i really wanna know is why cant a single guy get some love? |
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Have a hug too. Are you looking for love or sex? I guess it is the latter, as I havent looked at your profile. It can be tough on here for single guys, especially if they dont swing out at clubs etc. Mainly the huge competition amongst you guys means that what you are seeking has more choice. Many guys have great success, but a big number give up, some not putting much quality targeted effort into it. Anyway, advice is to stick with it, visit clubs and socials and maximise your potential. |
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"Right i know fab is a swingers site and all but a few friends told me to join the site after a rather messy break up which ended in divorce But what i really wanna know is why cant a single guy get some love? "
I see you only joined 7 days ago. Its like this, the single men on here vastly outnumber the single women so you are going to be in a vast sea of men after the attention of a lot fewer ladies. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I would like to go to some clubs i live over the water from town house so i would like to try there  but if am honest am kinda scared  lol but i know if i ask a few friends i would be able to go but i think i would have to sort out a meet or something along them lines before i went to a club,but i deffo look into some socials around my area  |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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As another poster said love or nsa saucy fun? There is a big difference.
If its love then I suggest staying single for a while to repair your emotions. If its sex then make your profile your shop window. Goid photos. Sell yourself if your profile text and clubs and socials work wonders x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Its more nsa if am honest as am not ready for love again as i was hurt kinda bad by my ex but that is beside the point, Is there any advice that you guys could give other than putting up pics and selling myself as am not really good at selling myself :-/ |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Its more nsa if am honest as am not ready for love again as i was hurt kinda bad by my ex but that is beside the point, Is there any advice that you guys could give other than putting up pics and selling myself as am not really good at selling myself :-/"
Sorry but if you can't sell yourself, how on earth do you expect anyone else to help? 
YOU know who you are, what YOU like and what YOU are looking for, so actually have some resemblance of a profile that tells people about YOU, it's not really rocket science  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I will rework my profile then you see i know what i like and what i want its just a matter of putting it into words which is something i struggle with |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know plenty of "single" guys who get a lot of loving. Just be nice bit of flirty banter and a gsoh helps but be ready for rejection and take it like a man  |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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Women are not going to jump on you unless you make the effort in your profile.
I will be honest and say you may not be on the right site. I suggest you focus on yourself rather than trying for nsa. If you can't sell yourself on a website then you should try just the traditional way of down the pub or nightclub or whatever vanilla people do.
On a site like this you will have to make loads of effort and sell you. That will start with your profile. If you are not emotionally strong enough to cope with the knock backs you will get I suggest you rethink now x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, you have about 20 male member on every female member.
Don't want to sound harsh but even the less attractive girls get plenty messages and attention and that gives them an option to pick and choose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know plenty of "single" guys who get a lot of loving. Just be nice bit of flirty banter and a gsoh helps but be ready for rejection and take it like a man "
Some guys need to grow a set when rejected, there will be more rejection than success for single guys on here and they need to learn that and accept it quickly! Then maybe things will change for them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think most woman go over the top with all this ''selling yourself''. When I first joined I though this site is all about having fun. Spending hours selling yourself to somebody you will probably only see once is not worth it. But then again it is only my opinion and that could be the reason I have not had any success here so far.
"Women are not going to jump on you unless you make the effort in your profile.
I will be honest and say you may not be on the right site. I suggest you focus on yourself rather than trying for nsa. If you can't sell yourself on a website then you should try just the traditional way of down the pub or nightclub or whatever vanilla people do.
On a site like this you will have to make loads of effort and sell you. That will start with your profile. If you are not emotionally strong enough to cope with the knock backs you will get I suggest you rethink now x"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Well i have just re done my profile i just hope i don't come of a bit of a d**k on it as i don't wanna be seen in that light
And to be honest am stronger now than i was a year ago but really the " selling yourself " part is kind of daunting when you have alot of other guys jumping round for attention |
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"As another poster said love or nsa saucy fun? There is a big difference.
If its love then I suggest staying single for a while to repair your emotions. If its sex then make your profile your shop window. Goid photos. Sell yourself if your profile text and clubs and socials work wonders x"
Never a truer word said.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Maybe i will and maybe i wont but i feel strong enough just from talking to everyone here and i spoke to my mates before and they have said near enough the same thing as everyone here,But as i said i have alot to give  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think most woman go over the top with all this ''selling yourself''. When I first joined I though this site is all about having fun. Spending hours selling yourself to somebody you will probably only see once is not worth it. But then again it is only my opinion and that could be the reason I have not had any success here so far.
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Could be... |
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"I think most woman go over the top with all this ''selling yourself''. When I first joined I though this site is all about having fun. Spending hours selling yourself to somebody you will probably only see once is not worth it. But then again it is only my opinion and that could be the reason I have not had any success here so far.
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No shit! |
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Get some more pics of you up that will turn more of us on. Show some body, have variety. If we are gonna have you undressed for sex it is good to know what to look forward to. Ref. Travel - outline what kind of distance you will cover, as this will influence who may consider you. If you already visit other places, mention them, as you could also get meets when there. Look at various clubs, see which do nonmembers days, so you can check them out. The more experience you get, the better. Children learn to walk by often falling down, but it does not stop them eventually running - keep working on your profile to improve it. You will get better at selling yourself by doing it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for all the advice guys it is really helping i will deffo have a look at local clubs doing non member days and i will be putting more pics up as soon as i get them as well |
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