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Reasons for not showing Any verifications
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why not show any veris at all if you have them? Those that do not show them please offer an explanation.
We all know fab cliché no 1 - "personal preference" so please please don't say that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had instances in the past where women have openly admitted to not wanting to meet because I had too many veris so it can put done people off but everyone I have received goes on and if people have a hand up about me enjoying a lifestyle I have chosen then maybe it would of been doomed from the start lol!!!' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had proplems with another female because i met same guy as her. She made my life hell on here by contacting the guys who verified me and telling them a heap of lies about me. Hence now i hide them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've hidden them all when we aren't looking to meet. People tend to not contact us if they can't see any verifications that show we are a genuine couple.
As we are now looking to meet couples we have hidden our single male verifications.
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
When people leave the site their verification text disappears. I also don't see the point of displaying what someone else may have said about me. If someone's really interested then I have the text saved although I can't see how nice things someone said about me add to my veracity as a person in any way, shape or form. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've a few hidden, as the people who left them aren't officially bi and feel it would hurt their chances on here.  "
Are they still waiting for authorisation ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had proplems with another female because i met same guy as her. She made my life hell on here by contacting the guys who verified me and telling them a heap of lies about me. Hence now i hide them"
A guy will tell you to fuck off or insult you for getting knocked back, a woman will try to ruin your life for the same reason! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why won't you meet when you met xxxx?..
I see you also met xxxxx...
xxxx is interested in a meet and we wondered if you could .....
Why do you say you're not meeting couples when you met xx
If you believe most verification messages you're a fool. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've a few hidden, as the people who left them aren't officially bi and feel it would hurt their chances on here. "
Hahaha is that what they told you Tim?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only show social meet veris as the others are between us and the involved party. Discretion. We do show our verification summary however. Just to add some of our veris social and otherwise - there are some folk that have left, so even then, not all can be shown. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Sometimes it's cos the person who gave them has left the site.
2 of mine left the site
Dozens of mine have left the site....was it something I said?"
All of mine have. It's almost enough to make me paranoid. I'm the UNLOS inducing equivalent of a Typhoid Mary! |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
"I've a few hidden, as the people who left them aren't officially bi and feel it would hurt their chances on here.
Are they still waiting for authorisation ?"
A letter from their mum |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Sometimes it's cos the person who gave them has left the site.
2 of mine left the site
Dozens of mine have left the site....was it something I said?
All of mine have. It's almost enough to make me paranoid. I'm the UNLOS inducing equivalent of a Typhoid Mary!"
I drove one to declare he was leaving just by sending my face pic a few days ago   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all know fab cliché no 1 - "personal preference" so please please don't say that. "
Oh-well, I guess I'll just have to respect your preference then ! ..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Judging by some other threads currently around it could be any of the following:
- man is bi
- person/ people do bareback
- person / people are Asian
- person needed a shit before a meet but couldn't because their property contravenes building regulations.
I'm sorry to bang on about this but
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I have met a lot of people since I joined, 90% were from attending socials so not to play, just nice comments from lovely fabsters. Unfortunately you cannot currently 'veri by social' so displaying all of them may put people off.
My summary (only the cam person has left) , if I displayed it would say...
Verified by 77 people, newest Tuesday
29 fem. 41 men. 5 cpl. 2 tv/ts. By 98 meet. 1 cam.
How many guys would read all of them??? None. How many guys would think I'm an easy f*ck? All of them. How wrong they would be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would'nt want people knowing who I done what with,plus you'd know just how much of a slapper I been...... 
Thats so funny cos you havent even got any verifications "
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By *vsnikkiTV/TS
over a year ago
Limavady |
"Sometimes it's cos the person who gave them has left the site.
2 of mine left the site
Dozens of mine have left the site....was it something I said?
All of mine have. It's almost enough to make me paranoid. I'm the UNLOS inducing equivalent of a Typhoid Mary!
I drove one to declare he was leaving just by sending my face pic a few days ago "
No doubt he thought life couldn't get better than that. |
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It is a complex thing, without one single reason that covers everyone. Noone is going to come on and state that they are now mortified that they once shagged particular individuals are they! So there will be an embarrassment factor too. Otherwise, Id be very concerned for people I have had meets with. Many of up want to know people are verified so we feel more confident meeting them. We dont usually want to know the full intimate sex life from a particular shag, as many read like horny fantasy takes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't as I was here a while ago and upset another lady (meet a guy who said he was only meeting her) to which she messaged every single person I meet and on my friends list saying I had stds and would only do bare back and was trying to get pregnant! She even went as far as messageing clubs I'd been too. Obviously not ture, but I've chosen to a very discreet this time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We show ours to try and show that I'm not the total arse my forum posts sometimes suggest  "
Ooo me too. No wait a minute ...... mine say ....oh bugger better hide them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People leave the site so does the veri summary.
The only other reason I wouldn't show one was if it was too graphic but I think the guys I meet know that's not my style so they leave one accordingly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had proplems with another female because i met same guy as her. She made my life hell on here by contacting the guys who verified me and telling them a heap of lies about me. Hence now i hide them"
I had similar problems but with a jealous male, so now I keep them hidden |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've decided to hide most of mine. I'm genuine and not here to waste mine or anyone elses time - no number of verifications is going to prove that.
Although sometimes those on my list/friend's list did end up getting abuse due to them meeting me. So, hid the friends list as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had proplems with another female because i met same guy as her. She made my life hell on here by contacting the guys who verified me and telling them a heap of lies about me. Hence now i hide them"
Had this problem too...not so long ago i deleted my old profile To stop it....but Having fun finding new men lol X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had proplems with another female because i met same guy as her. She made my life hell on here by contacting the guys who verified me and telling them a heap of lies about me. Hence now i hide themI had similar problems but with a jealous male, so now I keep them hidden "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have asked people not to leave them as it is something we have shared with them and not anyone elise. "
I need to remember that one for the next time I meet a minger lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm meeting a women at chams tonight I've met her 3 times before she says she doesn't show her veries because she doesn't want to I've asked lol that's the reply I get. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We all know fab cliché no 1 - "personal preference" so please please don't say that.
That's a bit like saying - What colours a strawberry? And please don't say red!"
Not really.
Please consider; If I asked "Why don't you jump off a 20 metre high wall onto concrete?" you could say "personal preference." The real reason is you would be badly injured or possibly killed.
It is the real reason I am hoping to get to not "my life; my choice" which is taken as read. Does that explain it?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all know fab cliché no 1 - "personal preference" so please please don't say that.
That's a bit like saying - What colours a strawberry? And please don't say red!
Not really.
Please consider; If I asked "Why don't you jump off a 20 metre high wall onto concrete?" you could say "personal preference." The real reason is you would be badly injured or possibly killed.
It is the real reason I am hoping to get to not "my life; my choice" which is taken as read. Does that explain it? "
My personal preference would be to not be killed or badly injured. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some have said they do not want to show them because some people may think they have met too many people and will pass them by.
So they are veri filtering with the aim of misleading future meets as to the true nature of their sexual character? Interesting.
Of course they have the right to privacy, do not want people knowing my business, etc etc. So please do not witter on about that. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We all know fab cliché no 1 - "personal preference" so please please don't say that.
That's a bit like saying - What colours a strawberry? And please don't say red!
Not really.
Please consider; If I asked "Why don't you jump off a 20 metre high wall onto concrete?" you could say "personal preference." The real reason is you would be badly injured or possibly killed.
It is the real reason I am hoping to get to not "my life; my choice" which is taken as read. Does that explain it?
My personal preference would be to not be killed or badly injured."
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't as I was here a while ago and upset another lady (meet a guy who said he was only meeting her) to which she messaged every single person I meet and on my friends list saying I had stds and would only do bare back and was trying to get pregnant! She even went as far as messageing clubs I'd been too. Obviously not ture, but I've chosen to a very discreet this time "
That constitutes libel as it is deformation of character and is actionable. I trust she was thrown off the site? Did those people she contacted believe her? |
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"Some have said they do not want to show them because some people may think they have met too many people and will pass them by.
So they are veri filtering with the aim of misleading future meets as to the true nature of their sexual character? Interesting.
Of course they have the right to privacy, do not want people knowing my business, etc etc. So please do not witter on about that."
I think you maybe over analysing things a tad.
Its a well known fact people lie about their sexuasl prowess. Men triple their figure and women halve theirs lol
By your statement above we should also include details of any sexual partners outside of Fab so as not to mislead anybody lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some have said they do not want to show them because some people may think they have met too many people and will pass them by.
So they are veri filtering with the aim of misleading future meets as to the true nature of their sexual character? Interesting.
Of course they have the right to privacy, do not want people knowing my business, etc etc. So please do not witter on about that.
I think you maybe over analysing things a tad.
Its a well known fact people lie about their sexuasl prowess. Men triple their figure and women halve theirs lol
By your statement above we should also include details of any sexual partners outside of Fab so as not to mislead anybody lol"
Great idea! Our profile would be 30 pages longer at a stroke.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love my verifications I show all; Couple of people have left fab so lost theirs which is a shame. Dont see point of trying to hide anything its a swingers site lets be open and honest or car keys in the fruit bowl anyone? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some have said they do not want to show them because some people may think they have met too many people and will pass them by.
So they are veri filtering with the aim of misleading future meets as to the true nature of their sexual character? Interesting.
Of course they have the right to privacy, do not want people knowing my business, etc etc. So please do not witter on about that."
So what's the correct answer? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't show play veris, so usually ask any meet not to bother writing one as it won't be displayed "
How does that work if you meet someone socially and each of you thinks phwoar lets get it on! And therefore a social becomes a play one too? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some have said they do not want to show them because some people may think they have met too many people and will pass them by.
So they are veri filtering with the aim of misleading future meets as to the true nature of their sexual character? Interesting.
Of course they have the right to privacy, do not want people knowing my business, etc etc. So please do not witter on about that.
So what's the correct answer?"
I'd like to know that too as the OP doesn't appear to like any of the answers so far  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What's the point in showing them the only people who read them are nosey people wanting to see who you have met you can show a summery now and lets face it people don't meet you based on who you have met so apart from satisfying the nosey fucks there is no reason to. |
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"I had proplems with another female because i met same guy as her. She made my life hell on here by contacting the guys who verified me and telling them a heap of lies about me. Hence now i hide them"
Had this in the past. Not just with females. I also like my privacy. If someone I was interested in meeting wanted to see them, I'd show. Never been asked to though,
They are a tool to help but not the be all. I'm not a fan of profiles that just make reference to the verifications. Up to them though, I just tend to avoid as doesn't give me what I want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People have the option to run their profiles as they see fit. If they want to hide them then so be it, if they display them, fine. Just as some won't have any photos at all, some will display some but no face pics, others have all sorts of pics. People's reasons for not displaying their veri's are theirs and theirs alone and have nothing to do with me. If the way someone runs their profile is not to your liking then move on to the next. |
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By *em4ejacWoman
over a year ago
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"I had proplems with another female because i met same guy as her. She made my life hell on here by contacting the guys who verified me and telling them a heap of lies about me. Hence now i hide them"
What she said . |
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"Why not show any veris at all if you have them? Those that do not show them please offer an explanation.
We all know fab cliché no 1 - "personal preference" so please please don't say that. "
Because I'm discreet and it's no one elses business.
Why do you want to know ? |
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"Why not show any veris at all if you have them? Those that do not show them please offer an explanation.
We all know fab cliché no 1 - "personal preference" so please please don't say that. "
None of your business. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some have said they do not want to show them because some people may think they have met too many people and will pass them by.
So they are veri filtering with the aim of misleading future meets as to the true nature of their sexual character? Interesting.
Of course they have the right to privacy, do not want people knowing my business, etc etc. So please do not witter on about that.
So what's the correct answer?
I'd like to know that too as the OP doesn't appear to like any of the answers so far "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some have said they do not want to show them because some people may think they have met too many people and will pass them by.
So they are veri filtering with the aim of misleading future meets as to the true nature of their sexual character? Interesting.
Of course they have the right to privacy, do not want people knowing my business, etc etc. So please do not witter on about that.
So what's the correct answer?
I'd like to know that too as the OP doesn't appear to like any of the answers so far "
OP here.
There is no correct answer. What is interesting are the reasons given for showing and not showing.
Personally I show mine. The reason is before I had one no one would pay any interest to me as I was not verified. I am also aware people have contacted those I have met and confirmed directly I am not an axe murderer. Some have even been complementary about me!
I am not into hiding the decisions I make in life so if someone says "I don't want to see you because you met with a fat person and you have low standards" I feel lucky to have avoided such an arrogant prig.
I have never been chased by a bunny boiler so cannot comment on that area. I did have the misfortune to meet a woman who wanted gifts before she met. I gave her a veri but she does not show it. Presumably because she is still working.
Thanks to all those that have commented. |
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