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Naming and shaming

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

is not allowed I know but... lets say you lent another fab member some cash and all of a sudden they vanish from your friends list, block you, refuse to answer any calls or texts yet you see them still active on here... what would you do?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be less trusting of people in future.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"is not allowed I know but... lets say you lent another fab member some cash and all of a sudden they vanish from your friends list, block you, refuse to answer any calls or texts yet you see them still active on here... what would you do?"

Ummmm if there was an agreement to repay then I would go to the small claims court. Otherwise, learn from my mistakes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Realise that they were not the friend you thought they were

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's stealing if they have not repaid it call the police.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wouldn't lend them money in the first place!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

Call myself a twat for lending someone money, chalk.it up to experience and.move on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Learn not to be so trusting of virtual strangers.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Tell them I'm a Lloyd's Name and demand my money back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Somebody would have to be a lot closer to me than just being another fab member before I would lend them money.

I'd report it to admin if I was you though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

That's terrible that it has happened, I take it you knew this person well?

So you would have a mobile no? Or an address? Maybe you can contact them that way instead of via the site.

Don't be so trusting in future OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Contact the police if you have any proof the transaction took place. Do you have an email, message etc you can show?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

'Never be a borrow or lender be'. As my mother used to say. Only family or very close friends should you consider lending money to.

If there was a contract whether verbal or in writing, you could take them court.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Depends how much and if you can afford to lose it. If you can, live and learn. If you can't, go round and camp on their doorstep til you get it back.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Unfortunately we can be too trusting

I'd go see CAB as they could offer you some impartial advice and maybe put you in touch with a solicitor

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By *renchbambi xWoman over a year ago

Need to know basis

Probably been said in earlier posts but I would never give money to anyone...to people on fabs or to any of my other friends, it only leads to aggravation, upset and the loss of a friend. I like my friends and want to keep them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"'Never be a borrow or lender be'. As my mother used to say. Only family or very close friends should you consider lending money to.

If there was a contract whether verbal or in writing, you could take them court.

You beat me to it - on the well known phrase. The end

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By *isa 59Woman over a year ago

Newcastle

It all comes down to the individual circs and how much you lent them as to which way you could go next. Very difficult to say otherwise :-/

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont be so naive in future

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for all the very valid comments guys and girls... I do have screen shots of the Whats App messages swapped regarding the repayment etc so will give her the 7 days I offered in an e mail, ( as yet unanswered of course ) All done by bank transfer too so a provable paper trail so to speak..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Helps if you use your brain to think instead of your cock...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for all the very valid comments guys and girls... I do have screen shots of the Whats App messages swapped regarding the repayment etc so will give her the 7 days I offered in an e mail, ( as yet unanswered of course ) All done by bank transfer too so a provable paper trail so to speak.. "

I you have this information I would go the CAB & see where you stand.

Depending on how much you loaned her it might not be worth the fees to recover the cash.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wouldn't lend them money in the first place!"

there ya have it.

the voice of common sense.

borrow a stranger on a sex site money?

was it someone of the opposite sex?

were you hoping to get 'something' for the favour?

i would pour hot water in your head and take a drink, you mug lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would loan my vanilla friends money but not a fb even if known a while.your have to put it down to experience if Can't get it back. Good luck trying x

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Id say more fool you.

Report it to Admin and if you consider it to be theft then report it to the Police.

But as this person is obviously a member of the site and we only have one half of a story Im going to close this now sorry.

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