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Cheating on a partner just for sex, or being emotionally involved with somebody else, but not having sex with them?
I'm interested to see if men and women think differently on this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If Pip had sex with someone else and didnt tell me I wouldnt be happy although I would know it was "For entertainment purposes only" like going to watch a stripper etc.
If she became emotionally involved with another guy Id be absolutely gutted knowing there would be no real trust anymore and or a feeling we were an exclusive couple.
Sex is light entertainment......
Emotional involvement is the recipe for a disaster movie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Emotions? Thought this was all about NSA. Knew I was going wrong somewhere, must have a re-think!   "
its a general question, not necessarily aimed at swingers. just a 'what if' situation.
In the lounge all kids of things are talked about
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Mini rant time:
I studied A-level psychology. My teacher was a prick and contradicted everything I said, and belittled me at every turn if I had an opinion of my own.
One of the theories he was adamant about was that men would be more upset by their female partner having sexwith somebody else, as he would be bringing up somebody else's child, not nurturing his own genes. And a woman would be more upset if her male partner was in love with somebody else, as he would be wasting his resources on another woman, rather than her and their children.
I think that's a very outdated theory, as we have more forms of contraception, and men aren't necessarily the main wage earners, so women can provide for themselves.
On a side note, he also said that people always go for somebody of the same 'level of attractiveness'... But if this werettrue then you'd never see a couple where one person is a hell of a lot hotter than the other. (yes I know attraction is based on opinion, but it still happens).
Also, he said that people go for others with a similar body type. Now, as we all know from the bbw posts, there are lots of guys with six packs who fancy larger ladies. (although usually a slimmer lady on their arm and a larger lady in their bed... Probably to do with media and the general opinion of a lot of the public)
And breathe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mini rant time:
I studied A-level psychology. My teacher was a prick and contradicted everything I said, and belittled me at every turn if I had an opinion of my own.
One of the theories he was adamant about was that men would be more upset by their female partner having sexwith somebody else, as he would be bringing up somebody else's child, not nurturing his own genes. And a woman would be more upset if her male partner was in love with somebody else, as he would be wasting his resources on another woman, rather than her and their children.
I think that's a very outdated theory, as we have more forms of contraception, and men aren't necessarily the main wage earners, so women can provide for themselves.
On a side note, he also said that people always go for somebody of the same 'level of attractiveness'... But if this werettrue then you'd never see a couple where one person is a hell of a lot hotter than the other. (yes I know attraction is based on opinion, but it still happens).
Also, he said that people go for others with a similar body type. Now, as we all know from the bbw posts, there are lots of guys with six packs who fancy larger ladies. (although usually a slimmer lady on their arm and a larger lady in their bed... Probably to do with media and the general opinion of a lot of the public)
And breathe. "
Definitely, an outdated attitude. 
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By (user no longer on site)
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Pardon the pun, but if I had a partner, and she slept with someone else, it'd be a kick in the balls, and would question their sexual attraction of me. Fair enough if it was a d*unken accident though. 
Platonic, emotional involvement with someone else would hurt the most and would force me to confront them and ask to choose. |
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Emotional betrayal from C would hurt me the most. He doesn't give his true emotional side away easily so if he had expressed them to anyone else I would be in bits. |
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"Cheating on a partner just for sex, or being emotionally involved with somebody else, but not having sex with them?
I'm interested to see if men and women think differently on this. "
I would find emotional involvement more upsetting than physical involvement. |
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"Cheating on a partner just for sex, or being emotionally involved with somebody else, but not having sex with them?
I'm interested to see if men and women think differently on this. "
my ex did this fell for a woman cos he talked to on the phone when he worked nights ,he fell for her little girl lost ,moaning about her chap ,this was before he actually had sex with her ,he told me he had given her up ,but lied and cheated on me .  |
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yep its the emotional involvement that is the hardest thing ,my ex spending 6 months
messing my head about with this other woman ,i must have been the only woman in the world whose husband was going to leave her for another woman but took 6 months to do it ,that has destroyed me .no human being should have to suffer that xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"yep its the emotional involvement that is the hardest thing ,my ex spending 6 months
messing my head about with this other woman ,i must have been the only woman in the world whose husband was going to leave her for another woman but took 6 months to do it ,that has destroyed me .no human being should have to suffer that xx"
No your not the only one whos husband took 6 months to do it because a lot of men dont always know what they realy want and cant make up their minds.
If they could have two women they probably would. |
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Emotionally involved x u are giving a piece of yourself x people can have sex, d*unken sex for example but not even remember it. To give yourself emotionally so that your first and last thought each day is another person is the ultimate betrayal |
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"emotionally involved i guess because people dont have to like others who they have sex with.
I don't get that  "
If they were emotionaly involved they would have feelings for them.
if they are having sex with you then you are just a piece of meat, sratching an itch as it were  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"emotionally involved i guess because people dont have to like others who they have sex with.
I don't get that
If they were emotionaly involved they would have feelings for them.
if they are having sex with you then you are just a piece of meat, sratching an itch as it were "
I would never have sex with someone I don't like
And I'm nobodys piece of meat either |
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"emotionally involved i guess because people dont have to like others who they have sex with.
I don't get that
If they were emotionaly involved they would have feelings for them.
if they are having sex with you then you are just a piece of meat, sratching an itch as it were
I would never have sex with someone I don't like
And I'm nobodys piece of meat either "
This is my attitude to it too
Agree the emotional.side of things hurts worse xx |
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