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By *issLiss OP Couple
over a year ago
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Can fully open relationships ever work? Or do you think they are doomed to fail? Or how does it work for you?
Sometimes I think it's like communism - great in theory, reality if everyone is on the same page perhaps, but in modern everyday life are we ever on that page? |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Can fully open relationships ever work? Or do you think they are doomed to fail? Or how does it work for you?
Sometimes I think it's like communism - great in theory, reality if everyone is on the same page perhaps, but in modern everyday life are we ever on that page? "
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over a year ago
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"Can fully open relationships ever work? Or do you think they are doomed to fail? Or how does it work for you?
Sometimes I think it's like communism - great in theory, reality if everyone is on the same page perhaps, but in modern everyday life are we ever on that page? "
I suppose its really a question of your definition of an "open relationship" I have met couples who pursue different meanings of the term? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can fully open relationships ever work? Or do you think they are doomed to fail? Or how does it work for you?
Sometimes I think it's like communism - great in theory, reality if everyone is on the same page perhaps, but in modern everyday life are we ever on that page? "
The question to some extent infers that 'closed' relationships are the only answer in modern everyday life, the divorce rates prove that not to be the case. To suggest open relationships cannot work under any circumstance over the long term would also be factually wrong.
If an open honest secure individual meets another individual with the same wants and needs which can be provided by an open relationship, then it has as strong a chance as any other relationship. |
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By *issLiss OP Couple
over a year ago
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"What is your definition of an open relationship?
I think any relationship can work as long as all those within it want similar things from it."
I do think so too...
By fully open I mean able to see/spend time with other people. Be together and apart.
A lot of couple just swing together and I don't see why that wouldn't work but I'm talking men and women with fuck buddies for instance |
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"What is your definition of an open relationship?
I think any relationship can work as long as all those within it want similar things from it.
I do think so too...
By fully open I mean able to see/spend time with other people. Be together and apart.
A lot of couple just swing together and I don't see why that wouldn't work but I'm talking men and women with fuck buddies for instance"
For me personally a fully open relationship wouldn't be what I wanted so I wouldn't enter into one, while I don't feel that I own my partner in any way I wouldn't want him to be emotionally connected to anyone else in the same sense that we are and he feels the same way about me. |
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"Any type of relationship can work with trust, honesty and respect. As soon as one of those is lost the relationship is unlikely to survive"
I agree up to a point but I see many relationships surviving unhappily with none of those three  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any type of relationship can work with trust, honesty and respect. As soon as one of those is lost the relationship is unlikely to survive
I agree up to a point but I see many relationships surviving unhappily with none of those three "
I get what you mean, but to me they tend to be convenient living arrangements rather than relationships if that makes sense...And often have an expiry date on them of when the kids leave home from the ones I know of, which can't be a nice way to live |
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"im probs missing something but whats the point of a fully open relationship?
surely its just friends with benefits? but a different label "
I always take it to mean that you have like a foundation relationship or a main relationship that is a constant in your life but both of you are free to pursue other interests sexually and in some cases emotionally. |
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"Any type of relationship can work with trust, honesty and respect. As soon as one of those is lost the relationship is unlikely to survive
I agree up to a point but I see many relationships surviving unhappily with none of those three
I get what you mean, but to me they tend to be convenient living arrangements rather than relationships if that makes sense...And often have an expiry date on them of when the kids leave home from the ones I know of, which can't be a nice way to live "
Yes, you're right. It must be awful, we know of at least one where the people are quite elderly and find it incredibly sad |
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By *D40Couple
over a year ago
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"What is your definition of an open relationship?
I think any relationship can work as long as all those within it want similar things from it.
I do think so too...
By fully open I mean able to see/spend time with other people. Be together and apart.
A lot of couple just swing together and I don't see why that wouldn't work but I'm talking men and women with fuck buddies for instance
For me personally a fully open relationship wouldn't be what I wanted so I wouldn't enter into one, while I don't feel that I own my partner in any way I wouldn't want him to be emotionally connected to anyone else in the same sense that we are and he feels the same way about me."
Wholeheartedly agree. |
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"Can fully open relationships ever work? Or do you think they are doomed to fail? Or how does it work for you?
Sometimes I think it's like communism - great in theory, reality if everyone is on the same page perhaps, but in modern everyday life are we ever on that page? "
Yes they can work. Open, honest communication is the key, but then it is with all relationships
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