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Not that I'm looking at the moment but do you think it's less likely to find someone to settle down with the older you get?? I'm 36 (FUCK!!) in a couple of weeks and a single mum of a toddler, hardly an exciting prospect for a bloke.
I rarely get out on my own due to baby sitting limitations. Starting to wonder if ill have to wait till I'm 50 and my boys grown up and left home...
What I could really do with is a decent FWB.... |
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"Yes, I think it's less likely.
I expect to remain single now. I don't think I am cut out for relationships."
I think I am. Just don't think ill ever find the right guy. My taste in men is shocking!! I've got a knack for getting with bad boys that I don't know are bad boys till months down the line |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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gosh your well past it miss hot bot.. lol
kidding, hey at least youve looks and personality on your side, im sure your lil one is a polite young dude and a credit to you, so any man would be a rather lucky chap indeed to have you both in his life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't give up. I'm in the same boat as you. It bloody hard and I even think I'm wasting my time sometimes but you just need to keep going. Hope is better then no hope. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I think it depends what you want from life.
I used to work with someone who decided she wanted children and a partner by the time she was 40 and she worked at it and had her first child at 39 and her second three years later. She and her partner are still happy.
I think it becomes less likely when you shut yourself off from the opportunities, dismiss things quickly because they don't give you an immediate sexual spark or set so many barriers up that it's too much hard work for anyone to bother.
I'm nearly 50 and I am only just getting ready to find someone with whom to perhaps have a more committed relationship.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes, I think it's less likely.
I expect to remain single now. I don't think I am cut out for relationships.
I think I am. Just don't think ill ever find the right guy. My taste in men is shocking!! I've got a knack for getting with bad boys that I don't know are bad boys till months down the line "
You do know they are bad boys but you see that as attractive. What you discover is that they are truly shockingly awful men. |
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"Yes, I think it's less likely.
I expect to remain single now. I don't think I am cut out for relationships.
I think I am. Just don't think ill ever find the right guy. My taste in men is shocking!! I've got a knack for getting with bad boys that I don't know are bad boys till months down the line
You do know they are bad boys but you see that as attractive. What you discover is that they are truly shockingly awful men."
No seriously I didn't have the slightest idea that my ex was like he is. He was polite, charming, a good laugh, considerate etc when we met, even up to a year down the line was when he flipped and became abusive. I've since been told that he did the same to the girl he was with before me and the same to the girl he has been with since.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Yes, I think it's less likely.
I expect to remain single now. I don't think I am cut out for relationships.
I think I am. Just don't think ill ever find the right guy. My taste in men is shocking!! I've got a knack for getting with bad boys that I don't know are bad boys till months down the line
You do know they are bad boys but you see that as attractive. What you discover is that they are truly shockingly awful men.
No seriously I didn't have the slightest idea that my ex was like he is. He was polite, charming, a good laugh, considerate etc when we met, even up to a year down the line was when he flipped and became abusive. I've since been told that he did the same to the girl he was with before me and the same to the girl he has been with since.
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I have been through similar and it took me years to realise that I did know. There were clues, but the attraction was that with all that considerate, loving behaviour there was something a little edgy too.
I kept picking wrong 'uns for years before I took time out, became celibate and worked out why I kept ending up with duds. I was the common denominator.
Now if I find someone that appealing that I get doe eyed about them I slow things down and encourage more interaction in different situations. Any hints of control and I back off.
As the song says, players only love you when they're playing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm thinking I'll die alone, surrounded by cats as I just don't seem to be high maintenance enough for a relationship...I'm used to being on my own & am very independent and I have found that scares most guys off as they don't feel as 'needed'. Also, some men are put off by a sexually active woman...I've had a few guys I've met from Fab tell me that they'd never date a woman from Fab, even though it's ok for them to be on here! Not that I'm actively looking, but think I've given up on the idea of it coming along unexpectedly now too. |
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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I am early 40s and feel the same. Have done vanilla dating and it doesn't work. I stick with this lifestyle now as it gives me what I need. I am confident knowing the person I am I will still be single at 50 plus. I am a crap prospect as similar situation with other issues to deal with too.
Single isn't what I want but as soon as I see something weak like my ex I am running in the opposite direction.
Single will do for me until my youngest is of teenage years and I will have more freedom to get out and meet people.
I accepted my shelf along time ago lol. Its got curtains too lol |
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By *smCouple
over a year ago
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"Not that I'm looking at the moment but do you think it's less likely to find someone to settle down with the older you get?? I'm 36 (FUCK!!) in a couple of weeks and a single mum of a toddler, hardly an exciting prospect for a bloke.
I rarely get out on my own due to baby sitting limitations. Starting to wonder if ill have to wait till I'm 50 and my boys grown up and left home...
What I could really do with is a decent FWB.... "
I met and fell in love with the perfect man when I was 40 ., didn't expect to. Wasn't looking and there he was.. X
You don't know what's around the corner , just be open to if it when I comes . X |
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"Yes, I think it's less likely.
I expect to remain single now. I don't think I am cut out for relationships.
I think I am. Just don't think ill ever find the right guy. My taste in men is shocking!! I've got a knack for getting with bad boys that I don't know are bad boys till months down the line
You do know they are bad boys but you see that as attractive. What you discover is that they are truly shockingly awful men.
No seriously I didn't have the slightest idea that my ex was like he is. He was polite, charming, a good laugh, considerate etc when we met, even up to a year down the line was when he flipped and became abusive. I've since been told that he did the same to the girl he was with before me and the same to the girl he has been with since.
I have been through similar and it took me years to realise that I did know. There were clues, but the attraction was that with all that considerate, loving behaviour there was something a little edgy too.
I kept picking wrong 'uns for years before I took time out, became celibate and worked out why I kept ending up with duds. I was the common denominator.
Now if I find someone that appealing that I get doe eyed about them I slow things down and encourage more interaction in different situations. Any hints of control and I back off.
As the song says, players only love you when they're playing."
Good advice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not that I'm looking at the moment but do you think it's less likely to find someone to settle down with the older you get?? I'm 36 (FUCK!!) in a couple of weeks and a single mum of a toddler, hardly an exciting prospect for a bloke.
I rarely get out on my own due to baby sitting limitations. Starting to wonder if ill have to wait till I'm 50 and my boys grown up and left home...
What I could really do with is a decent FWB.... "
I hit 40 a few month ago I have a 9 and 14 year old been on my own since youngest was 6 week old. I wobbled at 40 and I am convinced I will be single forever |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I hit 40 in February! And to be honest, I think if it hasn't happened by now I doubt it ever will, but I have always said 'never say never' Oh and I don't have kids, as I never wanted them, so I should be a great catch theoretically....doubt it though  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
Just a comment on the "expect to be single" statements that some are posting. I used to say that and I have realised I made it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Now I say that I am prepared to be single but I no longer expect it because I am open to not being single again.
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"Just a comment on the "expect to be single" statements that some are posting. I used to say that and I have realised I made it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Now I say that I am prepared to be single but I no longer expect it because I am open to not being single again.
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I think for me I'm not willing to settle for something just so I'm not alone, I'm open to someone good coming along, but just not gonna hold my breath for it! I'd rather be the crazy cat lady than be in a relationship and unhappy like so many I know |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Just a comment on the "expect to be single" statements that some are posting. I used to say that and I have realised I made it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Now I say that I am prepared to be single but I no longer expect it because I am open to not being single again.
I think for me I'm not willing to settle for something just so I'm not alone, I'm open to someone good coming along, but just not gonna hold my breath for it! I'd rather be the crazy cat lady than be in a relationship and unhappy like so many I know "
Absolutely. I'm just no longer tightly defining what "good" is and I'm letting people grow on me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ah well... Maybe it'll creep up on me when I least expect it. Think I'm more wary now I've got my boy to worry about x "
like i said above he will be a very lucky guy to have you both in his life |
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"Yes, I think it's less likely.
I expect to remain single now. I don't think I am cut out for relationships.
I think I am. Just don't think ill ever find the right guy. My taste in men is shocking!! I've got a knack for getting with bad boys that I don't know are bad boys till months down the line
You do know they are bad boys but you see that as attractive. What you discover is that they are truly shockingly awful men.
No seriously I didn't have the slightest idea that my ex was like he is. He was polite, charming, a good laugh, considerate etc when we met, even up to a year down the line was when he flipped and became abusive. I've since been told that he did the same to the girl he was with before me and the same to the girl he has been with since.
then you need to go onto womens aid website someone on here told me about it a while back .i had a look at some stuff and have since joined their forums ,btw as im over 50 there's no hope for me x
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By *b430Man
over a year ago
Tayside |
"I'm 30 in a year, no kids but friends are all settled down so I'm in a similar predicament as you.
Time goes so quickly x"
Time goes even quicker for the OP; she's 34 now but 36 in a couple of weeks!    |
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"Yes, I think it's less likely.
I expect to remain single now. I don't think I am cut out for relationships.
I think I am. Just don't think ill ever find the right guy. My taste in men is shocking!! I've got a knack for getting with bad boys that I don't know are bad boys till months down the line
You do know they are bad boys but you see that as attractive. What you discover is that they are truly shockingly awful men.
No seriously I didn't have the slightest idea that my ex was like he is. He was polite, charming, a good laugh, considerate etc when we met, even up to a year down the line was when he flipped and became abusive. I've since been told that he did the same to the girl he was with before me and the same to the girl he has been with since.
then you need to go onto womens aid website someone on here told me about it a while back .i had a look at some stuff and have since joined their forums ,btw as im over 50 there's no hope for me x
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No woman's aid needed here, I'm well
Shot of him, actually as I type he's at the police station about his drink driving and criminal damage charges. Such a nice bloke lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think its more down to circumstances, I'm a single mum, I work two jobs, I just don't have the time for a relationship even if I did want one, its ok once your in one as it fits round your home life, but finding someone, dating, going places till you feel ready to invite them into your home, and after all your kids home too takes time |
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"I think its more down to circumstances, I'm a single mum, I work two jobs, I just don't have the time for a relationship even if I did want one, its ok once your in one as it fits round your home life, but finding someone, dating, going places till you feel ready to invite them into your home, and after all your kids home too takes time "
Yep!! This is exactly it! X |
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"Yes, I think it's less likely.
I expect to remain single now. I don't think I am cut out for relationships.
I think I am. Just don't think ill ever find the right guy. My taste in men is shocking!! I've got a knack for getting with bad boys that I don't know are bad boys till months down the line
You do know they are bad boys but you see that as attractive. What you discover is that they are truly shockingly awful men.
No seriously I didn't have the slightest idea that my ex was like he is. He was polite, charming, a good laugh, considerate etc when we met, even up to a year down the line was when he flipped and became abusive. I've since been told that he did the same to the girl he was with before me and the same to the girl he has been with since.
then you need to go onto womens aid website someone on here told me about it a while back .i had a look at some stuff and have since joined their forums ,btw as im over 50 there's no hope for me x
No woman's aid needed here, I'm well
Shot of him, actually as I type he's at the police station about his drink driving and criminal damage charges. Such a nice bloke lol x "
It's a DV site. It has tips for women to spot abusive personality types. Sociopaths, psychopaths etc. You said something about about the personality types of your exes earlier in this thread. |
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"I just did a third eye scan of this thread and in the main so far the news is summarized so~ . .i think i wil die alone well i want a sperm donor are we dead yet waste of life cake cheese. X"
You have pretty much summed it up  |
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"Yes, I think it's less likely.
I expect to remain single now. I don't think I am cut out for relationships.
I think I am. Just don't think ill ever find the right guy. My taste in men is shocking!! I've got a knack for getting with bad boys that I don't know are bad boys till months down the line
You do know they are bad boys but you see that as attractive. What you discover is that they are truly shockingly awful men.
No seriously I didn't have the slightest idea that my ex was like he is. He was polite, charming, a good laugh, considerate etc when we met, even up to a year down the line was when he flipped and became abusive. I've since been told that he did the same to the girl he was with before me and the same to the girl he has been with since.
then you need to go onto womens aid website someone on here told me about it a while back .i had a look at some stuff and have since joined their forums ,btw as im over 50 there's no hope for me x
No woman's aid needed here, I'm well
Shot of him, actually as I type he's at the police station about his drink driving and criminal damage charges. Such a nice bloke lol x
It's a DV site. It has tips for women to spot abusive personality types. Sociopaths, psychopaths etc. You said something about about the personality types of your exes earlier in this thread. "
He's the only one that's been violent and abusive. The rest were just flaky
And unreliable and not very good boyfriend material. I'm well clued up to it now I have read a bit about it on similar sites after we split. No way would I ever end up in that sort of situation again. X |
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"I just did a third eye scan of this thread and in the main so far the news is summarized so~ . .i think i wil die alone well i want a sperm donor are we dead yet waste of life cake cheese. X
You have pretty much summed it up "
ah women |
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"I just did a third eye scan of this thread and in the main so far the news is summarized so~ . .i think i wil die alone well i want a sperm donor are we dead yet waste of life cake cheese. X
You have pretty much summed it up ah women "
I know a fucking nightmare |
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