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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm afraid I enough problems with the one I have to be taking on another one, sorry. Although I've one going spare if you fancy trialling a new one? Lol.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Same here !!!
My dad wasn,t easy...but i still miss him....
Now i,m a father.....and i get on so well with my daughter xx"
mine was an old git but I miss him like hell 10 years down the line  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't feel like I'll miss mine much.
Violent alcoholic all my living memory.
Cared for him for three years when he came out of hospital after surviving a burst ulcer.
He kicked off at our wedding party.
Now I just getup when care line call like last night at 2am to pick him up off the floor. Hose him down and put him to bed.
Really not sure I'll miss him much. |
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Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.
Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.
Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him."
You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am sorry to hear that V. At least you escaped the worst of it."
It made me a better person
I don't drink as I saw what it does to a family and thankfully I haven't been in prison. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my dad was quite nasty to me a lot of the time not when i was little though.
i was a bit frightened of him but miss him ocasionaly because when people or pets die i seem to remember their good bits not their bad bits.
I remember when i had to move back home when my son was a baby and he made feel feel like a burden, where as when my son moved back home i was glad of his company.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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had my ups and downs with my dad, but love him to bits unfortunately earlier this year he was diagnosed with alzheimers, pretty heartbreaking, just gotta be there for my mum |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"My Shed.. My Rules  "
Actually, they're my sheds.
His sheds are at his house!
I'm not allowed to use my sheds. There are 2 here, and a garage.
I wanted to get a pressure washer. Where are you going to keep it? he wanted to know. It'll just be in my way.
Excuse me? I thought I live here and pay the rent, not you! |
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By *opinovMan
over a year ago
Point Nemo, Cumbria |
"I have the most amazing father, I could not wish for a better father...  "
Me too... and my mum - they're both amazing, and it's inspiring to see two people in their eighties who are still every bit in love with each other as they were fifty years ago. They're living proof that life-long love really is possible... which is a bit of a comfort whenever I feel a bit down.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am sorry to hear that V. At least you escaped the worst of it.
It made me a better person
I don't drink as I saw what it does to a family and thankfully I haven't been in prison. "
Ditto |
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"I have the most amazing father, I could not wish for a better father...
Me too... and my mum - they're both amazing, and it's inspiring to see two people in their eighties who are still every bit in love with each other as they were fifty years ago. They're living proof that life-long love really is possible... which is a bit of a comfort whenever I feel a bit down.
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I couldn't agree more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My real dad left when I was 6 my step dad was a right twat and not spoken to him in 8 years and he has not seen either of my kids and he does not want to. Met my real dad came back into my life after 30 odd years and did not bother sticking around again as he was an alcoholic and wanted money from me. I swore then I would be the best dad I could be to my kids. And show them as good a father figure/ role model I could. Your dad may be being a git at the moment but at least he is around. Try telling him how you feel before it gets to a point where you can't sort it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My mum and dad adopted me as a baby. So somewhere I may have two more parents. But the ones who adopted me and saved me from a children's home in Jersey, were the best and I had a great life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mind died 22 years ago. I wish it had been my mother, the manipulative, shrewish, paranoidal hateful cow. She wonders why I dont visit. Never liked her and never felt any love for her. She hasnt a good word to say about anyone. My father deserves a sainthood. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
My dad hasn't been a part of my life since I was a teenager. I prefer it that way for quite a few reasons. I've heard he's getting the dad thing right with his new young wife and my half-sisters though so maybe people do change. My mum is all the parent I need since she totally rocks even if she does still tell me off all the time for not being ladylike. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.
Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.
You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin...."
Not spoken to my parents for years My father is a vile controlling bully and I doubt we'll ever see each other again. I envy those with a close relationship but do wish people would remember and respect that not all of us play happy families and not all parents deserve being put on a pedestal with unconditional love |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
In some ways my dad is great.
In others he's incredibly fucking annoying.
A dictatorship over my sheds, to the extent I can't use them is part of the incredibly fucking annoying category! |
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"In some ways my dad is great.
In others he's incredibly fucking annoying.
A dictatorship over my sheds, to the extent I can't use them is part of the incredibly fucking annoying category!"
Time to have a chat and reclaim at least one shed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.
Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.
You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin....
Not spoken to my parents for years My father is a vile controlling bully and I doubt we'll ever see each other again. I envy those with a close relationship but do wish people would remember and respect that not all of us play happy families and not all parents deserve being put on a pedestal with unconditional love"
This!!!! |
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"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.
Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.
You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin....
Not spoken to my parents for years My father is a vile controlling bully and I doubt we'll ever see each other again. I envy those with a close relationship but do wish people would remember and respect that not all of us play happy families and not all parents deserve being put on a pedestal with unconditional love"
I am fully aware of this and work with some very damaged people in my vocation.
However the OP was in a tone that indicated love but current frustration with her father....not a life of abuse. Hence the tone of my reply. |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.
Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.
You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin....
Not spoken to my parents for years My father is a vile controlling bully and I doubt we'll ever see each other again. I envy those with a close relationship but do wish people would remember and respect that not all of us play happy families and not all parents deserve being put on a pedestal with unconditional love"
Very true.
I have a better relationship with my dad now than I've ever had before but we still, and probably always will, butt heads about his caveman attitude to women.
He's not a bad guy at all. He's not alcoholic or abusive and he's always been there for me. I love him for those things.
But it's still fucking annoying when he tells me what I can't do because I'm a woman, (drive well, put up shelves, weld, use any sort of tools...) and when he takes over my sheds, questioning my need, and right, to store anything in them! |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Mum seperated when I was 4. Never had a father and all the great things that come with it......best of all how much easier mums life would have been.
Count your blessings and remember, life would have been far worse without him.
You assume positivity with a father who is present. That's sweet but unfortunately there's the other side of the coin....
Not spoken to my parents for years My father is a vile controlling bully and I doubt we'll ever see each other again. I envy those with a close relationship but do wish people would remember and respect that not all of us play happy families and not all parents deserve being put on a pedestal with unconditional love
I am fully aware of this and work with some very damaged people in my vocation.
However the OP was in a tone that indicated love but current frustration with her father....not a life of abuse. Hence the tone of my reply."
Indeed, he's not abusive. He can try to be overly-assertive, but that made me the strong person I am, because I've never tolerated it.
And yes, I'm very frustrated with him at the moment.
He was easier to live with when I was 200 miles away.
However, I moved back to help support my parents through a difficult time, even though I didn't want to move back to Norfolk and don't want to be here. So it's not like I don't appreciate him.
I'm finding living so close to my parents now difficult in some ways. He's very controlling. At least he tries to be and it's exhausting. |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"In some ways my dad is great.
In others he's incredibly fucking annoying.
A dictatorship over my sheds, to the extent I can't use them is part of the incredibly fucking annoying category!
Time to have a chat and reclaim at least one shed."
A chat is definitely on the cards. He's incredibly difficult to get through to when he doesn't want to hear something though. It's a good job we're both as stubborn as each other. |
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By *ddie02Couple
over a year ago
northern |
My dad passed away just a month ago, would give anything to have him back. He was a great man, taught me everything I know. Miss him terribly. Only problem I had was he moved here to Florida to have me. Being English dad, Irish mom, my skin doesn't exactly get along with the sun.  |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I would give my right arm to have mine back...so go on, I will borrow him till you want him back, because you know you will miss him. "
He was a lot easier to cope with when he was 200 miles away though.
I did, at least, have access to my own tools and shed!
He's got a lot of good points, as I've said, and I moved back up here to help support my parents but having my parents within 'just dropping in' distance is causing a few headaches! |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
A couple of weeks ago I was on the loo, first thing in the morning and I heard a knocking.
I rushed to finish up and dashed out of the bathroom, in a nightie, (thank goodness I'd put it on to go to the bathroom because I sleep naked), to find dad at the back window.
He'd 'just popped up' to do something or other.
Some warning would have been nice!
I know if I accommodate that I'm going to run into an embarrassing parent-meet encounter at some point.
Boundaries, y'know?  |
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