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over a year ago
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"What does it mean?? X"
It means that you 'put yourself down' but this can be done in a jokey manner like Tina has done above, doesnt mean you are a glum ass always moaning that you cant, wont, will fail at doing something, hope this kind of clears it up, but im not very good at explaining things  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I can be self-deprecating. It was a defensive mechanism - getting in the criticism before others could. I've been working on it and hope I am less self-deprecating now.
I still struggle with a compliment sometimes.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"What does it mean?? X
It means that you 'put yourself down' but this can be done in a jokey manner like Tina has done above, doesnt mean you are a glum ass always moaning that you cant, wont, will fail at doing something, hope this kind of clears it up, but im not very good at explaining things "
 A very good answer, with a joke.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can be at times, I have done it for so long as well. It used to be a sort of tongue in cheek thing most people did when I grew up, you said things before others could. |
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"I can be at times, I have done it for so long as well. It used to be a sort of tongue in cheek thing most people did when I grew up, you said things before others could."
do you think its become a habit?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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100% depreciated here, indeed written off.
If i had to put assets ( ie personal traits) to one side and all my liabilities (so i'm told)to the other then i'd be well out of balance. |
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"What does it mean?? X
It means that you 'put yourself down' but this can be done in a jokey manner like Tina has done above, doesnt mean you are a glum ass always moaning that you cant, wont, will fail at doing something, hope this kind of clears it up, but im not very good at explaining things "
It can also be modesty. Or even false modesty! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes although I'm pretty confident most times, it comes out.
I'm afraid the past caused it, insecurity problems himself, and tried to drag me down with him.
Her |
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"I can be self-deprecating. It was a defensive mechanism - getting in the criticism before others could. I've been working on it and hope I am less self-deprecating now.
I still struggle with a compliment sometimes.
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I couldn't of said it better myself, I am always being told off for putting myself down  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My humour is incredibly deprecating, so its only fair I practice on myself too."
Not being too nosey. not half, but is it the only practice you practice on yourself?
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’d like to be self-depreciating….
But I just can’t seem to find an inherent weakness about myself that would warrant me making such wildly incredulous claims.....   |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"My humour is incredibly deprecating, so its only fair I practice on myself too.
Not being too nosey. not half, but is it the only practice you practice on yourself?
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Well my burgeoning tattoo and piercing business didn't last long after I started crying. Or was that not what you had in mind? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am to a certain extent as I lack confidence but I don't put myself down in everything I do. I know what my good points are, I'm just not good at promoting myself  |
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"What does it mean?? X
It means that you 'put yourself down' but this can be done in a jokey manner like Tina has done above, doesnt mean you are a glum ass always moaning that you cant, wont, will fail at doing something, hope this kind of clears it up, but im not very good at explaining things "
It did thank you!! Xx |
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"Do you think you are? If so what makes you do it, is it lack of confidence?
I'd like to think that I'm not as personally I don't find it an attractive trait.
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No! I cringe at some of the comments people make about themselves on here. Some are disingenuous and simply seeking to have their ego massaged: equally cringe worthy. |
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"What does it mean?? X
It means that you 'put yourself down' but this can be done in a jokey manner like Tina has done above, doesnt mean you are a glum ass always moaning that you cant, wont, will fail at doing something, hope this kind of clears it up, but im not very good at explaining things
It can also be modesty. Or even false modesty! "
Indeed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think most people do this, some more than others. Some are more obvious than others.
I know I do sometimes, as it's a way of pointing out what I believe are my vulnerable points, which when I think about it is stupid. But I'm often negative about my size so that others don't point it out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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as its been said in other posts in the thread i use it as a protection, if i make jokes then no one else can hurt me i guess as im already taking the piss.
i have confidence issues, im aware of my body size but know im not ugly.
i prefer to read someone being a lil bit down on themselves with a jokey kinda way rather than over the top with confidence/arrogance though
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By (user no longer on site)
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I use it as a joke. How can I, in all consciousness, take the piss out of anyone else if I can't take it out of myself?
I know who I am, I know that I'm short, chubby, not terribly good looking and would get passed over on here for many other guys. It's a realistic view grounded in self awareness. That doesn't mean I don't have confidence in who I am- it means my confidence is tempered so it never becomes arrogance.
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"I use it as a joke. How can I, in all consciousness, take the piss out of anyone else if I can't take it out of myself?
I know who I am, I know that I'm short, chubby, not terribly good looking and would get passed over on here for many other guys. It's a realistic view grounded in self awareness. That doesn't mean I don't have confidence in who I am- it means my confidence is tempered so it never becomes arrogance.
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do you not think being a realist is different? I'm a realist
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think you are? If so what makes you do it, is it lack of confidence?
I'd like to think that I'm not as personally I don't find it an attractive trait.
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nope got plenty of people to do that for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I use it as a joke. How can I, in all consciousness, take the piss out of anyone else if I can't take it out of myself?
I know who I am, I know that I'm short, chubby, not terribly good looking and would get passed over on here for many other guys. It's a realistic view grounded in self awareness. That doesn't mean I don't have confidence in who I am- it means my confidence is tempered so it never becomes arrogance.
do you not think being a realist is different? I'm a realist
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I think that being a realist means that self depreciation is never destructive or harmful, and it's never used simply to illicit an ego boost. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Arrogance is a big turn off. Neediness is also a big turn off, but self-deprecation is ok unless done to excess.  "
All joking aside, I struggle to 'big myself up' because I don't want to appear arrogant so I probably err on the other side. It's a fine line and easy to be perceived as either arrogant or unconfident. In reality, I'm very self conscious. But I've made it through the part 50 years ok |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No! I cringe at some of the comments people make about themselves on here. Some are disingenuous and simply seeking to have their ego massaged: equally cringe worthy."
Some who do it are simply looking for an ego boost. I appreciate that some use it as a self defense mechanism, but I think it's unattractive.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think you are? If so what makes you do it, is it lack of confidence?
I'd like to think that I'm not as personally I don't find it an attractive trait.
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I have a very self depricating sense of humour and I'm far from lacking in confidence.
I like to take the piss and am a firm believer that you have to be able to take it if you're dishing it out... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think you are? If so what makes you do it, is it lack of confidence?
I'd like to think that I'm not as personally I don't find it an attractive trait.
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Overdone its not a very attractive trait at all but done with taste and dignity it can be quite endearing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think you are? If so what makes you do it, is it lack of confidence?
I'd like to think that I'm not as personally I don't find it an attractive trait.
I have a very self depricating sense of humour and I'm far from lacking in confidence.
I like to take the piss and am a firm believer that you have to be able to take it if you're dishing it out..."
I absolutely agree, I suffered an inferiority complex for years but finally got it beat....you fucking ugly gobshite! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you think you are? If so what makes you do it, is it lack of confidence?
I'd like to think that I'm not as personally I don't find it an attractive trait.
I have a very self depricating sense of humour and I'm far from lacking in confidence.
I like to take the piss and am a firm believer that you have to be able to take it if you're dishing it out..."
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I would always rather underplay than overplay and sometimes self-deprecate for that reason. I can't bear people who over-promise and under-deliver, so I would always rather someone is pleasantly surprised. |
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"I would always rather underplay than overplay and sometimes self-deprecate for that reason. I can't bear people who over-promise and under-deliver, so I would always rather someone is pleasantly surprised."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would always rather underplay than overplay and sometimes self-deprecate for that reason. I can't bear people who over-promise and under-deliver, so I would always rather someone is pleasantly surprised."
I agree with this |
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