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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm a size 18-20 honest about it and even though my pics don't show the bad bits its obvious I'm fat (friends pics even more so)....... So here's the question .... Arranging a meet ..... I take another look at his profile and its changed it says something like "I don't meet ample or large and curvy only at a push as I know some of you girls are more than curvy)
So I say to him I've just read your profile and on second thoughts I'm not what you are looking for! His shocked that I would not be comfortable with someone who has that on there profile... So am I being over sensitive ? Is it bazaar that I would not want to meet him? What do you think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say the same. I'm not curvy,I'm fat and I don't hide the fact. If a man feels the need to put it on his profile I will adhere to his rules. Plenty of men like fat |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would say the same. I'm not curvy,I'm fat and I don't hide the fact. If a man feels the need to put it on his profile I will adhere to his rules. Plenty of men like fat "
Thanks that's what I thought  but I was not sure if I was being over-sensitive !!! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I am in mood for super sized woman so put on my profile 'looking for size 20+' and sometimes I am in mood for petite size 0 or 8 so will put that up. He doing same thing but just being slightly rude about it |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sometimes I am in mood for super sized woman so put on my profile 'looking for size 20+' and sometimes I am in mood for petite size 0 or 8 so will put that up. He doing same thing but just being slightly rude about it "
That's fair enough each to their own ..... I really don't have a prob with him having that on his profile .... Just that he thought it bazaar that I would not be comfortable meeting after reading it !!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You saw something on his profile that put you off meeting him so good for you that you calked off the meeting. You've explained to him why, that's fair enough.
I personally would probably have done the same as you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say the same. I'm not curvy,I'm fat and I don't hide the fact. If a man feels the need to put it on his profile I will adhere to his rules. Plenty of men like fat "
Op you shouldn't meet him. If he states it in his profile he really means it and there is no going back or hiding the fact. Plenty of guys out there who like big women. I have a friend whose attraction is the type of the more flesh the sexyer lol. I admire women who show their full body pics in there profile and make sure they attract only men who likes them as they are from the start. Not hiding the facts by close ups pics and camouflages to make it hard for any one to have an idea about their body type. Not a healthy way in my opinion. |
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"Sometimes I am in mood for super sized woman so put on my profile 'looking for size 20+' and sometimes I am in mood for petite size 0 or 8 so will put that up. He doing same thing but just being slightly rude about it "
Ya could be onto something there dude. If I want to go balls deep in a nice tight pussy I can display straight. If I fancy an evening sucking a big fat cock, it'll change to gay and when an MMF is the order of the day, I'll revert to bisexual.
Genius  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a size 18-20 honest about it and even though my pics don't show the bad bits its obvious I'm fat (friends pics even more so)....... So here's the question .... Arranging a meet ..... I take another look at his profile and its changed it says something like "I don't meet ample or large and curvy only at a push as I know some of you girls are more than curvy)
So I say to him I've just read your profile and on second thoughts I'm not what you are looking for! His shocked that I would not be comfortable with someone who has that on there profile... So am I being over sensitive ? Is it bazaar that I would not want to meet him? What do you think? "
His loss and fabulous underwear btw |
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I have turned some guys down and said that I'm not what they're looking for after reading their profile - on occasion it's been because I'm a fat munter who has too many veris so has been about too much!
Funny thing is that they all try to suggest that they didn't mean it like that and that I'm not like that!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have turned some guys down and said that I'm not what they're looking for after reading their profile - on occasion it's been because I'm a fat munter who has too many veris so has been about too much!
Funny thing is that they all try to suggest that they didn't mean it like that and that I'm not like that! "
I've been turned down for being verified by a slim woman let alone putting such a statement in my profile.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would have done exactly the same as you and cancelled. I met someone on my last profile and a week or so later he had on his status looking for a meet but said 'slim women only'. It made me feel he only met me because I as local. I refused to meet him again and he can't understand why! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You did the right thing. I've had a few men message and when I've looked at veris they have only met slim woman so I end up avoiding them .if someone wants to meet me I make it clear in my profile that I'm fat so if I had read that there's no way I'd of met him. There's plenty if men in here who will want to meet you op x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sounds reasonable to me, if he has out something like that on his profile, why would you want to meet him?"
I don't now but I'm sure when I first looked at the profile it can not have said that !!! I'm sure I would have read it !
Well thanks everyone ... Just thought I may be being over-sensitive ! But looks not happy swinging everyone x I'm off to find me a Chubby Chaser !!! hehe x |
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Glad you feel better now. It would be wrong to meet, imo, if you were possibly going to have a nagging suspicion that you were not what he wanted, and he was making do. He didnt sound the most sensitive or possibly thoughtful person either. He has done well to get feedback. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I consider it having self respect not to want to meet someone who openly advertises that they are not attracted to women of my shape and size. I'd presume he's only showing interest because he's desperate enough to overlook that he's not that into me, and that he'd be thinking of some hot celebrity the entire time.
I do expect them to at least pretend to fancy me!
I agree with you completely OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No I don't think you are as I find it a little difficult to understand if its obvious from your pictures you are a larger lady and not his preference, why he wanted to meet you in the first place and given the comment 'at a push' its his loss as that to me comes across as if he desperate and bordering on a larger lady being second best |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think your reaction is odd,why would you want to put yourself in a situation where you feel as though hes only meeting you at a push? Ive turned guys down who have pics on their profiles that look like they only fuck porn style barbie doll lookalikes because I wouldn't feel comfortable around them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What a horrible thing to write, "at a push" especially if he added it in the process of chatting to you!!! How to make someone feel good! Sounds like a nob, move on, plenty of guys on here that love larger women. |
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"I don't think your reaction is odd,why would you want to put yourself in a situation where you feel as though hes only meeting you at a push? Ive turned guys down who have pics on their profiles that look like they only fuck porn style barbie doll lookalikes because I wouldn't feel comfortable around them "
Read my profile.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a size 18-20 honest about it and even though my pics don't show the bad bits its obvious I'm fat (friends pics even more so)....... So here's the question .... Arranging a meet ..... I take another look at his profile and its changed it says something like "I don't meet ample or large and curvy only at a push as I know some of you girls are more than curvy)
So I say to him I've just read your profile and on second thoughts I'm not what you are looking for! His shocked that I would not be comfortable with someone who has that on there profile... So am I being over sensitive ? Is it bazaar that I would not want to meet him? What do you think? "
Do you take everything on a profile as face value? He may have put what ever on his profile as a dig at someone else or as a bit of a laugh. it says on your profile 'you must be available when ever I click my fingers' should people take that as serious and you are well up your own arse or as a bit of humour? Its how you read into things why not meet for a drink with him and talk in person its the best way of making a decision. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If I read at a push, I would look at it" oh well if nothing else is about" sloppy seconds and all that.
Can't see him getting far, having a preference on thing, but putting that on his profile.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No a bazarre is a form of market often found in North Africa and the Middle East.
You however are what you are, and in my book that's quite delightful. If he's going to discount people for such reasons well then he risks missing some gems.
Try me instead |
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