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bit dishartened! am I a slut for being on here??

By *uriouscouple21 OP Man over a year ago

reading

Iv recently had a message from a bloke offering me money for sex! I was very offened and said I am not a slut or prostitute he responded with the fact I have lots of verifications so must be a slut, I now feel awful and feeling maybe I am

that's not a tag that I wanted and not the type of person I want to be, I just wanted honest opinions does being on here make me a slut

Xxx c xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Seriously? You are an adult woman,surely you know the answer to your question

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're not a slut at all.

His response was fuelled by his damaged ego.

Report him to admin for his messages, block him from messaging you again and get back to having fun on here with like-minded adults.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Iv recently had a message from a bloke offering me money for sex! I was very offened and said I am not a slut or prostitute he responded with the fact I have lots of verifications so must be a slut, I now feel awful and feeling maybe I am

that's not a tag that I wanted and not the type of person I want to be, I just wanted honest opinions does being on here make me a slut

Xxx c xxx"

he's only trying to purposefully hurt you, ignore him x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't like being called One by people I don't know but play mates can call me it. I prefer slut to slag.

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By *appyfuckerMan over a year ago

in a happy place north wales coast

think you know by now take no notice if he has to pay he aint worth it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Report him block him would be good to name him but may get into trouble for that we must all be in that class then hun as we all give it away lol them type of people not worth knowing don't let the dick head wind you up , life is full of horrible people but there are some nice ones . Have fun xxx

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By *issHottieBottieWoman over a year ago

Kent

5 different people have verified you in what looks like over 18 months...

If you are a slut I dunno what that makes me...

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Report and block and have more sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Of course you are not. Report the profile for offering you money, block, grow a thicker skin and move on.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

If you were a bloke you'd be a virile superhero. Ignore it. Slut means nothing at all except as a means of putting women down for something completely acceptable for men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being honest i do see people who have lots of sexual partners in a short space of time as sluttish behaviour..

That said its all about if you embrace it or not. It should be about how you feel. If you enjoy it then stick your fingers up at those who brand you and attempt to bring you down for an activity which you get pleasure from.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

Like has already been said you've dented an ego. Block report an forget end of story...this place is full of em have fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely not! Very hypocritical to call anyone a slut on a swingers site. Wouldn't take any notice of his comments

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Being honest i do see people who have lots of sexual partners in a short space of time as sluttish behaviour..

Do you consider men who shag around to be sluttish too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi Hun. The answer is of course not. Remember fab is populate by a majority of males. And some of those are complete arseholes. And because they are on here they think it gives them the right to be rude.

Fab in my eyes caters for a not to dissimilar audience as POF.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You only have 8 verifies and have been on over a year that's not many at all. I am told that Some guys don't take rejection and get nasty, report him and block

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If hes calling u a slut for being on here what does that make him??? Probably married and a bit bitter that his wife noy as hot as u

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By *aveandkate35Couple over a year ago

telford

Your are not defined by the thoughts and opinions of others. It's how you feel about it yourself that matters.

I'm sorry you've had to get this type of message - Kate gets them sometimes too.

It's just little boys throwing their toys out of the pram.

Ultimately you're on a swinging site, like we all are, and you'd hope you'd not have to put up with this kind of stuff.

Report and block and move on.

People love to label others, personally I take the approach that I'm me - you can use whatever words you like to describe me, but I'm happy with me, so it really makes no difference.

Move on and have fun within the limits you define, not what someone else thinks is right.

D. X

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

if you enjoy sex and lots of it your way .. your rules .. you just go for it girl .. take no notice of the idiots trying to spoil things for you ... its a sex site .. not jeremy kyle or judge judy

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By *osh69Man over a year ago

Glasgow

Ignore the idiot

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By *s louWoman over a year ago

Enniskillen

He's just jealous because you're getting some and he's not!! And if he has to pay to get sex, well.....that explains it all about him really

I agree with others, report, block, move on and enjoy the rest of the site x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't say your a slut your doing what you want when you want. I would say he is a dickhead that's for sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I love sluts, but prefer to call them sexually liberated ladies. Embrace your slutty side. Ignore the freaks and weirdos

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think we are all on your side hun xxx screw him !!! No wrong word lol move on have fun lol that's better

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

Hang on people, it's the OP that is using slut as a derogatory term.

If a bloke did that they'd be crucified.

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By *uriouscouple21 OP Man over a year ago

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Thanks guy and girls it's nice to know there's more decent people out there how do I report him? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tell us all his name we can all report him , solidarity

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please do not be disheartened. You are simply a woman who enjoys sex. Society and religion places unfair and unreasonsble importance on sexual activity. Others use that as a stick to best you with.

You appear to have had 6 men meets in 2.5 years. Some women have that many men and more in one meet! And they are not sluts!!!

Report and block him. Men holding that opinion disrespect EVERY member on Fab and he is not welcome here.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Seriously? You're offended and feel bad for being promiscuous on an adult site with equally promiscuous people, some of whom act like big babies when they don't get their own way?!!

It's Sunday, the churches will be open for service soon. If you don't want to hedonistic get your Sunday Best on and head off for a rousing rendition of Abide with Me. Alternatively,

think "gee, what a prick", report, block and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you're a slut for being on here, what does that make him?! And he has to offer payment to try & get laid!! Seriously, give him no more head space than you already have- its 2014, we're all adults. Be thankful he showed his masogonistic, out dated ideas & spiteful streak before you wasted any of your time meeting him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ignore the comments the person has said. Report him for offering money. Enjoy the site your way. Be happy. I know if someone called me one hed be minus his tackle. By now xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Woman has lots of sex - Slut!

Man has lots of sex - *round of applause*

The patriarchy making its ugly face known again, don't let it get to you.

If anything, he sounds desperate seeing as he's trying to pay people to have sex with him!

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By *abrina59TV/TS over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

Reading your post I ask who is the slut

A woman who occassionally over a period of times jusy enjoys being a woman and having sex with others

A man who feels he cant get/have sex without having to psy for it

Hmmmmmm hsrd one there lol

Just you continue to enjoy life (and sex is part of life) & leave him to his sad existance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to fully agree with everyone's comments please just ignore the hurtful comments of the dick that mailed you

Block him and report him

Below the mail where it says reply to message, underneath that bar to the left in small letters is says report

Hope your feeling better about things now xx

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"If you were a bloke you'd be a virile superhero. Ignore it. Slut means nothing at all except as a means of putting women down for something completely acceptable for men."

Feck op I ve had more meets than you,,

( cheers vv I like your 'virile superhero' desription,

Strange that the bloke didn t mention the insults when he first messaged you and then offered money, ignore block delete report,

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By *uriouscouple21 OP Man over a year ago

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Thanks everyone he has now been reported and blocked thank you for all ur kind words xx c xx

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

if they say it, it must be true

someone said I look like George Clooney, I now loiter around coffee shops waiting for someone to shout 'oi George Clooney is inside'.......

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

Wish I was a slut.....no fair

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"if they say it, it must be true

someone said I look like George Clooney, I now loiter around coffee shops waiting for someone to shout 'oi George Clooney is inside'......."

And where are these coffee shops _iew?

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By *appyguy17Man over a year ago

walthamstow

Hi,,,

Listen....you only live once and sex in the best thing in life....and if you do everything safely with nice people...

Always look on the bright side of life..ta da ..ta da...ta da d da d da x

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

"if they say it, it must be true

someone said I look like George Clooney, I now loiter around coffee shops waiting for someone to shout 'oi George Clooney is inside'.......

And where are these coffee shops _iew?

in a land far far away with princesses, princes and camels......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who is he?

Wonder what he'd say to my profile verification's...

I've been offered money

, told I should be on POF???? Because I'd rather chat for awhile first, instead of agreeing to meet the first guy who comes along. Crikey, even been told that I should die because I turned a meet down!

Trolls end up everywhere! Ignore, report, delete and block x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

By all means report and block fir the fact he offered you money .

However , the word slut is not always a derogatory term . It's a word used to describe a woman or man who enjoys sex with mulpitple partners .

And yes , we are happy to call ourselves sluts , and take no offence by it .

We have also been offered money on numerous occasions , and simply block any users suggesting this .

To be honest , I don't know why the op is making such a fuss .

Choices we make , such as using a site like this are going to come with consequences , and this is a minor example of just one .

There will be plenty more to come , like seeing someone you know on here , the inevitable trips to the gum clinic , disastrous meets and so on ... All if which potentially carry more of a stigma than a nasty message .

Forget it , grow a thicker skin , and enjoy .

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By *mma_j_cdTV/TS over a year ago

chester

He is the one with the problem if he has to pay women

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"if they say it, it must be true

someone said I look like George Clooney, I now loiter around coffee shops waiting for someone to shout 'oi George Clooney is inside'.......

And where are these coffee shops _iew?

in a land far far away with princesses, princes and camels......"

You know that camels spit, right?

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

You're only a slut when you say no thanks.

If you'd said yes you'd have been a fun loving, relaxed, open minded individual who enjoys occasional recreational sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hes got arse on ignore him and report him its against site rules to offer sex in exchange for money

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

And people are still answering as if the guy called the OP a slut. Read the post people, it was the OP that said slut=prostitute.

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Buggeration...someone else getting offered money...why does that never happen to me?

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

"And people are still answering as if the guy called the OP a slut. Read the post people, it was the OP that said slut=prostitute."

Just read it.

" he responded with the fact I have lots of verifications so must be a slut "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And people are still answering as if the guy called the OP a slut. Read the post people, it was the OP that said slut=prostitute."

The OP does state '...he responded with the fact I have lots of verifications so must be a slut...'

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"And people are still answering as if the guy called the OP a slut. Read the post people, it was the OP that said slut=prostitute."

The original post says he responded ",,,,, so you must be a slut,"

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Cheeseville, Somerset

There's an echo in here this morning!

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"And people are still answering as if the guy called the OP a slut. Read the post people, it was the OP that said slut=prostitute.

The OP does state '...he responded with the fact I have lots of verifications so must be a slut...'"

It appears the OP first used the slut tag by saying she wasn't a slut or prostitute...the response from the single guy could maybe have been either and he chose slut over pro...

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Buggeration...someone else getting offered money...why does that never happen to me?

Nor me

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By *ovely CummingsWoman over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

We give words the power that they have. No word is offensive unless we make it offensive.

I don't give power to many words others do, so don't take offensive by their use

I actually identify as an ethical slut, its a descriptive term for my behaviour and is gender free, male or female can be an ethical slut

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By *effrey45Man over a year ago

Lytham

The guy must offer money to every girl he messages - bit of an ego dent when you can't even pay for it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If he wants to pay theres a place in Grimsby he can get his legover for a tenner from a skaghead .

He should have more respect , give it and you get it back ....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ignore, block and move on. The man is obviously on the wrong site.

Just remember why your here, to have fun with like minded people and dont beat yourself up over one idiots comment. Xxx

Happy fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's not a tag that I wanted and not the type of person I want to be, I just wanted honest opinions does being on here make me a slut

Xxx c xxx"

hi c

the fact. that. he has to pay. for. sex. shows. he must be shit. at it it's. your body and your. life. so do what you like

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

that's not a tag that I wanted and not the type of person I want to be, I just wanted honest opinions does being on here make me a slut

Xxx c xxx"

I don't know what to make of this...

Yes he was not exactly charming offering money for sex.

But then I'm not sure I'm keen on linking sluts prostitution and that these are bad people.

I'm not a slut or a prostitute??? It just does not sit right with me. I can be a slut when I want to be, so am I a slut? Yes. Does that mean I'm a slut 24/7. No most of the time I'm a mother, professional, wife, sister, friend etc.

You are the person you want to be, but surely people realize this is not main stream. Hell to most of regular joe public out there everyone on here are a bunch of sexual freaks. But then I rarely worry about how the rest of the world feels about swinging as I don't publicize it.

If you don't want to be a slut, then it's simple don't label yourself as one. But there is little you can do to control what others think. Go back 100 years and you would be deemed a slut for showing a little ankle. By that definition it would make 90% of the UK population of grandmothers sluts.

In the end don't worry about others.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

"We give words the power that they have. No word is offensive unless we make it offensive.

I don't give power to many words others do, so don't take offensive by their use

I actually identify as an ethical slut, its a descriptive term for my behaviour and is gender free, male or female can be an ethical slut

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

sadly there are a minority asking for money, gifts & services in exchange for meets...

report both types, those offering services & those offering money

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wish I was a slut.....no fair

I'm trying to be a slut too..just these Damn choosey women will not indulge me. They must be sluts!

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

"Wish I was a slut.....no fair

I'm trying to be a slut too..just these Damn choosey women will not indulge me. They must be sluts!

I can see a Sparticus moment coming.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Wish I was a slut.....no fair

I'm trying to be a slut too..just these Damn choosey women will not indulge me. They must be sluts!

I can see a Sparticus moment coming.

Haha, indeed x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"5 different people have verified you in what looks like over 18 months...

If you are a slut I dunno what that makes me...

someone. with. a hot body

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"5 different people have verified you in what looks like over 18 months...

If you are a slut I dunno what that makes me...

someone. with. a hot body "

I'll second that big time x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's not a tag that I wanted and not the type of person I want to be, I just wanted honest opinions does being on here make me a slut

Xxx c xxx"

Why are you giving so much thought to what a complete stranger on the Internet has said to you? For that matter, why give a second thought to any of this, given that it's a sex site? What is a slut anyway? Was the guy about 14? This all sounds very childish if you ask me.

Forget about it, just be yourself and enjoy your sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"5 different people have verified you in what looks like over 18 months...

If you are a slut I dunno what that makes me...

Desirable xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Take no notice you enjoy sex and are having fun. I have once been offered a gift to meet and felt a bit the same but just blocked them. I meet as I don't get the opportunity in my 'normal life' to have sex as have a little commitment and I enjoy fun when he is away for the weekend. So it's just good safe fun. Use the site how you want and ignore the minority x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wtf does it matter what some stone age cave man thinks?

You're on here to have fun so it's entirely up to you what you do and who you see and how often

Block and report the loser and lift your head up high xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How much?

I am of course joking.

ignore, it can be the nature of the site, unfortunately, many get all kinds of weird and not so wonderful requests.

don't take it to heart. I get told to I'm unhinged daily.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

that's not a tag that I wanted and not the type of person I want to be, I just wanted honest opinions does being on here make me a slut

Xxx c xxx"

Do you consider yourself more worthy in some ways than 'working girls'?

If he'd have said i'll pay you money to cook for me would you have been outraged and posted a thread about not being a chef ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Sometimes people would be best served by questioning their own morality , mind, thoughts first..... at least they'd know where their rage comes from ...

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By *ercedes_SLKMan over a year ago

nottingham

I honestly can't see why you have let this bother you....

Live your life to suit you and not others...

What's it matter if you have sex with a different person every day. If it's what you want, why worry about what others think

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Report him and block him......

Most importantly ignore the ignorant nob head!

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By *ScotsmanMan over a year ago

ayrshire

i was once offered a tenner to go

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"i was once offered a tenner to go

Did you leave her hand on her wrist ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

there are men who think that women on here are sluts they dont always say it to your face though.

it wouldnt bother me if someone offered me money though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's not a tag that I wanted and not the type of person I want to be, I just wanted honest opinions does being on here make me a slut

Xxx c xxx"

Ignore this man or report him. You are on here through choice and to have some fun with like minded people........just like the rest of us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's not a tag that I wanted and not the type of person I want to be, I just wanted honest opinions does being on here make me a slut

Xxx c xxx"

cant see how just SIX veri's make you a slut or a slag, just ignore these idiots hun, you are what you are a LADY who enjoys sex thats why most of us are on here lol sex with no hassles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i was talking to a man on the phone once and he said he would bring me cake, i wasnt completely sure if i should meet him but when he said that i said yes straight away.

in the end he brought me sherry instead, which was nice

only hubby said, oh i was looking forward to some cake.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Change your mindset OP and then you're back in control. Own the tag slut and it shifts the power onto your own shoulders. It's a label that no longer has negative connotations in the swinging world.

I'm happy to declare myself here as a fussy moral slut (I won't have sex with attached guys).

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Jesus, 21st century and women still care if some fucking halfwit calls them a slut.

Your correct response should have been ' Yes, I'm a slut but even I wouldn't sleep with you no matter what you paid me. Arsehole!'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We're impressed you actually replied! We'd simply have deleted, blocked and moved on. Don't let him get to you and just carry on doing whatever you enjoy.

P.S. Shame about your age limit - sounds like we'd all get on very well and we're within a mile of each other!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" am I a slut for being on here??"

Short answer : No.

Long answer : Noooooooooooooooooooo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a coffee mug with the slogan - I'm not a slut just popular. It was my son's honest.

Seriously though as has been said previously, report, block and grow a thicker skin. xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

that's not a tag that I wanted and not the type of person I want to be, I just wanted honest opinions does being on here make me a slut

Xxx c xxx"

Block him and ignore....men like him give the good ones a bad name....you are Not a slut x

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

Slut is just a label. If people choose to use such terms maliciously then it's their own issues coming out. In your case I'm assuming it's since you told him a few home truths so he lashed out because he didn't like being told no. That makes him an idiot, it doesn't make you a slut.

I quite like being called a slut to be honest. But only by the right person and only in the right context!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

" Report him for offering money. "

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