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Now I know this might cause a bit of a stir but I am fed up of people doing the most rudest of things and it’s like a cowards way out as well,
You start to chat to someone and its fine, and then they politely drop something into the conversation and you think OK fair enough, though it doesn’t take any offence to give that person the option, they send a message to you like not interested and put a comment on there, when you go to reply your blocked.
I am sorry but I am not the pushy type and the last person I spoke to we were having a normal conversation is that school yard mentally on here, I find it quite rude to be honest no manners what so ever.
I come from I different LS at least if we don’t like someone we do have the decency to inform them and we stay friends it’s not a problem and not to block them we accepted it’s a pity on here others can’t.
I do hope when I start going back to events from my LS I never meet any of these people because trust me I will have something to say to them.
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So let me get this straight: during an exchange of conversation you say something that puts someone off, they then say not interested and block you and you're offended because you didn't get a chance to have a right to reply? |
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"So you chat, they decide you're not for them, say no thanks then block you??
If I've got that right I don't see what the problem is?"
So I'm not the only one confused as I don't see the problem either. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"So you chat, they decide you're not for them, say no thanks then block you??
If I've got that right I don't see what the problem is?
So I'm not the only one confused as I don't see the problem either."
The usual. Hurt feelings, sense of entitlement, expecting everyone to use the site in the way that suits him and a total lack of ability to see things from anyone else's point of _iew.
Plus in his lifestyle people tell someone when they don't like them but they stay friends 
Which lifestyle this is where you are friends with people you don't like is a mystery to me.
I'm trying to work out the accusation of cowardice too. They say no thanks and take positive action to cut further contact. I'm not seeing the rudeness or cowardice. |
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"So you chat, they decide you're not for them, say no thanks then block you??
If I've got that right I don't see what the problem is?
So I'm not the only one confused as I don't see the problem either."
Thought it might be just me it's early and I've had barely any sleep all week! |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"They don't want to talk to you for whatever reason. It really doesn't matter. "
Apparently it does.
It's a sex site (ffs), how utterly rude that anyone would not fuck him when he wanted!   |
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"They don't want to talk to you for whatever reason. It really doesn't matter.
Apparently it does.
It's a sex site (ffs), how utterly rude that anyone would not fuck him when he wanted! "
It's easier, quicker and more effective to block. OP: find someone who is interested rather than someone who isn't. |
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"They don't want to talk to you for whatever reason. It really doesn't matter.
Apparently it does.
It's a sex site (ffs), how utterly rude that anyone would not fuck him when he wanted! "
Succinct! I like! Z |
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its nothing to do with they would not fuck me as you said, its a matter of decorum or the lack of it, I come form the BDSM LS we don't do that maybe because were adult enough to know the difference  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I need the op translated, or is it just tiredness confusing me. If I read it correctly, you've had a no thanks from someone and they've blocked you. Your issue is what exactly? You want to reply to them how? The sense of
entitlement from some is staggering, the simplest advice is the best...............get over it and move on, whiny threads will do you no favours in the long run. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So you were exchanging messages?
They realised that you weren't their type?
So they told you that they weren't interested and blocked you?
Can't see nothing wrong in that!
It's not bad manners to block someone and as you hadn't actually met not sure how you can class them as friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It can feel a bit deflating when someone does that, blocks you after giving you scant reason after exchanging a number of messages. But its hardly worth dwelling on or making a fuss over. Its the arsey profiles that put me off messaging anyone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It must be an epidemic
I think this is the 4th thread ive seen in 2 days saying the same thing
The anonymity of the internet makes blocking after seeing pic and deciding they don't fancy you an easy way out of what some people think is an awkward situation,its just one of those things |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its nothing to do with they would not fuck me as you said, its a matter of decorum or the lack of it, I come form the BDSM LS we don't do that maybe because were adult enough to know the difference "
Yet you're childish enough to throw your toys out of the pram when things don't go your way! |
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"They don't want to talk to you for whatever reason. It really doesn't matter.
Apparently it does.
It's a sex site (ffs), how utterly rude that anyone would not fuck him when he wanted! "
It's a sex site  no way your having a laff |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"its nothing to do with they would not fuck me as you said, its a matter of decorum or the lack of it, I come form the BDSM LS we don't do that maybe because were adult enough to know the difference "
They aren't interested and they want no further contact. What's difficult to understand? Most people aren't here to make friends. They're looking for meets. If they don't want to meet you, why chat further? It's a waste of time they can spend chatting to people who do interest them.
Blocking means they know they weren't interested and ensures you won't waste each others time making contact in the future.
It's nothing to do with rudeness, cowardice or childish behaviour. It's using the sites tools to effectively filter out people who are not of interest.
If you want to make random friends who have no intention of meeting you, try facebook.
As for the BDSM "lifestyle" people certainly don't habitually remain friends with everyone, whether they like them or not and whether they are of interest or not. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"They don't want to talk to you for whatever reason. It really doesn't matter.
Apparently it does.
It's a sex site (ffs), how utterly rude that anyone would not fuck him when he wanted!
It's a sex site no way your having a laff "
So I hear  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It seems that a lot of single guys find couples and single fems rude for not replying how they want. Clearly no consideration is given to the volume of messages these groups receive.
OP we use this site for our own pleasure. Going by your mentality we would be sat here 24/7 answering everyone's messages - which by the way the vast majority do not meet our profile requirements. We aren't little fab administrators here for your pleasure  |
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"They don't want to talk to you for whatever reason. It really doesn't matter.
Apparently it does.
It's a sex site (ffs), how utterly rude that anyone would not fuck him when he wanted!
It's a sex site no way your having a laff
So I hear "
Prove it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The use of the block button after the no thanks prevents wasting time for both parties involved. I've met many people from the lifestyle over the years, that i now consider friends, but thats because I actually wanted to meet/get to know them in the first place and the friendship developed naturally over time. Just because youve messaged someone it siesnt mean your entitled to a meet or friend. There is no-one on this site that i speak to past the past no thanks message. I only speak to past meet/friends and people i intend to meet, I have plenty of friends in the vanilla lifestyle for everything else |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"They don't want to talk to you for whatever reason. It really doesn't matter.
Apparently it does.
It's a sex site (ffs), how utterly rude that anyone would not fuck him when he wanted!
It's a sex site no way your having a laff
So I hear
Prove it "
Don't have to. I read it on the fora so it must be true |
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"They don't want to talk to you for whatever reason. It really doesn't matter.
Apparently it does.
It's a sex site (ffs), how utterly rude that anyone would not fuck him when he wanted!
It's a sex site no way your having a laff
So I hear
Prove it
Don't have to. I read it on the fora so it must be true "
You can't belive everything you read  |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"They don't want to talk to you for whatever reason. It really doesn't matter.
Apparently it does.
It's a sex site (ffs), how utterly rude that anyone would not fuck him when he wanted!
It's a sex site no way your having a laff
So I hear
Prove it
Don't have to. I read it on the fora so it must be true
You can't belive everything you read "
Even on here? Say it ain't so! |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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We block a lot.
Sometimes even before there's been any contact, if we dislike a profile for whatever reason or simply know that we're never going to be interested in the person 500 miles away that opted to friends request us.
Plus it's environmentally friendly and saves that person wasting expensive internet ink and paper by sending a message we'd only bin.
Do we worry about upsetting a total stranger we'll never meet?
Not for a millisecond.
Nobody is owed anything on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From my own perspective. I do block people I have little interest in. Especially when their tastes differ from mine. This is because when I have told people I'm not interested in the past they either get abusive or constantly send messages asking why and trying to carry on a conversation. Not everyone is courteous as yourself. But unfortunately you will get lumped in with the others because we don't know different. And our experiences have shaped us.
Dont take offence and don't take it personally. Move on and find someone more suitable.
One piece of advice. Read the ladies profile. You may get a better understanding of what she is looking. |
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"They don't want to talk to you for whatever reason. It really doesn't matter.
Apparently it does.
It's a sex site (ffs), how utterly rude that anyone would not fuck him when he wanted!
It's a sex site no way your having a laff
So I hear
Prove it
Don't have to. I read it on the fora so it must be true
You can't belive everything you read
Even on here? Say it ain't so! "
Ok as it's you....it ain't so .....see I can be nice |
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"its nothing to do with they would not fuck me as you said, its a matter of decorum or the lack of it, I come form the BDSM LS we don't do that maybe because were adult enough to know the difference "
The BDSM or any other alternative L/s is no different to here. If you don't like someone, don't want to play with them, you won't have them as a friend.
Using this sites functions has no bearing on decorum. As for being more of an adult because you come from a BDSM LS lol there's more 'drama' in every BDSM community (online and in the real world) then any I've seen on here.
Mainly because of attitudes like the one shown in the OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What is it with some people on here having a moan about people who aren't interested, its not going to make them interested and I'd much rather spend the time messaging people on here that might be interested than start a thread about it. |
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Its a swinging site, people look for what they want, you will find some people that use the site tools in this way, ie, blocking to save any further communication with people they arent interested in, it isnt childish, rude, ignorant or anything, the tools are there to use, starting a thread saying your sick of people using the site the they want to use it, is very childish, and smacks of self entitlement, the thing is, if you really are sick as you say, then you can always become unlos. |
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"its nothing to do with they would not fuck me as you said, its a matter of decorum or the lack of it, I come form the BDSM LS we don't do that maybe because were adult enough to know the difference "
op, you'll find a goodly number of fabsters also in that lifestyle. i, for one, know that you don't remain 'friends' with someone you aren't interested iin, or who has offended you. you simply remain civil when at a face to face event. much the same as happens when fabsters who don't get on do at a fab social.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it with some people on here having a moan about people who aren't interested, its not going to make them interested and I'd much rather spend the time messaging people on here that might be interested than start a thread about it."
Exactly ....
The op clearly doesn't understand the way things work .
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"I would not know about that going to a social seems on there only the selected few get to go which you now have pointed another good point out, where at a munch everyones welcome "
Tripe. Anyone who wanted to go to the Sussex Social was welcome. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I do hope when I start going back to events from my LS I never meet any of these people because trust me I will have something to say to them."
Incidentally, this^, causing drama at events, really is frowned upon and will get you excluded from events in addition to being blocked by individuals.
It doesn't really fit in with your claim to be so much more mature than the lowly non-BDSM folk.
And for that matter, how would you know whether all those who've blocked you are into BDSM anyway? |
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over a year ago
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"I would not know about that going to a social seems on there only the selected few get to go which you now have pointed another good point out, where at a munch everyones welcome "
that's such a crock. I've seen drama at bdsm events, and I've seen everyone made to feel welcome at a pub social on fab. a social, not a private party. perhaps educate yourself on THIS lifestyle before attempting to criticise. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would not know about that going to a social seems on there only the selected few get to go which you now have pointed another good point out, where at a munch everyones welcome "
Everyone is welcome at organised socials, it's not just for the selected few!
Perhaps your more cut out for the bdsm lifestyle instead of swinging? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do hope when I start going back to events from my LS I never meet any of these people because trust me I will have something to say to them.
Incidentally, this^, causing drama at events, really is frowned upon and will get you excluded from events in addition to being blocked by individuals.
It doesn't really fit in with your claim to be so much more mature than the lowly non-BDSM folk.
And for that matter, how would you know whether all those who've blocked you are into BDSM anyway?"
he wouldn't without asking. a lot of us don't put it on our profiles on this site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would not know about that going to a social seems on there only the selected few get to go which you now have pointed another good point out, where at a munch everyones welcome "
Socials are open to everyone who adds their name to the guest list, there is no selection process or criteria, unless you've attended one previously and caused trouble but that's incredibly rare. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never known a social be selective. I don't know many people on here but I've always been accepted at socials if I've asked for my name to be added
Maybe this isn't the right site for you and a more specialised one would suit you better if you feel this doesn't work for you |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I would not know about that going to a social seems on there only the selected few get to go which you now have pointed another good point out, where at a munch everyones welcome "
Rubbish. Socials are advertised in the meets and events section and are often open to all. All who don't intend to cause trouble with anyone that quite reasonably blocked them, that is.
It seems you don't really understand how this site works OP, you just expect everyone to use it the way that suits you.
Maybe if you bothered to find out about socials etc you might have more success.
There's a big overlap between "the BDSM world" and here. Talking about them as though they are separate worlds is making you look rather daft. And seriously, if the BDSM lifestyle is so much better and suits you more, why are you here? |
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"I would not know about that going to a social seems on there only the selected few get to go which you now have pointed another good point out, where at a munch everyones welcome "
everyone is welcome at socials |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
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I do hope when I start going back to events from my LS I never meet any of these people because trust me I will have something to say to them.
Incidentally, this^, causing drama at events, really is frowned upon and will get you excluded from events in addition to being blocked by individuals.
It doesn't really fit in with your claim to be so much more mature than the lowly non-BDSM folk.
And for that matter, how would you know whether all those who've blocked you are into BDSM anyway?
he wouldn't without asking. a lot of us don't put it on our profiles on this site. "
I know. Me included. I've been attending Munches and BDSM/fetish events for 20+ years.
The OP is full of it. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I would not know about that going to a social seems on there only the selected few get to go which you now have pointed another good point out, where at a munch everyones welcome
everyone is welcome at socials"
Even you eh? |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"its nothing to do with they would not fuck me as you said, its a matter of decorum or the lack of it, I come form the BDSM LS we don't do that maybe because were adult enough to know the difference "
Having met some people in the BDSM 'scene', I can assure you they are no different to anyone else.
Not having a conversation on here go your way is more normal than you think. I have had many tail off because of lack of attraction. When it doesn't happen it doesn't, and expecting someone to conform to what YOU think is acceptable behaviour is a bit naïve. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was talking to a couple on Kik the other day. All I got back was one worded, disinterested answers. It was off putting only getting "yep" back 90% of the time. What made it worse is THEY asked me for my kik, and wanted to talk but I said I was interested any more as he convocation was non-excistant from them and blocked them on Fab.
So I get a message on kik the next day from them called me "C-word" because I wasn't interested?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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at the risk of generalising a lot of guys will not accept no after messaging. they leave it a while and then message again and again no matter how often we refuse to meet or chat with them.
we have shockingly bad memories and so the block button is a handy tool as once pressed we we dont have to bother again.
if people block us thats fine also. no point getting upset about it i assume your only reason for wanting to keep in contact is to grill them for their reasons for not meeting you why would you othetwise want to keep in contact with people who have no interest in you
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do hope when I start going back to events from my LS I never meet any of these people because trust me I will have something to say to them.
Incidentally, this^, causing drama at events, really is frowned upon and will get you excluded from events in addition to being blocked by individuals.
It doesn't really fit in with your claim to be so much more mature than the lowly non-BDSM folk.
And for that matter, how would you know whether all those who've blocked you are into BDSM anyway?
he wouldn't without asking. a lot of us don't put it on our profiles on this site.
I know. Me included. I've been attending Munches and BDSM/fetish events for 20+ years.
The OP is full of it."
 i wonder what his 'Miss' would think about his public tantrum? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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it is about how you carry yourself, with confidence and self esteem intact.
okay someone says No, it is better to accept and move forward.
I remember a couple played me for a merry fool when I first started, I had little experience and I was always polite but they mucked me about no end. I never reacted. A few years later they wrote asking to meet me, I declined politely.
good luck
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This is what I feel the O.P. _iews as cowardly and rude....
Quote from O.P
they send a message to you like not interested AND PUT A COMMENT ON THERE, when you go to reply your blocked.
Unquote ...
The O.P. is not miffed that he didn't get an instant fuck. He's peed off that people make unpleasant , unnecessary comments and then hit the block button.
My guess is if people just said not interested this thread wouldn't have been started.
It's the insult and run behaviour that has left the O.P. stung with nowhere else to take it.
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"I would not know about that going to a social seems on there only the selected few get to go which you now have pointed another good point out, where at a munch everyones welcome everyone is welcome at socials"
Even you.
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over a year ago
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"This is what I feel the O.P. _iews as cowardly and rude....
Quote from O.P
they send a message to you like not interested AND PUT A COMMENT ON THERE, when you go to reply your blocked.
Unquote ...
The O.P. is not miffed that he didn't get an instant fuck. He's peed off that people make unpleasant , unnecessary comments and then hit the block button.
My guess is if people just said not interested this thread wouldn't have been started.
It's the insult and run behaviour that has left the O.P. stung with nowhere else to take it.
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ok fair point understand what has happened but again what benefit would the OP of gained by being able to respond to their comment. he probably would of reacted in an equally insulting manner and then a myriad of nasty email exchanges would of ensued.
best thing was to be blocked accept he never wasted any more time on these people ans make better use of his time mailing the many decent folk on here |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"This is what I feel the O.P. _iews as cowardly and rude....
Quote from O.P
they send a message to you like not interested AND PUT A COMMENT ON THERE, when you go to reply your blocked.
Unquote ...
The O.P. is not miffed that he didn't get an instant fuck. He's peed off that people make unpleasant , unnecessary comments and then hit the block button.
My guess is if people just said not interested this thread wouldn't have been started.
It's the insult and run behaviour that has left the O.P. stung with nowhere else to take it.
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He didn't say that though. The comment could simply, and politely, have pointed out that he doesn't match what their profile says they are looking for, or that he's 200 miles away, which is too far.
He may be miffed about not having the opportunity to persuade them to meet him anyway because he's worth it.
Maybe he's annoyed about being excluded by their preferences. It's not like we never see people complaining about that and giving it the "age is just a number and I can still get it up so they should be willing to meet me" speech.
Perhaps they were only chatting to be polite, with no intention of meeting but their attempts to end the conversation weren't working.
And what's to say he didn't say something which offended them first? Not that I condone tit for tat rudeness but we are only hearing one side - and obviously a side coloured by a great deal of hurt and anger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ffs @ this thread.
Some people just have to go for it dont they.
Had a single fem posted this..how different the response would have been.
$0.02"
My reply would have been this same no matter what gender.
Blocking isn't rude and it's a handy tool |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Ffs @ this thread.
Some people just have to go for it dont they.
Had a single fem posted this..how different the response would have been.
$0.02"
How often do single women post these threads though, compared to single men? As pointed out, these are frequent. The OP wasn't to know that of course but I don't think most women feel the same sort of entitlement to a reply or a meet or whatever. Perhaps it's because we have other options so it seems less of a big deal.
Women do sometimes get just the same treatment as others. The recent sympathy shag thread was a case in point. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Ffs @ this thread.
Some people just have to go for it dont they.
Had a single fem posted this..how different the response would have been.
$0.02
Not from me it wouldn't "
Same here. Men, women or couples, nobody is entitled to a reply or friendship or anything else actually. |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"its nothing to do with they would not fuck me as you said, its a matter of decorum or the lack of it, I come form the BDSM LS we don't do that maybe because were adult enough to know the difference "
So by that measure we are not adult enough? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do hope when I start going back to events from my LS I never meet any of these people because trust me I will have something to say to them.
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That reads like a threat? |
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over a year ago
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"its nothing to do with they would not fuck me as you said, its a matter of decorum or the lack of it, I come form the BDSM LS we don't do that maybe because were adult enough to know the difference
So by that measure we are not adult enough? "
Strange comment about the BDSM LS
Doesn't matter what anyone is into, there's always people that will drive you mad, ignore etc.
Saying people here arn't adult enough is very childish |
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It has nothing to do with dacorum as you put it really, If i was chatting to someone and realised they were not for me for whatever reason I would say so then block what is the point in having conversations with someone you actually have no sexual interest in yes there is a social side to swinging but ultimately this is a sex site people use the site how they wish but not many I know actually just use it to converse with people without any _iew to meeting at all. |
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consider yourself lucky you actually got a message saying they weren't interested.. they didn't have to do that, they could have just cut you off with no warning. That's worse, but they (we) have the power to if we chose. It is something you have to come to accept.. internet dating is the same. I am a single man and would like to find a partner. I have tried dating sites, and they are very similar to here, you get ignored or blocked all the time and its something you have to accept as part of it. Dont take it personal. |
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I really don't get why people moan about how others chose to manage their profile on this site and how some of us are rude, ignorant....blah blah blah
No one is forcing you to stay. If people on this site are getting on your nerves so much and this other site is SO great, then leave. I't very easy to delete your profile! |
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"it is about how you carry yourself, with confidence and self esteem intact.
okay someone says No, it is better to accept and move forward.
I remember a couple played me for a merry fool when I first started, I had little experience and I was always polite but they mucked me about no end. I never reacted. A few years later they wrote asking to meet me, I declined politely.
good luck
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Most groups of people develop their own rituals and styles of behaviour. On fab, this has included the blocking option becoming fairly wide-spread and almost standard now.
I think if a user gets a message, stating reasons that another is not continuing, or a polite decline of interest, then it's more than most people, especially single guys, get on Fab.
Alot of blocking has escalated due to the volume of users who became insulting or who continued to push things and made others uncomfortable. Another issue is that many users get such an avalanche of messages and interest that steps to minimise greater volumes are readily taken.
If you'd like change, start making it happen, by not pursuing the action that you don't like. Otherwise, some people will block a user, if they perceive them as moaning, so it's worthwhile just accepting the status quo, changing your own approach and treating others as you'd like to be treated. All whilst accepting that many will have different expectations and habits.
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Your lucky just getting a post back as lots here will just block you. A lot are here for there needs only and don't wish to mail back and forth if not for them as they know what there looking for.. Some get 100s of letters here . If they do that one thing you know your not for them . |
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"Now I know this might cause a bit of a stir but I am fed up of people doing the most rudest of things and it’s like a cowards way out as well,
You start to chat to someone and its fine, and then they politely drop something into the conversation and you think OK fair enough, though it doesn’t take any offence to give that person the option, they send a message to you like not interested and put a comment on there, when you go to reply your blocked.
I am sorry but I am not the pushy type and the last person I spoke to we were having a normal conversation is that school yard mentally on here, I find it quite rude to be honest no manners what so ever.
I come from I different LS at least if we don’t like someone we do have the decency to inform them and we stay friends it’s not a problem and not to block them we accepted it’s a pity on here others can’t.
I do hope when I start going back to events from my LS I never meet any of these people because trust me I will have something to say to them.
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Happens all the time try not to take offence it's just the fab way and most probably they weren't for u anyway x fab can b frustrating but also rewarding just go wiv the flow
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"So you chat, they decide you're not for them, say no thanks then block you??
If I've got that right I don't see what the problem is?
So I'm not the only one confused as I don't see the problem either.
Thought it might be just me it's early and I've had barely any sleep all week!"
I don't that there is problem either...Ruby |
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