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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
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my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary |
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary "
Does your hubby know about your fb? If not I think its a bit off him sending something like that to your house. |
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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary
Does your hubby know about your fb? If not I think its a bit off him sending something like that to your house. "
hubby knows but its a little intrusive |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary
Does your hubby know about your fb? If not I think its a bit off him sending something like that to your house. hubby knows but its a little intrusive"
And insensitive to how your husband might feel.
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over a year ago
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I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is nice that he has acknowledged the length of the relationship you enjoy, but if you have expressed concerns about receiving a card, he should respect them and do something a little less conspicuous.
An e-card maybe ? |
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary
Does your hubby know about your fb? If not I think its a bit off him sending something like that to your house. hubby knows but its a little intrusive"
Very intrusive in my eyes. Possibly disrespectful as well. I take it he is not invited in to your house when you meet? |
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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that. "
I have asked him not to espescially as he will put mrs and his surname |
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"I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that.
I have asked him not to espescially as he will put mrs and his surname "
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that.
I have asked him not to espescially as he will put mrs and his surname "
Why the fuck would he do that?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that.
I have asked him not to espescially as he will put mrs and his surname
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thats not a FB thats a shit sturrer..
oh well...be happy...those that attract drama do my head in...
why rock the boat when u have something good going on that is based on sex/fun...
appears FB wants to mock your husband...quite frankly why.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that.
I have asked him not to espescially as he will put mrs and his surname
Why the fuck would he do that?
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Pissing up lamp posts springs to mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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#there may be trouble aheaaad#
...this all sounds a bit fucked. If you don't want the card. Then, end of story. What's with all the 'mrs' business. Is your fb wanting more now?
He's barking up the wrong tree this one. You best be careful.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that.
I have asked him not to espescially as he will put mrs and his surname "
A 4 year fb... Or a four year affair??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that.
I have asked him not to espescially as he will put mrs and his surname "
I think you need to have a serious chat with this guy ~ either he's not quite with it or he's on a mission to wind your husband up!!
Both of the above scenarios are not good options...... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"This guy may have many qualities, but it sounds like he is intent on making things difficult for you  "
One of his qualities appears to be insensitive trouble-maker.
Why can't he take you out for dinner the next time you meet? Send you a text on the day expressing his feelings?
Fatal Attraction comes to mind.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op perhaps its not a great idea discussing what ur hubby has or hasnt done..if I've read between the lines...u may have told him hubby doesnt care about anniversary, and now FB is taking that as a challenge to fight for showing u affection..
what a slippery slope ur on...
If thats what I've suggested whats happened above..I would probably be raging knowing my partner/wife discussed me during meets with her FB..and I'm not even the jealous type..I'd just demand a bit more respect from my partner AND her FB |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary "
I don't know much about fb relationships but this does seem too much. sorry to ask but if Fb's don't come to your house then why do they need your address? sorry like i said am nut so fait with this |
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By *uby0000 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary
I don't know much about fb relationships but this does seem too much. sorry to ask but if Fb's don't come to your house then why do they need your address? sorry like i said am nut so fait with this "
he does come to my house he didn't know my postcode and I wont be seeing him that day it is possible its because he knew my oH didn't get me a card |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary
I don't know much about fb relationships but this does seem too much. sorry to ask but if Fb's don't come to your house then why do they need your address? sorry like i said am nut so fait with this
he does come to my house he didn't know my postcode and I wont be seeing him that day it is possible its because he knew my oH didn't get me a card"
I rest my case. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that.
I have asked him not to espescially as he will put mrs and his surname "
sounds like he's trying to add problems rather than have fun.
It's all fair if your hub knows but to mark it for Mrs fb - although humorous, could easily be read as 'I could have your wife away'. It's not playful unless your hub knows his humor  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok im a married woman with a FB I'm also close to.
He's met Mr D and they get on, Mr D has also helped him fix his boiler (not a euphemism) so it's a friendly all round relationship.
But my husband and his feelings must come first. My FB clearly sees what's appropriate and what's not.
Sending romantic cards is in the not apt category for us. I wouldn't even need to tell the guy this. It's a given. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary
I don't know much about fb relationships but this does seem too much. sorry to ask but if Fb's don't come to your house then why do they need your address? sorry like i said am nut so fait with this
he does come to my house he didn't know my postcode and I wont be seeing him that day it is possible its because he knew my oH didn't get me a card"
I'm trying not to sound patronising but wouldn't it be in everyone's interest for you to keep this arrangement separate by not allowing your FB in your home?
Otherwise I feel that you're almost inviting trouble in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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just google mapped the address..now dont have to ask permission to send cuddly teddy bears,flowers,cards or anything else designed to make hubby feel like a chump  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The fact that he would address the card to mrs then his surname looks like he maybe wants to be more than a just an fb"
I'd say very differently...its to embarrass the husband |
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over a year ago
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"The fact that he would address the card to mrs then his surname looks like he maybe wants to be more than a just an fb
I'd say very differently...its to embarrass the husband"
Agree with Keen on this one  |
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary
I don't know much about fb relationships but this does seem too much. sorry to ask but if Fb's don't come to your house then why do they need your address? sorry like i said am nut so fait with this
he does come to my house he didn't know my postcode and I wont be seeing him that day it is possible its because he knew my oH didn't get me a card"
Do you secretly wasn't the card because you're husband didn't get you one? Is it the being thought of that is making you blind to the disrespect your fb is showing you? |
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over a year ago
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"The fact that he would address the card to mrs then his surname looks like he maybe wants to be more than a just an fb
I'd say very differently...its to embarrass the husband
Agree with Keen on this one with his up my bum"
Oh u filthy woman! xxxx
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over a year ago
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"The fact that he would address the card to mrs then his surname looks like he maybe wants to be more than a just an fb
I'd say very differently...its to embarrass the husband
Agree with Keen on this one with his up my bum
Oh u filthy woman! xxxx
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Where did the ~ with his thumb up my bum bit come from lol...?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just one last point I'll try to make.
If your husband is patient or open or simply relaxed enough to give you the freedom to have your cake and eat it, don't throw it back in his face. I count myself extremely lucky to have the freedoms I do, with them comes a responsibility not to abuse it.
If you just love the attention face the possibility it might fuck up your marriage completely because I feel it's shows a total disregard for your husbands feelings to entertain a situation like this. |
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"Just one last point I'll try to make.
If your husband is patient or open or simply relaxed enough to give you the freedom to have your cake and eat it, don't throw it back in his face. I count myself extremely lucky to have the freedoms I do, with them comes a responsibility not to abuse it.
If you just love the attention face the possibility it might fuck up your marriage completely because I feel it's shows a total disregard for your husbands feelings to entertain a situation like this."
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"Just one last point I'll try to make.
If your husband is patient or open or simply relaxed enough to give you the freedom to have your cake and eat it, don't throw it back in his face. I count myself extremely lucky to have the freedoms I do, with them comes a responsibility not to abuse it.
If you just love the attention face the possibility it might fuck up your marriage completely because I feel it's shows a total disregard for your husbands feelings to entertain a situation like this."
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"Just one last point I'll try to make.
If your husband is patient or open or simply relaxed enough to give you the freedom to have your cake and eat it, don't throw it back in his face. I count myself extremely lucky to have the freedoms I do, with them comes a responsibility not to abuse it.
If you just love the attention face the possibility it might fuck up your marriage completely because I feel it's shows a total disregard for your husbands feelings to entertain a situation like this.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary "
Each to there own, but this sounds more like an extra martial affair than a fb.
If it's just sex why would you even remember when you met?
An anniversary is a specific date to celebrate.
Sounds like your miffed hubby didn't send an anniversary card .
Could be completely wrong and I apologise if I am, but sounds like a pretty messed up scenario. |
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over a year ago
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary
Each to there own, but this sounds more like an extra martial affair than a fb.
If it's just sex why would you even remember when you met?
An anniversary is a specific date to celebrate.
Sounds like your miffed hubby didn't send an anniversary card .
Could be completely wrong and I apologise if I am, but sounds like a pretty messed up scenario."
I was thinking the same its not a meet play scenario far more in it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a slippery slope, my ex divorced me as I was only friends with a woman and was accused of seeing her.
After the divorce I did see her and I should have done that earlier, but it didn't last. We are still friends though.
Caution life's not easy being single. |
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"I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that.
I have asked him not to espescially as he will put mrs and his surname "
Wtf?!! |
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"I agree - that is out of order.
I have a long distance chat & cam buddy. I'd like to send her stuff but she has no way of keeping it from her other half. She has asked me not to and I wouldn't dream of disrespecting that.
I have asked him not to espescially as he will put mrs and his surname
thats not a FB thats a shit sturrer..
oh well...be happy...those that attract drama do my head in...
why rock the boat when u have something good going on that is based on sex/fun...
appears FB wants to mock your husband...quite frankly why.."
For real. Some people love drama. You set ground rules for meeting. If boundaries are not respected/crossed: bye, bye.
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"Just one last point I'll try to make.
If your husband is patient or open or simply relaxed enough to give you the freedom to have your cake and eat it, don't throw it back in his face. I count myself extremely lucky to have the freedoms I do, with them comes a responsibility not to abuse it.
If you just love the attention face the possibility it might fuck up your marriage completely because I feel it's shows a total disregard for your husbands feelings to entertain a situation like this."
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And what if your husband decides thats it, you're out on the street tonight and im seeing a solicitor in the morning about a divorce.
Is FB going to be your saviour?
Games are fun if all involved play along, whatever their role. |
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over a year ago
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"It seems to me that your FB wants out and is trying to provoke you into making the move.
Why would you continue a relationship with someone who completely ignores your opinion?"
I would say the opposite, and he's trying to drive a wedge between them so she runs to him!
But I'm a man what do I know? Either way he's out of order |
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over a year ago
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Why would he even consider it
I could understand something jokey to mark the occasion but when you have said no? If a fb had that little respect for my wishes they would be told where to go.
Divulging stuff about your husbands apparent lack of effort has probably stacked up and probably not intentionally. How many passing comments have been he didnt do this didnt do that.
Hes seen a little wedge and is shoving a crow bar in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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why divulge intermate information about you and your husband to your FB? You must know what he's like after 4 years?
It seem that you and your FB have shown disrespect towards your husband, you for mentioning that you hadn't received a card and him for sending a card and also the past problem of sending 100 plus messages in one evening |
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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago
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I think its you that's wrong,you have made a big thing of your hubby not sending a card,even put up a thread,its the attention you are craving,beware you might get more attention than you wanted,it seems you are the one doing the encouraging |
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over a year ago
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Seems to me like he's trying to say if your Hubby dosnt care enough to buy you a card... he does. The thing with some people is that they believe cards are a waste of Money. That maybe the case with your Hubby. You wineing to your Fb about it as made him decide to buy you one instead |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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after all these years, there are few comments that have me gobsmacked but him sending a card with 'mrs misname' is staggering. 
You often mention your lovers and fuckbuds, and never have a positive word about your husband. He seems to be constantly getting in the way.
Maybe it is time to reconsider, it never reads happy.
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Disregarding his motives if you have told him no then why is it even a conversation ? Any "friend" would respect that, no discussion or questions asked . It's very simple ..either he accepts you don't wish to have a card sent etc or he's history . The fact you haven't just seems to me that you are actually getting a kick from it .I hope I'm wrong |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I think its you that's wrong,you have made a big thing of your hubby not sending a card,even put up a thread,its the attention you are craving,beware you might get more attention than you wanted,it seems you are the one doing the encouraging"
I didn't see that or one about texts but I think you are correct and we have given attention. Job done.
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"my fb is going to send an anniversary card to me as we met four years ago on weds next week .. I said not to as I have to make sure hubby don't see it as he wont appreciate it .. he don't think its a problem... even my hubby didn't bother in april when we had our anniversary "
If you respect and value your marriage then you need to cut your fb loose. A fb is just that,a physical partner. Emotions and deep feelings shouldn't be involved. He may be giving you something that's lacking in your marriage, if that's the case be mature and communicate with your hubby as to what is lacking in your marriage rather than encouraging your fb to develop your buddyship to a deeper level............. The grass is never greener on the other side!! |
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I would have told him where to go back then if it was!! 