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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The sex can get better with people up you meet regularly, you get to know more about what makes that person/couple tick and connect on a much more sexual level.
Aside from the sex, there's so mix more to a friendship where you all get along famously. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Why? Do you think a first sexual meet is the best you can have? If it was good the first time it can only get better the more after as you get to know the others body, jesus, sometimes I worry/wonder about some men on her!  |
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i dont understand this (fem btw here) i think i must be cold and detached and something i am not proud of. But i dont want repeat meets. We met a lovely couple and they are now really good friends and i dont want sex with them anymore. They are mates and it doesnt seem right. we have fun going out etc but the sex has gone!!! i prefer one offs with no attachment for sex. once friends it just isnt cricket in my book. Help better not meet anymore people. does anyone else feel like that? |
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"I guess it gets better until it can get no better, then it's 'best'.
That's the sort of thing I was getting at, is there a gauge?  "
I think that not only does it get better, it can also still surprise you. I know I am often surprised at how bloody good it is and to have something new happen, especially when you least expect it  |
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"i dont understand this (fem btw here) i think i must be cold and detached and something i am not proud of. But i dont want repeat meets. We met a lovely couple and they are now really good friends and i dont want sex with them anymore. They are mates and it doesnt seem right. we have fun going out etc but the sex has gone!!! i prefer one offs with no attachment for sex. once friends it just isnt cricket in my book. Help better not meet anymore people. does anyone else feel like that?"
I think that's where it becomes each to their own needs and wants. I don't like having one off meets because I don't like the emotional detachment. The fact that I have a really good friend as well as a fantastic lover, but not all the paraphernalia of a relationship, is good for me, but them I'm single. If I were in a relationship or married, my position may be exactly the opposite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree, repeat meets and regular meets make for great times.
The FWB and I have been seeing each other for around 3 years gets better an better.
But - we both enjoy seeing others as well. |
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"I guess it gets better until it can get no better, then it's 'best'.
That's the sort of thing I was getting at, is there a gauge? "
I'm afraid not. Everyones experience of 'better' is different. It's a totally personal and unique thing. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"I guess it gets better until it can get no better, then it's 'best'.
That's the sort of thing I was getting at, is there a gauge?
I'm afraid not. Everyones experience of 'better' is different. It's a totally personal and unique thing. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I guess it gets better until it can get no better, then it's 'best'.
That's the sort of thing I was getting at, is there a gauge?
I'm afraid not. Everyones experience of 'better' is different. It's a totally personal and unique thing. "
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By *wiftiee OP Man
over a year ago
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"i dont understand this (fem btw here) i think i must be cold and detached and something i am not proud of. But i dont want repeat meets. We met a lovely couple and they are now really good friends and i dont want sex with them anymore. They are mates and it doesnt seem right. we have fun going out etc but the sex has gone!!! i prefer one offs with no attachment for sex. once friends it just isnt cricket in my book. Help better not meet anymore people. does anyone else feel like that?"
I can understand your standpoint completely, you're a couple.
I've always believed that couples in this environment are liable to have different attitudes than singles. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i dont understand this (fem btw here) i think i must be cold and detached and something i am not proud of. But i dont want repeat meets. We met a lovely couple and they are now really good friends and i dont want sex with them anymore. They are mates and it doesnt seem right. we have fun going out etc but the sex has gone!!! i prefer one offs with no attachment for sex. once friends it just isnt cricket in my book. Help better not meet anymore people. does anyone else feel like that?"
I like a good mix of repeat meets and one offs. I have a FB I've been meeting for about 2.5 years and we do have friendship beyond the sex, and I have a few 'regulars' who I don't see as often but enjoy repeat meets with...for me the more I know and trust them, the more I'll let them do to me! I do however enjoy the excitement of a one off meet with someone you know you aren't going to see again. Maybe I'm just greedy though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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always room for improvement for everything - but some of the good things about the first meet cant be repeated purely cos of the fact the buzz was from being the first time - hope that reads well |
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"i dont understand this (fem btw here) i think i must be cold and detached and something i am not proud of. But i dont want repeat meets. We met a lovely couple and they are now really good friends and i dont want sex with them anymore. They are mates and it doesnt seem right. we have fun going out etc but the sex has gone!!! i prefer one offs with no attachment for sex. once friends it just isnt cricket in my book. Help better not meet anymore people. does anyone else feel like that?
I can understand your standpoint completely, you're a couple.
I've always believed that couples in this environment are liable to have different attitudes than singles."
Cheers for that. thank you x |
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"i dont understand this (fem btw here) i think i must be cold and detached and something i am not proud of. But i dont want repeat meets. We met a lovely couple and they are now really good friends and i dont want sex with them anymore. They are mates and it doesnt seem right. we have fun going out etc but the sex has gone!!! i prefer one offs with no attachment for sex. once friends it just isnt cricket in my book. Help better not meet anymore people. does anyone else feel like that?
I think that's where it becomes each to their own needs and wants. I don't like having one off meets because I don't like the emotional detachment. The fact that I have a really good friend as well as a fantastic lover, but not all the paraphernalia of a relationship, is good for me, but them I'm single. If I were in a relationship or married, my position may be exactly the opposite. "
Thanks for that and i really mean that cheers z |
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"i dont understand this (fem btw here) i think i must be cold and detached and something i am not proud of. But i dont want repeat meets. We met a lovely couple and they are now really good friends and i dont want sex with them anymore. They are mates and it doesnt seem right. we have fun going out etc but the sex has gone!!! i prefer one offs with no attachment for sex. once friends it just isnt cricket in my book. Help better not meet anymore people. does anyone else feel like that?
I think that's where it becomes each to their own needs and wants. I don't like having one off meets because I don't like the emotional detachment. The fact that I have a really good friend as well as a fantastic lover, but not all the paraphernalia of a relationship, is good for me, but them I'm single. If I were in a relationship or married, my position may be exactly the opposite.
Thanks for that and i really mean that cheers z"
You're welcome. xx |
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By *wiftiee OP Man
over a year ago
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" I can understand your standpoint completely, you're a couple.
I've always believed that couples in this environment are liable to have different attitudes than singles.
Cheers for that. thank you x"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It absolutely gets better, I like to find out what my friends really like and, despite the fact that people on here are probably quite open when it comes to their needs, I have always found that no-one really 'lets go' on the first meet, I guess there is always a desire to perform, impress or not overstep the others boundaries when meeting someone for the first time. I definitely learn as I go along, and have found the boundaries flex, and that's when it gets interesting. Besides, can you really get enough of someone you really like in one night,? I can't. ...... Sermon over  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My take on it is...the more time you spend with a person the more you find what makes them tick....what works for the two of you, together and separately. Sometimes you're lucky enough to find something that starts out good but over the course of time grows into something quite unique and special and if you have the feeling that its getting better and better that's pretty wonderful. Circumstances dictate limitations....live for and in the moment to "make" it the best. Tomorrow is an unknown land.....but today was pretty darned good..... |
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"It absolutely gets better, I like to find out what my friends really like and, despite the fact that people on here are probably quite open when it comes to their needs, I have always found that no-one really 'lets go' on the first meet, I guess there is always a desire to perform, impress or not overstep the others boundaries when meeting someone for the first time. I definitely learn as I go along, and have found the boundaries flex, and that's when it gets interesting. Besides, can you really get enough of someone you really like in one night,? I can't. ...... Sermon over "
Oh I absolutely agree. |
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"My take on it is...the more time you spend with a person the more you find what makes them tick....what works for the two of you, together and separately. Sometimes you're lucky enough to find something that starts out good but over the course of time grows into something quite unique and special and if you have the feeling that its getting better and better that's pretty wonderful. Circumstances dictate limitations....live for and in the moment to "make" it the best. Tomorrow is an unknown land.....but today was pretty darned good....."
Oh well said Jinty. xxxxx |
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