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over a year ago
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so me and her where toghter for 5 months. then it all fell apart though trust issues. after a month apart we spoke and hit it off again and tryed again now after two weeks she said she dont feel the same for me anymore and she is so sorry.
now id normally be fine with this and move on. how ever this was first women I have seen my self been able to settle down with and now the thought of not having that with her is horrible.
I just dunno what to do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is definitely the potential that you'll meet other women in life who make you feel the same. A lot of us probably didn't settle with the first person who we thought might be the right one.
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"There is definitely the potential that you'll meet other women in life who make you feel the same. A lot of us probably didn't settle with the first person who we thought might be the right one.
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I no the potential is there. just hard as she was perfect in a lot of ways to me.
iv been with past partners years and even lived together but did not feel the same as I do towards this girl. |
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"so me and her where toghter for 5 months. then it all fell apart though trust issues. after a month apart we spoke and hit it off again and tryed again now after two weeks she said she dont feel the same for me anymore and she is so sorry.
now id normally be fine with this and move on. how ever this was first women I have seen my self been able to settle down with and now the thought of not having that with her is horrible.
I just dunno what to do. "
There probably isn't a lot you can do apart from talk but if she doesn't want it then thats her choice. Just be honest with her let her know your feelings and be prepared for her to still say no. Good luck what ever happens I hope its not too painful for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"so me and her where toghter for 5 months. then it all fell apart though trust issues. after a month apart we spoke and hit it off again and tryed again now after two weeks she said she dont feel the same for me anymore and she is so sorry.
now id normally be fine with this and move on. how ever this was first women I have seen my self been able to settle down with and now the thought of not having that with her is horrible.
I just dunno what to do. "
You are a nice looking guy, bit cheeky looking. you will be fine. And your Underwear made me laugh  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Would the trust issues you mention have anything to do with you having a singles profile here throughout the term of your relationship ?"
not at all I have used this site on and off for years I did not use my account why with her.
the trust issues was her going on a hoilday for two week with a group of guys. and other issues |
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"I no the potential is there. just hard as she was perfect in a lot of ways to me.
iv been with past partners years and even lived together but did not feel the same as I do towards this girl. "
It's difficult to break free from a person you have feelings for but the other person doesn't at the moment you are going through relationship break up grief where the other person seemed so perfect and they were the one...once you get over that you will know that they weren't the one for you.... |
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"so me and her where toghter for 5 months. then it all fell apart though trust issues. after a month apart we spoke and hit it off again and tryed again now after two weeks she said she dont feel the same for me anymore and she is so sorry.
now id normally be fine with this and move on. how ever this was first women I have seen my self been able to settle down with and now the thought of not having that with her is horrible.
I just dunno what to do.
You are a nice looking guy, bit cheeky looking. you will be fine. And your Underwear made me laugh "
thanka sadly this cheeky face does not seem to work these days.
and always good to make some one laugh. |
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"Would the trust issues you mention have anything to do with you having a singles profile here throughout the term of your relationship ?
not at all I have used this site on and off for years I did not use my account why with her.
the trust issues was her going on a hoilday for two week with a group of guys. and other issues "
She wasn't the one
Straighten your back and move on in whatever way you can.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"An Ex became an Ex 4 a reason I don't think it ever works a 2nd time round 2bh better 2 move on and never look back  "
I do agree. this is first ex I have ever gone back two. lesson learned. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"An Ex became an Ex 4 a reason I don't think it ever works a 2nd time round 2bh better 2 move on and never look back
I do agree. this is first ex I have ever gone back two. lesson learned. "
. Good 4 u hun onwards n upwards as they say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"so me and her where toghter for 5 months. then it all fell apart though trust issues. after a month apart we spoke and hit it off again and tryed again now after two weeks she said she dont feel the same for me anymore and she is so sorry.
now id normally be fine with this and move on. how ever this was first women I have seen my self been able to settle down with and now the thought of not having that with her is horrible.
I just dunno what to do.
You are a nice looking guy, bit cheeky looking. you will be fine. And your Underwear made me laugh
thanka sadly this cheeky face does not seem to work these days.
and always good to make some one laugh. "
I'd meet you if you were nearer. It was the doggie reference  |
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"Would the trust issues you mention have anything to do with you having a singles profile here throughout the term of your relationship ?
not at all I have used this site on and off for years I did not use my account why with her.
the trust issues was her going on a hoilday for two week with a group of guys. and other issues "
Sorry I might miss understand this. And sorry if I am wrong.
You have a account on here she knows about yes? So it ok for you to seek other outlets so to speak.
However coz she went or is going away with a group of guys you don't like it? Is that correct?
Is so then I can see why it never going to work.
If you are committed to someone and have true feelings you are willing to give up anything that may jeopardise that relationship.
Even if it means stepping back from swinging. It maybe you can return as a couple and have fun later on. But trust and honesty goes both ways.
Just saying it as I read it apologies if I am wrong don't mean to offend just offering an opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You'll live.
It was said earlier. You don't always meet the person you're supposed be with first. It's a learning process: about yourself and what you like in another person. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Would the trust issues you mention have anything to do with you having a singles profile here throughout the term of your relationship ?
not at all I have used this site on and off for years I did not use my account why with her.
the trust issues was her going on a hoilday for two week with a group of guys. and other issues
Sorry I might miss understand this. And sorry if I am wrong.
You have a account on here she knows about yes? So it ok for you to seek other outlets so to speak.
However coz she went or is going away with a group of guys you don't like it? Is that correct?
Is so then I can see why it never going to work.
If you are committed to someone and have true feelings you are willing to give up anything that may jeopardise that relationship.
Even if it means stepping back from swinging. It maybe you can return as a couple and have fun later on. But trust and honesty goes both ways.
Just saying it as I read it apologies if I am wrong don't mean to offend just offering an opinion. "
no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You'll live.
It was said earlier. You don't always meet the person you're supposed be with first. It's a learning process: about yourself and what you like in another person."
sadly its not the first ladie. there been a few. but she was first one I have felt so serious for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would the trust issues you mention have anything to do with you having a singles profile here throughout the term of your relationship ?
not at all I have used this site on and off for years I did not use my account why with her.
the trust issues was her going on a hoilday for two week with a group of guys. and other issues "
Is the group of guys a genuine concern or is it possibly an insecurity. I was in the same situation with my ex. I went away with 8 blokes, he really struggled to handle it and I knew it wouldn't work as I had to deal with tears, constant calls and accusation in the end.
Like you he was a good looking guy but the male friends thing bothered him. It was a strange logic as the groups of girls were definitely a lot more out-there than we were. I was just well looked after by 8 brothers! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Would the trust issues you mention have anything to do with you having a singles profile here throughout the term of your relationship ?
not at all I have used this site on and off for years I did not use my account why with her.
the trust issues was her going on a hoilday for two week with a group of guys. and other issues
Is the group of guys a genuine concern or is it possibly an insecurity. I was in the same situation with my ex. I went away with 8 blokes, he really struggled to handle it and I knew it wouldn't work as I had to deal with tears, constant calls and accusation in the end.
Like you he was a good looking guy but the male friends thing bothered him. It was a strange logic as the groups of girls were definitely a lot more out-there than we were. I was just well looked after by 8 brothers!"
the hoilday has been and gone. it was the not knowing what was going on what did it. it was two weeks of hell in my eyes.
but when she got back we spoke about it all then broke up and got back together after that and this time I trusted her a lot more as we had better communication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Just enjoy the memories.
I've had a much better life since not being with my ex, yet at the same time it was a bloody amazing time with her.
Plenty of incredible memories but none of the things we got up to could I could have in my life anymore.
Weird view of it...possibly
Would I have her back, probably for a night or two  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
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Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward. |
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If you tried again and "talked" her round..... There would always be a niggling voice doubting if she was happy, thus making you have doubts.
Cut, run, have fun and enjoy it when the next one happens
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward. "
well thats you own opinion. I did not use the account why with her. or look for anything from the site |
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By (user no longer on site)
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward.
well thats you own opinion. I did not use the account why with her. or look for anything from the site "
Why keep them then ?
It's not exactly hard work to set up a new account on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"An Ex became an Ex 4 a reason I don't think it ever works a 2nd time round 2bh better 2 move on and never look back "
I agree i went back to my ex 2 or 3 times in our time together, but it just got worse and in the end, it ended very bitter and unfriendly. So if you leave on good terms with good memories it will help the process of getting over the split....Ruby |
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By (user no longer on site)
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward.
well thats you own opinion. I did not use the account why with her. or look for anything from the site
Why keep them then ?
It's not exactly hard work to set up a new account on here."
Oh and btw dont forget the little green arrow at the side of your name is a great tool for referencing.
So u didnt use the site in the 7 months, yet u were contributing to the forums regularly up to 14 weeks ago.
1 post you made starts 'I am not faithful ...'
Just saying  |
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward.
well thats you own opinion. I did not use the account why with her. or look for anything from the site
Why keep them then ?
It's not exactly hard work to set up a new account on here.
Oh and btw dont forget the little green arrow at the side of your name is a great tool for referencing.
So u didnt use the site in the 7 months, yet u were contributing to the forums regularly up to 14 weeks ago.
1 post you made starts 'I am not faithful ...'
Just saying "
He messaged me 2 months ago lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward. "
Sorry to say this but i think that is utter rubbish!!
I love my partner very much, we are very much committed to one and other, we have fun both as partners and have single profiles too....Ruby |
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By (user no longer on site)
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward.
well thats you own opinion. I did not use the account why with her. or look for anything from the site
Why keep them then ?
It's not exactly hard work to set up a new account on here.
Oh and btw dont forget the little green arrow at the side of your name is a great tool for referencing.
So u didnt use the site in the 7 months, yet u were contributing to the forums regularly up to 14 weeks ago.
1 post you made starts 'I am not faithful ...'
Just saying
He messaged me 2 months ago lol "
Busted!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward.
Sorry to say this but i think that is utter rubbish!!
I love my partner very much, we are very much committed to one and other, we have fun both as partners and have single profiles too....Ruby"
I am not saying you can't be committed and have other partners.
I was more pointing out that one or both parties here wanted to have their cake and eat it but without actually being able to do so.
Something had to give. For whatever reasons, what gave was the relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward.
well thats you own opinion. I did not use the account why with her. or look for anything from the site
Why keep them then ?
It's not exactly hard work to set up a new account on here.
Oh and btw dont forget the little green arrow at the side of your name is a great tool for referencing.
So u didnt use the site in the 7 months, yet u were contributing to the forums regularly up to 14 weeks ago.
1 post you made starts 'I am not faithful ...'
Just saying
He messaged me 2 months ago lol
Busted!! "
haha sorry nope that when me and her had split so nothing wrong there. |
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward.
well thats you own opinion. I did not use the account why with her. or look for anything from the site
Why keep them then ?
It's not exactly hard work to set up a new account on here.
Oh and btw dont forget the little green arrow at the side of your name is a great tool for referencing.
So u didnt use the site in the 7 months, yet u were contributing to the forums regularly up to 14 weeks ago.
1 post you made starts 'I am not faithful ...'
Just saying
He messaged me 2 months ago lol
Busted!!
haha sorry nope that when me and her had split so nothing wrong there. "
Ah, the on a break chestnut. Fair play  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward.
well thats you own opinion. I did not use the account why with her. or look for anything from the site
Why keep them then ?
It's not exactly hard work to set up a new account on here.
Oh and btw dont forget the little green arrow at the side of your name is a great tool for referencing.
So u didnt use the site in the 7 months, yet u were contributing to the forums regularly up to 14 weeks ago.
1 post you made starts 'I am not faithful ...'
Just saying
He messaged me 2 months ago lol
Busted!!
haha sorry nope that when me and her had split so nothing wrong there. "
Who were you being unfaithful to then ?
And when you messaged chops ?
Oh and on the basis of your OP the timescales to the post I highlighted don't tally.
Not being an arse for the sake of it here, but I am trying to make you realise that some people go thru life not realising that it is actually them that is the problem.
And that's what I said earlier, as much as you liked her, she was not the one FOR YOU.
If you want to be here, to enjoy the site and its members to all their potential you first need to adjust your own mindset and then go looking for a girl you can enjoy it with.
If you have trust and/or jealousy issues and want to swing, stay single. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward.
well thats you own opinion. I did not use the account why with her. or look for anything from the site
Why keep them then ?
It's not exactly hard work to set up a new account on here.
Oh and btw dont forget the little green arrow at the side of your name is a great tool for referencing.
So u didnt use the site in the 7 months, yet u were contributing to the forums regularly up to 14 weeks ago.
1 post you made starts 'I am not faithful ...'
Just saying
He messaged me 2 months ago lol
Busted!!
haha sorry nope that when me and her had split so nothing wrong there. "
I have a friend who recently returned to the site. She left because she wanted the relationship to work so deleted her account. It didn't work out and she made a new one.
When you broke up the first time, you couldn't get back here fast enough and your account was waiting.
So yeah, you are busted because your affections towards others are dime a dozen and while with her, you were always "keeping your options open." |
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no sorry. I had this account when with her but did not use it. shes not into swinging so I stoped using the site.
Just hedging your bets then ?
Forgive my cynicism, but if I met someone who meant so much to me, any accounts of this nature would have gone ... months ago
I don't think (on the basis of the info here) that either of you were committed enough to take it forward.
well thats you own opinion. I did not use the account why with her. or look for anything from the site
Why keep them then ?
It's not exactly hard work to set up a new account on here.
Oh and btw dont forget the little green arrow at the side of your name is a great tool for referencing.
So u didnt use the site in the 7 months, yet u were contributing to the forums regularly up to 14 weeks ago.
1 post you made starts 'I am not faithful ...'
Just saying
He messaged me 2 months ago lol
Busted!!
haha sorry nope that when me and her had split so nothing wrong there.
Who were you being unfaithful to then ?
And when you messaged chops ?
Oh and on the basis of your OP the timescales to the post I highlighted don't tally.
Not being an arse for the sake of it here, but I am trying to make you realise that some people go thru life not realising that it is actually them that is the problem.
And that's what I said earlier, as much as you liked her, she was not the one FOR YOU.
If you want to be here, to enjoy the site and its members to all their potential you first need to adjust your own mindset and then go looking for a girl you can enjoy it with.
If you have trust and/or jealousy issues and want to swing, stay single."
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