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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
Says they want to meet you but goes quiet when asked to chose a day and place, only to say a week or two later they really want to meet you.
Frequently doesn't reply to messages, even those asking a specific question, (just deletes, so you know they didn't forget).
Are they a friend? Or a fantasist? Or keeping you in reserve for when they don't have anything better?
Your thoughts please? |
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"Says they want to meet you but goes quiet when asked to chose a day and place, only to say a week or two later they really want to meet you.
Frequently doesn't reply to messages, even those asking a specific question, (just deletes, so you know they didn't forget).
Are they a friend? Or a fantasist? Or keeping you in reserve for when they don't have anything better?
Your thoughts please?"
The latter, really not worth the bandwidth.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Certainly not a friend. At this stage I would tend to think the other party had been given enough chances and I would block and forget. This happened to me recently with a fella I really wanted to meet, but you've got to accept the situation sometimes. Time is precious isn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Happened to us with someone twice, and he's reared his head again.
Come to the conclusion he only vaguely wants to meet us, shows great enthusiasm for a day or two, arranges meets and then disappears from communicating, he again has reared his head and shown an interest.
I said to Mr D, I don't expect to be anyone everything but I feel we're purely an "if theres really nothing better on offer" plan. |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
I don't do spontaneous meets. It takes a few days planning. I also have to be in the mood which lately, a lot of the time, I'm not.
I have a feeling if I said 'yes, now' when he appears it'd happen but otherwise not. |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I want to be made to feel that they cannot wait to meet me....to want me and to feel lustful not like a shag in a dark ally..."
Agreed.
If they're getting veris then they clearly are meeting and aren't fantasists. They're just not that into me. |
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"I want to be made to feel that they cannot wait to meet me....to want me and to feel lustful not like a shag in a dark ally...
Agreed.
If they're getting veris then they clearly are meeting and aren't fantasists. They're just not that into me."
then delete and find someone that is into you...  |
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"I am seeing Graham Norton pulling a large lever and said person tumbling backwards and downwards into oblivion....and byeeeee...  "
Ah yes, we need to get one of those installed on Fabs....wake up call! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would never arrange to meet someone and then go quiet - it's not respectful and so, they aren't really a 'friend'.
I am guilty of not replying to messages as I'm a mixture of being both lazy and a little flakey. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I want to be made to feel that they cannot wait to meet me....to want me and to feel lustful not like a shag in a dark ally...
Agreed.
If they're getting veris then they clearly are meeting and aren't fantasists. They're just not that into me."
That's how I saw it too in our case, he's not a time waster clearly as he has plenty of positive feedback. I think he was merely wanting us there just in case his better offers didn't come off.
When he contacted us a third time with a wink and FR I just thought, yeah right ya cheeky twat! I don't think we're special but we're worth more that that, and so are you Virago, much more!
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"Fantasists but they wouldn't be on my friends list. "
I now only have people I have met on my list. But if they ignore a message then they are off it. Even a hello is fine. But ignored and deleted messages are not on if you've already met. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am seeing Graham Norton pulling a large lever and said person tumbling backwards and downwards into oblivion....and byeeeee...
Ah yes, we need to get one of those installed on Fabs....wake up call!"
Maybe we need our own Room 101 |
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Fab friends who delete one of my messages without responding get the Goldfinger treatment - once is happenstance, twice is coincidence, three times is enemy action. I don't mind if they don't stay in contact for a while, even a few months but ignoring me? No way, Jose  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Happened to us with someone twice, and he's reared his head again.
Come to the conclusion he only vaguely wants to meet us, shows great enthusiasm for a day or two, arranges meets and then disappears from communicating, he again has reared his head and shown an interest.
I said to Mr D, I don't expect to be anyone everything but I feel we're purely an "if theres really nothing better on offer" plan."
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"If I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times. I'm not coming till you get some decent food in
What's wrong with quorn burgers? 
Ah ffs you just don't get it  "
A nice Quorn burger, some lovely healthy vegetables... wonderful. |
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