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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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New TV show on sky Pregnant and Dating some 8 months gone ... and first dates not the babies fathers So would you be ok with that. ? If you had a date here and new nothing about being pregnant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I think they need to behave themselves to be honest and concentrate on becoming a mother.
Maybe I'm a bit old school just find things like that a bit wrong.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I think they need to behave themselves to be honest and concentrate on becoming a mother.
Maybe I'm a bit old school just find things like that a bit wrong.
Her"
I agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I may even be shocked if turned up I knew nothing about it .. And not a lot shock me now , 8 months gone there is no hiding that bump. lol  "
No lol meal tickets I reckon lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I may even be shocked if turned up I knew nothing about it .. And not a lot shock me now , 8 months gone there is no hiding that bump. lol No lol meal tickets I reckon lol "
i don't think that's very fair....if the father isn't involved why shouldn't a woman be able to look for a relationship while still getting ready to be a mother? |
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"I think I may even be shocked if turned up I knew nothing about it .. And not a lot shock me now , 8 months gone there is no hiding that bump. lol No lol meal tickets I reckon lol
i don't think that's very fair....if the father isn't involved why shouldn't a woman be able to look for a relationship while still getting ready to be a mother?"
Eight months pregnant and instead of preparing for a monumental event seeking dates? Priorities all wrong, probably the reason they're up the duff on their own! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I think they need to behave themselves to be honest and concentrate on becoming a mother.
Maybe I'm a bit old school just find things like that a bit wrong.
Her"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont feel its right either. When you're pregnant then you do have other priorities which should be put first, ie the baby, ensuring you are eating healthily, mentally preparing for that life changing moment as well as fhe practicalities of getting together all your baby needs, ensuring a safe home etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I may even be shocked if turned up I knew nothing about it .. And not a lot shock me now , 8 months gone there is no hiding that bump. lol No lol meal tickets I reckon lol
i don't think that's very fair....if the father isn't involved why shouldn't a woman be able to look for a relationship while still getting ready to be a mother?
Eight months pregnant and instead of preparing for a monumental event seeking dates? Priorities all wrong, probably the reason they're up the duff on their own!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I may even be shocked if turned up I knew nothing about it .. And not a lot shock me now , 8 months gone there is no hiding that bump. lol No lol meal tickets I reckon lol
i don't think that's very fair....if the father isn't involved why shouldn't a woman be able to look for a relationship while still getting ready to be a mother?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Omg pregnant you should sit at home knitting booties.. heaven forbid you should want some company...
Nothing wrong with it at all... If someone happens to find themselves single while pregnant why not...
I met my ex husband 6 weeks before I had my son.... As long as the guy is okay with it then no issue that I can see.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It might seem a little out of the norm, but if they don't have a partner through death and found they are pregnant a few weeks after, are they not entitled to try and move on with their lives. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they are fed up of being treated like an incubator for a baby which was not planned, with a guy who is no longer on the scene, and needing a bit of company / cheering up / attention. hence going on a date.
Doesnt necessarily mean they are looking for a meal ticket or step dad for their baby or are not getting prepared for the arrival of their baby.
Just means they are human.
entitled to make their own choices as a person not just as a mother to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe they are fed up of being treated like an incubator for a baby which was not planned, with a guy who is no longer on the scene, and needing a bit of company / cheering up / attention. hence going on a date.
Doesnt necessarily mean they are looking for a meal ticket or step dad for their baby or are not getting prepared for the arrival of their baby.
Just means they are human.
entitled to make their own choices as a person not just as a mother to be. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would of gone on a date if someone had asked me when I was pregnant but I wouldn't of had sex with them "
but if you had a partner would you have sex with them?
I see no harm in continuing to date or swing whilst pregnant once you're being careful.
To me it's no different |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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depending on how your emotions are during pregnancy it can be a very lonely time, even for the women that are pregnant,happy and settled relationships, let alone the ones that are on their own surrounded by those happier couples at every appointment they go to. Its easy to sit back and say its wrong, but as with most things, you never know how you will react until it happens to you personally. |
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"I would of gone on a date if someone had asked me when I was pregnant but I wouldn't of had sex with them
but if you had a partner would you have sex with them?
I see no harm in continuing to date or swing whilst pregnant once you're being careful.
To me it's no different "
I was still with my partner when I was pregnant so this is hypothetical as we still had sex, not often towards the end as I was very uncomfortable with SPD.
However. No I wouldn't of had sex with anyone else whilst pregnant, no matter how careful you are some stds can still be passed on and can be very harmful to a unborn child. So it is different in my eyes. |
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Personally, dating would be the last thing on my mind if things didn't work out with Vince but that's just me. - I have a very close and supportive family with a close-knit group of friends, so I would never be lonely. Some people don't have that.
I don't see it as a problem but I do think the guys should know in advance so they can make an imformed decision, otherwise it does come across a bit "Looking for mah new baby daddy".
- Amy. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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well i was terified when i was 8 months pregnant and would of been glad to go on a date just for the company and someone to talk to, dont see whats wrong with wanting some company. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I got with my ex when she was 6 months pregnant she wasn't showing. When we started talking about getting serious she told me that gorgeous little girl is still my baby regardless of what has happened she don't know her biological dad but she has me.
So no i have no problem with dating while pregnant if i did i wouldn't have my daughter |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"I think I may even be shocked if turned up I knew nothing about it .. And not a lot shock me now , 8 months gone there is no hiding that bump. lol No lol meal tickets I reckon lol
i don't think that's very fair....if the father isn't involved why shouldn't a woman be able to look for a relationship while still getting ready to be a mother? "
Self, self, self. Shouldn't be thinking about HER need to be in a relationship. She should be considering her upcoming relationship with her child. How can she put energy and time into both a new baby and a new man? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I may even be shocked if turned up I knew nothing about it .. And not a lot shock me now , 8 months gone there is no hiding that bump. lol No lol meal tickets I reckon lol
i don't think that's very fair....if the father isn't involved why shouldn't a woman be able to look for a relationship while still getting ready to be a mother?
Self, self, self. Shouldn't be thinking about HER need to be in a relationship. She should be considering her upcoming relationship with her child. How can she put energy and time into both a new baby and a new man? "
If it was twins maybe but one baby and one man, i dont think it would be that difficult would it. better to have a content mum who has got a man than a not very happy mum who is on her own, i would of thought.  she could end up resenting her child. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe they are fed up of being treated like an incubator for a baby which was not planned, with a guy who is no longer on the scene, and needing a bit of company / cheering up / attention. hence going on a date.
Doesnt necessarily mean they are looking for a meal ticket or step dad for their baby or are not getting prepared for the arrival of their baby.
Just means they are human.
entitled to make their own choices as a person not just as a mother to be. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I may even be shocked if turned up I knew nothing about it .. And not a lot shock me now , 8 months gone there is no hiding that bump. lol No lol meal tickets I reckon lol
i don't think that's very fair....if the father isn't involved why shouldn't a woman be able to look for a relationship while still getting ready to be a mother?
Self, self, self. Shouldn't be thinking about HER need to be in a relationship. She should be considering her upcoming relationship with her child. How can she put energy and time into both a new baby and a new man? "
Wasnt the op about dating whilst pregnant ????
So she could go on a date or repeat dates
Boost her self esteme, enjoy some company, and generally have a nice time. Without any negative effect on the unborn child.
Guess it depends on the date. The ppl involved and weather or not the date leads to anything more intimate or long term.
Seems to me like some ppl on here read far too much into the terms 'date' and 'dating'
As for dating after recently having a new baby why is it selfish for a new mum to want to date ? As long as she is not neglecting her baby surely she is entitled to still be herself in her own right If means going on a date or going to the hairdressers or still makong time for her own hobbies or whatever.
I didnt realise becoming 'mum' meant you had to automatically give up being 'you' |
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"better to have a content mum who has got a man than a not very happy mum who is on her own, i would of thought. she could end up resenting her child."
I understand that being a single parent can be lonely but surely if that's where her priorities lie (to the point that she ends up resenting her child), it should be considered that being a parent isn't for her?... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont feel its right either. When you're pregnant then you do have other priorities which should be put first, ie the baby, ensuring you are eating healthily, mentally preparing for that life changing moment as well as fhe practicalities of getting together all your baby needs, ensuring a safe home etc.
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Absolutely agree, is the risk worth it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"better to have a content mum who has got a man than a not very happy mum who is on her own, i would of thought. she could end up resenting her child.
I understand that being a single parent can be lonely but surely if that's where her priorities lie (to the point that she ends up resenting her child), it should be considered that being a parent isn't for her?..."
a lot of single parents do resent their kids at times but they dont admit it.
doesnt mean they dont love their kids or not care about them though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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if a man and pregnant partner broke up, should he still be allowed to date or should he focus on being a parent and all the changes in his life? quite frankly, there's nothing morally or ethically wrong with a woman dating whilst pregnant. a woman is capable of eating properly, attending check ups, nesting, working and socialising.... even if part of socialising is going on dates. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if a man and pregnant partner broke up, should he still be allowed to date or should he focus on being a parent and all the changes in his life? quite frankly, there's nothing morally or ethically wrong with a woman dating whilst pregnant. a woman is capable of eating properly, attending check ups, nesting, working and socialising.... even if part of socialising is going on dates. "
Well said |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
Over the rainbow, under the bridge |
"if a man and pregnant partner broke up, should he still be allowed to date or should he focus on being a parent and all the changes in his life? quite frankly, there's nothing morally or ethically wrong with a woman dating whilst pregnant. a woman is capable of eating properly, attending check ups, nesting, working and socialising.... even if part of socialising is going on dates.
Well said "
It's not about ability. It's about priorities. Anyone who is planning on being the sole carer of a small infant - male or female - should be putting that top of the list. Once the child is old enough to be left with a baby sitter then fine. |
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"I think I may even be shocked if turned up I knew nothing about it .. And not a lot shock me now , 8 months gone there is no hiding that bump. lol No lol meal tickets I reckon lol
i don't think that's very fair....if the father isn't involved why shouldn't a woman be able to look for a relationship while still getting ready to be a mother?
Eight months pregnant and instead of preparing for a monumental event seeking dates? Priorities all wrong, probably the reason they're up the duff on their own!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"if a man and pregnant partner broke up, should he still be allowed to date or should he focus on being a parent and all the changes in his life? quite frankly, there's nothing morally or ethically wrong with a woman dating whilst pregnant. a woman is capable of eating properly, attending check ups, nesting, working and socialising.... even if part of socialising is going on dates.
Well said
It's not about ability. It's about priorities. Anyone who is planning on being the sole carer of a small infant - male or female - should be putting that top of the list. Once the child is old enough to be left with a baby sitter then fine. "
that may well be how you feel, and would be your choice. however, others are entitled to live their lives according to their choices. the same as we are entitled to run our fab accounts according to our tastes. dating does not, by any stretch, mean that your child isn't your Main priority. it means that you are human and seeking to live life. the belief that we women somehow turn into something intangible and other worldly due to bring pregnant is, in my opinion, archaic at best. it does women an egregious injustice. |
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