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Earlier today while searching or browsing profiles... I came across a single womans profile... with an amazing picture... It's... let's say retro porn like... but I find it beautiful...
I'd love to compliment her on her picture but her whole profile ask that single males DON'T contact her... I do totally respect that... but equally want yo compliment her on her picture...
So... There's a question? Is it okay to message in that context?! Um... Or respect her wishes to the full? Any thoughts? lol  |
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i think any women would love a genuine compliment .its the messages wheres theres obvious hidden agenda that cause the issues .
im sure if you message saying exactly what you have here it would be accepted in the sprite it was sent x |
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"Earlier today while searching or browsing profiles... I came across a single womans profile... with an amazing picture... It's... let's say retro porn like... but I find it beautiful...
I'd love to compliment her on her picture but her whole profile ask that single males DON'T contact her... I do totally respect that... but equally want yo compliment her on her picture...
So... There's a question? Is it okay to message in that context?! Um... Or respect her wishes to the full? Any thoughts? lol "
If a single bloke mails us/ me with an intelligent mail we will always respond and more often than not meet him. The clue is... be different from the others, be distinct which in my case means I am not interested in a cock pic if that is all you have to offer as I can get that in copious potions at home.
So be witty, be funny be genuine... And go for it Women like that xxx |
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You have answered your own question. Saying her whole profile ask that single males DON'T contact her... I do totally respect that.
So if you respect then you dont mail. Besides if she is that hot she will be getting 100 messages a day. |
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I would have though ‘no single guys’ on a profile means I don’t want to be bombed out with ‘I’ve got a 12 inch cock and I’m the best shag you haven’t had yet’ type emails. I wouldn’t assume it means ‘don’t want any single males talking to me EVER’. |
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"You have answered your own question. Saying her whole profile ask that single males DON'T contact her... I do totally respect that.
So if you respect then you dont mail. Besides if she is that hot she will be getting 100 messages a day."
Not sure about this and from a woman's perspective...
I just think women like a man who, in certain situations, acts like a man - takes control |
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"Earlier today while searching or browsing profiles... I came across a single womans profile... with an amazing picture... It's... let's say retro porn like... but I find it beautiful...
I'd love to compliment her on her picture but her whole profile ask that single males DON'T contact her... I do totally respect that... but equally want yo compliment her on her picture...
So... There's a question? Is it okay to message in that context?! Um... Or respect her wishes to the full? Any thoughts? lol
If a single bloke mails us/ me with an intelligent mail we will always respond and more often than not meet him. The clue is... be different from the others, be distinct which in my case means I am not interested in a cock pic if that is all you have to offer as I can get that in copious potions at home.
So be witty, be funny be genuine... And go for it Women like that xxx"
So, if you don't want a picture of my cock, would you like any pics of my dozen or so Leghorns or Rhode Island Reds?
Genuine, i promise they are NOT bantams  |
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"I would have though ‘no single guys’ on a profile means I don’t want to be bombed out with ‘I’ve got a 12 inch cock and I’m the best shag you haven’t had yet’ type emails. I wouldn’t assume it means ‘don’t want any single males talking to me EVER’."
having no single males written, is a bit different to having, single males DON'T contact me.
Why not try and see, the worst that can happen is you get blocked  |
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"Earlier today while searching or browsing profiles... I came across a single womans profile... with an amazing picture... It's... let's say retro porn like... but I find it beautiful...
I'd love to compliment her on her picture but her whole profile ask that single males DON'T contact her... I do totally respect that... but equally want yo compliment her on her picture...
So... There's a question? Is it okay to message in that context?! Um... Or respect her wishes to the full? Any thoughts? lol
If a single bloke mails us/ me with an intelligent mail we will always respond and more often than not meet him. The clue is... be different from the others, be distinct which in my case means I am not interested in a cock pic if that is all you have to offer as I can get that in copious potions at home.
So be witty, be funny be genuine... And go for it Women like that xxx
So, if you don't want a picture of my cock, would you like any pics of my dozen or so Leghorns or Rhode Island Reds?
Genuine, i promise they are NOT bantams "
now fighting cocks.. there is a new thought lol... can i get back to you on that one?
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"You have answered your own question. Saying her whole profile ask that single males DON'T contact her... I do totally respect that.
So if you respect then you dont mail. Besides if she is that hot she will be getting 100 messages a day. Not sure about this and from a woman's perspective...
I just think women like a man who, in certain situations, acts like a man - takes control "
All you leghorns/reds, GET HERE NOW!!!! |
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment"
Totally agree, surely she would use the single male filter if she didn’t watch single men contacting her, although maybe she has. |
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment"
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her. |
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over a year ago
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her."
I think you might be spot on there. But as Dogmeisters said she might have blocked single males anyway.
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her."
Would you not read the message? Serious question - I read all messages and I reply to most unless they are not getting the message I am sending. But I definitely give everybody the courtesy of reading their mail. |
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
some have hearts of granite and tongues of flint ....but most are just ....nice and fluffy lol "
Anyone in particular |
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her.
Would you not read the message? Serious question - I read all messages and I reply to most unless they are not getting the message I am sending. But I definitely give everybody the courtesy of reading their mail."
i would expect you are in a small majority, a rarity.
and if they are half decent , do you always reply , if only to say "no thank you" "you are Tetley's and we drink Taylor's Yorkshire ( them of Betty's fame ) |
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
some have hearts of granite and tongues of flint ....but most are just ....nice and fluffy lol
Anyone in particular"
the majority are nice hun...
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her.
I think you might be spot on there. But as Dogmeisters said she might have blocked single males anyway.
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I don't state that I do not wish single males to contact me... but I do state a number of other preferences which regularly get ignored. I get compliments on pics and how my profile reads... most start with "I know your profile says you're not interested in... balr blar blar... but I just wanted to compliment you on (whatever)". I now delete pretty much all of them.... becayse... if I thank them in a reply pound to a penny I get another message (or 3) asking if I have changed my mind
So, in an attempt to avoid having some arsehole pestering me, I press delete.
So can someone please tell me how that gives me a heart of stone and anything else that's been suggested. |
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over a year ago
Up North :-) |
"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her.
Would you not read the message? Serious question - I read all messages and I reply to most unless they are not getting the message I am sending. But I definitely give everybody the courtesy of reading their mail.
i would expect you are in a small majority, a rarity.
and if they are half decent , do you always reply , if only to say "no thank you" "you are Tetley's and we drink Taylor's Yorkshire ( them of Betty's fame )"
The younger single females get stack loads of messages so they cant possibly reply to all. I have friends that get 50+ a day but they are sexy fuckers |
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her.
Would you not read the message? Serious question - I read all messages and I reply to most unless they are not getting the message I am sending. But I definitely give everybody the courtesy of reading their mail.
i would expect you are in a small majority, a rarity.
and if they are half decent , do you always reply , if only to say "no thank you" "you are Tetley's and we drink Taylor's Yorkshire ( them of Betty's fame )"
Personally? Yes, I do even if it is a an 18 year old who has not got a cat in hell's chance with me due to his age. I know some people dont have the time and perhaps they get so many more emails that they cannot possibly answer them but I choose to. And if it is a "no thanks" i usually state "sorry if that disappoints" and "happy swinging" as a minimum. It is just how I would like to be treated - that's all |
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Up North :-) |
"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her.
I think you might be spot on there. But as Dogmeisters said she might have blocked single males anyway.
I don't state that I do not wish single males to contact me... but I do state a number of other preferences which regularly get ignored. I get compliments on pics and how my profile reads... most start with "I know your profile says you're not interested in... balr blar blar... but I just wanted to compliment you on (whatever)". I now delete pretty much all of them.... becayse... if I thank them in a reply pound to a penny I get another message (or 3) asking if I have changed my mind
So, in an attempt to avoid having some arsehole pestering me, I press delete.
So can someone please tell me how that gives me a heart of stone and anything else that's been suggested."
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her.
Would you not read the message? Serious question - I read all messages and I reply to most unless they are not getting the message I am sending. But I definitely give everybody the courtesy of reading their mail.
i would expect you are in a small majority, a rarity.
and if they are half decent , do you always reply , if only to say "no thank you" "you are Tetley's and we drink Taylor's Yorkshire ( them of Betty's fame )
Personally? Yes, I do even if it is a an 18 year old who has not got a cat in hell's chance with me due to his age. I know some people dont have the time and perhaps they get so many more emails that they cannot possibly answer them but I choose to. And if it is a "no thanks" i usually state "sorry if that disappoints" and "happy swinging" as a minimum. It is just how I would like to be treated - that's all "
But would you send a message to someone who had clearly stated you were NOT the type of person they want to be contacted by?.... and then expect a reply from them? |
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her.
Would you not read the message? Serious question - I read all messages and I reply to most unless they are not getting the message I am sending. But I definitely give everybody the courtesy of reading their mail.
i would expect you are in a small majority, a rarity.
and if they are half decent , do you always reply , if only to say "no thank you" "you are Tetley's and we drink Taylor's Yorkshire ( them of Betty's fame )
Personally? Yes, I do even if it is a an 18 year old who has not got a cat in hell's chance with me due to his age. I know some people dont have the time and perhaps they get so many more emails that they cannot possibly answer them but I choose to. And if it is a "no thanks" i usually state "sorry if that disappoints" and "happy swinging" as a minimum. It is just how I would like to be treated - that's all
But would you send a message to someone who had clearly stated you were NOT the type of person they want to be contacted by?.... and then expect a reply from them?"
Yes I would because I always think of how the other person might feel receiving my mail - and for some it might be the umpteenth rejection.
But I totally understand if you get hundreds of emails that people dont have the time or inclination. |
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her.
Would you not read the message? Serious question - I read all messages and I reply to most unless they are not getting the message I am sending. But I definitely give everybody the courtesy of reading their mail.
i would expect you are in a small majority, a rarity.
and if they are half decent , do you always reply , if only to say "no thank you" "you are Tetley's and we drink Taylor's Yorkshire ( them of Betty's fame )
Personally? Yes, I do even if it is a an 18 year old who has not got a cat in hell's chance with me due to his age. I know some people dont have the time and perhaps they get so many more emails that they cannot possibly answer them but I choose to. And if it is a "no thanks" i usually state "sorry if that disappoints" and "happy swinging" as a minimum. It is just how I would like to be treated - that's all
But would you send a message to someone who had clearly stated you were NOT the type of person they want to be contacted by?.... and then expect a reply from them?
Yes I would because I always think of how the other person might feel receiving my mail - and for some it might be the umpteenth rejection.
But I totally understand if you get hundreds of emails that people dont have the time or inclination."
Did you misread the question or are you really saying 'yes' you would ignore whatever was on a persons profile and contact them anyway regardless of their expressed wishes? |
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her.
Would you not read the message? Serious question - I read all messages and I reply to most unless they are not getting the message I am sending. But I definitely give everybody the courtesy of reading their mail.
i would expect you are in a small majority, a rarity.
and if they are half decent , do you always reply , if only to say "no thank you" "you are Tetley's and we drink Taylor's Yorkshire ( them of Betty's fame )
Personally? Yes, I do even if it is a an 18 year old who has not got a cat in hell's chance with me due to his age. I know some people dont have the time and perhaps they get so many more emails that they cannot possibly answer them but I choose to. And if it is a "no thanks" i usually state "sorry if that disappoints" and "happy swinging" as a minimum. It is just how I would like to be treated - that's all
But would you send a message to someone who had clearly stated you were NOT the type of person they want to be contacted by?.... and then expect a reply from them?
Yes I would because I always think of how the other person might feel receiving my mail - and for some it might be the umpteenth rejection.
But I totally understand if you get hundreds of emails that people dont have the time or inclination.
Did you misread the question or are you really saying 'yes' you would ignore whatever was on a persons profile and contact them anyway regardless of their expressed wishes?"
No, I dont think I misread the question - I responded in my last post at least to yours.
"But would you send a message to someone who had clearly stated you were NOT the type of person they want to be contacted by?.... and then expect a reply from them?"
Yes, I would - but I understand that is my personal choice. |
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No, I dont think I misread the question - I responded in my last post at least to yours.
"But would you send a message to someone who had clearly stated you were NOT the type of person they want to be contacted by?.... and then expect a reply from them?"
Yes, I would - but I understand that is my personal choice. "
So do you see your action of contacting them as being respectful to their wishes and what's more, their written request for you NOT to contact them in the first place? |
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No, I dont think I misread the question - I responded in my last post at least to yours.
"But would you send a message to someone who had clearly stated you were NOT the type of person they want to be contacted by?.... and then expect a reply from them?"
Yes, I would - but I understand that is my personal choice.
So do you see your action of contacting them as being respectful to their wishes and what's more, their written request for you NOT to contact them in the first place?"
I simply see communication for what it is - an exchange of messages at whatever level. If somebody messages me - I reply. If I message them I find it courteous to receive a reply, although I do not expect one. I will say this : I have not ever not received a reply to an email I sent on this site. |
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No, I dont think I misread the question - I responded in my last post at least to yours.
"But would you send a message to someone who had clearly stated you were NOT the type of person they want to be contacted by?.... and then expect a reply from them?"
Yes, I would - but I understand that is my personal choice.
So do you see your action of contacting them as being respectful to their wishes and what's more, their written request for you NOT to contact them in the first place?"
But to pay someone a compliment is not the same as asking for a quick s**g |
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go for it
whats the worst thing that can happen
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She could block him so he can't look at the photos he admires anymore 
She could hide her profile after getting fed up of messages from single guys who ignore her request
She could leave the site if his message (unread) was the final straw
For example. |
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"But to pay someone a compliment is not the same as asking for a quick s**g"
I agree. I've had messages like that before when I've stated that I'm not looking for new contacts. I always replied to say thanks and left it there.
If it's genuinely a harmless compliment and nothing more then I don't see the problem unless the person in question is particularly touchy. |
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"Spunk
go for it
whats the worst thing that can happen
xx
She could block him so he can't look at the photos he admires anymore
She could hide her profile after getting fed up of messages from single guys who ignore her request
She could leave the site if his message (unread) was the final straw
For example."
Pehaps cages have been rattled |
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over a year ago
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"But to pay someone a compliment is not the same as asking for a quick s**g
I agree. I've had messages like that before when I've stated that I'm not looking for new contacts. I always replied to say thanks and left it there.
If it's genuinely a harmless compliment and nothing more then I don't see the problem unless the person in question is particularly touchy."
What about if the profile says
Let me be clear on this NO SINGLE MALES... at all... ever... i will not reply to you. That means, Stop mailing, winking and inviting me as a friend. |
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No, I dont think I misread the question - I responded in my last post at least to yours.
"But would you send a message to someone who had clearly stated you were NOT the type of person they want to be contacted by?.... and then expect a reply from them?"
Yes, I would - but I understand that is my personal choice.
So do you see your action of contacting them as being respectful to their wishes and what's more, their written request for you NOT to contact them in the first place?
I simply see communication for what it is - an exchange of messages at whatever level. If somebody messages me - I reply. If I message them I find it courteous to receive a reply, although I do not expect one. I will say this : I have not ever not received a reply to an email I sent on this site. "
How many messages have you sent to people who said they didn't want to be contacted by couples or only wanted couples under 30 years of age?
I just can't believe anyone could say they think it's OK to ignore a request NOT to be contacted by a particular group of people and then expect to get a reply. |
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"Spunk
go for it
whats the worst thing that can happen
xx
She could block him so he can't look at the photos he admires anymore
She could hide her profile after getting fed up of messages from single guys who ignore her request
She could leave the site if his message (unread) was the final straw
For example.
Pehaps cages have been rattled"
If there are cages - where are the fighters ? |
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We all know that alot of people on here ignore what is written in most profiles but when there's a facility to block single guys, it's simple enough to stop even those with the most genuine of intentions from contacting you. |
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"Spunk
go for it
whats the worst thing that can happen
xx
She could block him so he can't look at the photos he admires anymore
She could hide her profile after getting fed up of messages from single guys who ignore her request
She could leave the site if his message (unread) was the final straw
For example.
Pehaps cages have been rattled"
I doubt it... but you did ask what's the worst that could happen. I think the first example is quite likely if they don't read the message and just see it is from a single guy. |
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"Spunk
go for it
whats the worst thing that can happen
xx
She could block him so he can't look at the photos he admires anymore
She could hide her profile after getting fed up of messages from single guys who ignore her request
She could leave the site if his message (unread) was the final straw
For example.
Pehaps cages have been rattled
If there are cages - where are the fighters ?"
If there are cages... you've probably been squatting in a pet shop  |
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"But to pay someone a compliment is not the same as asking for a quick s**g
I agree. I've had messages like that before when I've stated that I'm not looking for new contacts. I always replied to say thanks and left it there.
If it's genuinely a harmless compliment and nothing more then I don't see the problem unless the person in question is particularly touchy.
What about if the profile says
Let me be clear on this NO SINGLE MALES... at all... ever... i will not reply to you. That means, Stop mailing, winking and inviting me as a friend. "
If I felt so strong I would just block single males |
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"I just can't believe anyone could say they think it's OK to ignore a request NOT to be contacted by a particular group of people and then expect to get a reply."
Do you not think that the statement on the profile is more than likely aimed at the "fancy a shag?" type messages rather than an innocent and genuine compliment?
Does the OP want or expect a reply? |
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"I just can't believe anyone could say they think it's OK to ignore a request NOT to be contacted by a particular group of people and then expect to get a reply.
Do you not think that the statement on the profile is more than likely aimed at the "fancy a shag?" type messages rather than an innocent and genuine compliment?
Does the OP want or expect a reply?"
The question wasn't to the OP - the question was (as quoted) to the poster who replied 'yes' to the question of whether they would send a message and expect a reply from someone who had stated they did NOT want to be contacted by them. |
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No, I dont think I misread the question - I responded in my last post at least to yours.
"But would you send a message to someone who had clearly stated you were NOT the type of person they want to be contacted by?.... and then expect a reply from them?"
Yes, I would - but I understand that is my personal choice.
So do you see your action of contacting them as being respectful to their wishes and what's more, their written request for you NOT to contact them in the first place?
I simply see communication for what it is - an exchange of messages at whatever level. If somebody messages me - I reply. If I message them I find it courteous to receive a reply, although I do not expect one. I will say this : I have not ever not received a reply to an email I sent on this site.
How many messages have you sent to people who said they didn't want to be contacted by couples or only wanted couples under 30 years of age?
I just can't believe anyone could say they think it's OK to ignore a request NOT to be contacted by a particular group of people and then expect to get a reply."
Let me explain : I am NOT saying I choose profiles and deliberately ignore their preferences. That would be a bit disrespectful in my world.
I AM saying though that sometimes it is possible to miss something (in my case for example a genital piercing as I am not fond of them) Now if I happen to write to somebody and miss something in the process it would be nice for that person to reply as I would politely point out to anybody who writes to me/ us if they had missed something.
Finally, we have actually made a few friends on here this way - initially not a good match but through talking we discovered a shared sense of humour or interest. It is all about being civil and I totally understand that means different things to different people. |
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"A woman would have to have a heart of stone not to accept a genuine non sexual compliment
That's if they actually read the message before deleting it... after seeing it's from yet another guy ignoring the request for them not to contact her.
I think you might be spot on there. But as Dogmeisters said she might have blocked single males anyway.
I don't state that I do not wish single males to contact me... but I do state a number of other preferences which regularly get ignored. I get compliments on pics and how my profile reads... most start with "I know your profile says you're not interested in... balr blar blar... but I just wanted to compliment you on (whatever)". I now delete pretty much all of them.... becayse... if I thank them in a reply pound to a penny I get another message (or 3) asking if I have changed my mind
So, in an attempt to avoid having some arsehole pestering me, I press delete.
So can someone please tell me how that gives me a heart of stone and anything else that's been suggested."
I would like to know the answer to that too as I'm in total agreement with Polo.
It's my experience that a complimentary non-sexual message rarely ends there, especially if you respond, it's seen as an invitation to continue corresponding! |
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By *ig badMan
over a year ago
Up North :-) |
"I just can't believe anyone could say they think it's OK to ignore a request NOT to be contacted by a particular group of people and then expect to get a reply.
Do you not think that the statement on the profile is more than likely aimed at the "fancy a shag?" type messages rather than an innocent and genuine compliment?
Does the OP want or expect a reply?"
Nope i have seen the profile and in my opinion its a geezer pretending to be a female so he doesn't want other guys mailing him. |
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"But to pay someone a compliment is not the same as asking for a quick s**g
I agree. I've had messages like that before when I've stated that I'm not looking for new contacts. I always replied to say thanks and left it there.
If it's genuinely a harmless compliment and nothing more then I don't see the problem unless the person in question is particularly touchy.
What about if the profile says
Let me be clear on this NO SINGLE MALES... at all... ever... i will not reply to you. That means, Stop mailing, winking and inviting me as a friend.
If I felt so strong I would just block single males"
What if they have genuine friends who are single males on the site... but just don't want to recieve mail from any others? |
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"Nope i have seen the profile and in my opinion its a geezer pretending to be a female so he doesn't want other guys mailing him. "
Now, thats a whole other topic  |
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So can someone please tell me how that gives me a heart of stone and anything else that's been suggested.
I would like to know the answer to that too as I'm in total agreement with Polo.
It's my experience that a complimentary non-sexual message rarely ends there, especially if you respond, it's seen as an invitation to continue corresponding! "
You might have a long wait. |
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By *ig badMan
over a year ago
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"Nope i have seen the profile and in my opinion its a geezer pretending to be a female so he doesn't want other guys mailing him.
Now, thats a whole other topic "
Key clues are
Full naked pic from porno site legs akimbo and full face. Studio lighting etc. Also 5 months and not one verifications BUT a stack load of friends.
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Would like to add - I am not into endless email exchanges either and if for example I have told somebody that we are not interested (and I often specify why) THEN i would probably ignore the pestering emails after a max of two exchanges. |
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Let me explain : I am NOT saying I choose profiles and deliberately ignore their preferences. That would be a bit disrespectful in my world. "
Thank you. As that was the question I asked (which you initially replied 'yes' to). |
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"Key clues are
Full naked pic from porno site legs akimbo and full face. Studio lighting etc. Also 5 months and not one verifications BUT a stack load of friends.
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No wonder it's a good pic then  |
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Let me explain : I am NOT saying I choose profiles and deliberately ignore their preferences. That would be a bit disrespectful in my world.
Thank you. As that was the question I asked (which you initially replied 'yes' to)."
I felt actually it was the other way round lol... the fifth post in this thread (your first) you state "you have nothing to loose...."
Glad we managed to speak the same language again - it is the trouble with MSN and forums that we never quite get the non verbal communication AND between different threads we loose bits and pieces xx |
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I felt actually it was the other way round lol... the fifth post in this thread (your first) you state "you have nothing to loose...."
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And that statement ended with.... just one example of what he could.
A bit like saying "yeah go and tell that big fella at the bar he's a twat, what have you got to lose..... other than the use of your legs" |
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I felt actually it was the other way round lol... the fifth post in this thread (your first) you state "you have nothing to loose...."
And that statement ended with.... just one example of what he could.
A bit like saying "yeah go and tell that big fella at the bar he's a twat, what have you got to lose..... other than the use of your legs""
ah.... I get you ... you know what they say... Irony is lost on the Germans |
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"Spunk
go for it
whats the worst thing that can happen
xx
She could block him so he can't look at the photos he admires anymore
She could hide her profile after getting fed up of messages from single guys who ignore her request
She could leave the site if his message (unread) was the final straw
For example.
Pehaps cages have been rattled
If there are cages - where are the fighters ?"
the pen is mightier than the sword
hmm good job i got the second space correct |
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jeez, jut finished reading this lot
being blocked does have it's advantages, saves a whole heap of bother and recriminations "
but then you dont get to see the pictures lol - having said that - this might be a blessing lol x |
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"Spunk
go for it
whats the worst thing that can happen
xx
She could block him so he can't look at the photos he admires anymore
She could hide her profile after getting fed up of messages from single guys who ignore her request
She could leave the site if his message (unread) was the final straw
For example.
Pehaps cages have been rattled
If there are cages - where are the fighters ?
the pen is mightier than the sword
hmm good job i got the second space correct"
Excalibur!!!! |
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"the one thing many women will respond to well is a compliment, no matter the context of said compliment, as long as it can be seen to be a compliment,
women live for an need complimenting as many times a day as it's possible to do so, the rewards can be staggeringly exciting too
Are you saying we are all needy lol ;-);-) "
i would complement a good woman
no typo's on me lol
now, tell me again where you get this veet stuff from? |
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the pen is mightier than the sword
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Tell that to Bill.... oh you can't he's dead.
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ahhhh that's it! He should have had a bic handy when Uma turned up |
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I felt actually it was the other way round lol... the fifth post in this thread (your first) you state "you have nothing to loose...."
And that statement ended with.... just one example of what he could.
A bit like saying "yeah go and tell that big fella at the bar he's a twat, what have you got to lose..... other than the use of your legs"
ah.... I get you ... you know what they say... Irony is lost on the Germans"
I once played golf with a german guy, must say it was hard hitting the ball, but it made me chuckle the way he used to say "i need an iron7 for this shot"
ooooh err iron 7 |
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jeez, jut finished reading this lot
being blocked does have it's advantages, saves a whole heap of bother and recriminations
but then you dont get to see the pictures lol - having said that - this might be a blessing lol x"
have just discovered that blocked guys cant send friends requests either, understandably 
on the plus side i have seen an ornate glass dildo that , if i was to be really cheeky, would stir my tea a treat |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"You have answered your own question. Saying her whole profile ask that single males DON'T contact her... I do totally respect that.
So if you respect then you dont mail. Besides if she is that hot she will be getting 100 messages a day. Not sure about this and from a woman's perspective...
I just think women like a man who, in certain situations, acts like a man - takes control "
If you don't mind people not respecting your profile thats fine, but not all of us think that way.
To the OP, I would respect the womans profile, and not mail her. |
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"You have answered your own question. Saying her whole profile ask that single males DON'T contact her... I do totally respect that.
So if you respect then you dont mail. Besides if she is that hot she will be getting 100 messages a day. Not sure about this and from a woman's perspective...
I just think women like a man who, in certain situations, acts like a man - takes control
If you don't mind people not respecting your profile thats fine, but not all of us think that way.
To the OP, I would respect the womans profile, and not mail her."
It was said with tongue in cheek and I actually pm him to state just that - not to mail. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
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"You have answered your own question. Saying her whole profile ask that single males DON'T contact her... I do totally respect that.
So if you respect then you dont mail. Besides if she is that hot she will be getting 100 messages a day. Not sure about this and from a woman's perspective...
I just think women like a man who, in certain situations, acts like a man - takes control
If you don't mind people not respecting your profile thats fine, but not all of us think that way.
To the OP, I would respect the womans profile, and not mail her.
It was said with tongue in cheek and I actually pm him to state just that - not to mail. "
After reading the thread again, that does susprise me.
But I will take your word for it, as only you know in what context you posted. |
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