FabSwingers.com > Forums > The Lounge > I don't want to meet you.
I don't want to meet you.
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Which of these rejection messages would you prefer to receive, and why?
"Sorry but you're not what I'm looking for."
Sorry but I'm not what you're looking for." |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I've sent both of those. 
I think I prefer to get the unequivocal "you're not what I am looking for" as the second option would have me asking lots of questions and defending that I know what I want and/or need.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
hiding from cock pics. |
"I've sent both of those.
I think I prefer to get the unequivocal "you're not what I am looking for" as the second option would have me asking lots of questions and defending that I know what I want and/or need.
"
Yes this |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I've sent both of those.
I think I prefer to get the unequivocal "you're not what I am looking for" as the second option would have me asking lots of questions and defending that I know what I want and/or need.
"
we've used the "we're not what you're looking for" when the people/person who has contacted us has a profile that says that the lady is very bi and loves the ladies or "we are shaved smooth and like you to be too" or "Fred loves to lick a lady for hours"....we know we're not what they're looking for and say why. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Never recieved either from a first message but how would someone know what I want without a conversation of some sort. Clearly if I've messaged them there is something about them that I like. I would probably fund this one somewhat annoying |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Personally I'd rather the message got deleted(notbthst it happens a lot *cough*)
But personally I'd prefer it got deleted. 
By giving any of the two responses your inviting a pointless conversation.
As a single male I don't get that great amount of messages to be honest, but I have deleted mail before more than once. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
to be quite honest it doesn't matter about preference when you get a rejection .... you get rejected and you move on. if you have questions when somebody says, " we're not what you are looking for", then don't send another message asking them to explain, you've been told no and doing so is pestering. it's a tuff world |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Either is fine, rather that than be mucked about or just ignorance. "
I must be in the minority because I honestly don't mind just being ignored.
If you put a gun to my headand asked me to choose one, I'd pick the first. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Either is fine, rather that than be mucked about or just ignorance.
I must be in the minority because I honestly don't mind just being ignored.
If you put a gun to my headand asked me to choose one, I'd pick the first. "
Yeah I don't give a fuck either.
It's the guys that do that struggle on here no doubt |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"[Removed by poster at 21/04/14 21:48:24]"
I was about to agree with you about deleting as it can invite a pointless conversation,it also means that if they message again they get the pop up telling them they have already mailed with no response previously |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Never recieved either from a first message but how would someone know what I want without a conversation of some sort. Clearly if I've messaged them there is something about them that I like. I would probably fund this one somewhat annoying "
From your profile, that's when we send it if their profile states things that we don't have.  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"[Removed by poster at 21/04/14 21:48:24]
I was about to agree with you about deleting as it can invite a pointless conversation,it also means that if they message again they get the pop up telling them they have already mailed with no response previously "
I reposted it above without the shitty grammar errors  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Never recieved either from a first message but how would someone know what I want without a conversation of some sort. Clearly if I've messaged them there is something about them that I like. I would probably fund this one somewhat annoying "
I have read some profiles where they ask for something/ someone particular and it's not me, so I've used the 2nd message. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"would be nice to get any reply . like most males here, messages just get deleted, without reply. lol"
But what difference does it make getting a reply that says "No thanks"?
The end result is the same. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Never recieved either from a first message but how would someone know what I want without a conversation of some sort. Clearly if I've messaged them there is something about them that I like. I would probably fund this one somewhat annoying
I have read some profiles where they ask for something/ someone particular and it's not me, so I've used the 2nd message."
Yes, as I've said above people often message us and the contents of their profile clearly show that we would not fit their requirements at all. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Never recieved either from a first message but how would someone know what I want without a conversation of some sort. Clearly if I've messaged them there is something about them that I like. I would probably fund this one somewhat annoying
From your profile, that's when we send it if their profile states things that we don't have. "
I wouldn't message someone that had clear differences. But then many don't bother reading profiles I guess |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Either is fine, rather that than be mucked about or just ignorance.
I must be in the minority because I honestly don't mind just being ignored.
If you put a gun to my headand asked me to choose one, I'd pick the first. "
yes, that's,a different way of looking at it. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Never used or received either , but then again we have never asked anyone if we are for them .
Those who message us who we are interested in we meet , and those we are not interested in we block .
Simple and effective , with no need for reasons  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Which of these rejection messages would you prefer to receive, and why?
"Sorry but you're not what I'm looking for."
Sorry but I'm not what you're looking for.""
I'm rather fond of the first option - I have become quite use to it now.
The second one would promt me to ask "how do you know you're not?" |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Never recieved either from a first message but how would someone know what I want without a conversation of some sort. Clearly if I've messaged them there is something about them that I like. I would probably fund this one somewhat annoying
From your profile, that's when we send it if their profile states things that we don't have.
I wouldn't message someone that had clear differences. But then many don't bother reading profiles I guess"
And your last sentence about sums it up |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Which of these rejection messages would you prefer to receive, and why?
"Sorry but you're not what I'm looking for."
Sorry but I'm not what you're looking for.""
The first one. I don't appreciate being told what I think or what I want.
I have previously pointed it out to people who have messaged me if I don't fit what their profile says they are looking for though. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
In the past I have used both.
Using the 1st one I get asked ~ what can I do to change your mind?
Using the 2nd one they reply ~ of course you're what I'm looking for.
so I stick with a ~ thanks but no thanks reply, easier! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Which of these rejection messages would you prefer to receive, and why?
"Sorry but you're not what I'm looking for."
Sorry but I'm not what you're looking for.""
The first as someone telling me what I am or am not looking for is presumptuous at best unless they are a mind reader they can only guess not know. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely the first no confusion that way on a separate note sperm whales produce 400 gallons of sperm 
do they? Blimey they must have to use big condoms  "
Although 360 gallons spill into the sea I smell unwanted pregnancy looming  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Definitely the first no confusion that way on a separate note sperm whales produce 400 gallons of sperm
do they? Blimey they must have to use big condoms
Although 360 gallons spill into the sea I smell unwanted pregnancy looming "
well I'm not going swimming in the sea again |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely the first no confusion that way on a separate note sperm whales produce 400 gallons of sperm
Have you been watching Blue Planet of something what with the turtles and now whales "
No I just enjoy useless facts |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely the first no confusion that way on a separate note sperm whales produce 400 gallons of sperm
do they? Blimey they must have to use big condoms
Although 360 gallons spill into the sea I smell unwanted pregnancy looming
well I'm not going swimming in the sea again "
Haha could spell disaster  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Definitely the first no confusion that way on a separate note sperm whales produce 400 gallons of sperm
do they? Blimey they must have to use big condoms
Although 360 gallons spill into the sea I smell unwanted pregnancy looming
well I'm not going swimming in the sea again
Haha could spell disaster "
how would you ever track down the father? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely the first no confusion that way on a separate note sperm whales produce 400 gallons of sperm
do they? Blimey they must have to use big condoms
Although 360 gallons spill into the sea I smell unwanted pregnancy looming
well I'm not going swimming in the sea again
Haha could spell disaster
how would you ever track down the father?"
Good point no child support plus mystery pregnancy could make a baby whale be though of as whale Jesus |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Definitely the first no confusion that way on a separate note sperm whales produce 400 gallons of sperm
do they? Blimey they must have to use big condoms
Although 360 gallons spill into the sea I smell unwanted pregnancy looming
well I'm not going swimming in the sea again
Haha could spell disaster
how would you ever track down the father?
Good point no child support plus mystery pregnancy could make a baby whale be though of as whale Jesus "
If I got pregnant it would be a miracle that's true |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I'd prefer the first, I think. Otherwise, it can be de-personalised, and made something like
'Sophie and Tim are currently pursuing a range of opportunities that have arisen, due to the current social climate that has become apparent'
or some other yuck stuff that an automated rejection anonymiser might create. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Which of these rejection messages would you prefer to receive, and why?
"Sorry but you're not what I'm looking for."
Sorry but I'm not what you're looking for.""
but I'll pay you anyway |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
The first for me ..... Would be a lot easier if they had a thanks but not thanks button ! One press auto response sent and maybe even an auto reminder that you said no already if they tried to mail you again ! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"The first for me ..... Would be a lot easier if they had a thanks but not thanks button ! One press auto response sent and maybe even an auto reminder that you said no already if they tried to mail you again ! "
did I say that? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
London |
"Which of these rejection messages would you prefer to receive, and why?
"Sorry but you're not what I'm looking for."
Sorry but I'm not what you're looking for.""
A knock back is a knock back, how ever which way you want to sugar coat it.
But some people on here are to up there own a**e to reply yes/no thankyou. After all,we are all in the same boat 'here to have fun'
So either is appropriate |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Which of these rejection messages would you prefer to receive, and why?
"Sorry but you're not what I'm looking for."
Sorry but I'm not what you're looking for.""
Wouldnt bother me which 1. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
To be honest. I really don't mind either. Even, if it is a no response. I really can't do much if they don't reply to my message. I'd take that as a no. I don't even look at my sent messages - what's the point? They can reply if they want to. It's not the end of the world.
...i've had people who've said i'm not what they are looking for message me back a few months down the line asking if i'm free to meet them or what not. I don't think i should be replying back saying 'yeah, but you dont fancy me so it wont happen'. Some have the cheek to say the other guys they chose over me weren't all that - i ain't going to be no 'ah he'll do for now'.
By that stage i'm already put off, as in the back of my head i'd be thinking she don't really fancy me to be honest.
However, i do like to know where i stand with people. Sometimes it feels as though many just lead me on. They have my number, message me, suggest arranging a meet but then they never do when it comes to the nitty gritty of sorting it.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Ive given up sending rejections as it without fail leads to another message thanking me for replying etc and thus perpetuates the endless stream of messages. At the moment my profile is very clear im not meeting so any message sent is pointless x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Ive given up sending rejections as it without fail leads to another message thanking me for replying etc and thus perpetuates the endless stream of messages. At the moment my profile is very clear im not meeting so any message sent is pointless x "
If someone says thank you for replying that's nice, surely. I always reply to the first message. No need to reply after that. No conversation, just happy people.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Which of these rejection messages would you prefer to receive, and why?
"Sorry but you're not what I'm looking for."
Sorry but I'm not what you're looking for.""
Either would be fine. Both are perfectly reasonable responses. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I would prefer the first but ive used the second when ive felt it was applicable"
We find it is the second response that guys have had trouble accepting, and go on to question why ? Our reasons are usually because the guy is interested, or presuing something, we just aren't into, and not a response to physical appearance. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *D40Couple
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
As the person who deals with messages in this partnership (female) I have to say I usually would respond to a message saying we were not interested. Seems very rude to delete or not reply.
Both the OP's responses were good but I think I like the second best
Julie x |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
We are always interested in receiving feedback from potential swinging partners, and thank you for your comments. We will be updating our profile shortly, so that you would never be under the misapprehension again that we'd meet someone like you. xxxxxxxxxxxx
That's dripping with empathy, and makes it fairly clear that it's all our fault. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
