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"Maybe you said something during the conversation that made her change her mind. " My first thought too | |||
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"Maybe you said something during the conversation that made her change her mind. " Women are odd mate they are mental and unpredictable compared to us blokes Just because a woman wants one thing now 3 seconds later she changed her mind It could have been anything that put her off in real life women ignore calls rather than just say no It's no different here than anywhere else And when Ypu realise that you will have more sex | |||
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"Can't you eat the food without her being there? If you can then that's not a reason to be pissed off lol It is weird. Maybe it was something you said, maybe something has happened in her personal life or maybe she just got cold feet. " The food is not the reason i'm pissed off, its the fact that people lead you along and i don't think anything has happened in her life and never said anything to offend or upset her as she seemed quite happy when we was on the phone, then literally seconds later blocked lol.And anyway you try eating a whole leg of lamb lol | |||
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"Maybe you said something during the conversation that made her change her mind. Women are odd mate they are mental and unpredictable compared to us blokes Just because a woman wants one thing now 3 seconds later she changed her mind It could have been anything that put her off in real life women ignore calls rather than just say no It's no different here than anywhere else And when Ypu realise that you will have more sex " Women are no more odd than men and as we only have one side of the story who's to say what really happened. Maybe if the lady in question realised a thread had been started about her then no doubt she'd be highly pissed off. Maybe she should start a thread of her own giving her side of events!! | |||
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"Can't you eat the food without her being there? If you can then that's not a reason to be pissed off lol It is weird. Maybe it was something you said, maybe something has happened in her personal life or maybe she just got cold feet. The food is not the reason i'm pissed off, its the fact that people lead you along and i don't think anything has happened in her life and never said anything to offend or upset her as she seemed quite happy when we was on the phone, then literally seconds later blocked lol.And anyway you try eating a whole leg of lamb lol" Have ya seen my pics?? That's an entre lol I do honestly get why you're pissed off but unfortunately it's not going to change things so best to brush yourself off, chalk it up to experience and move on. Sadly experiences like this are the reason most men choose not to go the extra mile and do nice things for meets. | |||
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"Maybe you said something during the conversation that made her change her mind. Women are odd mate they are mental and unpredictable compared to us blokes Just because a woman wants one thing now 3 seconds later she changed her mind It could have been anything that put her off in real life women ignore calls rather than just say no It's no different here than anywhere else And when Ypu realise that you will have more sex Women are no more odd than men and as we only have one side of the story who's to say what really happened. Maybe if the lady in question realised a thread had been started about her then no doubt she'd be highly pissed off. Maybe she should start a thread of her own giving her side of events!!" Funnily enough Paula says the same as you about men . But seriously some guys just don't get it that women are totally different species to men and what women like is not what men like , you know what I am trying to say . Oh yes nothing like starting a thread in the open forums about a woman being unreliable to guarantee future meets lol | |||
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"Maybe you said something during the conversation that made her change her mind. Women are odd mate they are mental and unpredictable compared to us blokes Just because a woman wants one thing now 3 seconds later she changed her mind It could have been anything that put her off in real life women ignore calls rather than just say no It's no different here than anywhere else And when Ypu realise that you will have more sex i think that men and women are as bad as each other in most things. " | |||
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"It really amazes me why people do it. I have been emailing texting and even talking on the phone with a woman for the past week and a bit and we had arranged a meet at mine today and all seemed good. Spoke on the phone a couple of times last night and after saying good night, i came on Fab only to have found i had been blocked. So i sent a text asking why and no reply, i then sent another asking if today was still on or off and a reply came back saying "off". To say i'm pissed off is an understatement, as i went shopping to buy some food to cook something and now its all for nothing. Surely the people at Fab can get their IP address and block them from ever using the site again. " Join the club Mate. Happens to quite a few of us. Put it down top experience an move on. | |||
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"Maybe you said something during the conversation that made her change her mind. " My initial thought too. | |||
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"It takes a fair bit of courage for a single Lady to meet a guy she has only ever chatted to on line or by txt, to meet him at his house, maybe you should have had a social at a place she was comfortable. " This! I've got balls of steel and wouldn't go to a strangers house for sex without meeting them socially on neutral ground first. Perhaps something you said inadvertently made her question the wisdom of meeting you op. Of course you don't think you've said anything untoward! | |||
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"It takes a fair bit of courage for a single Lady to meet a guy she has only ever chatted to on line or by txt, to meet him at his house, maybe you should have had a social at a place she was comfortable. This! I've got balls of steel and wouldn't go to a strangers house for sex without meeting them socially on neutral ground first. Perhaps something you said inadvertently made her question the wisdom of meeting you op. Of course you don't think you've said anything untoward! " So why didn't she say that she wanted a public social in the first place? | |||
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"It takes a fair bit of courage for a single Lady to meet a guy she has only ever chatted to on line or by txt, to meet him at his house, maybe you should have had a social at a place she was comfortable. This! I've got balls of steel and wouldn't go to a strangers house for sex without meeting them socially on neutral ground first. Perhaps something you said inadvertently made her question the wisdom of meeting you op. Of course you don't think you've said anything untoward! So why didn't she say that she wanted a public social in the first place?" Offered to meet socially in the week but was declined saying she was busy, which i can understand, but the point of it all is if they don't intend to meet why lead people along and waste their time. | |||
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"It takes a fair bit of courage for a single Lady to meet a guy she has only ever chatted to on line or by txt, to meet him at his house, maybe you should have had a social at a place she was comfortable. This! I've got balls of steel and wouldn't go to a strangers house for sex without meeting them socially on neutral ground first. Perhaps something you said inadvertently made her question the wisdom of meeting you op. Of course you don't think you've said anything untoward! So why didn't she say that she wanted a public social in the first place?" God knows! Some people get caught up in the moment, some piss take: who knows what goes on in some peoples head. | |||
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"It takes a fair bit of courage for a single Lady to meet a guy she has only ever chatted to on line or by txt, to meet him at his house, maybe you should have had a social at a place she was comfortable. This! I've got balls of steel and wouldn't go to a strangers house for sex without meeting them socially on neutral ground first. Perhaps something you said inadvertently made her question the wisdom of meeting you op. Of course you don't think you've said anything untoward! So why didn't she say that she wanted a public social in the first place? Offered to meet socially in the week but was declined saying she was busy, which i can understand, but the point of it all is if they don't intend to meet why lead people along and waste their time." I agree if she had changed her mind (which she is entitled to do) she should have let you no straight away! | |||
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"It takes a fair bit of courage for a single Lady to meet a guy she has only ever chatted to on line or by txt, to meet him at his house, maybe you should have had a social at a place she was comfortable. This! I've got balls of steel and wouldn't go to a strangers house for sex without meeting them socially on neutral ground first. Perhaps something you said inadvertently made her question the wisdom of meeting you op. Of course you don't think you've said anything untoward! So why didn't she say that she wanted a public social in the first place? Offered to meet socially in the week but was declined saying she was busy, which i can understand, but the point of it all is if they don't intend to meet why lead people along and waste their time." Lesson learned! I always insist on a social meet (yes, in Costas) during my lunch hour. If they can't make it I don't continue contact. In six years, no shows = 0! If someone is "too busy" for a coffee will they have time to do justice to a roast lunch, time for food to digest and then fuck you bandy?!! Better luck next time. | |||
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"Laughable some of the comments on here. The woman has totally led him on and he's the bad guy. So they chat for a week and suddenly at the last minute he says something wrong. More like she's married and can't get away from her family. Or likes the attention but doesn't actually want to go through with sex. Nice ego boost for her anyway. Have a nice roast today and curry with leftover lamb tomorrow. We're not all bad mannered like her, some of us are quite normal " | |||
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"Laughable some of the comments on here. The woman has totally led him on and he's the bad guy. So they chat for a week and suddenly at the last minute he says something wrong. More like she's married and can't get away from her family. Or likes the attention but doesn't actually want to go through with sex. Nice ego boost for her anyway. Have a nice roast today and curry with leftover lamb tomorrow. We're not all bad mannered like her, some of us are quite normal " | |||
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"It takes a fair bit of courage for a single Lady to meet a guy she has only ever chatted to on line or by txt, to meet him at his house, maybe you should have had a social at a place she was comfortable. This! I've got balls of steel and wouldn't go to a strangers house for sex without meeting them socially on neutral ground first. Perhaps something you said inadvertently made her question the wisdom of meeting you op. Of course you don't think you've said anything untoward! So why didn't she say that she wanted a public social in the first place? Offered to meet socially in the week but was declined saying she was busy, which i can understand, but the point of it all is if they don't intend to meet why lead people along and waste their time. Lesson learned! I always insist on a social meet (yes, in Costas) during my lunch hour. If they can't make it I don't continue contact. In six years, no shows = 0! If someone is "too busy" for a coffee will they have time to do justice to a roast lunch, time for food to digest and then fuck you bandy?!! Better luck next time. " This! ^ | |||
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"The worst kind of timewaster is one who removes their profile after a meet. My first experience of this... Arghhh" a timewaster is someone who does something to annoy you AFTER meeting you? well thats a new one on me | |||
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"my initial thought is that she felt it was going too quickly and was too much. no idea if this phantom woman was verified or not but a last thing at night couple of phonecalls and a nighty night thing would seem to be a little lovey dovey. maybe she just thought you were getting a little clingy. who knows." I like the way you are presuming he rang her. | |||
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"The worst kind of timewaster is one who removes their profile after a meet. My first experience of this... Arghhh a timewaster is someone who does something to annoy you AFTER meeting you? well thats a new one on me" | |||
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"my initial thought is that she felt it was going too quickly and was too much. no idea if this phantom woman was verified or not but a last thing at night couple of phonecalls and a nighty night thing would seem to be a little lovey dovey. maybe she just thought you were getting a little clingy. who knows." I received a text saying call me so i did and the goodnight was at the end of the call, nothing lovey dovey in that just courtesy lol | |||
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"im cofuddled . .how can you text someone Thats blocked?. . ." Sms text lol | |||
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"im cofuddled . .how can you text someone Thats blocked?. . ." On a phone maybe?? | |||
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"The worst kind of timewaster is one who removes their profile after a meet. My first experience of this... Arghhh a timewaster is someone who does something to annoy you AFTER meeting you? well thats a new one on me" wasted her time being nice to him | |||
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"Laughable some of the comments on here. The woman has totally led him on and he's the bad guy. So they chat for a week and suddenly at the last minute he says something wrong. More like she's married and can't get away from her family. Or likes the attention but doesn't actually want to go through with sex. Nice ego boost for her anyway. Have a nice roast today and curry with leftover lamb tomorrow. We're not all bad mannered like her, some of us are quite normal " | |||
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"my initial thought is that she felt it was going too quickly and was too much. no idea if this phantom woman was verified or not but a last thing at night couple of phonecalls and a nighty night thing would seem to be a little lovey dovey. maybe she just thought you were getting a little clingy. who knows." you're a proper romantic you are. Most men that want a goodnight chat from me want a wank before bed | |||
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"Laughable some of the comments on here. The woman has totally led him on and he's the bad guy. So they chat for a week and suddenly at the last minute he says something wrong. More like she's married and can't get away from her family. Or likes the attention but doesn't actually want to go through with sex. Nice ego boost for her anyway. Have a nice roast today and curry with leftover lamb tomorrow. We're not all bad mannered like her, some of us are quite normal " | |||
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"my initial thought is that she felt it was going too quickly and was too much. no idea if this phantom woman was verified or not but a last thing at night couple of phonecalls and a nighty night thing would seem to be a little lovey dovey. maybe she just thought you were getting a little clingy. who knows. I like the way you are presuming he rang her." didnt say who rang who sdid i? now whos being presumtuous? | |||
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"The worst kind of timewaster is one who removes their profile after a meet. My first experience of this... Arghhh a timewaster is someone who does something to annoy you AFTER meeting you? well thats a new one on me wasted her time being nice to him " but they met. i dont get it.... unless he proposed on that first meet, then ran a mile lol | |||
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"my initial thought is that she felt it was going too quickly and was too much. no idea if this phantom woman was verified or not but a last thing at night couple of phonecalls and a nighty night thing would seem to be a little lovey dovey. maybe she just thought you were getting a little clingy. who knows. I like the way you are presuming he rang her. didnt say who rang who sdid i? now whos being presumtuous?" That is blatantly what you were implying by saying he may have been getting to clingy. | |||
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"my initial thought is that she felt it was going too quickly and was too much. no idea if this phantom woman was verified or not but a last thing at night couple of phonecalls and a nighty night thing would seem to be a little lovey dovey. maybe she just thought you were getting a little clingy. who knows. I like the way you are presuming he rang her. didnt say who rang who sdid i? now whos being presumtuous? That is blatantly what you were implying by saying he may have been getting to clingy." and he did ring her, so there | |||
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"So women are mental eh? Men are the ones with egos that need soothing. No not the op x just just the sexist remark that made me realise some men are still living in the dark ages. Shame on you P " erm, women need egos massaging just as much as men, otherwise they wouldnt continuously ask how they look prance around in next to nothing looking for approval and make blokes jump through hoops then dash their hopes at the last minute. living in the dark ages? not likely, we are living in enlightened times, where women know how to play the game as much, if not more, than any man ever will | |||
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"So women are mental eh? Men are the ones with egos that need soothing. No not the op x just just the sexist remark that made me realise some men are still living in the dark ages. Shame on you P erm, women need egos massaging just as much as men, otherwise they wouldnt continuously ask how they look prance around in next to nothing looking for approval and make blokes jump through hoops then dash their hopes at the last minute. living in the dark ages? not likely, we are living in enlightened times, where women know how to play the game as much, if not more, than any man ever will" | |||
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"I've had similar experiences, chatting by txt, phone, seemingly getting on, arranging a social meet then either ignorance to any further contact, blocked or they've deleted their profile. Its frustrating but as it was only a social my time hasn't really been wasted. Sorry this happened OP, better luck with future meets " People who actually meet get this a lot , but when you get someone who turns up and they are what they say it's so worth the aggro | |||
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"my initial thought is that she felt it was going too quickly and was too much. no idea if this phantom woman was verified or not but a last thing at night couple of phonecalls and a nighty night thing would seem to be a little lovey dovey. maybe she just thought you were getting a little clingy. who knows. I like the way you are presuming he rang her. didnt say who rang who sdid i? now whos being presumtuous? That is blatantly what you were implying by saying he may have been getting to clingy. and he did ring her, so there " Lol | |||
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"So women are mental eh? Men are the ones with egos that need soothing. No not the op x just just the sexist remark that made me realise some men are still living in the dark ages. Shame on you P erm, women need egos massaging just as much as men, otherwise they wouldnt continuously ask how they look prance around in next to nothing looking for approval and make blokes jump through hoops then dash their hopes at the last minute. living in the dark ages? not likely, we are living in enlightened times, where women know how to play the game as much, if not more, than any man ever will" extremely well said | |||
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"So women are mental eh? Men are the ones with egos that need soothing. No not the op x just just the sexist remark that made me realise some men are still living in the dark ages. Shame on you P erm, women need egos massaging just as much as men, otherwise they wouldnt continuously ask how they look prance around in next to nothing looking for approval and make blokes jump through hoops then dash their hopes at the last minute. living in the dark ages? not likely, we are living in enlightened times, where women know how to play the game as much, if not more, than any man ever will extremely well said " how very DARE you agree with me...lol | |||
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"No big deal, cant you handle disappointment? " Some people have the skin of a rhino and don't give a shit, water off a ducks back, others are more sensitive but either way, I'd have been disappointed if someone had done that to me, I think anyone would. | |||
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"I think this one was definitely a waste of time as the OP went shopping and spent time to get to know the person. However as we will never know why she did what she did then its useless to wonder at her motives. She cancelled the meet (which is more than most do) and blocked the OP. Not very nice, but then why would you want to meet someone who behaves like that? Do as suggested earlier - put a meet request up. If not successful cook yourself a nice meal and have a beer. Better luck next time." Good advice... At least she cancelled, some only block after the meet hour has come and gone. You will probably never know the reasons so just let it go and have a great day anyway. | |||
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"Maybe you said something during theDon't nversation that made her change her mind. Women are odd mate they are mental and unpredictable compared to us blokes Just because a woman wants one thing now 3 seconds later she changed her mind It could have been anything that put her off in real life women ignore calls rather than just say no It's no different here than anywhere else And when Ypu realise that you will have more sex Women are no more odd than men and as we only have one side of the story who's to say what really happened. Maybe if the lady in question realised a thread had been started about her then no doubt she'd be highly pissed off. Maybe she should start a thread of her own giving her side of events!!" Well put. Could be any number of reasons. Don't get how some men think everything is a given, life just ain't like that. So the OP can have a leg of lambover rather than a legover | |||
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"Can't you eat the food without her being there? If you can then that's not a reason to be pissed off lol It is weird. Maybe it was something you said, maybe something has happened in her personal life or maybe she just got cold feet. The food is not the reason i'm pissed off, its the fact that people lead you along and i don't think anything has happened in her life and never said anything to offend or upset her as she seemed quite happy when we was on the phone, then literally seconds later blocked lol.And anyway you try eating a whole leg of lamb lol" I've alway found vegetarians a little flighty (Joke) | |||
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"Maybe you said something during the conversation that made her change her mind. " I think this is a good explanation. We have chatted to people, who at first seemed pleasant and normal, and out of the blue, they have made a strange/worrying comment or suggestion. It can be a deal breaker. Some things can't be " un said". | |||
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