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Your a straight guy....really??

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

We have on our profile that we will meet straight guys, so from that statement one would assume that we would not get responses from bi or bi curious guys....wrong we get them all the time, they see a pic of a lady and then cock and brain can't communicate......

What really gets us however is the number of guys who have on their profile that they are straight, and when you look at their friends list it seems to be made up entirely of other guys, tv, ts with possibly the odd couple or female.......come on guys you are either straight or not!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

However having friends who are tv's/CD's bi sexual etc doesn't mean they are not straight themselves does it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"However having friends who are tv's/CD's bi sexual etc doesn't mean they are not straight themselves does it?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"However having friends who are tv's/CD's bi sexual etc doesn't mean they are not straight themselves does it?"

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

*checks*

Nope, I'm definitely not a straight guy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess if they are bi and contacting you its the fem on your profile they are interested in. After all they are Bi not gay.

Unlike many other couples, you haven't wasted time writing "we don't meet Bi guys" on your profile. I assume this is because, unlike the more naive out there, you realise that many of the 'straight' guys are secretly Bi anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One thing you can assume on fab is you will get unwanted attention regardless of what you have on your profile.

Block single guys and find what you are after or deal with the messages unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For a while I got a few msgs off guys saying in straight but would love to suck you dick always thought that's was strange

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"We have on our profile that we will meet straight guys, so from that statement one would assume that we would not get responses from bi or bi curious guys....wrong we get them all the time, they see a pic of a lady and then cock and brain can't communicate......

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

many of the guys frequenting the dunes will be getting poppered up in the back rooms of the Yumbo

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Oh and don't we know it, been to the dunes many times, 75% of the guys there are gay.........

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Oh and don't we know it, been to the dunes many times, 75% of the guys there are gay.........

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Oh and don't we know it, been to the dunes many times, 75% of the guys there are gay.........

it was a great past time seeing the guys who were out for a stroll whilst the wife was either sunbathing or having an early night...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I found your profile a tad confusing so possibly others do as well?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"One thing you can assume on fab is you will get unwanted attention regardless of what you have on your profile."

Yes and we understand that, we have been on here long enough to realize that.... it would just make a pleasant change if guys stopped being chancers, winking at everyone they see etc and learn to read profiles and respond accordingly...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I found your profile a tad confusing so possibly others do as well?"

What is there to confuse???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One thing you can assume on fab is you will get unwanted attention regardless of what you have on your profile.

Oooh ! Is that a pig I see flying overhead ?

Like with many things in life, some things will never change

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One thing you can assume on fab is you will get unwanted attention regardless of what you have on your profile.

It would make a change but most will just look at a profile's pictures and then send a wink, friend invite, 'Hi, how are you, etc

Lost track of how many guys and couples with a Bi female assume the pics of me are my wife and assume she's the Bisexual one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could quite easily name 50 local guys on here who have straight profiles but also have accounts on men only sites.

There is one guy in particular who I met umpteen times when I was here as a single who is here as straight and only meets women, yet had at least 3 bi /gay profiles that I knew of.

It wasn't a problem to me and it isn't a problem to us, but yes, for those that do care about such things, there are disingenuous people here.

Surely it isn't that surprising ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No its not surprising and like all things in life you have to make your own choices given the information in front of you, but the first supposed straight guy who makes a move on me instead of my wife is in for a swift kick in the nadgers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No its not surprising and like all things in life you have to make your own choices given the information in front of you, but the first supposed straight guy who makes a move on me instead of my wife is in for a swift kick in the nadgers

you would think that here, if anywhere, they would have enoughcouples with a bi chap to go at wouldn't ya ?

i think it's a case of

a) being greedy

b) hedging their bets

c) chancing their arm, or

d) all of the above

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

you would think that here, if anywhere, they would have enoughcouples with a bi chap to go at wouldn't ya ?

i think it's a case of

a) being greedy

b) hedging their bets

c) chancing their arm, or

d) all of the above

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

many of the guys frequenting the dunes will be getting poppered up in the back rooms of the Yumbo

I read this in an Australian accent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I guess if they are bi and contacting you its the fem on your profile they are interested in. After all they are Bi not gay.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fair enough.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

im not gay, but have bloke friends.

is that not possible on here?

just because its a site used to organise sexual liaisons doesnt mean everyone on a friends list is to be shagged.they could actually be friends.

struck up a nice friendship over messages.

nthing sexual in it

but hey, it is what you say it is.

it has to be

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One thing you can assume on fab is you will get unwanted attention regardless of what you have on your profile.

Yes it would be pleasant if everybody on fab followed that advice. But I think turning water into wine has better odds

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

im not gay, but have bloke friends.

is that not possible on here?

just because its a site used to organise sexual liaisons doesnt mean everyone on a friends list is to be shagged.they could actually be friends.

struck up a nice friendship over messages.

nthing sexual in it

but hey, it is what you say it is.

it has to be"

yeah of course we realize that not all friends lists are potential shag material, but do me a favour there is one straight guy profile on fab who has approached us and his friends list comprised 6 tv/ts 6 men, and one woman......... now tell me this guy is straight

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have male friends on here, some of them are bi. I also have friends that are TV's.

A person's friend list and to some degree, their verifications, mean bugger all with regards to their sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

ok, he is straight.

there, was easy lol.

he may just find it easier to converse with men, of ay variety.

i can get a little tongue tied chatting with women, so he may be shy.

if he isnt your thing, then move over.

he isnt harming you in any way

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you would think that here, if anywhere, they would have enoughcouples with a bi chap to go at wouldn't ya ?

i think it's a case of

a) being greedy

b) hedging their bets

c) chancing their arm, or

d) all of the above

It's not that easy to find those couples with fabs limited search facility.

As I said earlier though; just because you're Bi doesn't mean you want every meet to be a bi one.

If we meet a couple 99.9% of the time it's because we want a straight swap. If we wanted a bi meet we wouldn't pick a couple because it would mean the girls wouldn't get much attention.

Single bi guys for bi meets. Couples = straight meets to us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have male friends on here, some of them are bi. I also have friends that are TV's.

A person's friend list and to some degree, their verifications, mean bugger all with regards to their sexuality."

Then what is the point of profiles or verifications....this is Fab not Facebook

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have male friends on here, some of them are bi. I also have friends that are TV's.

A person's friend list and to some degree, their verifications, mean bugger all with regards to their sexuality.

Then what is the point of profiles or verifications....this is Fab not Facebook

Good point!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have male friends on here, some of them are bi. I also have friends that are TV's.

A person's friend list and to some degree, their verifications, mean bugger all with regards to their sexuality.

Then what is the point of profiles or verifications....this is Fab not Facebook

And funnily enough people are allowed to set up their profiles and use the site how they like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have male friends on here, some of them are bi. I also have friends that are TV's.

A person's friend list and to some degree, their verifications, mean bugger all with regards to their sexuality.

Then what is the point of profiles or verifications....this is Fab not Facebook

And funnily enough people are allowed to set up their profiles and use the site how they like

It's all just so very wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ok, he is straight.

there, was easy lol.

he may just find it easier to converse with men, of ay variety.

i can get a little tongue tied chatting with women, so he may be shy.

if he isnt your thing, then move over.

he isnt harming you in any way"

Either build a bridge and get over it or change your settings... What about all the "straight " guys you may meet that don't show their friends list or veri's.. There's a lot worse things happening in the world to get stresses over ... We all have the power to click and delete

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you would think that here, if anywhere, they would have enoughcouples with a bi chap to go at wouldn't ya ?

i think it's a case of

a) being greedy

b) hedging their bets

c) chancing their arm, or

d) all of the above

It's not that easy to find those couples with fabs limited search facility.

As I said earlier though; just because you're Bi doesn't mean you want every meet to be a bi one.

If we meet a couple 99.9% of the time it's because we want a straight swap. If we wanted a bi meet we wouldn't pick a couple because it would mean the girls wouldn't get much attention.

Single bi guys for bi meets. Couples = straight meets to us. "

You must be meeting the wrong bi couples.

;-)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have male friends on here, some of them are bi. I also have friends that are TV's.

A person's friend list and to some degree, their verifications, mean bugger all with regards to their sexuality.

Then what is the point of profiles or verifications....this is Fab not Facebook

Because, and hold onto your hats, swinging is also a social pastime! Novel concept, I know!

Some of my verifications are from men, I've not shagged them and have no intention of doing so but we've met at a social, shared a beer or two and oggled some ladies together.

Your point about Fab not being Facebook is correct but only in the truest sense, people still join this site and strike up friendships.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you would think that here, if anywhere, they would have enoughcouples with a bi chap to go at wouldn't ya ?

i think it's a case of

a) being greedy

b) hedging their bets

c) chancing their arm, or

d) all of the above

It's not that easy to find those couples with fabs limited search facility.

As I said earlier though; just because you're Bi doesn't mean you want every meet to be a bi one.

If we meet a couple 99.9% of the time it's because we want a straight swap. If we wanted a bi meet we wouldn't pick a couple because it would mean the girls wouldn't get much attention.

Single bi guys for bi meets. Couples = straight meets to us.

You must be meeting the wrong bi couples.

;-)

nice move Scarlet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you would think that here, if anywhere, they would have enoughcouples with a bi chap to go at wouldn't ya ?

i think it's a case of

a) being greedy

b) hedging their bets

c) chancing their arm, or

d) all of the above

It's not that easy to find those couples with fabs limited search facility.

As I said earlier though; just because you're Bi doesn't mean you want every meet to be a bi one.

If we meet a couple 99.9% of the time it's because we want a straight swap. If we wanted a bi meet we wouldn't pick a couple because it would mean the girls wouldn't get much attention.

Single bi guys for bi meets. Couples = straight meets to us.

You must be meeting the wrong bi couples.

;-)

nice move Scarlet

Lol. I'm not quite understanding this now. It must be my blonde bob getting in my eyes

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By *uestandpinkCouple over a year ago

Northampton

Spot on . Some people think it is facebook and others lie through there teeth sadly. A friends list ...and their profile interests do give a good indication of where they are going though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"ok, he is straight.

there, was easy lol.

he may just find it easier to converse with men, of ay variety.

i can get a little tongue tied chatting with women, so he may be shy.

if he isnt your thing, then move over.

he isnt harming you in any way

We wouldnt meet a straight guy who had no friends list or veris

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

some are so desperate for their hole, they will do and/or say anything to get it.

it ain't gonna change anytime soon

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

im not gay, but have bloke friends.

is that not possible on here?

just because its a site used to organise sexual liaisons doesnt mean everyone on a friends list is to be shagged.they could actually be friends.

struck up a nice friendship over messages.

nthing sexual in it

but hey, it is what you say it is.

it has to be

So is it impossible for a bi guy to play straight in a meet if required?

Personally as a TS here, I have quite a few straight guy friends on here. They are definitely straight cause I'm a woman. I just happen to be a bi woman that's why I go for couple meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same."

If a guy likes a dick in his mouth or likes having his dick sucked by another man surely they are bi sexual,don't agree with the bi playful term.Same for ladies aswell.

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"I have male friends on here, some of them are bi. I also have friends that are TV's.

A person's friend list and to some degree, their verifications, mean bugger all with regards to their sexuality.

Then what is the point of profiles or verifications....this is Fab not Facebook

Because, and hold onto your hats, swinging is also a social pastime! Novel concept, I know!

Some of my verifications are from men, I've not shagged them and have no intention of doing so but we've met at a social, shared a beer or two and oggled some ladies together.

Your point about Fab not being Facebook is correct but only in the truest sense, people still join this site and strike up friendships.

Absolutely. About 90% of my Veris are from social meets and yes I know a lot of straight men that way too. Shocker eh.

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By *entaur_UKMan over a year ago

Cannock

"I have male friends on here, some of them are bi. I also have friends that are TV's.

A person's friend list and to some degree, their verifications, mean bugger all with regards to their sexuality.

Then what is the point of profiles or verifications....this is Fab not Facebook

Because, and hold onto your hats, swinging is also a social pastime! Novel concept, I know!

Some of my verifications are from men, I've not shagged them and have no intention of doing so but we've met at a social, shared a beer or two and oggled some ladies together.

Your point about Fab not being Facebook is correct but only in the truest sense, people still join this site and strike up friendships.

I agree with MrWho, as i am 100% straight but have a veri from a tv/ts who i met at a forum social here on fab, nothing sexual happened but i spoke to the person so they kindly left me a veri. Again there is a social side to swinging. As for this not being facebook, you seem to be missing the point of the verification system. The verification system is there so others can verify you are genuine. If you meet someone in a social setting they can still verify that you are a genuine real peron without anything sexual happening. I always take time to read profiles in full and all the verifications so i am in full knowledge of the facts about that person before i email them. Others should do the same before they jump to conclusions simply because a guy has a veri or someone on friends list of the same sex.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"ok, he is straight.

there, was easy lol.

he may just find it easier to converse with men, of ay variety.

i can get a little tongue tied chatting with women, so he may be shy.

if he isnt your thing, then move over.

he isnt harming you in any way

We wouldnt meet a straight guy who had no friends list or veris"

And that's down to your personal choice but friends lists and veri's ain't no g'tee... You have a choice here, as does everybody, to use the site as and how each member wants. Personally I wouldn't be into meeting a couple who are into dressing like a lamp post or letterbox and playing on the roof of a towerblock dressed as such, I would just thank them politely for their interest and move on...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Spot on . Some people think it is facebook and others lie through there teeth sadly. A friends list ...and their profile interests do give a good indication of where they are going though"

I, respectfully, couldn't disagree more (although I agree about the liars)!

I have friends on here the same as I have friends on Facebook. I keep those two aspects of my life seperate. My profile quite clearly says that I'll happily chat with any gender or sexual orientation, why? Because I'm actually a friendly, sociable bloke....mostly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You know, any guy worth a damn on this site (and worth meeting) would respect boundaries - straight, bi, gay or anything in between.

Contrary to some beliefs, we are not all testosterone fuelled asshats and can actually understand that if are playing with a straight couple that cock is off the menu. Have you ever thought that maybe we don't fancy a bit of the male half or would that damage the ego?

Bi guy playing with straight couple is there to play with the lady as much as the straight guy would be.

This is another example where the bi male is being singled out again with a little mild homophobia for good measure.

Sigh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know, any guy worth a damn on this site (and worth meeting) would respect boundaries - straight, bi, gay or anything in between.

Bi guy playing with straight couple is there to play with the lady as much as the straight guy would be.

This is another example where the bi male is being singled out again with a little mild homophobia for good measure.

Sigh."

Well said that man - not every one of us single guys on here is a moronic sex crazed idiot, with no sense of self, or others.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"However having friends who are tv's/CD's bi sexual etc doesn't mean they are not straight themselves does it?"

Spot on you are not gay/bi just because you talk to someone who is! Far too many people assume things with FA real knowledge.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same.

If a guy likes a dick in his mouth or likes having his dick sucked by another man surely they are bi sexual,don't agree with the bi playful term.Same for ladies aswell.

Sexual orientation comes from the brain. No way do I want an intimate sexual relationship with a woman. I'm quite happy to have the very infrequent sexual interaction with other females. On a cerebral sexual level they do nothing for me. On a physical sexual level I'll have a little fun.

Can you not see the difference?

If I never had another female dabble, it wouldn't bother me. There are no needs to fulfil. Gimme a horny, intelligent, humorous man.

My orientation IS straight. My point is that some straight men may also be of the same thinking.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of my veris are from a group social and are from guys.

I've also made friends who are gay , bi or tv/ts. It's doesn't make me gay - but I don't mind chatting to them.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same.

If a guy likes a dick in his mouth or likes having his dick sucked by another man surely they are bi sexual,don't agree with the bi playful term.Same for ladies aswell.

thats a load of shite.

V doesnt count herself as bisexual as she has no sexual desire for women.

but she will play with women in the right setting and if it feels ok.

she is a hell of a lot more straight than bi or gay anyway

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same.

If a guy likes a dick in his mouth or likes having his dick sucked by another man surely they are bi sexual,don't agree with the bi playful term.Same for ladies aswell.

thats a load of shite.

V doesnt count herself as bisexual as she has no sexual desire for women.

but she will play with women in the right setting and if it feels ok.

she is a hell of a lot more straight than bi or gay anyway"

How can you not desire someone and play sexually with them?

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

To the OP...you can't catch bi or gay and having friends who are bi or gay doesn't make you bi.

Now if you were talking about someone having veri's of playing with someone of the same sex and still insist they were straight, then I would be thinking they were kidding themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same.

If a guy likes a dick in his mouth or likes having his dick sucked by another man surely they are bi sexual,don't agree with the bi playful term.Same for ladies aswell.

thats a load of shite.

V doesnt count herself as bisexual as she has no sexual desire for women.

but she will play with women in the right setting and if it feels ok.

she is a hell of a lot more straight than bi or gay anyway"

That doesn't make any sense im afraid

In my opinion if your a lady or man who likes a bit of fun with the same sex aswell as the opposite then you are bisexual.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same.

If a guy likes a dick in his mouth or likes having his dick sucked by another man surely they are bi sexual,don't agree with the bi playful term.Same for ladies aswell.

thats a load of shite.

V doesnt count herself as bisexual as she has no sexual desire for women.

but she will play with women in the right setting and if it feels ok.

she is a hell of a lot more straight than bi or gay anyway

That doesn't make any sense im afraid

In my opinion if your a lady or man who likes a bit of fun with the same sex aswell as the opposite then you are bisexual."

It doesn't make sense to you doesn't invalidate how I or Venus feel about our orientation. Eight years ago I would have agreed with you but back then I had neither the experience or knowledge I have today.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

V doesnt count herself as bisexual as she has no sexual desire for women.

but she will play with women in the right setting and if it feels ok.

so to me she is bi sexual..

she plays with women.

Doesnt have to be a constant thing, but the fact you said 'she will play with women' makes her bi sexual

look its all labels, ignore them or whatever but to me reading what you just said V is Bi sexual.. just happens a few times when the moods right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same.

If a guy likes a dick in his mouth or likes having his dick sucked by another man surely they are bi sexual,don't agree with the bi playful term.Same for ladies aswell.

thats a load of shite.

V doesnt count herself as bisexual as she has no sexual desire for women.

but she will play with women in the right setting and if it feels ok.

she is a hell of a lot more straight than bi or gay anyway

That doesn't make any sense im afraid

In my opinion if your a lady or man who likes a bit of fun with the same sex aswell as the opposite then you are bisexual.

To say you have no desire for something then to do it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

V doesnt count herself as bisexual as she has no sexual desire for women.

but she will play with women in the right setting and if it feels ok.

so to me she is bi sexual..

she plays with women.

Doesnt have to be a constant thing, but the fact you said 'she will play with women' makes her bi sexual

look its all labels, ignore them or whatever but to me reading what you just said V is Bi sexual.. just happens a few times when the moods right "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same.

If a guy likes a dick in his mouth or likes having his dick sucked by another man surely they are bi sexual,don't agree with the bi playful term.Same for ladies aswell.

thats a load of shite.

V doesnt count herself as bisexual as she has no sexual desire for women.

but she will play with women in the right setting and if it feels ok.

she is a hell of a lot more straight than bi or gay anyway

How can you not desire someone and play sexually with them?"

You can desire the interaction as opposed to the person. This was my discovery when I was dating a swinger and we went to clubs. The sexual contact was merely an extension of socialising.

One on one is different though. I want that desire.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I found your profile a tad confusing so possibly others do as well?"

So not just me then

The profile is pretty clear about not meeting under 35's. But if I was a single bi male I wouldn't read you profile and feel that I couldn't message you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some of the opinions expressed herein are the reason why so many bi guys put straight on their profile, exacerbating a culture of lying to get something/anything.

Some days I feel that the scene is becoming less about the person and more about label.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

In real life there would be no need for "labels" but surely to be able to find what you are looking for on here you would need an indication of what the other person is looking for too?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some days I feel that the scene is becoming less about the person and more about label.

i feel we need labels though else how will we know what to look for if everything is a blank canvas.

i just find it sad people live in denial and arent proud enough of their own preferences to stand up tall and be accounted for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I found your profile a tad confusing so possibly others do as well?

So not just me then

The profile is pretty clear about not meeting under 35's. But if I was a single bi male I wouldn't read you profile and feel that I couldn't message you. "

Pretty obvious we dont meet bi guys as our profile mentions STRAIGHT guys in the first sentence, so you can't read either?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some days I feel that the scene is becoming less about the person and more about label.

i feel we need labels though else how will we know what to look for if everything is a blank canvas.

i just find it sad people live in denial and arent proud enough of their own preferences to stand up tall and be accounted for. "

Is there anyone in this thread who is in denial then? Or is it that some people refuse to be classified by certain labels that may suit some people but not themselves?

Human beings are complex creatures and everything is not in black and white.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I found your profile a tad confusing so possibly others do as well?

So not just me then

The profile is pretty clear about not meeting under 35's. But if I was a single bi male I wouldn't read you profile and feel that I couldn't message you.

Pretty obvious we dont meet bi guys as our profile mentions STRAIGHT guys in the first sentence, so you can't read either?"

No need to get personal. Yes I can read, and I also read the bit that says "interested in meeting single guys"...

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Never really understood the won't meet bi guys bit. It's not as if all bi peeps are uncontrollable sex maniacs who will do their utmost to jump everything in sight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I found your profile a tad confusing so possibly others do as well?

So not just me then

The profile is pretty clear about not meeting under 35's. But if I was a single bi male I wouldn't read you profile and feel that I couldn't message you.

Pretty obvious we dont meet bi guys as our profile mentions STRAIGHT guys in the first sentence, so you can't read either?

No need to get personal. Yes I can read, and I also read the bit that says "interested in meeting single guys"...

Ok so just in case the message isnt clear enough we will add straight in the sentence quoted above......doubt it will stop the bi guys contacting us though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I found your profile a tad confusing so possibly others do as well?

So not just me then

The profile is pretty clear about not meeting under 35's. But if I was a single bi male I wouldn't read you profile and feel that I couldn't message you.

Pretty obvious we dont meet bi guys as our profile mentions STRAIGHT guys in the first sentence, so you can't read either?

No need to get personal. Yes I can read, and I also read the bit that says "interested in meeting single guys"...

Ok so just in case the message isnt clear enough we will add straight in the sentence quoted above......doubt it will stop the bi guys contacting us though

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By *otTheReal01Man over a year ago

London

"You know, any guy worth a damn on this site (and worth meeting) would respect boundaries - straight, bi, gay or anything in between.

Bi guy playing with straight couple is there to play with the lady as much as the straight guy would be.

This is another example where the bi male is being singled out again with a little mild homophobia for good measure.

Sigh."

Well said. It makes me laugh when I see couples who won't meet Bi guys because the husband is worried the guy will try it on with him. What a joke.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You know, any guy worth a damn on this site (and worth meeting) would respect boundaries - straight, bi, gay or anything in between.

Bi guy playing with straight couple is there to play with the lady as much as the straight guy would be.

This is another example where the bi male is being singled out again with a little mild homophobia for good measure.

Sigh.

Well said. It makes me laugh when I see couples who won't meet Bi guys because the husband is worried the guy will try it on with him. What a joke."

Its not whether the guy trys it on with me or not, its the fact that he has stuck his cock in another guy thats puts us both off........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You know, any guy worth a damn on this site (and worth meeting) would respect boundaries - straight, bi, gay or anything in between.

Bi guy playing with straight couple is there to play with the lady as much as the straight guy would be.

This is another example where the bi male is being singled out again with a little mild homophobia for good measure.

Sigh.

Well said. It makes me laugh when I see couples who won't meet Bi guys because the husband is worried the guy will try it on with him. What a joke."

Yes but it is there choice to meet who they want.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Its not whether the guy trys it on with me or not, its the fact that he has stuck his cock in another guy thats puts us both off........

What about if they've done anal with a lass? Would that put you off?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Its not whether the guy trys it on with me or not, its the fact that he has stuck his cock in another guy thats puts us both off........

What about if they've done anal with a lass? Would that put you off?

Oh come on......are you for real?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you were out, as a couple and met a guy in a pub and decided to invite him home for a threesome how would you know if he doesn't say or if you don't ask?

Would it make the slightest difference if everyone enjoyed it and the other guy managed to control himself and keep his hands off the other bloke?

Does it really bloody matter?

People are far too hung up on labels these days and make assumptions that simply aren't true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If you were out, as a couple and met a guy in a pub and decided to invite him home for a threesome how would you know if he doesn't say or if you don't ask?

Would it make the slightest difference if everyone enjoyed it and the other guy managed to control himself and keep his hands off the other bloke?

Does it really bloody matter?

People are far too hung up on labels these days and make assumptions that simply aren't true."

In that instance what you dont know doesnt harm you so no it doesnt matter, but if he says he is bi the to us it does

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same.

If a guy likes a dick in his mouth or likes having his dick sucked by another man surely they are bi sexual,don't agree with the bi playful term.Same for ladies aswell.

Me Neither!Bi Playful - my arse!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not bi curious or bi sexual but I am bi playful. IE I'll play with women under the right circumstances but there's no mental sexual connection.

Perhaps some of these straight guys feel the same.

If a guy likes a dick in his mouth or likes having his dick sucked by another man surely they are bi sexual,don't agree with the bi playful term.Same for ladies aswell.

Me Neither!Bi Playful - my arse!

So your arse is bi playful, way to go girl

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By *otTheReal01Man over a year ago

London

"If you were out, as a couple and met a guy in a pub and decided to invite him home for a threesome how would you know if he doesn't say or if you don't ask?

In that instance what you dont know doesnt harm you so no it doesnt matter, but if he says he is bi the to us it does

"
Which is exactly why so many guys have "straight" on their profile. I don't agree with it either but they're just playing the numbers game.

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By *otTheReal01Man over a year ago

London

"Yes but it is there choice to meet who they want.

It is but it does amuse me the way Homophobia and many other prejudices are conveniently re-branded as "choices" on this site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you were out, as a couple and met a guy in a pub and decided to invite him home for a threesome how would you know if he doesn't say or if you don't ask?

Would it make the slightest difference if everyone enjoyed it and the other guy managed to control himself and keep his hands off the other bloke?

Does it really bloody matter?

People are far too hung up on labels these days and make assumptions that simply aren't true.

In that instance what you dont know doesnt harm you so no it doesnt matter, but if he says he is bi the to us it does

All that matters is what you want and who you do and don't want to meet. You don't have to justify yourself to anyone. x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes but it is there choice to meet who they want.

It is but it does amuse me the way Homophobia and many other prejudices are conveniently re-branded as "choices" on this site.

I think it's disgusting that people get branded homophobic just because they don't want to play with a bi guy.

I turned down a bi guy last night. Am I homophobic???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes but it is there choice to meet who they want.

It is but it does amuse me the way Homophobia and many other prejudices are conveniently re-branded as "choices" on this site.

I think it's disgusting that people get branded homophobic just because they don't want to play with a bi guy.

I turned down a bi guy last night. Am I homophobic???"

No your a hypocrite.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes but it is there choice to meet who they want.

It is but it does amuse me the way Homophobia and many other prejudices are conveniently re-branded as "choices" on this site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bi-curious and profile says exactly what's in the tin, everyone should be honest right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes but it is there choice to meet who they want.

It is but it does amuse me the way Homophobia and many other prejudices are conveniently re-branded as "choices" on this site.

I think it's disgusting that people get branded homophobic just because they don't want to play with a bi guy.

I turned down a bi guy last night. Am I homophobic???

No your a hypocrite."

Why am I a hypocrite?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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pmsl just to let you know am 100% straight

A dont want a kick in the nadgers if i bump into you on holiday

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

no danger of that happening then

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No your a hypocrite."

Why does not wanting a bi guy make someone a hypocrite ?

As to the original question.. Lee is often getting offers from "straight" guys .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No your a hypocrite.

Why does not wanting a bi guy make someone a hypocrite ?

As to the original question.. Lee is often getting offers from "straight" guys . "

I am still confused by the hypocrite comment too. I said I turned a bi guy down. I didn't say it was because he was bi......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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Op sure you would get bi guys or don't u have a 3 sum with ur hubby and the other guy?.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No your a hypocrite.

Why does not wanting a bi guy make someone a hypocrite ?

As to the original question.. Lee is often getting offers from "straight" guys .

I am still confused by the hypocrite comment too. I said I turned a bi guy down. I didn't say it was because he was bi......

Was it because he was FAT ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Op sure you would get bi guys or don't u have a 3 sum with ur hubby and the other guy?."

Don't do threesome's,she plays, he watches

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op sure you would get bi guys or don't u have a 3 sum with ur hubby and the other guy?.

Don't do threesome's,she plays, he watches

"
Ah yes, that explains it lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No your a hypocrite.

Why does not wanting a bi guy make someone a hypocrite ?

As to the original question.. Lee is often getting offers from "straight" guys .

I am still confused by the hypocrite comment too. I said I turned a bi guy down. I didn't say it was because he was bi......

Was it because he was FAT ?

CURVY.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No your a hypocrite.

Why does not wanting a bi guy make someone a hypocrite ?

As to the original question.. Lee is often getting offers from "straight" guys .

I am still confused by the hypocrite comment too. I said I turned a bi guy down. I didn't say it was because he was bi......

Was it because he was FAT ?

CURVY.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its not whether the guy trys it on with me or not, its the fact that he has stuck his cock in another guy thats puts us both off........

What about if they've done anal with a lass? Would that put you off?

Oh come on......are you for real? "

I'm bi but I've never stuck my dick in a guys ass.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm bi but becoming straighter....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm single and straight but I sometimes get some urges towards my father in law..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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..Love it well said girl,lady,woman.xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes but it is there choice to meet who they want.

It is but it does amuse me the way Homophobia and many other prejudices are conveniently re-branded as "choices" on this site.

isn't it about who turns you on? Are we supposed to change our choices to keep everyone happy but ourselves?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less. "

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

I keep mine trim for meets

That's all right then!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

Bears Aloud.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

Bears Aloud.

I do have 'previous' with a showbear

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

So the lesson from the thread is that people who are friendly and tolerant, making and accepting friends with others on here, irrespective of sexuality and gender, may like to keep their friends list hidden. People will reach all manner of conclusions based on almost no information. Almost welcomes back the bad old days of homophobia and transphobia, when people segregated and were unfriendly to other camps.

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By *aster of a mindCouple over a year ago

York

"I guess if they are bi and contacting you its the fem on your profile they are interested in. After all they are Bi not gay.

You maybe right, a lot of Bui guys do say they are straight. we won't meet Bi men, before we meet any couples/single men we scrutinize their veri's to see if there is any hint of them being Bi. We also write notes on profiles who out themselves as Bi on forum threads but say they are straight on their profile. I know it is not completely faultless but it's the best we can do.

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By *reelove1969Couple over a year ago

bristol

a veri means you have met someone and they exist ..i think you guys have the fault and need to sort your filters out if it is this much of a drama

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a TV or a guy man takes the time to message me I always reply, usually end up chatting and I'm straight. They know I am and nothing will happen. It's nice to chat to people whatever sexual preference they have.

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

sorry to pick you up on this as you've made some good comments about homophobia, but you've just used a fairly transphobic term. Tranny is a word that equates to calling a gay guy a fag, so I would appreciate people not using it.

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"If a TV or a guy man takes the time to message me I always reply, usually end up chatting and I'm straight. They know I am and nothing will happen. It's nice to chat to people whatever sexual preference they have. "

Nice attitude. It's a compliment if they like the look of you. Just let them massage your ego a bit and enjoy it. As long as they know that you're not interested then no harm is there. Nice to chat to people that like to communicate in messages greater than one line.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

Tranny!!

You learn something new every day. I can't keep up sometimes. What words e would you like us to use instead and are there any more we shouldn't use.

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Its not whether the guy trys it on with me or not, its the fact that he has stuck his cock in another guy thats puts us both off........

What about if they've done anal with a lass? Would that put you off?

Oh come on......are you for real? "

Of course all bi guys do anal don't they.???

There are a lot of orally bj guys on here that wouldn't dream of that.

So I think that's just a bit if a cop out for what is essentially just homophobia.

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

Tranny!!

You learn something new every day. I can't keep up sometimes. What words e would you like us to use instead and are there any more we shouldn't use. "

Ok so drag act might have been a better term. Trans is a better way of just being more generic as well. There is a lot of argument at the moment over whether Trans people are taking back ownership of the word Tranny (Ru Paul has been recently speaking about it) but generally it's just not a nice.

The way you know that “tranny” is a slur is by doing 2 or 3 different Google Image searches.

1.) Search “trans woman” and or “transgender woman”

2.) Search “tranny"

Look at the difference.

The first searches will be very different to "tranny" search which will result in pictures of bearded men in drag, photos that demean the people in them, jokes, pornography.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

Tranny!!

You learn something new every day. I can't keep up sometimes. What words e would you like us to use instead and are there any more we shouldn't use.

The way you know that “tranny” is a slur is by doing 2 or 3 different Google Image searches.

1.) Search “trans woman” and or “transgender woman”

2.) Search “tranny"

Look at the difference.

The first searches will be very different to "tranny" search which will result in pictures of bearded men in drag, photos that demean the people in them, jokes, pornography.

Thanks.

Just did that Google search. You type in tranny and you get a bunch of naked sexy people who are trans. You type in trans female and you get no nakedness just faces.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Yes but it is there choice to meet who they want.

It is but it does amuse me the way Homophobia and many other prejudices are conveniently re-branded as "choices" on this site.

Whoa, hold on there a minute. It's not discrimination to not be attracted to someone!

Expectations of equality have gone just a bit too far if everyone is expected to be happy to fuck anyone and everyone else or be branded prejudiced.

I don't fancy men with copious quantities of body hair. It makes me feel queasy. Am I discriminating against men with body hair? No, I'm declining to shag people who don't appeal to me.

If someone find someone else physically unattractive for any reason or isn't comfortable with something about them, then of course it's fine not to fuck them!

Nobody should even be expected to explain why they said no, and certainly nobody else should think they have a right to decide if that's reasonable or not! When it comes to sex, no means no and it's as simple as that.

Discrimination applies to the rights and needs of people, with the premise being that anyone, regardless of race, gender, religion, age etc should have an equal right to the things they need.

Sex is neither a right or a need.

Anyone who thinks they have been discriminated against by being turned down for sex does a very great disservice to those people around the world who have, and do, suffer genuine discrimination.

This "discrimination" bollocks is just another facet of the sense of entitlement and the large shoulder chips some people have. We all have to deal with rejection sometimes. Playing a discrimination card is just pathetic. Get over it.

We shouldn't deny someone a job based on their sexuality but we absolutely can choose not to fuck them and should never feel the need to justify it.

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

Tranny!!

You learn something new every day. I can't keep up sometimes. What words e would you like us to use instead and are there any more we shouldn't use.

The way you know that “tranny” is a slur is by doing 2 or 3 different Google Image searches.

1.) Search “trans woman” and or “transgender woman”

2.) Search “tranny"

Look at the difference.

The first searches will be very different to "tranny" search which will result in pictures of bearded men in drag, photos that demean the people in them, jokes, pornography.

Hmmm, I'm fairly sensitive to Trans issues but I do use the word tranny.

However, I don't use it to mean "trans" generally. I'd never refer to a TS as a tranny.

To me, a tranny is a transvestite, most of who self-identify as trannies anyway in my experience.

TVs, in general, are less hung up about descriptions and terminology, in my experience. I think that's down to them choosing to do what they do for fun. That's significantly different from the situation many other trans people are in. To them it's about their identity, about being recognised and treated with respect. It's their life, not a passtime or a part-time outlet.

Hopefully the way I use it indicates I mean no offence and I'd always apologise and clarify if made aware I'd offended someone.

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

Tranny!!

You learn something new every day. I can't keep up sometimes. What words e would you like us to use instead and are there any more we shouldn't use.

The way you know that “tranny” is a slur is by doing 2 or 3 different Google Image searches.

1.) Search “trans woman” and or “transgender woman”

2.) Search “tranny"

Look at the difference.

The first searches will be very different to "tranny" search which will result in pictures of bearded men in drag, photos that demean the people in them, jokes, pornography.

Hmmm, I'm fairly sensitive to Trans issues but I do use the word tranny.

However, I don't use it to mean "trans" generally. I'd never refer to a TS as a tranny.

To me, a tranny is a transvestite, most of who self-identify as trannies anyway in my experience.

Hopefully the way I use it indicates I mean no offence and I'd always apologise and clarify if made aware I'd offended someone. "

I think you're right there. Many of my trans gfs that are somewhere around the TV part of the trans scale calling each other trannys too. That's the whole re-owning the word in a positive way idea. Yes I think the TS and TG people like myself are a bit hung up on it and I do apologise for that. I jus think it's important to point out the difference sometimes when I get the opportunity. Xx

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By *ee VianteWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

sorry to pick you up on this as you've made some good comments a bout homophobia, but you've just used a fairly transphobic term. Tranny is a word that equates to calling a gay guy a fag, so I would appreciate people not using it.

Tranny!!

You learn something new every day. I can't keep up sometimes. What words e would you like us to use instead and are there any more we shouldn't use.

The way you know that “tranny” is a slur is by doing 2 or 3 different Google Image searches.

1.) Search “trans woman” and or “transgender woman”

2.) Search “tranny"

Look at the difference.

The first searches will be very different to "tranny" search which will result in pictures of bearded men in drag, photos that demean the people in them, jokes, pornography.

Hmmm, I'm fairly sensitive to Trans issues but I do use the word tranny.

However, I don't use it to mean "trans" generally. I'd never refer to a TS as a tranny.

To me, a tranny is a transvestite, most of who self-identify as trannies anyway in my experience.

Hopefully the way I use it indicates I mean no offence and I'd always apologise and clarify if made aware I'd offended someone.

It's an important difference. Having one category for TS and TV does nothing to help anyone realise and understand.

The two may both wear clothing of their non-birth sex but otherwise they couldn't be more different, (generally speaking).

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

Apologies for any offence caused

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By *ombshellWoman over a year ago

islington

i have had a few messages from guys who proclaim to be 'totally straight'yet their only veris and TV's!

whats that all about!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Its not whether the guy trys it on with me or not, its the fact that he has stuck his cock in another guy thats puts us both off........

What about if they've done anal with a lass? Would that put you off?

Oh come on......are you for real?

Of course all bi guys do anal don't they.???

There are a lot of orally bj guys on here that wouldn't dream of that.

So I think that's just a bit if a cop out for what is essentially just homophobia.

Fuck all to do with homophobia, my wife just prefers to fuck straight guys ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I recently added a TV to my friends!

Why?

Because she was simply stunning and we had good banter on the forum and in private.

I don't think that makes me bi or curious, just open minded, liberal and willing to accept people for who and what they are!

I hate labels

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What really gets us however is the number of guys who have on their profile that they are straight, and when you look at their friends list it seems to be made up entirely of other guys, tv, ts with possibly the odd couple or female.......come on guys you are either straight or not!!!!

Sexual orientation isn't binary. It's not straight or not, it's more like a spectrum.

I don't understand why someone else's sexuality is anyone's, but their own, concern.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sexual orientation isn't binary. It's not straight or not, it's more like a spectrum.

I don't understand why someone else's sexuality is anyone's, but their own, concern."

I would think it would be quite important as not much point a gay man asking a straight man for a sexual meet.

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By *lueeyedscouseMan over a year ago

Liverpool

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By *lueeyedscouseMan over a year ago

Liverpool

I don't have problems with gay or bi people ... But I do hate when a straight lad messages me asking can they. Suck my cock and I say no because I'm not into men I'm into woman ... Then I say to them you need to change your profile to bi because if you wana suck dick then you are bi and not straight .... To witch I get a horrid reply

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"I don't have problems with gay or bi people ... But I do hate when a straight lad messages me asking can they. Suck my cock and I say no because I'm not into men I'm into woman ... Then I say to them you need to change your profile to bi because if you wana suck dick then you are bi and not straight .... To witch I get a horrid reply "

block guys from contacting you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

block guys from contacting you

Thats not the issue!!!! the issue is have a truthful profile whatever your leanings

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes but it is there choice to meet who they want.

It is but it does amuse me the way Homophobia and many other prejudices are conveniently re-branded as "choices" on this site.

Whoa, hold on there a minute. It's not discrimination to not be attracted to someone!

Expectations of equality have gone just a bit too far if everyone is expected to be happy to fuck anyone and everyone else or be branded prejudiced.

I don't fancy men with copious quantities of body hair. It makes me feel queasy. Am I discriminating against men with body hair? No, I'm declining to shag people who don't appeal to me.

If someone find someone else physically unattractive for any reason or isn't comfortable with something about them, then of course it's fine not to fuck them!

Discrimination applies to the rights and needs of people, with the premise being that anyone, regardless of race, gender, religion, age etc should have an equal right to the things they need.

Sex is neither a right or a need.

Anyone who thinks they have been discriminated against by being turned down for sex does a very great disservice to those people around the world who have, and do, suffer genuine discrimination.

We shouldn't deny someone a job based on their sexuality but we absolutely can choose not to fuck them and should never feel the need to justify it."

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Its not whether the guy trys it on with me or not, its the fact that he has stuck his cock in another guy thats puts us both off........

What about if they've done anal with a lass? Would that put you off?

Oh come on......are you for real?

Of course all bi guys do anal don't they.???

There are a lot of orally bj guys on here that wouldn't dream of that.

So I think that's just a bit if a cop out for what is essentially just homophobia.

Fuck all to do with homophobia, my wife just prefers to fuck straight guys ok"

Well yeah I agree that's her/your choice and I don't have a problem with it being your preference, frankly I don't care if you're homophobes. Just you are really a bit of a contradiction aren't you.

You say it wouldn't matter if you didn't know, but then say she just likes fucking straight guys. Therein lies the problem and this answers quite easily your OP. Is it any wonder that guys put straight on their profile if couples such as yourselves show these homophobic traits which you have now just blatantly confirmed regardless of what you say.

How I would laugh my little cotton socks off if some of your " straight" guy meets came into this discussion and admitted they were bi. Oh no I've been Bi'd!!

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

"I don't like men with moustaches and like women with moustaches even less.

Reminded me of the trannie queen tribute act ... freda mercury

Apologies for any offence caused "

Thanks for the apology, very decent of you. Xx.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its not whether the guy trys it on with me or not, its the fact that he has stuck his cock in another guy thats puts us both off........

What about if they've done anal with a lass? Would that put you off?

Oh come on......are you for real?

Of course all bi guys do anal don't they.???

There are a lot of orally bj guys on here that wouldn't dream of that.

So I think that's just a bit if a cop out for what is essentially just homophobia.

Fuck all to do with homophobia, my wife just prefers to fuck straight guys ok

Well yeah I agree that's her/your choice and I don't have a problem with it being your preference, frankly I don't care if you're homophobes. Just you are really a bit of a contradiction aren't you.

How I would laugh my little cotton socks off if some of your " straight" guy meets came into this discussion and admitted they were bi. Oh no I've been Bi'd!!

Perhaps I'm going to go where angels fear to tread but surely this is comparable to me choosing not to meet guys in relationships.

To my knowledge I haven't met any guy who was in a relationship at the time of meeting them. If it turned out at a later date they were deceitful little arses, should I worry? Hell no, it's in the past, and as far as I'm concerned my conscience is clear.

Surely likewise for the OP? No point in worrying about what you cannot change. It's irksome being deceived but hey ho, onwards and upwards

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By *S_PennyTV/TS over a year ago

Selby

Its not whether the guy trys it on with me or not, its the fact that he has stuck his cock in another guy thats puts us both off........

What about if they've done anal with a lass? Would that put you off?

Oh come on......are you for real?

Of course all bi guys do anal don't they.???

There are a lot of orally bj guys on here that wouldn't dream of that.

So I think that's just a bit if a cop out for what is essentially just homophobia.

Fuck all to do with homophobia, my wife just prefers to fuck straight guys ok

Well yeah I agree that's her/your choice and I don't have a problem with it being your preference, frankly I don't care if you're homophobes. Just you are really a bit of a contradiction aren't you.

How I would laugh my little cotton socks off if some of your " straight" guy meets came into this discussion and admitted they were bi. Oh no I've been Bi'd!!

Perhaps I'm going to go where angels fear to tread but surely this is comparable to me choosing not to meet guys in relationships.

Surely likewise for the OP? No point in worrying about what you cannot change. It's irksome being deceived but hey ho, onwards and upwards

Oh I agree with you on that. I'm just intrigued what bi-dar they are using in their meets to make sure. Oh I forgot you can't tell can you. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Its not whether the guy trys it on with me or not, its the fact that he has stuck his cock in another guy thats puts us both off........

What about if they've done anal with a lass? Would that put you off?

Oh come on......are you for real?

Of course all bi guys do anal don't they.???

There are a lot of orally bj guys on here that wouldn't dream of that.

So I think that's just a bit if a cop out for what is essentially just homophobia.

Fuck all to do with homophobia, my wife just prefers to fuck straight guys ok

Well yeah I agree that's her/your choice and I don't have a problem with it being your preference, frankly I don't care if you're homophobes. Just you are really a bit of a contradiction aren't you.

How I would laugh my little cotton socks off if some of your " straight" guy meets came into this discussion and admitted they were bi. Oh no I've been Bi'd!!

What a load of utter bollocks