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the trouble with single guys

By *uitar_antihero OP Man over a year ago

Glasgow

I know this has been mentioned many times before but seriously guys, learn to be nice!

I was sitting with a girl from here & she was showing me her inbox (not a euphemism). A message comes in saying she looks sexy, does she wanna meet kinda thing. No pics or anything. She asks for a face pic, gets sent a cock pic & says no thanks. This is followed by an abusive reply calling her fat.

Chaps, this is not how we ought to behave. I'm sure our parents brought us up with a measure of respect & politeness. So gonnae use it!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hence why I often say there should be more than one category of single male on here, I hate being thrown in the same pile as those kind of bullshit messages.

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Its weird how "good"single guys always seem to be sitting next to another fabber who happens to be female and gets abusive messages, feels the need to tell everyone this....I am still trying to figure out why this is....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ain't never gonna change I'm afraid. And this'll be brought up for many more times in the future. The girls are grown ups. They know who's hot and who's not.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Its weird how "good"single guys always seem to be sitting next to another fabber who happens to be female and gets abusive messages, feels the need to tell everyone this....I am still trying to figure out why this is...."

You will be there awhile....

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

You will be there awhile....

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I left my brain at Saturday....I will catch up soon....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had this discussion last night , we get let down, stood up , timewasters etc etc

It's a real pain in the arse trying to find a reliable single guy,

But when you get one it's definitely worth the aggro of putting up with the idiots

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We find that in the chat room lau usually goes on cam but we leave the option to accept pm's from friends or from who we are looking for get single guys being complete pervs and really overstepping the mark when she politely declines the invitation to meet alone/cam or talk dirty wow the abuse and shit she gets is unbelievable saying that some guys are really genuine and nice to talk to and respect what your looking for..

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

We had this discussion last night , we get let down, stood up , timewasters etc etc

It's a real pain in the arse trying to find a reliable single guy,

But when you get one it's definitely worth the aggro of putting up with the idiots

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Not very often we get a thread where someone is sat next to another fabber who gets decent messages....funny that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've noticed this. If any guy sat next to me and looked at my inbox on my single profile they'd probably just have a giggle at the conversations. Most of them are funny and dirty in equal measure.

The guys who act like idiots are generally a very small number and in no way sway me in how I approach communicating.

Are there women who make a habit of saving messages so they can show the guys they meet?

Those rare guys that are idiots are erased from existence via deleting messages and blocking them straight away. In many years of messaging I think I can count the number of times I've had to 'deal' with a guy in this way on one hand.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had this discussion last night , we get let down, stood up , timewasters etc etc

It's a real pain in the arse trying to find a reliable single guy,

But when you get one it's definitely worth the aggro of putting up with the idiots

Not very often we get a thread where someone is sat next to another fabber who gets decent messages....funny that.

We are not interested in messages on the site only sex off the site

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Not very often we get a thread where someone is sat next to another fabber who gets decent messages....funny that.

Maybe they're just not talked about?? I can imagine telling a meet about the idiots, but not the productive conversations!

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Not very often we get a thread where someone is sat next to another fabber who gets decent messages....funny that.

Maybe they're just not talked about?? I can imagine telling a meet about the idiots, but not the productive conversations!"
I suppose positivity is a turn off? Or maybe it does nowt for the Lancelot syndrome.

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By *odareyouMan over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"I know this has been mentioned many times before but seriously guys, learn to be nice!

Chaps, this is not how we ought to behave. I'm sure our parents brought us up with a measure of respect & politeness. So gonnae use it!! "

Thanks for the advice, I m sure its well meant and if it changes One person I ll give it a

I doubt the people you re referencing will read this and if they do will recognise the traits your drsribing in themselves

The only person thats responsible for my reputation and behaviour is myself, those that send messages that aren t polite or showing respect are responsible for theirs. I d Hope your friend would differentiate between the two,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I want some abusive inbox messages please. It's been a while you know. There's still shit us single guys get sent you know.

...well, maybe me then.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I want some abusive inbox messages please. It's been a while you know. There's still shit us single guys get sent you know.

...well, maybe me then.

You asked for it........

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Not very often we get a thread where someone is sat next to another fabber who gets decent messages....funny that.

Maybe they're just not talked about?? I can imagine telling a meet about the idiots, but not the productive conversations!I suppose positivity is a turn off? Or maybe it does nowt for the Lancelot syndrome.

Yea 'Look at the body on that, I'm hoping to meet him next week!' is not going to be the best kind of pillow talk is it!!

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Not very often we get a thread where someone is sat next to another fabber who gets decent messages....funny that.

Yea 'Look at the body on that, I'm hoping to meet him next week!' is not going to be the best kind of pillow talk is it!!

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Neither is logging into Fab when in bed with another Fabber!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know this has been mentioned many times before but seriously guys, learn to be nice!

Chaps, this is not how we ought to behave. I'm sure our parents brought us up with a measure of respect & politeness. So gonnae use it!! "

I'm not saying it's right to call someone fat or anything else when they get rejected but is it such a big deal in the big scheme of things?

If you looked at my inbox I would say a good 80% of messages are respectful which leaves the other 20% for the one liners, rather strange what's that all about & rude ones!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I want some abusive inbox messages please. It's been a while you know. There's still shit us single guys get sent you know.

...well, maybe me then.

You asked for it........

You called that abuse? C'mon. You were soo flirting with me.

Question and solution: if women ask for a face pic and get sent a cock pic. Maybe they should ask for a cock pic and will be sent a face pic?

...that's what i'd do.

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Personally Im more tolerant of crap messages than I am about someone showing my private messages to a third party without my consent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally Im more tolerant of crap messages than I am about someone showing my private messages to a third party without my consent

agreed

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I want some abusive inbox messages please. It's been a while you know. There's still shit us single guys get sent you know.

...well, maybe me then.

You asked for it........

You called that abuse? C'mon. You were soo flirting with me.

Question and solution: if women ask for a face pic and get sent a cock pic. Maybe they should ask for a cock pic and will be sent a face pic?

...that's what i'd do.

And you make a good point!!

It was flirty but could it also be seen as abuse in the wrong inbox??

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Not very often we get a thread where someone is sat next to another fabber who gets decent messages....funny that.

Yea 'Look at the body on that, I'm hoping to meet him next week!' is not going to be the best kind of pillow talk is it!!

Neither is logging into Fab when in bed with another Fabber!

Haha, no, someone once logged on to verify me the first time we paused during a meet!! I wasn't sure whether to be flattered or appalled, tsk, the youth of today....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I want some abusive inbox messages please. It's been a while you know. There's still shit us single guys get sent you know.

...well, maybe me then.

You asked for it........

You called that abuse? C'mon. You were soo flirting with me.

Question and solution: if women ask for a face pic and get sent a cock pic. Maybe they should ask for a cock pic and will be sent a face pic?

...that's what i'd do.

And you make a good point!!

It was flirty but could it also be seen as abuse in the wrong inbox??"

You can send me more like that. I like it. Yeah...i like verbal abuse. Why? Because i'm kinky lol

Yeah it would seem abusive to those who haven't got a sense of humour or someone being a bit cheeky on their couples/singles profile.

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By *uitar_antihero OP Man over a year ago

Glasgow

Hmm, this genuinely wasn't meant as a 'look at me thread' but somehow I end up the bad guy. Oops. Hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

WOW

You ladies seem to have it bad, thankfully i am gay and dont have the hassle of "straight" guys wanting to meet me, tell me "i am hot, nice tits, etc," (though different connotations are used) they want discretion and fun and have become regular, some really hot session ofs here. Though I have had the same on another site from abusive lads so maybe its a global thing straight, gay or bi, or there just prats ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not very often we get a thread where someone is sat next to another fabber who gets decent messages....funny that.

Yea 'Look at the body on that, I'm hoping to meet him next week!' is not going to be the best kind of pillow talk is it!!

Neither is logging into Fab when in bed with another Fabber!

Haha, no, someone once logged on to verify me the first time we paused during a meet!! I wasn't sure whether to be flattered or appalled, tsk, the youth of today....

They must have been in a rush to verify you then lol hope they weren't doubting your genuinity or did you have them by the throat going 'verify me now bitch!'.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One way to stop this, and it's so simple. Men are not going to change so she has to be pro-active.

If she is deleting the message anyway and has no intention of meetin the person, why not just block them too. Saves a repeat message in a few weeks time also.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to admit if I'm in the company of a sexy male Fabber, the last thing on my mind is showing him my e-mails

I actually have more important things to do/show/feel/grope

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not all of us are like that though.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple over a year ago

bedford

We don't bother with messages from single guys, if we are interested,we will message them,but mostly we check out the guys at club,or see some of the guys our friend on site point out to us,

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By *ss2011Man over a year ago

Leeds/Bradford

lmao

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

am surprised the guy even got a reply if he had no pics

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Not very often we get a thread where someone is sat next to another fabber who gets decent messages....funny that.

Yea 'Look at the body on that, I'm hoping to meet him next week!' is not going to be the best kind of pillow talk is it!!

Neither is logging into Fab when in bed with another Fabber!

Haha, no, someone once logged on to verify me the first time we paused during a meet!! I wasn't sure whether to be flattered or appalled, tsk, the youth of today....

They must have been in a rush to verify you then lol hope they weren't doubting your genuinity or did you have them by the throat going 'verify me now bitch!'.

Haha no, we were having a giggle and he wanted to say so!! He wrote another more 'proper' when he got home, but I like the 'live on location' one better, haha!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not all single males on this site are the disrespectful, lots of single males on theses forums conduct themselves in the correct manner and therefore i think its correct to assume that they would conduct themselves in the correction manner when messaging females and couples.

As for myself, there is only me myself and I that can give myself a bad name by my own actions and i would like to think that if i upset someone then all they would have to do is to message me and i would apologise to them, this might prevent them showing my messages to a 3rd party without my consent.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

White Knightitus

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hmm, this genuinely wasn't meant as a 'look at me thread' but somehow I end up the bad guy. Oops. Hahaha "

I don't think you're the 'bad guy' it's just that I know as I female I want to come across strong, independent & able to fight my own battles.

If you're going to sign upto the internet 'dating' game you have to be tough enough to handle the odd dick acting like a twat!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sitting here quietly, having created my profile, patiently waiting for the couples, singles, whatever,.... to get in touch with me........ once they feel the need to involve a single male in their relationship.

It might be a long wait......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why worry, op?

Last thing we want are the twunts trying to behave like normal decent guys. Far better to spot them early and nip them in the bud.

The good men will always stand out in the end.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oi op.. dont talk to like we all do this kid.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

cheers, thanks for the heads up

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By *uitar_antihero OP Man over a year ago

Glasgow

"cheers, thanks for the heads up

No probs dude, any other insights I have I'll be sure to let you know

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By *iewMan over a year ago
Forum Mod

Angus & Findhorn

"cheers, thanks for the heads up

No probs dude, any other insights I have I'll be sure to let you know "

No, you are fine.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know this has been mentioned many times before but seriously guys, learn to be nice!

Chaps, this is not how we ought to behave. I'm sure our parents brought us up with a measure of respect & politeness. So gonnae use it!! "

What it the cock pic was in fact a face pic and the guy just looks like a cock!

Bit harsh to judge lol

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By *uitar_antihero OP Man over a year ago

Glasgow

"cheers, thanks for the heads up

No probs dude, any other insights I have I'll be sure to let you know

No, you are fine."

Are you sure? I have one about cock pics with deodorant cans in the pipeline which I think you'll find useful

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oi op.. dont talk to like we all do this kid."

My god that is a big brush the OP is trying to tarnish all the single guys with!

Run guys, save yourselves!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oi op.. dont talk to like we all do this kid.

My god that is a big brush the OP is trying to tarnish all the single guys with!

Run guys, save yourselves!

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lol its all fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lol a couple just msged me from this thread saying another single guy with penis pic, I replied with cant u see I got other pics to looooooooooooooool .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol a couple just msged me from this thread saying another single guy with penis pic"

To be fair it does suprise me that even regular forum users seem to appear daily with new cock pictures on parade. It seems like they just sit around at home with a hard on taking pictures of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol a couple just msged me from this thread saying another single guy with penis pic

To be fair it does suprise me that even regular forum users seem to appear daily with new cock pictures on parade. It seems like they just sit around at home with a hard on taking pictures of it."
Well ur quite wrong there, i do take load of other pics to and keep changing them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well ur quite wrong there, i do take load of other pics to and keep changing them

Sorry, I wasn't specifically aiming that comment at you!

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By *uitar_antihero OP Man over a year ago

Glasgow

"lol a couple just msged me from this thread saying another single guy with penis pic

To be fair it does suprise me that even regular forum users seem to appear daily with new cock pictures on parade. It seems like they just sit around at home with a hard on taking pictures of it."

Viagra overdose is a growing problem. Haha see what I did there?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well ur quite wrong there, i do take load of other pics to and keep changing them

Sorry, I wasn't specifically aiming that comment at you! "
Ah thats fine and ur right there as well.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol a couple just msged me from this thread saying another single guy with penis pic

To be fair it does suprise me that even regular forum users seem to appear daily with new cock pictures on parade. It seems like they just sit around at home with a hard on taking pictures of it.

Viagra overdose is a growing problem. Haha see what I did there?"
Yes i did, thats a good one lol.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to admit if I'm in the company of a sexy male Fabber, the last thing on my mind is showing him my e-mails

I actually have more important things to do/show/feel/grope

I would say the same its desperation time when you are so disinterested you have to show him messages sent to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll just stick to being the hunted instead of the hunter

saves alot of time

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By *uitar_antihero OP Man over a year ago

Glasgow

I have to admit if I'm in the company of a sexy male Fabber, the last thing on my mind is showing him my e-mails

I actually have more important things to do/show/feel/grope

I would say the same its desperation time when you are so disinterested you have to show him messages sent to you."

It really depends on how long you are in their company & for what reason. If you're there for a couple of hours & looking at fab messages then I would agree with you. Don't just assume that this person was showing me messages in the middle of a short play meet.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to admit if I'm in the company of a sexy male Fabber, the last thing on my mind is showing him my e-mails

I actually have more important things to do/show/feel/grope

I would say the same its desperation time when you are so disinterested you have to show him messages sent to you.

Strange you saying that I didn't assume anyone was in the middle of a short meet I came to the conclusion they must be some boring and have so little to talk about that in desperation it ended up in showing messages received. Well it wouldn't happen with a hit interesting guy even if he was there a week would or more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll just stick to being the hunted instead of the hunter

saves alot of time "

Oh I'd like to hunt you down!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll just stick to being the hunted instead of the hunter

saves alot of time

Oh I'd like to hunt you down!

"
ooohhh hopefully that will happen

when there is a will there's a way

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally Im more tolerant of crap messages than I am about someone showing my private messages to a third party without my consent

I was thinking the same that's just lacks class and respect for both the one showing and the one happily _iewing and not something we would do.

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By *uitar_antihero OP Man over a year ago

Glasgow

I have to admit if I'm in the company of a sexy male Fabber, the last thing on my mind is showing him my e-mails

I actually have more important things to do/show/feel/grope

I would say the same its desperation time when you are so disinterested you have to show him messages sent to you.

Came to the wrong conclusion I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Personally Im more tolerant of crap messages than I am about someone showing my private messages to a third party without my consent

I was thinking the same that's just lacks class and respect for both the one showing and the one happily _iewing and not something we would do. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to admit if I'm in the company of a sexy male Fabber, the last thing on my mind is showing him my e-mails

I actually have more important things to do/show/feel/grope

I would say the same its desperation time when you are so disinterested you have to show him messages sent to you.

Came to the wrong conclusion I'm afraid. "

I think not at all I think highly accurate on my part to the point it hit a nerve.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to admit if I'm in the company of a sexy male Fabber, the last thing on my mind is showing him my e-mails

I actually have more important things to do/show/feel/grope

I would say the same its desperation time when you are so disinterested you have to show him messages sent to you.

I came to the conclusion they might be friends off Fabs having met on the site previously ~ having a drink & a chat!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We had this discussion last night , we get let down, stood up , timewasters etc etc

It's a real pain in the arse trying to find a reliable single guy,

But when you get one it's definitely worth the aggro of putting up with the idiots

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I very very very rarely message anyone on here, seen girls with hundreds sometimes thousands of unread messages. Pointless, I just go on the chat rooms and have a laugh and see how it goes. Everyone is so full-on I can't be bothered with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have to admit if I'm in the company of a sexy male Fabber, the last thing on my mind is showing him my e-mails

I actually have more important things to do/show/feel/grope

I would say the same its desperation time when you are so disinterested you have to show him messages sent to you.

I've had socials and play meets with the same guy and we sometimes discuss fab and look at each others profiles and messages. If I want to show him something on my profile for his opinion I will ask him first. he hasn't said no to me yet and vice versa

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By *uitar_antihero OP Man over a year ago

Glasgow

I think not at all I think highly accurate on my part to the point it hit a nerve. "

Hahahaha. Gotta love that attitude. So let me see, I'm a boring, uninteresting, white knight wannabe with no class? Sound about right?

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

And we can leave it there...

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