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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago
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A lot of people say they get nerves before/during a meet and there was even one example mentioned that a guy couldn't get it up and now he is suffering from it. So my question is for the people who get nervous. How do you beat those nerves and for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous? |
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"A lot of people say they get nerves before/during a meet and there was even one example mentioned that a guy couldn't get it up and now he is suffering from it. So my question is for the people who get nervous. How do you beat those nerves and for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous? "
I can't imagine anyone not getting nervous before a meet...  |
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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago
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"A lot of people say they get nerves before/during a meet and there was even one example mentioned that a guy couldn't get it up and now he is suffering from it. So my question is for the people who get nervous. How do you beat those nerves and for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I can't imagine anyone not getting nervous before a meet... "
A few people in other threads they just get excited and not nervous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of people say they get nerves before/during a meet and there was even one example mentioned that a guy couldn't get it up and now he is suffering from it. So my question is for the people who get nervous. How do you beat those nerves and for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I can't imagine anyone not getting nervous before a meet...
A few people in other threads they just get excited and not nervous. "
Well I get a combination... Which usually accumulate ... To giant butterflies!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous? "
I don't get nervous and I'll tell you why..
I know EXACTLY what to expect when I get there be it social or otherwise and that by the time it DOES get to the meet I'd have built up enough dialogue already via on going chat with her/them, that by the time I get there I'm bang up for it.
Be it social/play or otherwise.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"half a valium in my coffee and ten in hers  x X X"
Ooooooooooooops I was way ahead reading this and thought u were gonna say ten in theirs ...............  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have dreadful nerves. But all but one person couldn't tell, I hide it well.
The one time when the guy was more nervous than me...... that took quite a while to overcome. Eventually I stopped shaking, he didn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I don't get nervous and I'll tell you why..
I know EXACTLY what to expect when I get there be it social or otherwise and that by the time it DOES get to the meet I'd have built up enough dialogue already via on going chat with her/them, that by the time I get there I'm bang up for it.
Be it social/play or otherwise. "
Really? Not even just a little bit? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just get on with it and do it. If you think about something, that is what can lead to being nervous but if you just preoccupy yourself and just jump in, you don't really have time to build it up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I don't get nervous and I'll tell you why..
I know EXACTLY what to expect when I get there be it social or otherwise and that by the time it DOES get to the meet I'd have built up enough dialogue already via on going chat with her/them, that by the time I get there I'm bang up for it.
Be it social/play or otherwise.
Really? Not even just a little bit? "
Nope.
You can ask anyone who's met me if I get nervous.
That applies to not just here (on fab) but in life outside of fab in General..I don't get nervous easily.
I don't know why, it's something I don't have an answer for.
I'm a very confident person.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I don't get nervous and I'll tell you why..
I know EXACTLY what to expect when I get there be it social or otherwise and that by the time it DOES get to the meet I'd have built up enough dialogue already via on going chat with her/them, that by the time I get there I'm bang up for it.
Be it social/play or otherwise.
Really? Not even just a little bit?
Nope.
You can ask anyone who's met me if I get nervous.
That applies to not just here (on fab) but in life outside of fab in General..I don't get nervous easily.
I don't know why, it's something I don't have an answer for.
I'm a very confident person.
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In every walk of life this is me. Put me in a direct meet situation for sex however and beforehand im a coiled spring, a gibbering wreck.
Thankfully once I meet a morph into a totally different creature.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I don't get nervous and I'll tell you why..
I know EXACTLY what to expect when I get there be it social or otherwise and that by the time it DOES get to the meet I'd have built up enough dialogue already via on going chat with her/them, that by the time I get there I'm bang up for it.
Be it social/play or otherwise.
Really? Not even just a little bit?
Nope.
You can ask anyone who's met me if I get nervous.
That applies to not just here (on fab) but in life outside of fab in General..I don't get nervous easily.
I don't know why, it's something I don't have an answer for.
I'm a very confident person.
In every walk of life this is me. Put me in a direct meet situation for sex however and beforehand im a coiled spring, a gibbering wreck.
Thankfully once I meet a morph into a totally different creature.
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I'm rarely nervous in the 'real world' but get nervous even before a social meet... But once in their company my constant rambling soon takes over the initial nerves! Don't last long.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I don't get nervous and I'll tell you why..
I know EXACTLY what to expect when I get there be it social or otherwise and that by the time it DOES get to the meet I'd have built up enough dialogue already via on going chat with her/them, that by the time I get there I'm bang up for it.
Be it social/play or otherwise.
Really? Not even just a little bit?
Nope.
You can ask anyone who's met me if I get nervous.
That applies to not just here (on fab) but in life outside of fab in General..I don't get nervous easily.
I don't know why, it's something I don't have an answer for.
I'm a very confident person.
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Lol ill ask.. We've met you... You where quaking in your wellies.  am joking before you climb on your Shetland pony! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Always get nervous , which then leads me to waffle a bit 
I have a vino or a vodka beforehand , just to settle the stomach  "
Waffle? No way I don't believe it for a min!! |
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"A lot of people say they get nerves before/during a meet and there was even one example mentioned that a guy couldn't get it up and now he is suffering from it. So my question is for the people who get nervous. How do you beat those nerves and for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I can't imagine anyone not getting nervous before a meet...
A few people in other threads they just get excited and not nervous. "
Yes, I'm like that, I get excited but not really nervous most of the time. I find an embrace and a kiss usually settle nerves well if my meet seems to be so.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you meet someone below your league, you wouldn't get nervous at all. "
I meet men way above my league and I don't get nervous. Some people aren't shallow |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you meet someone below your league, you wouldn't get nervous at all. "
Define below your league, In my mind nobody is better or worse than us and those that think they are arnt worth meeting as they have issues |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure about leagues, sounds hideous to put people in leagues. For me the absolute worst nerves were with a very ordinary looking fella (I cringe saying that because it sounds disparaging and it's not meant to be, he was beautiful to me)
I fancied him so much as a person I was terrified to meet him and him not have a good time. I remember sitting in the pub saying to him 'am I what you hoped?'
My nerves were massively overshadowed by his in the end.
I'd love to turn the nerves off but it's built-in and hard to beat. |
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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago
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"Not sure about leagues, sounds hideous to put people in leagues. For me the absolute worst nerves were with a very ordinary looking fella (I cringe saying that because it sounds disparaging and it's not meant to be, he was beautiful to me)
I fancied him so much as a person I was terrified to meet him and him not have a good time. I remember sitting in the pub saying to him 'am I what you hoped?'
My nerves were massively overshadowed by his in the end.
I'd love to turn the nerves off but it's built-in and hard to beat."
So if you sense a guy is really nervous. It doesn't put you off or anything? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure about leagues, sounds hideous to put people in leagues. For me the absolute worst nerves were with a very ordinary looking fella (I cringe saying that because it sounds disparaging and it's not meant to be, he was beautiful to me)
I fancied him so much as a person I was terrified to meet him and him not have a good time. I remember sitting in the pub saying to him 'am I what you hoped?'
My nerves were massively overshadowed by his in the end.
I'd love to turn the nerves off but it's built-in and hard to beat.
So if you sense a guy is really nervous. It doesn't put you off or anything? "
I'm really patient so for me no, nerves don't deter me, they did for a time make me more nervous though!
We're still not over his nerves after 3 meets but getting there. It definitely made the first meet more difficult, but after a few hours things started to happen!
P.S: he's not on fab, he's not involved in the scene. |
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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago
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"Not sure about leagues, sounds hideous to put people in leagues. For me the absolute worst nerves were with a very ordinary looking fella (I cringe saying that because it sounds disparaging and it's not meant to be, he was beautiful to me)
I fancied him so much as a person I was terrified to meet him and him not have a good time. I remember sitting in the pub saying to him 'am I what you hoped?'
My nerves were massively overshadowed by his in the end.
I'd love to turn the nerves off but it's built-in and hard to beat.
So if you sense a guy is really nervous. It doesn't put you off or anything?
I'm really patient so for me no, nerves don't deter me, they did for a time make me more nervous though!
We're still not over his nerves after 3 meets but getting there. It definitely made the first meet more difficult, but after a few hours things started to happen!
P.S: he's not on fab, he's not involved in the scene."
He's one lucky guy. No wonder why he's so nervous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not sure about leagues, sounds hideous to put people in leagues. For me the absolute worst nerves were with a very ordinary looking fella (I cringe saying that because it sounds disparaging and it's not meant to be, he was beautiful to me)
I fancied him so much as a person I was terrified to meet him and him not have a good time. I remember sitting in the pub saying to him 'am I what you hoped?'
My nerves were massively overshadowed by his in the end.
I'd love to turn the nerves off but it's built-in and hard to beat.
So if you sense a guy is really nervous. It doesn't put you off or anything?
I'm really patient so for me no, nerves don't deter me, they did for a time make me more nervous though!
We're still not over his nerves after 3 meets but getting there. It definitely made the first meet more difficult, but after a few hours things started to happen!
P.S: he's not on fab, he's not involved in the scene.
He's one lucky guy. No wonder why he's so nervous. "
He's a top bloke so I count myself lucky tbh.
He gets on with Mr D but I think not being a swinger he's largely in shock at the situation he's found himself in lol. Can't help the nerves meeting the husband! |
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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago
Carmarthenshire |
"Not sure about leagues, sounds hideous to put people in leagues. For me the absolute worst nerves were with a very ordinary looking fella (I cringe saying that because it sounds disparaging and it's not meant to be, he was beautiful to me)
I fancied him so much as a person I was terrified to meet him and him not have a good time. I remember sitting in the pub saying to him 'am I what you hoped?'
My nerves were massively overshadowed by his in the end.
I'd love to turn the nerves off but it's built-in and hard to beat.
So if you sense a guy is really nervous. It doesn't put you off or anything?
I'm really patient so for me no, nerves don't deter me, they did for a time make me more nervous though!
We're still not over his nerves after 3 meets but getting there. It definitely made the first meet more difficult, but after a few hours things started to happen!
P.S: he's not on fab, he's not involved in the scene.
He's one lucky guy. No wonder why he's so nervous.
He's a top bloke so I count myself lucky tbh.
He gets on with Mr D but I think not being a swinger he's largely in shock at the situation he's found himself in lol. Can't help the nerves meeting the husband!"
Take the hubby away and then see what he's like |
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"Not sure about leagues, sounds hideous to put people in leagues. For me the absolute worst nerves were with a very ordinary looking fella (I cringe saying that because it sounds disparaging and it's not meant to be, he was beautiful to me)
I fancied him so much as a person I was terrified to meet him and him not have a good time. I remember sitting in the pub saying to him 'am I what you hoped?'
My nerves were massively overshadowed by his in the end.
I'd love to turn the nerves off but it's built-in and hard to beat.
So if you sense a guy is really nervous. It doesn't put you off or anything?
I'm really patient so for me no, nerves don't deter me, they did for a time make me more nervous though!
We're still not over his nerves after 3 meets but getting there. It definitely made the first meet more difficult, but after a few hours things started to happen!
P.S: he's not on fab, he's not involved in the scene.
He's one lucky guy. No wonder why he's so nervous.
He's a top bloke so I count myself lucky tbh.
He gets on with Mr D but I think not being a swinger he's largely in shock at the situation he's found himself in lol. Can't help the nerves meeting the husband!
Take the hubby away and then see what he's like "
Haha, hubby only met him for 30 minutes on the first meet. We've been alone since.
He's not sitting on the edge of the bed passing comment, honest! |
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By *r-Unique OP Man
over a year ago
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"Not sure about leagues, sounds hideous to put people in leagues. For me the absolute worst nerves were with a very ordinary looking fella (I cringe saying that because it sounds disparaging and it's not meant to be, he was beautiful to me)
I fancied him so much as a person I was terrified to meet him and him not have a good time. I remember sitting in the pub saying to him 'am I what you hoped?'
My nerves were massively overshadowed by his in the end.
I'd love to turn the nerves off but it's built-in and hard to beat.
So if you sense a guy is really nervous. It doesn't put you off or anything?
I'm really patient so for me no, nerves don't deter me, they did for a time make me more nervous though!
We're still not over his nerves after 3 meets but getting there. It definitely made the first meet more difficult, but after a few hours things started to happen!
P.S: he's not on fab, he's not involved in the scene.
He's one lucky guy. No wonder why he's so nervous.
He's a top bloke so I count myself lucky tbh.
He gets on with Mr D but I think not being a swinger he's largely in shock at the situation he's found himself in lol. Can't help the nerves meeting the husband!
Take the hubby away and then see what he's like
Haha, hubby only met him for 30 minutes on the first meet. We've been alone since.
He's not sitting on the edge of the bed passing comment, honest! "
Take the hubby out of it and I can safely say he's the lucky one. Ignore what men think of your looks for a second. You are patient with his nerves. People would love that |
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I get excited, occasionally a bit nervous, though this is affected when I have a lot of other stuff going on, so kind of bleeds into my baseline state. Easiest thing I find is just to breathe well, maybe some quick meditation, to sort it out. If a meet is nervous, then I focus on keeping myself relaxed, as thats a good grounding state for them. I am fairly patient, so someone would have to suffer for a long time, to deter me. It ultimately is their responsibility to manage themselves, and Id hope I can choose someone who is inspired and self aware enough to manage this. Mostly we are meeting to get sexual satisfaction and to please our partners, so Id expect someone to be thinking of me, and sort themselves out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's like anything else really, like a first date, a job interview etc. You get pre-match nerves, just man up and go do it, it's never as bad as you imagine and you usually begin to relax. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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One thing I've learnt, it's fairly futile telling people not to be nervous.
I can't prevent it.
I can speak to hundreds of people at once with great confidence which others are often very nervous of, it seems a common source of nerves but I don't have them in this scenario.
It's never stopped me meeting though and never will, but I allow for nerves, we're only human. It's also never marred the enjoyment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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yeah I always get the ol' nerves too, can't really think why, though, especially as it's for something I've actively tried to arrange hehe. oddest thing though, for me nerves are at their worst when I first catch sight of where I'm meeting.. and then they sort of fade away (thank gawd) as I'm walking towards wherever it is.
I've just learned to expect em and is just part of the show.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I always get some pre meet nerves....the more I've talked to the person beforehand though the less they seem to be
The nerves dissapear the next time I meet them so its always good for me to meet the same person multiple times
The more new meets I have the less the nerves seem to be too but they haven't gone yet by any stretch of the imagination and I hope they don't....I find it all part of the fun |
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"A lot of people say they get nerves before/during a meet and there was even one example mentioned that a guy couldn't get it up and now he is suffering from it. So my question is for the people who get nervous. How do you beat those nerves and for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I can't imagine anyone not getting nervous before a meet... "
I didn't. Always excited, never nervous as I'd met them socially beforehand and it was just sex!
I was nervous once for a social meet. He was too. We almost talked ourselves out of meeting: never experienced anything like it! It dawned on me I really liked him and wanted him to like me too. He felt the same...he's moved in! |
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By *arry50Man
over a year ago
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Being nervous is a part of nature especially if u dont know the person. But after talking in a comfortable setting and seeing the personality of that person hopefully things will work out |
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"for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I don't get nervous and I'll tell you why..
I know EXACTLY what to expect when I get there be it social or otherwise and that by the time it DOES get to the meet I'd have built up enough dialogue already via on going chat with her/them, that by the time I get there I'm bang up for it.
Be it social/play or otherwise. "
This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A lot of people say they get nerves before/during a meet and there was even one example mentioned that a guy couldn't get it up and now he is suffering from it. So my question is for the people who get nervous. How do you beat those nerves and for the ones who don't get nervous. What do you if you sense your meet is nervous?
I can't imagine anyone not getting nervous before a meet...
I didn't. Always excited, never nervous as I'd met them socially beforehand and it was just sex!
I was nervous once for a social meet. He was too. We almost talked ourselves out of meeting: never experienced anything like it! It dawned on me I really liked him and wanted him to like me too. He felt the same...he's moved in! "
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