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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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finally after 2 years of asking doctor to refer my son got my dieticans appointent for june ....been told by doc to try and hid vegetables n fruit in foods my child will eat .....hes 3 and very fussy with food and getting messy he dont cope with .....looking for advice from others |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both my kids were fussy eaters worried myself stupid over the first. The second just let him eat whatever he wanted he grew up healthy and happy eats everything now. Remove any pressure and stress otherwise meal times become something to be dreaded by all. Vitamin tablets. Milk shakes smoothies ? Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When my elders was 3 he went through a stage of only eating sausages and oranges. I took him to drs who said don't make a fuss , give it to him he will get fed up soon enough. A couple weeks later he started eating everything that was put in front of him and 25 yes later is the same. |
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Mines 3 and can be a right pain in the arse!! His latest one is gagging on things like if he gets a bit of chicken stuck in his teeth he's so melodramatic!
I just put his dinner in front of him at 5pm, at 5.30 whatever's left gets taken away (unless he's still eating) , he has to eat 3/4 of what's on his plate to get a pudding. I don't give him juice with his meal now coz he's guzzles that down and fills himself up on it.
I don't pay him any attention unless he eats well then he gets lots of praise. Don't nag him or anything to eat. Gets me nowhere just makes him more bloody stubborn so I don't bother.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't force him.
It will lead to issues with his relationship with food later in life.
By the same token, don't give in to his every whim and fancy.
His behaviour will manifest in other areas if he begins to think you are a soft touch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like the idea of growing your own, or going to one of those pick your own fruit farms to get your kid interested.
I remember seeing a recipie for chocolate beetroot cake as a healthy alternative or maybe do bits of fruit and dip in chocolate like a fondue or as a kid I uses to love mashed banana on toast with peanut butter or we used to have slices of apple with cubes of cheese and crisps and make sail boats by sticking the crisp in the apple or cube of cheese which was always a treat. .seemed like fun!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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its really hard ....he'll eat spaghetti bologeness ....homemade chicken nuggets and pizza ...cheese and crackers and weetabix and fruit loops .....got 5 children and hes the only one i had trouble with concerning food ...all this started after tonsillitus and having a fissule |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Spag bol is the classic.... add lots of vegetables to tomatoes and cook the til all soft... then blitz it and use it as you would the passatta and add to the meat once you've browned it...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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fissure not fissule ....thought going to nursery and seeing other children eating fruit would help but no.....he refused to eat or touch it ....he wont even eat mini eggs which.nursery gave out today |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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tried smoothies and ice cream and he wont entertain them at all ....shepherds pie he just looks at and says digusting ....tried not giving him his food as advised by health visitor ...she said give him his favourite breakfast ...and then offered him different food but nothing else ....3 days before i broke cus i couldnt keep up with him just having 11/2 weetabix a day ....cus he refused everything else |
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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago
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don't make a fuss put his food in front of him,ignore him,if he hasn't eaten it when its gone cold take it away,dont say anything,keep doing it,he wont starve himself,and if he likes spag bol do what the other OP said put plenty of veggies in the sauce |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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also with his fissure....he got to drink at least 1.5 litres of fluids a day ....so get told by health visitor to cut fluids but then told by doctor to keep fluid intake high and to get as much fluid in him as i can x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"don't make a fuss put his food in front of him,ignore him,if he hasn't eaten it when its gone cold take it away,dont say anything,keep doing it,he wont starve himself,and if he likes spag bol do what the other OP said put plenty of veggies in the sauce "
It doesn't always work like that.
My son will happily go without food.
He has an aversion to most veg, potatos now cheese.
I went with the he'll eat it if he is hungry. Nope, He lost weight and still wont eat it if put in front off him.
The school nurse has told me to feed him little and often and as he has a long school walk carry some biscuits. She has said I don't care what you feed him at the minute. He has finally put on the weight he lost but for his age is still classed as underweight.
For some children food is a control thing. They know you cannot force it down their throat. With my son it only started happening as we finally got the help needed to address behavioural issues we had struggled with since he was 2. He is now 6 |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"don't make a fuss put his food in front of him,ignore him,if he hasn't eaten it when its gone cold take it away,dont say anything,keep doing it,he wont starve himself,and if he likes spag bol do what the other OP said put plenty of veggies in the sauce
It doesn't always work like that.
My son will happily go without food.
He has an aversion to most veg, potatos now cheese.
I went with the he'll eat it if he is hungry. Nope, He lost weight and still wont eat it if put in front off him.
The school nurse has told me to feed him little and often and as he has a long school walk carry some biscuits. She has said I don't care what you feed him at the minute. He has finally put on the weight he lost but for his age is still classed as underweight.
For some children food is a control thing. They know you cannot force it down their throat. With my son it only started happening as we finally got the help needed to address behavioural issues we had struggled with since he was 2. He is now 6"
this is how it is with mine ....he will happily exist on 1 and a half weetabix a day and about 8 cups of juice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"don't make a fuss put his food in front of him,ignore him,if he hasn't eaten it when its gone cold take it away,dont say anything,keep doing it,he wont starve himself,and if he likes spag bol do what the other OP said put plenty of veggies in the sauce
It doesn't always work like that.
My son will happily go without food.
He has an aversion to most veg, potatos now cheese.
I went with the he'll eat it if he is hungry. Nope, He lost weight and still wont eat it if put in front off him.
The school nurse has told me to feed him little and often and as he has a long school walk carry some biscuits. She has said I don't care what you feed him at the minute. He has finally put on the weight he lost but for his age is still classed as underweight.
For some children food is a control thing. They know you cannot force it down their throat. With my son it only started happening as we finally got the help needed to address behavioural issues we had struggled with since he was 2. He is now 6
this is how it is with mine ....he will happily exist on 1 and a half weetabix a day and about 8 cups of juice"
Just keep persevering. Offer it and if he doesn't eat it move on.
If he doesn't already give him vitamins so you know he is getting something good in him.
Offer plenty of snacks, mine have a long walk to and from school and school nurse told me to keep biscuits in my bag to give him not only so he is eating something but to bribe him to stay close and not run in the road.
Keep a food diary for the hospital of everything including drinks.
If the doctor was very concerned he would have sent you straight there so try not to worry too much.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am so lucky with my 3 & 4 year old , the only veg they dislike is sprouts, they eat all fruit and all salad except onions (but they'll eat them cooked)
If I offered a bags of sweets or a punnet of strawberrys/ grapes they would pick the fruit . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am so lucky with my 3 & 4 year old , the only veg they dislike is sprouts, they eat all fruit and all salad except onions (but they'll eat them cooked)
If I offered a bags of sweets or a punnet of strawberrys/ grapes they would pick the fruit ."
Strawberries * |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am so lucky with my 3 & 4 year old , the only veg they dislike is sprouts, they eat all fruit and all salad except onions (but they'll eat them cooked)
If I offered a bags of sweets or a punnet of strawberrys/ grapes they would pick the fruit ."
I haven't found any fruit mine won't eat veg on the other hand  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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the doctor been more worried about the fissure than anything else ....health visitor tells me opposite to doctor ....the other week i asked for a joint appointment ....and this was when it was decided to refer cus they both couldnt decide on a joint action plan so decid to bring in a 3 rd party.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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im not prepared to cut the fluid intake until they do retest on the fissure to make sure its healed ....but due to his age they dont want to do them saying they heal in time |
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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago
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"nursery says he quiet and legathic .."
That could just be his personality. Lots of small children tire easily especially at nursery. Out of my 3 my eldest son has been the pickiest of eaters fron the age of around 2 til about 4 lived mainly on toast cereal and yogurts. But I just gave him what i.knew he would eat and as he started school he did follow suit with what others were eating and is much better now. I know its natural to worry but i wouldnt worry too much about it as fussy eaters often grow out of it. |
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"also with his fissure....he got to drink at least 1.5 litres of fluids a day ....so get told by health visitor to cut fluids but then told by doctor to keep fluid intake high and to get as much fluid in him as i can x"
Give him a good drink an hour before he eats and then no drink with his food. You can fill yourself with fluids and think that you're full. |
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When I was a kid I was a fussy eater. Then one day my Dad told me that things had to change. He said from that day I would have a choice at meal times. Eat it or leave it,
Like a lot of kids I was stubborn and didn't eat for a couple of days, but it sorted me out. |
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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago
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"im not prepared to cut the fluid intake until they do retest on the fissure to make sure its healed ....but due to his age they dont want to do them saying they heal in time"
When it comes to medical advice go with what the doctor advises. With all due respect the the Health Visitor the G.P is the senior medical professional x |
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"also with his fissure....he got to drink at least 1.5 litres of fluids a day ....so get told by health visitor to cut fluids but then told by doctor to keep fluid intake high and to get as much fluid in him as i can x"
No wonder he won't eat when he drinks all that. I bet once you've sorted the fissure and can cut his liquid intake down he will start eating more. M
Also like someone else said its a control thing. If he likes spag Bol and you can get loads of veg hidden in the sauce let him have it it won't do any harm and at least he's eating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would give him what he likes to eat. His taste buds may change later."
Snap x I have fussy eater she now tries things if she likes she has more if not she doesn't x as long as he doesn't look malnourished and is happy and bright I wouldn't worry too much they change when older don't make an issue makes them worse  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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i really realised how bad he was for eating when today me amd some other mum took them for a macdonalds after nursery as they are leaving one and starting school nursery and my boy was the only one to refuse to eat anything...but minute we was home wanted his normal lunch of two crackers n cheese |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My son is nearly 4 and a very fussy eater. When he goes to school hopefully he'll be less fussy"
good luck .....i had hoped that .....in end nursery staff just accepted that he wont try but didnt make a fuss and offered it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"also with his fissure....he got to drink at least 1.5 litres of fluids a day ....so get told by health visitor to cut fluids but then told by doctor to keep fluid intake high and to get as much fluid in him as i can x"
I would keep the fluids up, my daughter had a toilet phobia was a nightmare going anywhere and she refused to drink or drank very little, getting her dry on a night has been impossiable as her bladder had shrunk. |
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"im not prepared to cut the fluid intake until they do retest on the fissure to make sure its healed ....but due to his age they dont want to do them saying they heal in time
When it comes to medical advice go with what the doctor advises. With all due respect the the Health Visitor the G.P is the senior medical professional x"
Not always. Health visitors specialise in children. GP is a general physician. Very often my health visitor was much more knowledgable than my GP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i really realised how bad he was for eating when today me amd some other mum took them for a macdonalds after nursery as they are leaving one and starting school nursery and my boy was the only one to refuse to eat anything...but minute we was home wanted his normal lunch of two crackers n cheese"
It's really hard not to worry but try not to. They mostly grow out of it. Make a list of what he will eat and alternate it through the week. Or try variations of similar things. Then you can both (hopefully!) stop stressing a bit.
Try not to make any fuss at all. Set times for meals and when it's done it's done, do something fun.
Hugs xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm having all the above problems with my child, and he's 8!! Worry that he ain't getting dirty food in him that contain the good bacteria for his immune system. This is how IBS and Crohne's can start. |
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