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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or is passion,sensuality and friendship enough to make you happy?  "
What is passion if it is not love? Albeit the fleeting not the staying kind? All I know is, I never stop learning! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or is passion,sensuality and friendship enough to make you happy? "
All those 3 are equally important but experiencing real love is the icing on the cake! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope!
Never been in love from my side. Never ever?"
No I wouldn't say so. Maybe once about 5 years ago but I screwed that up.
Didn't realise it till it was over.  |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Nope!
Never been in love from my side. Never ever?
No I wouldn't say so. Maybe once about 5 years ago but I screwed that up.
Didn't realise it till it was over. "
Some people never know what they have until its gone, sounds cheesy but I think in some cases its very true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Loving someone and being loved is like no other feeling in the world. Unfortunately the last person I loved betrayed me. Taken a while to get over, but am optimistic to one day love again. For now I have two kids who I love and adore more than life itself.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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all those things that you mentioned are elements of love the only elements missing our trust and communication.
trust and respect your emotions porn from the inherent needs to feel safe. we as humans are driven by the need for sexual relations those relations include intimacy and emotional well-being. if this is not love I just don't know what it is. I humbly state this is only my opinion however.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love is very important to me My experience of it is that it is a complex emotion with different levels. I am fortunate enough to have experienced it's complexity but I have found dealing with it can be fucking difficult |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes love is important I had it once an it was such a good feeling but was also badly hurt by it not such a good feeling but all part of life x got kids to focus on different kinda love x enjoying lust at the mo to me sumat totally different from love, love is deep  |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Love is very important to me My experience of it is that it is a complex emotion with different levels. I am fortunate enough to have experienced it's complexity but I have found dealing with it can be fucking difficult "
I think it can be.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Love is very important to me My experience of it is that it is a complex emotion with different levels. I am fortunate enough to have experienced it's complexity but I have found dealing with it can be fucking difficult I think it can be...."
But I'd rather feel love and deal with the pain associated with it at times, than not. |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Love is very important to me My experience of it is that it is a complex emotion with different levels. I am fortunate enough to have experienced it's complexity but I have found dealing with it can be fucking difficult I think it can be....
But I'd rather feel love and deal with the pain associated with it at times, than not. "
Its a risk, but pays dividends until it goes tits up. |
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"Or is passion,sensuality and friendship enough to make you happy? "
They could keep me happy meanwhile for sure, I'm usually in lust with someone! But to love and be loved is more fulfilling than anything else I think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or is passion,sensuality and friendship enough to make you happy?
They could keep me happy meanwhile for sure, I'm usually in lust with someone! But to love and be loved is more fulfilling than anything else I think."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I count myself very lucky to have a deepening enduring love. Life without Mr D would be a life adrift.
It's so sad when people close themselves off from love but I understand why.
I'd rather risk being hurt than never feel love. |
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"I count myself very lucky to have a deepening enduring love. Life without Mr D would be a life adrift.
It's so sad when people close themselves off from love but I understand why.
I'd rather risk being hurt than never feel love."
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yes of course...
love has many forms, but we can't live without it, whether it partner, family, friends... being treasured and sharing a bond is incredible.
Just as sex, trust, honesty, closeness, laughter and so much more makes us form bonds too
Sorry was that a bit deep for a Monday
Ruby x |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"yes of course...
love has many forms, but we can't live without it, whether it partner, family, friends... being treasured and sharing a bond is incredible.
Just as sex, trust, honesty, closeness, laughter and so much more makes us form bonds too
Sorry was that a bit deep for a Monday
Ruby x"
I think you are right, thanks for sharing xx |
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By *r-UniqueMan
over a year ago
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If someone isn't fixated with doing something to the point where it's unhealthy. Then love is extremely important. Whether it's from a family member, a friend or a loved one. Everyone needs to be loved or the negativity of it all will hit us at some point in out loves. Usually when its too late. |
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By *r-UniqueMan
over a year ago
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"If someone isn't fixated with doing something to the point where it's unhealthy. What do you mean?"
The kind of people who are like Roy Cropper off coronation street. We know everyone deserves a partner to love them and vice versa, but in general they may not feel the need to have that sort of love in their life and they usually fill that void with hobbies, which sometimes are obsessive. |
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"No. I loved and lost. I'm all outta love "
Me too...too many comparisons made to anyone that comes into my life and too much of me taken away with that person to be able to love someone again fully and have even more love back...if I ever have somebody love me the way he did then it'll be a bonus in my life but it's not a necessity and not hugely important. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think I have ever been in love with a sexual partner !!! It sad but true (love my kids and family of course) was with my Hubby 25 years and I don't think I ever truly loved him !!! 
Who knows one day I may find it !!!! But not looking right now !!!! Lust is enough to keep the old girl going for a bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only love I have is for my kids and family I don't think I will ever let another man into my heart not that any would want to but I'm happy with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I loved and lost. I'm all outta love
Me too...too many comparisons made to anyone that comes into my life and too much of me taken away with that person to be able to love someone again fully and have even more love back...if I ever have somebody love me the way he did then it'll be a bonus in my life but it's not a necessity and not hugely important."
I wouldn't want to be loved again like my ex loved me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have loved and still do every woman i have had a proper relationship with, Whatever the outcome or reason for splitting i was with them because i felt strongly about them
Him |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I count myself very lucky to have a deepening enduring love. Life without Mr D would be a life adrift.
It's so sad when people close themselves off from love but I understand why.
I'd rather risk being hurt than never feel love."
Sometimes though it's not about being closed off from it... it's just not coming across it. I'm wary because I don't understand it, but am sure if it ever were to come my way is accept it... just maybe a little cautiously! |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I count myself very lucky to have a deepening enduring love. Life without Mr D would be a life adrift.
It's so sad when people close themselves off from love but I understand why.
I'd rather risk being hurt than never feel love.
Sometimes though it's not about being closed off from it... it's just not coming across it. I'm wary because I don't understand it, but am sure if it ever were to come my way is accept it... just maybe a little cautiously!"
Its understandable to be cautious, and I think sensible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone needs a little love in their life... 
Fancy a little loving?
I already get plenty!
I bet you do, but it's all about not letting people feel left out "
Not from here I may add.. An I never leave anyone out! |
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By *r-UniqueMan
over a year ago
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"Everyone needs a little love in their life...
Fancy a little loving?
I already get plenty!
I bet you do, but it's all about not letting people feel left out
Not from here I may add.. An I never leave anyone out! "
That doesn't surprise me either . That's good to hear too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm really lonely, so yes love is important. I'm not optimistic of finding any."
It will most likely find you though. Loves funny like that.
You're open to it so that's a good start.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love has scrwed me over more than once with cheating etc I haven't had a proper relationship in about 4 years. N its a bit upsetting but now im used to single life dun half miss the spooning tho x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yup
it's confusing as fuck though
thought i had experienced it
then i met JN and realised that maybe that what i had experienced was just a sneak pre_iew
whatever it is i feel now i just wanna go on and on cos it feels amazing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, but I have more than enough from my family - a grandchild's love is the best! As for romantic love - no, I got disillusioned with that kind a long long time ago. Friendship with benefits fufils my need for intimacy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Or is passion,sensuality and friendship enough to make you happy? "
i love my right hand however its just friendship with my left hand
on a serious note cant one have it all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love is central to me - when it's there, then I'm alive and complete; without it, I'm nothing.
I love deeply and passionately - that come from my Italian side - and have been fortunate in loving well in my life.
Fab and swinging are just passtimes - they provide physical release and little adventures to brighten the course of life, but they'll never be anything more....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jools and I tell each other " I love you" and cuddle every day. Morning, and bedtime and when we get in from work. We been together since 1986. And I love her more now than ever. We always been close. We both affectionate people who love cuddling and kissing. We also tell our kids we love them every day.
Sounds slushy and not everyone's cup of tea. But if you love someone what's wrong with letting them know ? We dont wait till Valentine's day.
Love you all too |
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"I count myself very lucky to have a deepening enduring love. Life without Mr D would be a life adrift.
It's so sad when people close themselves off from love but I understand why.
I'd rather risk being hurt than never feel love.
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If we're to look into that comment deeper love can still be felt even when we try our utmost best to stay away from it, I say this from present experience...I actually don't think it's possible to choose who with or when you fall in love, yes you can choose your life partner but to choose who you fall in love with is impossible in my opinion. I know I've loads of love inside of me to give but I made the choice a few years ago of not wanting to put myself in the position of loving and losing it again or so I thought I did, I've now after trying to tell myself I'm not and fighting the feelings, fallen head over heels with someone that I know would not and could not ever love me back, it's a stab in the heart every time I hear her tell me how much she loves her man and knowing that she'll never feel what I do for her, I couldn't ever tell her as it'd ruin our friendship which I value amongst so many other relations we have, it's very complicated and I won't go into it on here but what I'm trying to say is that the sentence 'I'd rather risk being hurt than never feel love' isn't a choice sometimes...you can feel love and still be hurting everyday...in so many different ways...love for people that have died or are in a coma etc, we can still be in love but be dying inside...ps don't shoot me, I just took that sentence in a different way to how you said it and voiced my opinion but that's cos of experiences I've had...I could exist without my families love but I wouldn't be living, it's the only love I need! Sorry a bit deep for this time of the morning! |
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Not altogether sure what love is!
I have very very close ties with my family which now is more important than anything..
I have 'fallen in love' too many times and that kinda love I find very painful,complex and difficult.
Currently I have lots of sex,but no love involved and I do hope it stays that way,although I doubt it,somethin normally comes along and sends me 'out of control'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I count myself very lucky to have a deepening enduring love. Life without Mr D would be a life adrift.
It's so sad when people close themselves off from love but I understand why.
I'd rather risk being hurt than never feel love.
If we're to look into that comment deeper love can still be felt even when we try our utmost best to stay away from it, I say this from present experience...I actually don't think it's possible to choose who with or when you fall in love, yes you can choose your life partner but to choose who you fall in love with is impossible in my opinion. I know I've loads of love inside of me to give but I made the choice a few years ago of not wanting to put myself in the position of loving and losing it again or so I thought I did, I've now after trying to tell myself I'm not and fighting the feelings, fallen head over heels with someone that I know would not and could not ever love me back, it's a stab in the heart every time I hear her tell me how much she loves her man and knowing that she'll never feel what I do for her, I couldn't ever tell her as it'd ruin our friendship which's I value amongst so many other relations we have, it's very complicated and I won't go into it on here but what I'm trying to say is that the sentence 'I'd rather risk being hurt than never feel love' isn't a choice sometimes...you can feel love and still be hurting everyday...in so many different ways...love for people that have died or are in a coma etc, we can still be in love but be dying inside...ps don't shoot me, I just took that sentence in a different way to how you said it and voiced my opinion but that's cos of experiences I've had...I could exist without my families love but I wouldn't be living, it's the only love I need! Sorry a bit deep for this time of the morning!"
Actually I totally agree and for what little it's worth, sorry you're in that situation. I've loved someone once who was completely indifferent to me. In some respects I'd rather he was unattainable as there wasn't even a circumstance I could blame, he didn't end up hating me or have a better offer, he was just not that interested in me when i was his girlfriend. Yes, that sure hurts.
I also never intended to invite love in when I met Mr D, I was extracting myself from a fruitless jealous relationship and wanted a bit of sex as I was very quickly missing it. We met via a sex contact site, I think I instantly felt like I'd come home when we met but thought this isn't happening kid, he lives 300 miles away. It's a one night stand......
Part of the reason I said I feel so very lucky, because he loved me back.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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Love is important to me, especially that I have for my family and friends. Romantic love less so now. It would be thrilling to find that but I am not seeking it. I just try to be true to my feelings at all times.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Having never felt loved while growing up, and two failed marriages love is very important to me. It's taken me a long time to find everything i need in a relationship, but nobody can predict the future..... Ruby |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I instantly felt like I'd come home when we met but thought this isn't happening kid, he lives 300 miles away. It's a one night stand......
Part of the reason I said I feel so very lucky, because he loved me back.
i felt exactly the same when i met my twat! to find love like ours once was amazing (i'm a widow) but to find it twice is incredible |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" I instantly felt like I'd come home when we met but thought this isn't happening kid, he lives 300 miles away. It's a one night stand......
Part of the reason I said I feel so very lucky, because he loved me back.
i felt exactly the same when i met my twat! to find love like ours once was amazing (i'm a widow) but to find it twice is incredible "
Absolutely fantastic, you've made me grin from ear to ear, and I love your name!! |
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" I instantly felt like I'd come home when we met but thought this isn't happening kid, he lives 300 miles away. It's a one night stand......
Part of the reason I said I feel so very lucky, because he loved me back.
i felt exactly the same when i met my twat! to find love like ours once was amazing (i'm a widow) but to find it twice is incredible "
brought a tear too my eye that kid amazing |
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