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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope. I was worried I might flip me biscuit when I saw him with someone else, but when it came down to it, we both found it VERY horny.
Hence the reason we are here ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would be if I saw the woman I loved with another man, but with another women I wouldn't care. Make of that what you will."
You probably _iew the other man as a threat to your relationship! |
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By *aitinkCouple
over a year ago
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Jealousy is about ownership and swinging is about sharing, and openness, and truth telling and exploits our physiological response to sex with others which enhances our own sexual response. Not only do we love sharing and watching each other, we go home and fuck like bunnies for a couple of weeks.
Swinging enhances a good relationship but exaggerates a dodgy one: if you think your relationship is dodgy. Stop now and fix it first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would be if I saw the woman I loved with another man, but with another women I wouldn't care. Make of that what you will.
You probably _iew the other man as a threat to your relationship!"
Nah, I just don't like the idea of another guy sticking his dick where mine belongs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would be if I saw the woman I loved with another man, but with another women I wouldn't care. Make of that what you will."
 I would be if I saw the man I loved with another woman so can understand what you mean. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would be if I saw the woman I loved with another man, but with another women I wouldn't care. Make of that what you will.
You probably _iew the other man as a threat to your relationship!
Nah, I just don't like the idea of another guy sticking his dick where mine belongs."
Errr that's kind of what I said lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not with a fem no - neither one of us is sure how we would feel if we full swapped as a 4sum so we havent yet - we have a couple we feel more than comfy with as soft and we all understand how we feel - so if it naturally flows that way so be it - not jealousy though just how horny or not it will be so i suppose the feelings could be different with different people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I find it a real turn on to watch Will with another woman, while i am having fun with the male x
not sure about playing alone - it hasn't happened yet, but I am sure I will be fine x
Sara x |
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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago
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"Jealousy is about ownership and swinging is about sharing, and openness, and truth telling and exploits our physiological response to sex with others which enhances our own sexual response. Not only do we love sharing and watching each other, we go home and fuck like bunnies for a couple of weeks.
Swinging enhances a good relationship but exaggerates a dodgy one: if you think your relationship is dodgy. Stop now and fix it first."
When i was part of a couple. I would get a buzz from watching her been pleasured by another, and for her it would be a turn on for her that i was happy. That she turned me on by watching. That's physical.
the problem would be for me if she had a male friend who she confided her personal and most inner thoughts with.
For me that's betrayal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting answers as they say everyone gets a touch of jealousy from time to time as its a natural emotion like happiness or sadness its almost as though people have answered how they want people to perceive them rather than as they are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting answers as they say everyone gets a touch of jealousy from time to time as its a natural emotion like happiness or sadness its almost as though people have answered how they want people to perceive them rather than as they are. "
Yes jealousy is a natural emotion but people have varying degrees of any emotion.
Some people rarely feel sad, some people often do. Jealousy is no different, it's about how you choose to process your thoughts.
I literally have zero jealousy in relation to where my husband puts his cock. Hence he can sleep with who he wants to, when he wants to. It's sounds cold to say I don't care, but it's more that it's not important to either of us.
Also even a person who has jealousy doesn't necessarily aim that jealousy at their partner. It could be family members, friends, celebrities, rich people....etc, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting answers as they say everyone gets a touch of jealousy from time to time as its a natural emotion like happiness or sadness its almost as though people have answered how they want people to perceive them rather than as they are. "
I agree. I would be lying if I said a tiny bit of jealously never happens in some situations. I like watching my husband with other women it is a turn on to me but there are boundaries. We both chit chat to people too. Sometimes I get a little jealously bite when hes a bit overly flirty but it goes away pretty quick because Im secure in our relationship. I don't really feel it is in any kind of jeopardy. There is so much more that binds us together than sex. And not just the fact that we have a son together either for all you cynics out there lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This topic....my my my
I don't get jealous, in fact I love watching him with another lady during a swap.
He on the other hand does get jealous at times and this has been the cause of a few disagreements. Yet he doesn't want to stop swinging.... So I say he's gonna have to get over it at some point , or coup better. 
Funny thing is its not every time. It'll hit him unexpectedly out of no where! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Interesting answers as they say everyone gets a touch of jealousy from time to time as its a natural emotion like happiness or sadness its almost as though people have answered how they want people to perceive them rather than as they are. "
Thats a good point we would both say we have a little jealousy at times but thats part of the kink in swinging for us and it kind of makes it more fun for us in a way as we talk about things afterwards. We don't feel the need to portray to others though its perfect and a bed of roses we are comfortable enough with each other not to have to worry about what others think. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not most of the time but now and again if I think he is having more fun than me. We talk a lot though and have often had a laugh about it and see it as healthy and nothing to worry about. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im honestly surprised there's jealousy during meets. I assumed most experienced swingers it was like water off a ducks back.
We've joked about the idea of wishing the other person was sometimes jealous but really we're happy with the neutrality of our feelings. The only overriding feeling is.....God that's horny. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im honestly surprised there's jealousy during meets. I assumed most experienced swingers it was like water off a ducks back.
We've joked about the idea of wishing the other person was sometimes jealous but really we're happy with the neutrality of our feelings. The only overriding feeling is.....God that's horny."
There is jealousy on who has the biggest steak so why not a little when swinging we find it very hard to believe people who say they never have a slight twinge and always wonder if there is not quite the harmony there but hey everyone sees things differently its just an opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im honestly surprised there's jealousy during meets. I assumed most experienced swingers it was like water off a ducks back.
We've joked about the idea of wishing the other person was sometimes jealous but really we're happy with the neutrality of our feelings. The only overriding feeling is.....God that's horny.
There is jealousy on who has the biggest steak so why not a little when swinging we find it very hard to believe people who say they never have a slight twinge and always wonder if there is not quite the harmony there but hey everyone sees things differently its just an opinion. "
No as I posted earlier, jealousy isn't always aimed at your partner. I don't know why it's impossible to believe someone has a jealousy free relationship.
I have no feelings whatsoever about who he is physically attracted to. Hence I actively encourage my other half to seek out experiences and I also look for ladies who are his ideal type (im not it) but I am his best friend and soul mate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im honestly surprised there's jealousy during meets. I assumed most experienced swingers it was like water off a ducks back.
We've joked about the idea of wishing the other person was sometimes jealous but really we're happy with the neutrality of our feelings. The only overriding feeling is.....God that's horny.
There is jealousy on who has the biggest steak so why not a little when swinging we find it very hard to believe people who say they never have a slight twinge and always wonder if there is not quite the harmony there but hey everyone sees things differently its just an opinion. "
Oh and I always give OH the bigger steak.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Did most people tame jealousy or not naturally jealous in the first place?"
I've never really had it. I remember feeling jealous of kids that had toys in primary school as i never had anything but that's it. I once had a jealous boyfriend and I really couldn't handle it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im honestly surprised there's jealousy during meets. I assumed most experienced swingers it was like water off a ducks back.
We've joked about the idea of wishing the other person was sometimes jealous but really we're happy with the neutrality of our feelings. The only overriding feeling is.....God that's horny.
There is jealousy on who has the biggest steak so why not a little when swinging we find it very hard to believe people who say they never have a slight twinge and always wonder if there is not quite the harmony there but hey everyone sees things differently its just an opinion.
Oh and I always give OH the bigger steak. "
Same here if I get it first but joking aside its that tingle of jealousy its not a biggie and I don't really mind if he gets the bigger steak but I won't swap.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If I did I could not swing ...... as it kills it .
Does it? In what way?"
Jealous partner making me feel bad or them upset just kill the joy and fun of swinging feeling like that . You know something's wrong and maybe need time out to sort it as seen this split people up in my time . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im honestly surprised there's jealousy during meets. I assumed most experienced swingers it was like water off a ducks back.
We've joked about the idea of wishing the other person was sometimes jealous but really we're happy with the neutrality of our feelings. The only overriding feeling is.....God that's horny.
There is jealousy on who has the biggest steak so why not a little when swinging we find it very hard to believe people who say they never have a slight twinge and always wonder if there is not quite the harmony there but hey everyone sees things differently its just an opinion.
Oh and I always give OH the bigger steak.
Same here if I get it first but joking aside its that tingle of jealousy its not a biggie and I don't really mind if he gets the bigger steak but I won't swap. "
I think I'm naiive lol. I honestly thought jealousy was a given to not be prevalent due to the nature of the activity. We're not talking green-eyed monster stuff tho I take it? Is it perhaps jealousy of skills or physical appearance or them having more fun?
We've seen proper in clubs and thought Christ, why have you added swinging to your problems?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Did most people tame jealousy or not naturally jealous in the first place?
I've never really had it. I remember feeling jealous of kids that had toys in primary school as i never had anything but that's it. I once had a jealous boyfriend and I really couldn't handle it.
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I'm genuinely feeling sad for you not having toys in primary school, bless  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've seen proper in clubs and thought Christ, why have you added swinging to your problems? lolol yes seen it to and said the same why add this to your problems .. maybe they think its a escape will help . ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Did most people tame jealousy or not naturally jealous in the first place?
I've never really had it. I remember feeling jealous of kids that had toys in primary school as i never had anything but that's it. I once had a jealous boyfriend and I really couldn't handle it.
I'm genuinely feeling sad for you not having toys in primary school, bless "
Lol I got over it, all part of lifes rich tapestry, wouldn't change it.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im not and have never been in a couple on here. Wouldnt mind but would have to be the right guy. My first meet, well jealousy got involved on my part and we parted company. Im doing better with it but lapsed a little while ago. But got over it again. its not worth it, luckily this guy is so laid back, he just told me what was what and that was that. |
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