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over a year ago
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one of them born in 1979, the other 1980. a year apart, yet separated by a decade. A forbidden love! One bound by he ideals disco funk and groove, the other with a sworn allegiance to new romantic synth pop.. but how can those 2 star crossed lovers ever make others see what they see??
FIND OUT NEXT WEEK!!  |
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"one of them born in 1979, the other 1980. a year apart, yet separated by a decade. A forbidden love! One bound by he ideals disco funk and groove, the other with a sworn allegiance to new romantic synth pop.. but how can those 2 star crossed lovers ever make others see what they see??
FIND OUT NEXT WEEK!! "
hahah ya nutty squirrel   |
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over a year ago
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hahah ya nutty squirrel
hehe... "nutty is as nutty does, ma'am.." hehe x 
Now Now Squirely, hope ya Dyson is in working order  "
Sucks like a dyson
Put that on your profile an guarantee the messages will come flooding in |
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hahah ya nutty squirrel
hehe... "nutty is as nutty does, ma'am.." hehe x
Now Now Squirely, hope ya Dyson is in working order
Sucks like a dyson
Put that on your profile an guarantee the messages will come flooding in "
I really wouldn't like to say or is that some kind of blow ya own trumpet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Couldn't blow my own trumpet if I wanted to
Only want a women around my instrument 
Ah shame .. Self suckers are all the rage!!  "
Am more of a licker then a sucker
Unless she wants to be sucked |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Now Now Squirely, hope ya Dyson is in working order "
PMSL.. its in fine condition.. theres practically nothing it can't bring a shine to, even those hard to reach areas are no match against its relentless power hehehe! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Now Now Squirely, hope ya Dyson is in working order
PMSL.. its in fine condition.. theres practically nothing it can't bring a shine to, even those hard to reach areas are no match against its relentless power hehehe! x"
Ohhh the dyson love affair continues pfft |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I genuinely believe that age has no bearing on whether relationships are a success, if there is a connection and both people are willing to compromise (as with all relationships) then it will be a strong relationship. |
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over a year ago
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JN - 20
SP - 43
Been together a year and two months now
Everything is going brilliantly, I love him more than anything and I'm happier than I've ever been!
JN |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I genuinely believe that age has no bearing on whether relationships are a success, if there is a connection and both people are willing to compromise (as with all relationships) then it will be a strong relationship. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I much prefer to meet and date older men. I was seeing someone until recently who was 14 years older than me, and he was the perfect gentleman. I think 14 years would be my limit though ... But never say never!! Late 30s to early 40s = perfection  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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trouble is someone older thinks they know better than you a lot of the time.
things arent so interesting to them because they have seen and done it all already. When they get old they start to get things wrong with them.
if they have grown up kids from their first marriage it makes things comlicated. |
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"trouble is someone older thinks they know better than you a lot of the time.
things arent so interesting to them because they have seen and done it all already. When they get old they start to get things wrong with them.
if they have grown up kids from their first marriage it makes things comlicated."
we have no problems in our relationship he's mentally younger than me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"trouble is someone older thinks they know better than you a lot of the time.
things arent so interesting to them because they have seen and done it all already. When they get old they start to get things wrong with them.
if they have grown up kids from their first marriage it makes things comlicated."
See he doesn't have that attitude, I'm the younger one with a medical condition and as for the kids, if you see them as a complication then the relationship is bound to fail. His kids are not a complication, they are a part of our relationship. Every decision we make we take the kids into consideration and they come first. I don't see them as a complication, I see them as an asset. |
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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago
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"trouble is someone older thinks they know better than you a lot of the time.
things arent so interesting to them because they have seen and done it all already. When they get old they start to get things wrong with them.
if they have grown up kids from their first marriage it makes things comlicated.
See he doesn't have that attitude, I'm the younger one with a medical condition and as for the kids, if you see them as a complication then the relationship is bound to fail. His kids are not a complication, they are a part of our relationship. Every decision we make we take the kids into consideration and they come first. I don't see them as a complication, I see them as an asset. "
this is so spot on ruby
we love having both my kids and grandkids around they keep me young and make lily a gilf lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"JN - 20
SP - 43
Been together a year and two months now
Everything is going brilliantly, I love him more than anything and I'm happier than I've ever been!
JN "
From my perspective, JN is my 3rd serious relationship. The others have been around my age or older and have been both male and female.
JN was below my minimum age limit when we started chatting - by about 7 years - but as soon as we met it was instant.
How I describe it is 'we fit' : we are the perfect match in so many ways it is untrue and the second guessing each other is, at times, a little bit freaky
Whilst I have had younger sexual partners before, I have always left it there because I didn't want to be with someone who was on a different page in the book of life.
With JN though I have someone who behaves well beyond his years and in many respects demonstrates far more maturity than a lot of guys my own age (including me at times)
Small in build he maybe, but big on resolve : he knows his mind, he knows what he likes, he knows what he wants and he knows how to get there.
Don't think for one minute that I exercise all the control in the relationship, because nothing could be further from the truth - well except in the bedroom, but then again he likes that
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was 19 husband 32. Lasted 6 years but he was a very old 32. Every year he seemed to age a further 5 years. In my opinion yes relationships can work as long as you both want the same things and on each others wavelength. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"my brothers married to an older woman who has got granchildren she told me that he doesnt realy like kids and gets fed up with them.  "
Then may I suggest the relationship won't last. I knew when we got together that he came as part of a team of 4. If I didn't have a good relationship with the kids then our relationship wouldn't be as strong as it is. |
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"my brothers married to an older woman who has got granchildren she told me that he doesnt realy like kids and gets fed up with them.
Then may I suggest the relationship won't last. I knew when we got together that he came as part of a team of 4. If I didn't have a good relationship with the kids then our relationship wouldn't be as strong as it is. "
Thats where your wrong because they have been together for over 20 years, get on ok in other ways, no marriage is perfect, some people stay together for other reasons, not everyone gets divorced because they get annoyed about some things, obviously the kids dont bother him that much. |
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16yrs between us, don't even notice or think about it anymore, if others do well it's up to them, and, up to them what they think... It used to bother me when we first got together. I used to imagine everyone was looking at us. But now quite frankly my dears I really don't give a damn. |
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"my brothers married to an older woman who has got granchildren she told me that he doesnt realy like kids and gets fed up with them.
Then may I suggest the relationship won't last. I knew when we got together that he came as part of a team of 4. If I didn't have a good relationship with the kids then our relationship wouldn't be as strong as it is.
Thats where your wrong because they have been together for over 20 years, get on ok in other ways, no marriage is perfect, some people stay together for other reasons, not everyone gets divorced because they get annoyed about some things, obviously the kids dont bother him that much."
Which is not what you said in your previous post! You said, he doesn't really like kids and gets fed up with them, not what you've just said! Its very difficult to debate something with someone who changes things!
If the kids don't bother him then they aren't going to be an issue, if he doesn't like them then it is going to be! |
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"my brothers married to an older woman who has got granchildren she told me that he doesnt realy like kids and gets fed up with them.
Then may I suggest the relationship won't last. I knew when we got together that he came as part of a team of 4. If I didn't have a good relationship with the kids then our relationship wouldn't be as strong as it is.
Thats where your wrong because they have been together for over 20 years, get on ok in other ways, no marriage is perfect, some people stay together for other reasons, not everyone gets divorced because they get annoyed about some things, obviously the kids dont bother him that much.
Which is not what you said in your previous post! You said, he doesn't really like kids and gets fed up with them, not what you've just said! Its very difficult to debate something with someone who changes things!
If the kids don't bother him then they aren't going to be an issue, if he doesn't like them then it is going to be! "
Oh dear  sorry, maybe i should of said he said he doesnt like kids much.
i realy dont know as i dont live with them, im just saying what i was told. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Me and Andy are 15 years apart and is the best and most fulfilling relationship I've had. I've always gone out with older men and the relationships have been good ones. I had a bf younger than me, and one just 2 years older than me, and they were horrible relationships. The biggest age gapped relationship I've had is 30 years. We split because he wanted to get married but I wasn't ready for that commitment, but we left on good terms and are still friends now.
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I would be never dream of getting in a relationship with someone whose kids are dependable. I spent 16 years putting my son first (which I loved) and being restricted. Now I want to do what I like, when I like and with who I like without having to take kids into consideration
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hey x the lad Im seeing for past two months is 30 years younger. His mum and dad know all about us and are happy ! Lol It cant possibly last as he needs to have his own family etc but Im enjoying it whilst I can. I think its slightly different for older guy younger woman and the woman can still have kids x
See ya next Sat gorgeous - cant wait for the best party in Salisbury xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"22 years between us, where in our 8th year and blissfully happy
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I. Recently had a 23 year old guy fall for me. I'm 41. Does it matter that it's the women who's older? How does society view this? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good luck to people but I think an age gap of maybe 10 years or so can sometimes look a bit uncomfortable "
Who gives a toss how it 'looks'?
It's how it feels for the 2 people in the relationship that is important.
If our relationship makes other people uncomfortable then that is their 'issue' to deal with whilst we get on with being happy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"JN - 20
SP - 43
Been together a year and two months now
Everything is going brilliantly, I love him more than anything and I'm happier than I've ever been!
JN
Aww that's lovely "
Brilliant, hope for us all. I am not concerned about age at all. Met and/or dated +20 to -20 from when I was 17 to 52. All were such fun ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Three of the happiest relationships I've known amongst family & friends have had big age gaps , 2 the guys were/are older by 11 & 22 years. The other , the lady was 13 years older .
No-one ever questioned it , they all fitted together . Age is but a number & if it feels right then it will be right ! |
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This week a lady agreed to meet for a social, we spoke oh the phone, my age is on my profile and I was looking forward to the natter.
Then, perhaps stupidly, I wrote to her on What's App. Described myself as white hair, I went white age 36 .. Eyebrows remain black (bit like Philip Scofield or Alistair Darling). She asked me "how old are you" ... Then she cancelled the social, 5 yrs too old. Pity.
I know everyone has a prefernce, but who knows what might have been. I have huge energy, love a giggle ...
So to some its just a number, to others its so much more. |
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"This week a lady agreed to meet for a social, we spoke oh the phone, my age is on my profile and I was looking forward to the natter.
Then, perhaps stupidly, I wrote to her on What's App. Described myself as white hair, I went white age 36 .. Eyebrows remain black (bit like Philip Scofield or Alistair Darling). She asked me "how old are you" ... Then she cancelled the social, 5 yrs too old. Pity.
I know everyone has a prefernce, but who knows what might have been. I have huge energy, love a giggle ...
So to some its just a number, to others its so much more. "
Stick to the Silver Fox in future.
Alistair Darling ... they aren't just eyebrows !
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Three of the happiest relationships I've known amongst family & friends have had big age gaps , 2 the guys were/are older by 11 & 22 years. The other , the lady was 13 years older .
No-one ever questioned it , they all fitted together . Age is but a number & if it feels right then it will be right !
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Think it would be my kids complaining. He's a year older than my daughter ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've got a thing for the older guy, at the age of 17 I was dating a 40 year old but I wanted different things from life, on here I prefer the older guy as they seem to treat me with more respect and look to pleasure me, the most recent being 20+ years older than me and knows exactly which buttons to press |
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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago
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"my brothers married to an older woman who has got granchildren she told me that he doesnt realy like kids and gets fed up with them.
Then may I suggest the relationship won't last. I knew when we got together that he came as part of a team of 4. If I didn't have a good relationship with the kids then our relationship wouldn't be as strong as it is.
Thats where your wrong because they have been together for over 20 years, get on ok in other ways, no marriage is perfect, some people stay together for other
reasons, not everyone gets divorced because they get
annoyed about some things,
obviously the kids dont bother him
that much.
Which is not what you said in your previous post! You said, he doesn't really like kids and gets fed up with them, not what you've just said! Its very difficult to debate something with someone who changes things!
If the kids don't bother him then they aren't going to be an issue, if
he doesn't like them then it is
going to be! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"one of them born in 1979, the other 1980. a year apart, yet separated by a decade. A forbidden love! One bound by he ideals disco funk and groove, the other with a sworn allegiance to new romantic synth pop.. but how can those 2 star crossed lovers ever make others see what they see??
Love it x
FIND OUT NEXT WEEK!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do you think of relationships with a big age gap are you in one.
Do you think they work long term.
What is your biggest age gap you have had.
Was it a good relationship."
My wife is 12 years younger than me, she is 34yrs old, I consider myself fairly highly sexed but I find it very difficult keeping up with her needs
guess I would turn a blind eye if she had a work place fling as it would reduce her sexual appetite at home, she has a good few toys but they just don't seem enough for her at times and she tires me out
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I think age gap when the man is older seems to get a lot less attention than when the woman is older. We have had the occasional looks from people passing by or couples nudging each other and looking our direction. I dont really think about it until you notice someone doing that. |
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"22 years between us, where in our 8th year and blissfully happy
I. Recently had a 23 year old guy fall for me. I'm 41. Does it matter that it's the women who's older? How does society view this?"
I wouldnt mind if my son was seeing a much older woman as long as she didnt have kids. |
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My dad was 19 years older than my mum, sadly he died many years ago but they were perfect for each other. I remember on the rare occasion he'd pick me up from school, my mates would think he was my grandad! |
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"22 years between us, where in our 8th year and blissfully happy
I. Recently had a 23 year old guy fall for me. I'm 41. Does it matter that it's the women who's older? How does society view this?
I wouldnt mind if my son was seeing a much older woman as long as she didnt have kids."
Why is that? Is it because you wouldn't want the 'grandchildren' not to be yours? X |
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"22 years between us, where in our 8th year and blissfully happy
I. Recently had a 23 year old guy fall for me. I'm 41. Does it matter that it's the women who's older? How does society view this?
I wouldnt mind if my son was seeing a much older woman as long as she didnt have kids."
Don't think that has anything to do with you though does it? What would you do if she did have kids?
My grandad married a woman younger than his daughter (my mum) lol they were together for years, he even had his vascectomy reversed to try and give her children but it didn't work and they split up. They are still good friends though. |
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"22 years between us, where in our 8th year and blissfully happy
I. Recently had a 23 year old guy fall for me. I'm 41. Does it matter that it's the women who's older? How does society view this?
I wouldnt mind if my son was seeing a much older woman as long as she didnt have kids.
Don't think that has anything to do with you though does it? What would you do if she did have kids?
My grandad married a woman younger than his daughter (my mum) lol they were together for years, he even had his vascectomy reversed to try and give her children but it didn't work and they split up. They are still good friends though. "
No it wouldnt have anything to do with me, my sons an adult but luckily hes quite sensible. |
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"22 years between us, where in our 8th year and blissfully happy
I. Recently had a 23 year old guy fall for me. I'm 41. Does it matter that it's the women who's older? How does society view this?
I wouldnt mind if my son was seeing a much older woman as long as she didnt have kids.
Don't think that has anything to do with you though does it? What would you do if she did have kids?
My grandad married a woman younger than his daughter (my mum) lol they were together for years, he even had his vascectomy reversed to try and give her children but it didn't work and they split up. They are still good friends though.
No it wouldnt have anything to do with me, my sons an adult but luckily hes quite sensible. "
To be honest I probably wouldn't be happy if it was one of my kids as you want the best for them and I would be worried about them being on their own in the prime of their life cos their partner had dropped dead lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Oldest was 14 years older when I was 19 and she 33. Youngest was last year - she was 19 (daughter of a fab member and yes mum knows before any one neg comments!). Have had fun with a few 23 yr olds here too.... Never seems to matter tbh but some folks on here do set limits - and that's their choice and should also be respected. |
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My Dad is 64 my step-mum is 32.... so 32 years difference. They have been together 9 years and are extremely happy.
I find it very entertaining introducing her as my step-mum as she is 8yrs younger than me
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"My Dad is 64 my step-mum is 32.... so 32 years difference. They have been together 9 years and are extremely happy.
I find it very entertaining introducing her as my step-mum as she is 8yrs younger than me
xxx"
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12 years between me and hubby and people say I look older then him  I know I act it some times! We have a good dynamic that works well 12 years and still going strong he is my everything and I am his |
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My sons last g/f he was 22 and she was 38, thought I would find it strange seeing them together but I didn't. They've split up now but not because of the age difference he's seeing someone his own age now
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"JN - 20
SP - 43
Been together a year and two months now
Everything is going brilliantly, I love him more than anything and I'm happier than I've ever been!
JN
Aww that's lovely :-
Brilliant, hope for us all. I am not concerned about age at all. Met and/or dated +20 to -20 from when I was 17 to 52. All were such fun ... "
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"My sons last g/f he was 22 and she was 38, thought I would find it strange seeing them together but I didn't. They've split up now but not because of the age difference he's seeing someone his own age now
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