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over a year ago
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Ive been speaking to a guy and weve been getting on quite well and have agreed to go on a date which is all fine and well. However he has told me he wants me to be a size 14 as thats what he likes and cant seem to grasp the fact i want to change my body for the better and slim down and get fitter and sees this as a relationship breaker as in his eyes a size 12 is too skinny and women this size have no curves yet i have plenty curves. So i ask would a guy be put off a girl who wants to get in shape and be healthier? |
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"Ive been speaking to a guy and weve been getting on quite well and have agreed to go on a date which is all fine and well. However he has told me he wants me to be a size 14 as thats what he likes and cant seem to grasp the fact i want to change my body for the better and slim down and get fitter and sees this as a relationship breaker as in his eyes a size 12 is too skinny and women this size have no curves yet i have plenty curves. So i ask would a guy be put off a girl who wants to get in shape and be healthier?"
Some would, the keepers wouldn't. |
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Massive respect for anyone, regardless of their size who wants to improve their fitness and health. You go for it girl, all the best to you on the journey.
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Tell him to jog the fuck on....change for yourself and for no man, woman or beast...I've been told I'd look great if I was a size 16....I probably would be but I ain't and I've not got enough time to give a shit...about what others think I should be to suit them.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jeez, stay away. That's control he's trying to exert and you're not even an item. Guy did it with me once but I saw the problems coming so I buggered off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry but if he's started on wanting to change you before you've even been on a date what's he going to be like afterwards?
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The guy sounds a total dick. Listen to the warning signs and don't get involved would be my advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fuck. That. Shit.
Tell him you'll do it when he grows a footlong dick for you and fucks himself. "
lol that's made my night! Dress sizes are so irrelevant in my opinion, why some guys say no women over a size whatever I'll never know. Do what you want for you, not other people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive been speaking to a guy and weve been getting on quite well and have agreed to go on a date which is all fine and well. However he has told me he wants me to be a size 14 as thats what he likes and cant seem to grasp the fact i want to change my body for the better and slim down and get fitter and sees this as a relationship breaker as in his eyes a size 12 is too skinny and women this size have no curves yet i have plenty curves. So i ask would a guy be put off a girl who wants to get in shape and be healthier?"
every one is different to you to remember that, like and dislikes are just a part of that. If some say you have to over a size 14 then I say there not worth the time of day. You can have curves 12 and strait up and down 16. I like people for differing reasons but I say I do love a lady with curves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Diet and just shop in designer shops
Their sizes are always 2 smaller than what it says on the label anyway
so diet to a real 10 and u will be a designer 14  |
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Eeeks! Well anyone who told me I had to be whatever , to fit into their perfect notch , would be in for a mighty big shock! As i aint one to mince my words and in this case he would end up being told about himself... And some... As others have said , warning bells would have me off in the other direction quick time! If he like this now , before ya even met ... Jeeeeese WTF!   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for the replies everyone, you have all confirmed what i was thinking. I told him that any sort of relationship between us would be a bad idea as i deserve better than a guy who doesnt like me for me no matter what size i am.  xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you for the replies everyone, you have all confirmed what i was thinking. I told him that any sort of relationship between us would be a bad idea as i deserve better than a guy who doesnt like me for me no matter what size i am. xxx"
Good girl, never do it I spent 17 years trying to be thin enough, I'm still suffering from the scars |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is this for a swinging meet or an actual vanille date?
Either way it would be a feck off from me!!
How dare a Guy should ask you lose/gain weight for him.
Run....run for the hills woman!!
Auds x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ive been speaking to a guy and weve been getting on quite well and have agreed to go on a date which is all fine and well. However he has told me he wants me to be a size 14 as thats what he likes and cant seem to grasp the fact i want to change my body for the better and slim down and get fitter and sees this as a relationship breaker as in his eyes a size 12 is too skinny and women this size have no curves yet i have plenty curves. So i ask would a guy be put off a girl who wants to get in shape and be healthier?"
He sounds like a control freak, do what you want not not what he wants
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your profile says you are slim ? What?
Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x
So he wants you to gain weight ??"
Yes he said id be better as a 14/16 as i wouldnt be a skeleton... xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your profile says you are slim ? What?
Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x
So he wants you to gain weight ??
Yes he said id be better as a 14/16 as i wouldnt be a skeleton... xx"
Pmsl tell him you would rather he have a bigger cock |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your profile says you are slim ? What?
Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x
So he wants you to gain weight ??
Yes he said id be better as a 14/16 as i wouldnt be a skeleton... xx
Pmsl tell him you would rather he have a bigger cock"
the perfect comeback, think there's no topping that. |
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He sounded a right charmer and you are wise to stay clear!
I've had similar on here but was to loose weight. Apparently I'd be a stunner if I lost weight . That was deal breaker for me as im very upfrount im no gym bunny ,and needless to say they were cut dead. I have no issues with people's preferences but if you don't like a certain thing weight, height ,build etc then just don't message people in those categories. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your profile says you are slim ? What?
Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x
So he wants you to gain weight ??
Yes he said id be better as a 14/16 as i wouldnt be a skeleton... xx
Pmsl tell him you would rather he have a bigger cock the perfect comeback, think there's no topping that. "
Happy to help |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your profile says you are slim ? What?
Im a size 12, to me thats ideal for me at least x
So he wants you to gain weight ??
Yes he said id be better as a 14/16 as i wouldnt be a skeleton... xx
Pmsl tell him you would rather he have a bigger cock the perfect comeback, think there's no topping that.
Happy to help "
If someone said that to me id cry lol. So tell him haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you have your answer
50/60 people in here reaching a common consensus is a pretty rare situation.
Only you can make the final choice, but please listen to opinion on this one before you make it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry but if he's started on wanting to change you before you've even been on a date what's he going to be like afterwards?
To true "
Never do anything because someone else wants you to. Do what you want, when you want, how you want. Your body your life. Do what makes you happy never someone else.
Kick him to the kerb, there are a few of us nice ones out there, he's not one of them. Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course you could always send him round my place with that cake! If he is having a problem with you at a beautiful size 12, he might start crying with me! I am a size 6!!!! And I am not changing one skinny cell on my scrawny body for anyone!  |
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This would be a deal breaker for me. He's wanting the opposite of what you want, and that's not the right foundation for a secure longer term relationship.
He's already playing his get out of jail free card, by dealing this up front, so it sounds like a massive shout that's just saying 'Keep Away'.
Only you can decide. We're not putty to be shaped according to others, we have one life and need to live it for ourselves. Those that fit us well will cherish our inner qualities, and love our bodies as we want them to be.
I think you are too good to waste your time with him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course you could always send him round my place with that cake! If he is having a problem with you at a beautiful size 12, he might start crying with me! I am a size 6!!!! And I am not changing one skinny cell on my scrawny body for anyone!
6 wow  "
Yep!! I have always been very petite but I accept some guys like that and some dont. Doesnt bother me in the slightest but if anyone tried to change me..they have no hope. The only exception I would make is from my mum or anyone else who I knew loved and cared for me very much and it was on health grounds alone. But some random bloke???? No chance! |
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"Of course you could always send him round my place with that cake! If he is having a problem with you at a beautiful size 12, he might start crying with me! I am a size 6!!!! And I am not changing one skinny cell on my scrawny body for anyone!
6 wow
Yep!! I have always been very petite but I accept some guys like that and some dont. Doesnt bother me in the slightest but if anyone tried to change me..they have no hope. The only exception I would make is from my mum or anyone else who I knew loved and cared for me very much and it was on health grounds alone. But some random bloke???? No chance! "
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"Ive been speaking to a guy and weve been getting on quite well and have agreed to go on a date which is all fine and well. However he has told me he wants me to be a size 14 as thats what he likes and cant seem to grasp the fact i want to change my body for the better and slim down and get fitter and sees this as a relationship breaker as in his eyes a size 12 is too skinny and women this size have no curves yet i have plenty curves. So i ask would a guy be put off a girl who wants to get in shape and be healthier?"
Run as fast as you can. He sounds like a control freak. You haven't even had a fist date and he is telling you what you should do with your body? Next he will be telling you what to wear, If and when you can see your friends etc. |
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"Ive been speaking to a guy and weve been getting on quite well and have agreed to go on a date which is all fine and well. However he has told me he wants me to be a size 14 as thats what he likes and cant seem to grasp the fact i want to change my body for the better and slim down and get fitter and sees this as a relationship breaker as in his eyes a size 12 is too skinny and women this size have no curves yet i have plenty curves. So i ask would a guy be put off a girl who wants to get in shape and be healthier?
Run as fast as you can. He sounds like a control freak. You haven't even had a fist date and he is telling you what you should do with your body? Next he will be telling you what to wear, If and when you can see your friends etc. "
I dont need someone like that in my life, im an independent young woman and i like it that way x |
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