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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish |
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over a year ago
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To cut out any confusion over this matter we actually state on our profile what our stance is on this matter.
We contact you, we send first
You contact us, you send first
We are, I believe, quite a rare commodity though.
If someone sends us a clear face pic - that we can't find elsewhere on the net - we always respond with ours, even if we don't fancy a play with them.
I do understand why some people are reticent to send out pics tho - some are genuine reasons, some are simply 'well you can see me if I fancy shaggin ya' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have on my profile that I'd like a face pic early on otherwise what's the point of chatting. If someone contacts me first then it's up to them to send a pic first. Anyone who's childish enough to start quibling about who sends their pic first would end up talking to themselves I'm afraid. This is an adult site! |
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Do you Google image search the people you chat to?
I thought the point of this site was discretion and only giving out the details that YOU want to share? Not have strangers snooping through you're online history... |
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I recently had a message from a couple asking for a face pic, so I sent one. I never heard back. I'm too ugly to fuck, obviously, but I could have worn a Darth Vader mask so can't really see what the issue was. They clearly took my photo at face value....a pity as I would have liked to have got naked with them and so no jacket required. Maybe it was something in the air tonight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish "
So do you send first or do they have to? |
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If we find someone that we're attracted to then we'll send face pics with our first message. However after a few times of doing this and chatting to people for a while, I'll ask for a face pic and the conversation dies a death!
All verified ladies btw so it's defo not men pretending.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't respond with a face pic to someone who says hi, how are you can I see a face pic please, if they don't have one showing. I would like a little bit of conversation beforehand. I do forget I haven't shown my face a lot but as I'm beautiful it doesn't really matter anyway |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish
So do you send first or do they have to?"
I'm open an honest regards fab an take the rough with the smooth if someone wants a face pic Iv no problem with it x but some ppl do have things to hide like the wife or husband not knowing they use the site not fair on the other half someone always get hurt from that situation x also I know professional ppl use too no problem with that either but after a spell of chatting with me figure out that I'm trustworthy of don't chat anymore |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish
So do you send first or do they have to?
I'm open an honest regards fab an take the rough with the smooth if someone wants a face pic Iv no problem with it x but some ppl do have things to hide like the wife or husband not knowing they use the site not fair on the other half someone always get hurt from that situation x also I know professional ppl use too no problem with that either but after a spell of chatting with me figure out that I'm trustworthy of don't chat anymore "
That's a long response that doesn't answer a simple question.
Your opening post states that you ask for a face picture without sending your face picture in that request. Is that what you do? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish
So do you send first or do they have to?
I'm open an honest regards fab an take the rough with the smooth if someone wants a face pic Iv no problem with it x but some ppl do have things to hide like the wife or husband not knowing they use the site not fair on the other half someone always get hurt from that situation x also I know professional ppl use too no problem with that either but after a spell of chatting with me figure out that I'm trustworthy of don't chat anymore
That's a long response that doesn't answer a simple question.
Your opening post states that you ask for a face picture without sending your face picture in that request. Is that what you do?"
I'm the female I don't make a first move I am msgd then respond ;-/ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To cut out any confusion over this matter we actually state on our profile what our stance is on this matter.
We contact you, we send first
You contact us, you send first
We are, I believe, quite a rare commodity though.
If someone sends us a clear face pic - that we can't find elsewhere on the net - we always respond with ours, even if we don't fancy a play with them.
I do understand why some people are reticent to send out pics tho - some are genuine reasons, some are simply 'well you can see me if I fancy shaggin ya'"
How do you check their photo isnt elsewhere on the net? ? |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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"If I message them, I send first and don't expect one back if they aren't interested.
If they contact me I expect them to send first and will discontinue the conversation if they won't."
seems very fair |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish
So do you send first or do they have to?
I'm open an honest regards fab an take the rough with the smooth if someone wants a face pic Iv no problem with it x but some ppl do have things to hide like the wife or husband not knowing they use the site not fair on the other half someone always get hurt from that situation x also I know professional ppl use too no problem with that either but after a spell of chatting with me figure out that I'm trustworthy of don't chat anymore
That's a long response that doesn't answer a simple question.
Your opening post states that you ask for a face picture without sending your face picture in that request. Is that what you do?
I'm the female I don't make a first move I am msgd then respond ;-/"
You say that's like it's a given that women don't ever message first.
I do and I know others who do. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"If I message them, I send first and don't expect one back if they aren't interested.
If they contact me I expect them to send first and will discontinue the conversation if they won't.
seems very fair "
I try to be reasonable. I'm not into the whole expecting men to bend over backwards and jump through hoops because I'm female. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a female too! Sometimes I instigate messaging but often it starts with a received message. If on chatting it seems likely that a meet will follow then it is reasonable to exchange face pics, if I asked for one I would attach mine with the request and would expect the same of someone asking me for a face pic. It just seems logical and polite to me that if I am asking for a face pic I offer mine at the same time, why should anyone show me their face and trust that I will reciprocate? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish
So do you send first or do they have to?
I'm open an honest regards fab an take the rough with the smooth if someone wants a face pic Iv no problem with it x but some ppl do have things to hide like the wife or husband not knowing they use the site not fair on the other half someone always get hurt from that situation x also I know professional ppl use too no problem with that either but after a spell of chatting with me figure out that I'm trustworthy of don't
That's a long response that doesn't answer a simple question.
Your opening post states that you ask for a face picture without sending your face picture in that request. Is that what you do?
I'm the female I don't make a first move I am msgd then respond ;-/
You say that's like it's a given that women don't ever message first.
I do and I know others who do."
Not speaking on behalf of the whole female population x that's what happens with me so I have no need to send pic first msg x an no I'm not up myself I'm very down to earth an try to msg everyone back who has msgd me but even doin that here is a minefield at time when u say a polite no thanks u can get abuse for honesty go figure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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That's a long response that doesn't answer a simple question.
Your opening post states that you ask for a face picture without sending your face picture in that request. Is that what you do?
I'm the female I don't make a first move I am msgd then respond ;-/"
To use your own words doesn't that seem 'kinda childish' in this context?
If you are in conversation with someone, (whoever initiated the conversation), and then at some point you decided to ask for a face picture. Why would you not enclose your face picture with the request?
Some may consider that type of behavior to be arrogant.
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish
So do you send first or do they have to?
I'm open an honest regards fab an take the rough with the smooth if someone wants a face pic Iv no problem with it x but some ppl do have things to hide like the wife or husband not knowing they use the site not fair on the other half someone always get hurt from that situation x also I know professional ppl use too no problem with that either but after a spell of chatting with me figure out that I'm trustworthy of don't
That's a long response that doesn't answer a simple question.
Your opening post states that you ask for a face picture without sending your face picture in that request. Is that what you do?
I'm the female I don't make a first move I am msgd then respond ;-/
You say that's like it's a given that women don't ever message first.
I do and I know others who do.
Not speaking on behalf of the whole female population x that's what happens with me so I have no need to send pic first msg x an no I'm not up myself I'm very down to earth an try to msg everyone back who has msgd me but even doin that here is a minefield at time when u say a polite no thanks u can get abuse for honesty go figure "
I've not been abusive to you.
You wrote that you are female therefore you don't message first, like that's the norm.
I'm female and I do message first sometimes and I know others do too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish
So do you send first or do they have to?
I'm open an honest regards fab an take the rough with the smooth if someone wants a face pic Iv no problem with it x but some ppl do have things to hide like the wife or husband not knowing they use the site not fair on the other half someone always get hurt from that situation x also I know professional ppl use too no problem with that either but after a spell of chatting with me figure out that I'm trustworthy of don't
That's a long response that doesn't answer a simple question.
Your opening post states that you ask for a face picture without sending your face picture in that request. Is that what you do?
I'm the female I don't make a first move I am msgd then respond ;-/
You say that's like it's a given that women don't ever message first.
I do and I know others who do.
Not speaking on behalf of the whole female population x that's what happens with me so I have no need to send pic first msg x an no I'm not up myself I'm very down to earth an try to msg everyone back who has msgd me but even doin that here is a minefield at time when u say a polite no thanks u can get abuse for honesty go figure
I've not been abusive to you.
You wrote that you are female therefore you don't message first, like that's the norm.
I'm female and I do message first sometimes and I know others do too."
Again did I say you had abused me?
I wasn't aware that u had asked to meet me? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
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That's a long response that doesn't answer a simple question.
Your opening post states that you ask for a face picture without sending your face picture in that request. Is that what you do?
I'm the female I don't make a first move I am msgd then respond ;-/
To use your own words doesn't that seem 'kinda childish' in this context?
If you are in conversation with someone, (whoever initiated the conversation), and then at some point you decided to ask for a face picture. Why would you not enclose your face picture with the request?
Some may consider that type of behavior to be arrogant.
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I think it's fair to expect whoever made the first contact to send a face pic. I don't see that as childish.
Contacting someone is effectively asking "are you interested? ". Who would be able to properly answer that without a face pic? |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish
So do you send first or do they have to?
I'm open an honest regards fab an take the rough with the smooth if someone wants a face pic Iv no problem with it x but some ppl do have things to hide like the wife or husband not knowing they use the site not fair on the other half someone always get hurt from that situation x also I know professional ppl use too no problem with that either but after a spell of chatting with me figure out that I'm trustworthy of don't
That's a long response that doesn't answer a simple question.
Your opening post states that you ask for a face picture without sending your face picture in that request. Is that what you do?
I'm the female I don't make a first move I am msgd then respond ;-/
You say that's like it's a given that women don't ever message first.
I do and I know others who do.
Not speaking on behalf of the whole female population x that's what happens with me so I have no need to send pic first msg x an no I'm not up myself I'm very down to earth an try to msg everyone back who has msgd me but even doin that here is a minefield at time when u say a polite no thanks u can get abuse for honesty go figure
I've not been abusive to you.
You wrote that you are female therefore you don't message first, like that's the norm.
I'm female and I do message first sometimes and I know others do too.
Again did I say you had abused me?
I wasn't aware that u had asked to meet me? "
As per my following message I misread yours initially. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I message them, I send first and don't expect one back if they aren't interested.
If they contact me I expect them to send first and will discontinue the conversation if they won't.
seems very fair
I try to be reasonable. I'm not into the whole expecting men to bend over backwards and jump through hoops because I'm female."
Sounds reasonable and fair. Much more likely to attract guys who are not desperate, if any holes a goal then reasonable behavior is not a prerequisite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry Marie but you seem to have the "Im the woman why should I do it the guy should do it first attitude" to me thats kinda like a woman i knew who said she wanted sexual equality ... then two sentences later informed me that she would phone her husband if she got a puncture because "that's what men are for" condescending and sexist in my opinon but that's just my opinion. If a face pic is asked for ill send one and if a meet is possible ill send one, sometimes i send one straight off sometimes i dont, ive met blind once or twice and they have been great meets, but then except for extremes its attitude and mind set that matters to me most. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's fair to expect whoever made the first contact to send a face pic. I don't see that as childish.
Contacting someone is effectively asking "are you interested? ". Who would be able to properly answer that without a face pic?"
I disagree with you. If it is stated in your profile then, yes.
If it isn't, then why wouldn't the first face picture request have one attached?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sorry Marie but you seem to have the "Im the woman why should I do it the guy should do it first attitude" to me thats kinda like a woman i knew who said she wanted sexual equality ... then two sentences later informed me that she would phone her husband if she got a puncture because "that's what men are for" condescending and sexist in my opinon but that's just my opinion. If a face pic is asked for ill send one and if a meet is possible ill send one, sometimes i send one straight off sometimes i dont, ive met blind once or twice and they have been great meets, but then except for extremes its attitude and mind set that matters to me most."
Full moon today I see and have read too much into the post was a simple question requiring simplest of answers x I am neither arrogant, up myself, sexist, racist, feminist, a weeee bit agest as I like younger guys I have to be honest nor am I speaking on behalf of the female population etc etc just goin on my own expiriences of being on fab an was curious to others opinions x I still find the basic question that I asked "al send if you send" childish rock on tommy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Why would you message asking for a face picture and not include one in your message? Weather they mailed you first or not? If your asking first then yours should be attached, unless all you want to do is see if there attractive or not and then decide weather they can have one of you, |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well I make no apology for being an old fashioned woman in some respects, so I also prefer that the man does the approaching first. It works fine for me. Doesn't make me arrogant in the slightest. Just old fashioned. Nothing wrong with that. I dont project my preferences onto others and men DO approach me first...
I have my reasons but each to their own! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most guys send me a face pic without asking in their first message to me. If I am interested then I reply with a face pic in return. Simple!
At some point early on in a conversation face pics MUST be exchanged as we must feel attracted to eachother on a physical level too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What do most ppl think when u ask someone for a face pic an they say I'll send if u send first x it annoys me as they assume I'm dishonest an I won't send back also kinda childish "
They are tits of the highest tittiness! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My profile already shows a thumbnail of my face so they can get a magnifying glass to see my wrinkles and grey roots or ask for a pic
Some people Do drive me up the Wall as assume i will meet blind,i hint and ask and if nothing i just stop talking
Doesent bother me who asks first |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Well I make no apology for being an old fashioned woman in some respects, so I also prefer that the man does the approaching first. It works fine for me. Doesn't make me arrogant in the slightest. Just old fashioned. Nothing wrong with that. I dont project my preferences onto others and men DO approach me first...
I have my reasons but each to their own!"
I am the same as above ,Rare i will approach first and that is basically because i go to clubs and partys and there not in my area,blackmen in my area are rare to be single or there grumpy sods |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I think it's fair to expect whoever made the first contact to send a face pic. I don't see that as childish.
Contacting someone is effectively asking "are you interested? ". Who would be able to properly answer that without a face pic?
I disagree with you. If it is stated in your profile then, yes.
If it isn't, then why wouldn't the first face picture request have one attached?
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Equally, why wouldn't they send one initially or early on?
When I send a first message, I am interested in meeting and I think a face pic helps back that up to an extent.
If they are interested in meeting then they should send a pic and I'd wonder why they hadn't if not. That uncertainty would make me reticent about sending a photo of myself first.
Call me overly suspicious but I'm all too aware that not everybody is what they seem here.
Ok, sure, they may send a photo that isn't them, but that's a whole other issue. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"If I message them, I send first and don't expect one back if they aren't interested.
If they contact me I expect them to send first and will discontinue the conversation if they won't.
seems very fair
I try to be reasonable. I'm not into the whole expecting men to bend over backwards and jump through hoops because I'm female.
Sounds reasonable and fair. Much more likely to attract guys who are not desperate, if any holes a goal then reasonable behavior is not a prerequisite. "
If I get so much as a sniff of the any hole is a goal attitude, they don't score with me lol |
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"To cut out any confusion over this matter we actually state on our profile what our stance is on this matter.
We contact you, we send first
You contact us, you send first
We are, I believe, quite a rare commodity though.
If someone sends us a clear face pic - that we can't find elsewhere on the net - we always respond with ours, even if we don't fancy a play with them.
I do understand why some people are reticent to send out pics tho - some are genuine reasons, some are simply 'well you can see me if I fancy shaggin ya'"
I do this too. It seems like good manners to me. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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I don't know why anyone would care about seeing a photo of someone who has said no thanks.
If they don't fancy them then no big deal because it wasn't going anywhere anyway.
If they do fancy them then it's a bit like "look at what you could have won" and is only likely to encourage further contact trying to change their mind.
If I contact someone (with my photo) and they say no, what they look like is no longer relevant.
Maybe I'm just strange. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My rule of thumb is the person who initiated contact first should send a pic too as it's what a "gentleman" or a "lady" would do without asking....but unfortunately you get all sorts on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If I message someone I always send a face picture (although it is a little redundant because it's on my profile) because it just seems the right thing to do.
If they message me, expressing interest I kind of expect to be sent one (and it also says that on my profile).
No point messaging each other if there you aren't attracted to each other anyway. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"I would NEVER send a face pic with a first message unless there was dialogue first.
I wouldn't ask for one until there was dialogue."
Personally I don't necessarily expect on with the first message though the I'm sorry but I don't fancy you message is easier early on rather than after exchanging lots of messages. I do, therefore, prefer to see one fairly early in the conversation.
Just my personal _iew though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sorry but I don't fancy you message is easier early on rather than after exchanging lots of messages. I do, therefore, prefer to see one fairly early in the conversation.
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^^^ That's what I'm saying.
I like to know who I'm chatting to very early on, but I wouldn't be like "Bang Hi, Here's my face"....Straight away.
But that's just me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we always send a couple of private pics with first message but not face pics - we will send but not to a newbie unverified with no pics - but hardly ever find this a probem - after we have chatted they send a pic or if asked they go offline - sorts itself out - makes us laugh when we get asked and send and then get a ' sorry we will leave it there' - we must be hangin haha but dont get upset |
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"I don't know why anyone would care about seeing a photo of someone who has said no thanks.
If they don't fancy them then no big deal because it wasn't going anywhere anyway.
If they do fancy them then it's a bit like "look at what you could have won" and is only likely to encourage further contact trying to change their mind.
If I contact someone (with my photo) and they say no, what they look like is no longer relevant.
Maybe I'm just strange."
You're not alone in your strangeness |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We'll send a pic' to anyone we mail the first time, all the better if we get one in return, even better if we both then think.............'mmm yes please' |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always send a face pic and never get a reply!! Im not that ugly surely lol... well I must be!!
Are you sending your profile pic?! "
No I send some private face pics lol. But still I never get a reply lol. O well be reyt ha |
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"Me thinks the point of the thread has been lost along the line x was a mere question askin what was thought of " I'll send if u send first" :-/ "
I think it's a reasonable request. You asked them for a face pic you should have sent one. That's the way I would operate. I don't see the problem. |
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