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over a year ago
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"if you knew for sure your best friend was being cheated on would you tell them or keep quiet"
I would tell them as I wouldn't be much of a friend if I kept it quiet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd speak to the other half, tell them I know and tell them to sort it. Sometimes people do know that it's going on but don't want to deal with it, if you tell them, they'll have too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd speak to the other half, tell them I know and tell them to sort it. Sometimes people do know that it's going on but don't want to deal with it, if you tell them, they'll have too "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd speak to the other half, tell them I know and tell them to sort it. Sometimes people do know that it's going on but don't want to deal with it, if you tell them, they'll have too "
Thats is possibly the best answer to intervene can damage your relationship with your friend to go to the person doing it and letting them sort it is always the best option as I see it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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personally i dont think anyone elses life is anything to do with me, so why would i?
this could backfire spectacularly.
let her find out herself and be the mate you aare when the shit hits the fan.
she will thank you more for that than telling her.
you can deny all knowledge of it too, but you cant if you tell her.
she could accuse you of knowing for ages
being one of his conquests, hell, he could even tell her you came onto him and he spurned your advances and so this is your payback.
look after your own shit and let others sort theirs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"personally i dont think anyone elses life is anything to do with me, so why would i?
this could backfire spectacularly.
let her find out herself and be the mate you aare when the shit hits the fan.
she will thank you more for that than telling her.
you can deny all knowledge of it too, but you cant if you tell her.
she could accuse you of knowing for ages
being one of his conquests, hell, he could even tell her you came onto him and he spurned your advances and so this is your payback.
look after your own shit and let others sort theirs"
yet you said on the thread i started you would want to know.. odd
think how shit your mate would feel when she fins out you knew all along and let her carried on getting played for a fool |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"personally i dont think anyone elses life is anything to do with me, so why would i?
this could backfire spectacularly.
let her find out herself and be the mate you aare when the shit hits the fan.
she will thank you more for that than telling her.
you can deny all knowledge of it too, but you cant if you tell her.
she could accuse you of knowing for ages
being one of his conquests, hell, he could even tell her you came onto him and he spurned your advances and so this is your payback.
look after your own shit and let others sort theirs
yet you said on the thread i started you would want to know.. odd
think how shit your mate would feel when she fins out you knew all along and let her carried on getting played for a fool"
i didnt, i said i wouldnt want to know, i would just rather the relationship ended.
how is she going to know you knew all along if you dont tell her?
answer is, she wont. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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there ya go, save you going looking lol
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no.
i have had it done, and it only hurt when i found out.
up until that point i was happily living in blissful ignorance.
even though lieing is the devils spunk, and honesty is all well and good, but when it hurts someone its not a good thing at all.
its just best not to cheat in the first place |
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By (user no longer on site)
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how is she going to know you knew all along if you dont tell her?
answer is, she wont."
as if her fella isnt gonna be quiet and ignore the fact her mate knew.. he'd wanna cause as much damage surely if things are going tits up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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how is she going to know you knew all along if you dont tell her?
answer is, she wont.
as if her fella isnt gonna be quiet and ignore the fact her mate knew.. he'd wanna cause as much damage surely if things are going tits up "
but we dont know if he knows that she knows, only that she knows (this is getting complicated lol) |
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By *1KandiCouple
over a year ago
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Don't tell, you will some how be at the bad end when it is all done. Find a way for them to find out anonymously.
Be there for them to help to get through it. No good will come from you telling them. They probably won't believe you and when they confirm there will be issues between you and your friend....
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By (user no longer on site)
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Told mine....she married him and we are just civil at any dos for joint friends. She opted not to believe me (and two others) when we told her he'd been coming on to us too. I do hate losing her as a friend, but I couldn't sit back and just watch as the guilt would have eaten away at me. I'd have lost her friendship anyway had I not told her because I was distancing myself from her so I didn't have to lie about him. If I was in the same situation again though I'd do the same thing because I personally would hate to find out afterwards, and have the humiliation of knowing everyone else knew  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Told mine....she married him and we are just civil at any dos for joint friends. She opted not to believe me (and two others) when we told her he'd been coming on to us too. I do hate losing her as a friend, but I couldn't sit back and just watch as the guilt would have eaten away at me. I'd have lost her friendship anyway had I not told her because I was distancing myself from her so I didn't have to lie about him. If I was in the same situation again though I'd do the same thing because I personally would hate to find out afterwards, and have the humiliation of knowing everyone else knew "
You did the best thing possible. The one thing a real friend would have done. It just so happened to prove that fake happiness is more important to her than the real friendship you brought.
I've met and dropped a lot of people like that, and all the fakes fall away with them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I would choose to confront her partner 1st and tell him what I knew. I would also confide in mutual friend to see what they thought before making a decision.
This is a situation where you could end up being damned if you do & damned if you don't....! |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Told mine....she married him and we are just civil at any dos for joint friends. She opted not to believe me (and two others) when we told her he'd been coming on to us too. I do hate losing her as a friend, but I couldn't sit back and just watch as the guilt would have eaten away at me. I'd have lost her friendship anyway had I not told her because I was distancing myself from her so I didn't have to lie about him. If I was in the same situation again though I'd do the same thing because I personally would hate to find out afterwards, and have the humiliation of knowing everyone else knew
You did the best thing possible. The one thing a real friend would have done. It just so happened to prove that fake happiness is more important to her than the real friendship you brought.
I've met and dropped a lot of people like that, and all the fakes fall away with them."
Well said wiseman  |
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How Id tell them, or give them support would depend on the friend. A question upon their relationship and well being may help more than stating an accusation on the other half. Id want someone there for me, and who didnt let me sustain deceit. |
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