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" Although the whole month of April is Autism awareness month, On the 2nd April is "World International Autism Awareness Day" And i would like to ask if we could light up "Fab's Blue" for the day as this the colour for Autism. Just as you did for "Breast Cancer" There just isn't enough awareness out there and needs to pushed more!! I know that this hugely big in America and we have a lot of lovely fabber's from across the pond on here. If not then maybe we could do a "Light it up Blue" Avatar for the day what do you think lovely fab guys and gals ?? Ruby " my daughter has recently been diagnosed as having aspergers, so I think its a great idea | |||
If not blue then maybe even a multi-coloured jigsaw piece... I'm sure either would do, just to plant a seed of awareness.
Considering the nature of this site, where much is centred around the wish to meet people, perhaps it might be nice to acknowledge what can lie behind the difficulties some of us experience with this.
As far as I can tell, the last time the topic was raised was mid October last year. Even though it remains very relevant, little seems to have been said on the topic since that thread was closed down.
http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/211044
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Repeat the request on their forum Ruby. | |||
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"I think it's a good idea, but maybe admin won't see it, may be worth a shot messaging them direct OP linking this thread in your message" That's a good idea, just done that thanks JetandRuby x | |||
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"I have made ribbons like the "Breast Cancer" just for my close friends and family. I have now run out because i been asked for one by many and tomorrow i will do more, My daughter as you all know is severely Autistic with no speech, And on the 2nd of April is her Birthday she will be 15 as i type this tears flow. I just want everyone to know that "When you see a child on the street or in a shop that is misbehaving it is not always what it seems" Ruby xx" | |||
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"Whether I should say this here or not, but I have Asperger's Syndrome. Diagnosed at 5, it's an often confusing world but I've managed to cope and feel the condition is mild to how I was 18 years ago, compared to my older brother who was diagnosed 5 years ago at the age of 19. My brain is rewired differently, but it doesn't mean it affects my personality. I often make mountains out of molehills, and often have unintentionally clumsy rapport. Aspergers and Autism are such broad conditions that they need this kind of awareness. Heck, a recent short film I've made even tackles the issues and subjects surrounding Autism and Aspergers. I'm grateful to OP for suggesting this. My avatar has a blue sky, does that count? "Good for you, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Borderline Personality Disorder here **waving** | |||
"Good for you, it's nothing to be ashamed of. Borderline Personality Disorder here **waving**" Thankyou Never been ashamed of it, it's just something I'll bring up in a conversation like this. | |||
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If you want to show your support, why not do what JetAndRuby have done and put yourself wearing something blue as your avatar - seems like a great idea to help raise awareness
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"We think this is a good cause, but time-wise, we're not going to be able to sort anything blue out side-wide in the next couple of days
If you want to show your support, why not do what JetAndRuby have done and put yourself wearing something blue as your avatar - seems like a great idea to help raise awareness
Admin x" | |||
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"We think this is a good cause, but time-wise, we're not going to be able to sort anything blue out side-wide in the next couple of days
If you want to show your support, why not do what JetAndRuby have done and put yourself wearing something blue as your avatar - seems like a great idea to help raise awareness
Admin x" | |||
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Fookin hell ruggers where did you get such a cleavage?... "You will either never make a good policeman or you have never visted our profile when my pics are up | |||
"Sorted mine
Fookin hell ruggers where did you get such a cleavage?...
You will either never make a good policeman or you have never visted our profile when my pics are up "First one your right and the last one. | |||
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I have an autistic son lets spread the word | |||
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" I have an autistic son lets spread the word " | |||
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"done a proper one .... (full size pic on our profile)... xxx" Fabulous xx | |||
"done a proper one .... (full size pic on our profile)... xxx Fabulous xx "Thankyou ...... its the least we can do on here and hardly difficult to do. | |||
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"And mine "You all look wonderful, but come on we could do better....... It is the 2nd April now, and i would love to wish my Autistic daughter a very happy 15th birthday even though she knows not what it is, Thank you Jet and Ruby xx | |||
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"And mine
You all look wonderful, but come on we could do better.......
It is the 2nd April now, and i would love to wish my Autistic daughter a very happy 15th birthday even though she knows not what it is,
Thank you Jet and Ruby xx"Happy Birthday to your beautiful daughter... | |||
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I know I'm paraphrasing and, to an extent, repeating what I wrote about this last year - specifically concerning having an Aspie child - but I think, given today is World Autism Day, it bears the repetition.
I have an autistic son and I spent many years as a stay-at-home-dad while my partner went to work, and I still take on most of the child rearing duties. Bringing up an autistic child is a lifetime's hard work, and every circumstance is as different as the personalities involved - the child, the parents and siblings ... friends, society. The journey isn't an easy one.
Part of the problem is that there are far too many myths accepted as wisdom and far too many people who've seen "Rain Man" and think they know what it means to be autistic. I imagine there are many parents out there who've rolled their eyes in the face of the many misconceptions that abound. Frankly, so much crap is spouted in the dumbed-down media about autism, and regurgitated by those who read it and think they know all about it all of a sudden, that it would be decidedly off-pissing if I hadn't learned to ignore it. The truth is that most NTs (neurotypicals, ie. non-autistic people) haven't the first idea of what it's like - including many who purport to be "professionals" in the field.
I know this because I'm also autistic. I've had to endure a lifetime of so-called experts trying to tell me what was going on inside my head and how I might best fit back into society ... all have been so far wide of the mark that I wonder who, exactly, confers upon them the mantle of "expert" and upon what virtue. I've had all the confusion and heartbreak of trying to integrate myself only to be misunderstood or ostracized for being too "shy" or "introverted" or "quiet" or "strange" or "detached" (or whatever the fuck else), whereupon I inevitably say "sod it" and give up trying to buy into all the mainstream bullshit about what it takes to be "happy" or, at the very least, "integrated" - when it's clear to me (and many others like me) that it's more often than not the prejudiced intransigence of NTs that cause a great deal of the unhappiness and disenfranchisement in the first place - and I end up asking to no avail: we accept your shortcomings so why can't you accept ours?
My upbringing was centred around the idea that I should "learn to be normal" when, in fact, I knew from an early age that I was already normal and everybody else was bordering on the insane. As time has gone by, I've realised that NTs are fixated upon the idea that Aspies should aim to be "cured" in order to rejoin society. However, most Aspies would argue that it is the NTs who need to be cured on the strength of the fucked up neurotic society they've created in which anyone who doesn't fit with their idea of "normal" is "damaged" somehow. I try to remind them that my view of the world is every bit as valid as theirs - it's just that I'm looking at things from a slightly different perspective.
This often leads me to take issue with the "D" in the ASD - as I see it, I and others like me don't consider ourselves to be victims of a "disorder" as much as being of a mind set which might be characterised loosely as having certain traits or proclivities that differ from the accepted norm - many of which are actually beneficial to the pursuit of numeracy, lateral thinking, creative composition, innovative design, artistic perception and the like. The Victorians recognised this and referred to what we now call Asperger's Syndrome as "the Engineer's Disease". In light of this, and considering that our screwed up world (environment, society, economy, etc.) is the product mainly of those whom convention calls "normal", I prefer to substitute the letter C in place of the D to denote the word "condition" or "characteristic" in place of "disorder".
That said, you might think that it would be easier to bring up an autistic child if you, yourself, are autistic - but please take my word that nothing could be further from the truth. My son is as different from me, in his view of the world, as I am from most NTs - and I'll admit it was quite a shock for me to realise this. There's no easy path, every person touched is different and the only reason we cope is because we have no choice. I can only suggest parents carry on talking with their children and doing whatever it takes to understand, and accept, their different view of the world. When they hit their teens, they're more than ever going to need you to be an understanding friend as well as a supportive mum or dad. Don't be afraid of their differences - embrace them, understand them and, above all, respect them.
Well, that's my take on it anyway. I hope nobody minds if I post a link to the National Autistic Society's donation page for those with a little spare change:
http://www.autism.org.uk/donatenow
Kop xx | |||
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"It's so heartening to read all the supportive posts here, as well as all the blue avatars.
I know I'm paraphrasing and, to an extent, repeating what I wrote about this last year - specifically concerning having an Aspie child - but I think, given today is World Autism Day, it bears the repetition.
I have an autistic son and I spent many years as a stay-at-home-dad while my partner went to work, and I still take on most of the child rearing duties. Bringing up an autistic child is a lifetime's hard work, and every circumstance is as different as the personalities involved - the child, the parents and siblings ... friends, society. The journey isn't an easy one.
Part of the problem is that there are far too many myths accepted as wisdom and far too many people who've seen "Rain Man" and think they know what it means to be autistic. I imagine there are many parents out there who've rolled their eyes in the face of the many misconceptions that abound. Frankly, so much crap is spouted in the dumbed-down media about autism, and regurgitated by those who read it and think they know all about it all of a sudden, that it would be decidedly off-pissing if I hadn't learned to ignore it. The truth is that most NTs (neurotypicals, ie. non-autistic people) haven't the first idea of what it's like - including many who purport to be "professionals" in the field.
I know this because I'm also autistic. I've had to endure a lifetime of so-called experts trying to tell me what was going on inside my head and how I might best fit back into society ... all have been so far wide of the mark that I wonder who, exactly, confers upon them the mantle of "expert" and upon what virtue. I've had all the confusion and heartbreak of trying to integrate myself only to be misunderstood or ostracized for being too "shy" or "introverted" or "quiet" or "strange" or "detached" (or whatever the fuck else), whereupon I inevitably say "sod it" and give up trying to buy into all the mainstream bullshit about what it takes to be "happy" or, at the very least, "integrated" - when it's clear to me (and many others like me) that it's more often than not the prejudiced intransigence of NTs that cause a great deal of the unhappiness and disenfranchisement in the first place - and I end up asking to no avail: we accept your shortcomings so why can't you accept ours?
My upbringing was centred around the idea that I should "learn to be normal" when, in fact, I knew from an early age that I was already normal and everybody else was bordering on the insane. As time has gone by, I've realised that NTs are fixated upon the idea that Aspies should aim to be "cured" in order to rejoin society. However, most Aspies would argue that it is the NTs who need to be cured on the strength of the fucked up neurotic society they've created in which anyone who doesn't fit with their idea of "normal" is "damaged" somehow. I try to remind them that my view of the world is every bit as valid as theirs - it's just that I'm looking at things from a slightly different perspective.
This often leads me to take issue with the "D" in the ASD - as I see it, I and others like me don't consider ourselves to be victims of a "disorder" as much as being of a mind set which might be characterised loosely as having certain traits or proclivities that differ from the accepted norm - many of which are actually beneficial to the pursuit of numeracy, lateral thinking, creative composition, innovative design, artistic perception and the like. The Victorians recognised this and referred to what we now call Asperger's Syndrome as "the Engineer's Disease". In light of this, and considering that our screwed up world (environment, society, economy, etc.) is the product mainly of those whom convention calls "normal", I prefer to substitute the letter C in place of the D to denote the word "condition" or "characteristic" in place of "disorder".
That said, you might think that it would be easier to bring up an autistic child if you, yourself, are autistic - but please take my word that nothing could be further from the truth. My son is as different from me, in his view of the world, as I am from most NTs - and I'll admit it was quite a shock for me to realise this. There's no easy path, every person touched is different and the only reason we cope is because we have no choice. I can only suggest parents carry on talking with their children and doing whatever it takes to understand, and accept, their different view of the world. When they hit their teens, they're more than ever going to need you to be an understanding friend as well as a supportive mum or dad. Don't be afraid of their differences - embrace them, understand them and, above all, respect them.
Well, that's my take on it anyway. I hope nobody minds if I post a link to the National Autistic Society's donation page for those with a little spare change:
http://www.autism.org.uk/donatenow
Kop xx " | |||
