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"I know I'm out of your age range but..."
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
Assuming someone isn't filtering by age, how far outside of someone's stated age preference would you still feel it was worth a try?
Not at all? 1 year? 2? 5? 10? 20?
How do you feel about getting messages from those outside your age limits? Does it make a difference if they are younger or older? Does it make a difference if they are exactly what you are looking for otherwise? |
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"Assuming someone isn't filtering by age, how far outside of someone's stated age preference would you still feel it was worth a try?
Not at all? 1 year? 2? 5? 10? 20?
How do you feel about getting messages from those outside your age limits? Does it make a difference if they are younger or older? Does it make a difference if they are exactly what you are looking for otherwise?"
If your dilemma is whether or not to go for the 18 year old boy I'd say don't do it.
If it's whether or not to go for the 60 year old man I'd say fill yer boots. |
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"I won't discount someone just because they are outside my age range. But I do want to see a face pic early on as generally I'm only attracted to younger looking guys. X"
Gowd damn it lol you got that ring yet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A couple of years is ok but only younger. My upper age range seems to include blokes who look about my dads age. Creeps me out these blokes, some with very few teeth, who claim to be 45 and are either well into their sixties or have had a very hard life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When people mail me, age doesn't come into it. I just review the 'whole picture' as to whether I'm interested or not. My age range is a guide, I don't have any filters on.
When I mail people it's only the ones where I fit in their age range. |
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I cant remember what I put in for age ranges.
I would have put something like 18-99 so as not to discriminate. I probably have selected the whole age range like most blokes would have as we want a shag and its ladies and couples that can be selective ha ha
its not all about shagging tho. I do like the social aspect too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My upper limit is 48. I had a guy who was 53 kept looking at my profile several times a day for a few days then he miraculously lost 5 years in age and contacted me. When I asked him how it was possible to lose 5 years he denied all knowledge and was adamant he was 48. Not really interested if you're going to lie, just be honest. I've had a couple of guys say they've changed their age to message, fair enough, be honest about it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well if I was thinking with my head I would say 5 years or so either side. However going off my recent history I think I'd now need to change that to 20 years. In other words if it's the right person it doesn't matter. |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Assuming someone isn't filtering by age, how far outside of someone's stated age preference would you still feel it was worth a try?
Not at all? 1 year? 2? 5? 10? 20?
How do you feel about getting messages from those outside your age limits? Does it make a difference if they are younger or older? Does it make a difference if they are exactly what you are looking for otherwise?
If your dilemma is whether or not to go for the 18 year old boy I'd say don't do it.
If it's whether or not to go for the 60 year old man I'd say fill yer boots. "
No dilemma, just a question. I wouldn't meet either an 18 year old or a 60 year old, personally.
My age range isn't set in stone but any younger, or more than a couple of years over, and I'm unlikely to want to meet. That's based on experience rather than any pre-conceived ideas.
I wouldn't message someone about a meet if I didn't fit their preferences, including age.
I think messaging someone when you are 10 or 15, or more, years outside their stated range is probably pointless. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My age range was originally 18-50 but have met a couple of really handsome kind gentlemen in their late 50s so I guess I'd go 10 years above my ideal age range if they look younger and I get on well with them x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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my lower limit has extremely little wiggle room. the kids may be hot as hell llittle studs in training, but i really don't want to train them up in how to read a woman..... or sleep with someone who is too close in age to my eldestcchild. my upper limit has more wiggle room, for the right person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"my lower limit has extremely little wiggle room. the kids may be hot as hell llittle studs in training, but i really don't want to train them up in how to read a woman..... or sleep with someone who is too close in age to my eldestcchild. my upper limit has more wiggle room, for the right person. "
Same here. If they're younger than my baby sis they can forget it! But if they're too close to my parent's age they can forget it too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ours isn't set in stone. We would and have met younger men. We'd meet older women but wouldn't meet men any older than our limit. But generally they're more of s guideline. When we set ours it made sense for Andy to make the younger age limit and for me to make the older age limit, as we're 15 years apart.
Lauz x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will chat to anyone younger or older than my age range.
I'd definitely meet someone older if I was attracted to them; a younger person would need to have something really compelling about them for me to progress beyond chatting but as a rule I wouldn't go there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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While I have age filters set on here mainly to cut down the amount of messages,I've never asked the age of anyone that I've spoken to at a party or club,its all about the connection in person |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My upper limit is 48. I had a guy who was 53 kept looking at my profile several times a day for a few days then he miraculously lost 5 years in age and contacted me. When I asked him how it was possible to lose 5 years he denied all knowledge and was adamant he was 48. Not really interested if you're going to lie, just be honest. I've had a couple of guys say they've changed their age to message, fair enough, be honest about it "
I've had one of those but the other end of the scale, problem was that he really didn't look 48 more his actual age of 31 |
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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago
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"A couple of years is ok but only younger. My upper age range seems to include blokes who look about my dads age. Creeps me out these blokes, some with very few teeth, who claim to be 45 and are either well into their sixties or have had a very hard life "
I get that too...why lie about your age??  |
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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago
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"A couple of years is ok but only younger. My upper age range seems to include blokes who look about my dads age. Creeps me out these blokes, some with very few teeth, who claim to be 45 and are either well into their sixties or have had a very hard life "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The way I see it is if they can't respect your preferences they are not going to respect anything else.
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This, I set age range which I stick to, if I wasn't bothered about someone's age it would say 18-99, so yes, anyone outside my range will get blocked if messaging asking to meet |
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Our age preferences is a guideline, as long as the other couple are not younger than our children or older than our parents we would be happy to meet.
At the end of the day its the chemistry between the four of us that counts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our age range is not set in stone but I wouldn't generally go for young guys in their 20s, though I have met young guys at parties etc who have been very mature. I would never meet an 18 year old.
Young men are more likely to have lots of energy and maybe repeaters. I'm not energetic and I don't want sex for hours and hours. I am also very chatty and I want to be able to talk about things in my own generation. Its so offputting when talking about music and people say things like 'I wasn't born then, Oo my mum liked them' etc.
I don't have much of an issue with older than me, probably up to about 65 ish.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At 52 I tend to find I am out of most ladies age range but been on the forums helps . They get to know the person and not just look at the age  pity shags then "
Yeah . But will take anything I get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont see why people have an issue with age at all. It should be down to mutual attraction, not a number, plus not everybody looks their age, so why discredit somebody because of it?!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're flexible, it's a guide for us like most things. We get quite a few where neither are in each others age range.
We always message back pointing that out just to check, nicely and with humour of course!
Sometimes we hear back, sometimes we don't.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We know from experience that a lot of ages stated on profiles are 'adjusted' so it really doesn't matter but we would never make initial contact with someone if we are outside their chosen age range. However, they sometimes contact us! which does seem to be a contradiction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have filters on place simply because of my location. There aren't many women on Fab within a 30 mile radius from here so I was getting messages from all ages. Just putting an age range on my profile made no difference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At 52 I tend to find I am out of most ladies age range but been on the forums helps . They get to know the person and not just look at the age "
exactly. setting you in the forums made me adjust my age range to contact you  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's almost how we first got in touch so he obviously didn't mind lowering his age limit
Lucky me!
As for my preferences, probably 30-50 but would give 5 years each way just in case I'm missing out on a bit of perving
JN |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At 52 I tend to find I am out of most ladies age range but been on the forums helps . They get to know the person and not just look at the age
exactly. setting you in the forums made me adjust my age range to contact you "
And after yesterday I am glad you did |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At 52 I tend to find I am out of most ladies age range but been on the forums helps . They get to know the person and not just look at the age
exactly. setting you in the forums made me adjust my age range to contact you And after yesterday I am glad you did "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's almost how we first got in touch so he obviously didn't mind lowering his age limit
Lucky me!
As for my preferences, probably 30-50 but would give 5 years each way just in case I'm missing out on a bit of perving
JN"
Well he looks 50 so it's all good.
(Don't tell him I said that!) x |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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We always check if we fit the age range (amongst other things) of anyone we are interested in. No we wouldn't contact them even if its only a year or two.
We currently have our filters on as we were getting far too messages from those well outside our preferred age range.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That's almost how we first got in touch so he obviously didn't mind lowering his age limit
Lucky me!
As for my preferences, probably 30-50 but would give 5 years each way just in case I'm missing out on a bit of perving
JN
Well he looks 50 so it's all good.
(Don't tell him I said that!) x"
Certainly glad he doesn't act 50, at least  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have age filters on to reduce the amount of messages I receive.
it's only a guideline which is why I will message people either side of my age preference if they catch my eye. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People miss out if they keep thinking about age amongst other factors
If two people talk and get along and they are both comfortable then why not? "
The clue is in the word both; I've been chatting to a 23 yr old because of something he had on his profile, the problem is that whilst I've no objection to talking to anyone irrespective of age, I've no interest in anyone outside my age range so now he's trying it on I've read his last message but not responded; he may be comfortable with someone 30 yrs older than him but I'm not comfortable with someone 30 yrs younger than me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont see why people have an issue with age at all. It should be down to mutual attraction, not a number, plus not everybody looks their age, so why discredit somebody because of it?!?"
Age comes under mutual attraction and therefore a preference. You must have preferences, why can't we  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People miss out if they keep thinking about age amongst other factors
If two people talk and get along and they are both comfortable then why not?
The clue is in the word both; I've been chatting to a 23 yr old because of something he had on his profile, the problem is that whilst I've no objection to talking to anyone irrespective of age, I've no interest in anyone outside my age range so now he's trying it on I've read his last message but not responded; he may be comfortable with someone 30 yrs older than him but I'm not comfortable with someone 30 yrs younger than me"
My sentiments exactly x I talk to all ages but when it comes to sex someone below a certain age or young enough to b my child I can't bring myself to x is that just mum thing I wonder.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At 52 I tend to find I am out of most ladies age range but been on the forums helps . They get to know the person and not just look at the age "
Your out of my range and you smoke mmmmmmmm both big filters for me....but your still coming down on your hols lol
It has to be your charm and magnetism xxx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't mind people being too out of our age range. But some people can be twenty or more years out. I don't care how big your cock is or what a great shag you are as you say. It is a specific look that I go for. We both have to fancy each other. It's not fair if you fancy me but I don't fancy you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have age filters on to reduce the amount of messages I receive.
it's only a guideline which is why I will message people either side of my age preference if they catch my eye."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My filters are on but that's only because I have had so many messages since rejoining but I do tend to meet my age or over but if I really liked someone I wouldn't rule them out things are not set in stone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Considering you have the ability to block anyone outside your age range, blabbering on about these people pissing you off is about as useful as shit repellent toilet paper. If it was really out of the question, you'd have blocked them rather than been a rude bastard to them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Assuming someone isn't filtering by age, how far outside of someone's stated age preference would you still feel it was worth a try?
Not at all? 1 year? 2? 5? 10? 20?
How do you feel about getting messages from those outside your age limits? Does it make a difference if they are younger or older? Does it make a difference if they are exactly what you are looking for otherwise?"
If it bothered me I would have my filters on. If it bothered me and I got messages and hadn't my filters on I would be an imbecile. Personally It doesn't bother me it just tells me someone isn't good at absorbing information.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it bothered me I would have my filters on. If it bothered me and I got messages and hadn't my filters on I would be an imbecile. Personally It doesn't bother me it just tells me someone isn't good at absorbing information. "
It's not even about absorbing information. If you say no-one under 35 for instance and yet your inbox is open to all age ranges, it connotes that you might be willing to make an exception.
Until you get the point across by simply deleting the message, silence only grants permission to try! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Assuming someone isn't filtering by age, how far outside of someone's stated age preference would you still feel it was worth a try?
Not at all? 1 year? 2? 5? 10? 20?
How do you feel about getting messages from those outside your age limits? Does it make a difference if they are younger or older? Does it make a difference if they are exactly what you are looking for otherwise?"
I'd say maybe 5 years... I don't mind receiving messages from either older or younger folk. But I'm really only interested in the social side of fab at the moment. |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Assuming someone isn't filtering by age, how far outside of someone's stated age preference would you still feel it was worth a try?
Not at all? 1 year? 2? 5? 10? 20?
How do you feel about getting messages from those outside your age limits? Does it make a difference if they are younger or older? Does it make a difference if they are exactly what you are looking for otherwise?
If it bothered me I would have my filters on. If it bothered me and I got messages and hadn't my filters on I would be an imbecile. Personally It doesn't bother me it just tells me someone isn't good at absorbing information. "
The only possible reason anyone would allow anyone outside their age range to message them is that they might decide they want to fuck them? You can't, honestly, think of any other reason? |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Considering you have the ability to block anyone outside your age range, blabbering on about these people pissing you off is about as useful as shit repellent toilet paper. If it was really out of the question, you'd have blocked them rather than been a rude bastard to them! "
The question relates to both the readers attitude to messaging other people as well as to their attitude to being messaged. But thank you for the constructive and informative post.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have gone younger and older than my age range just those few people who have caught my attention outside of this were so lovely I could not help myself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People miss out if they keep thinking about age amongst other factors
If two people talk and get along and they are both comfortable then why not?
The clue is in the word both; I've been chatting to a 23 yr old because of something he had on his profile, the problem is that whilst I've no objection to talking to anyone irrespective of age, I've no interest in anyone outside my age range so now he's trying it on I've read his last message but not responded; he may be comfortable with someone 30 yrs older than him but I'm not comfortable with someone 30 yrs younger than me"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The age range is just a rough guide to our preferences, we will make the occasional exception, however it's basically saying we don't want anyone old enough to be our parents/grandparents |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With me being a young man, I almost automatically count myself out when browsing an older lady/couples profile. Most annoying thing is that's what I'd love the most in all honesty. I don't know what it is about an older more experienced partner that just sends me crazy haha |
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women my age looking for ten year younger males does seem a little insulting to me .. they can choose who they like of course but i do feel written off .. i can only assume they have a very shallow outlook and i wouldnt like to meet them anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My age range is set at 25-30 at the moment but I'll fuck a fit 60 yr old
looks like I'll have to keep up my running for another 10 years then "
as long as you don't keel over in top of me I'm happy to meet older men |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont see why people have an issue with age at all. It should be down to mutual attraction, not a number, plus not everybody looks their age, so why discredit somebody because of it?!?"
Men younger than 25 don't have the maturity or experience. Sorry! Men older than 45 are unattractive to me. That's why I choose to meet within my stated age range. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men younger than 25 don't have the maturity or experience. Sorry! Men older than 45 are unattractive to me. That's why I choose to meet within my stated age range. (Quote)
Your right there love, that's where I come in too it. I'm 23 and lack experience which is why I'd love a more experienced lady too show me how it goes haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah yes, they also will be black and a minimum of 5'11" how did I miss that out?!
Oh right this isn't my profile this is the forum.
Fact is, I have no desire to train a boy to become a man. I want my man ready to go! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"women my age looking for ten year younger males does seem a little insulting to me .. they can choose who they like of course but i do feel written off .. i can only assume they have a very shallow outlook and i wouldnt like to meet them anyway"
I am 37 but look younger, Most women my age or older ignore me, But not all people judge a person on there looks alone and i feel i have to tell younger women straight away that am a lot older then them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How I see it is if you aren't getting what you want from here, and it's making you miserable, then leave to find a happy place. I fuck whoever takes my fancy at the time of asking. One week I might find a young 6ft2 rugby player attractive. Next week it might be an older, 5ft5 navy officer. I have the luxury of not having types |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always think stating an age range can mean you miss out on a really good time "
The problem,if you don't have an age range on here is the amount of messages you get. I change my age ranges now and then |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I always think stating an age range can mean you miss out on a really good time "
I don't want to shag 18 year olds or people the same age as my parents. I don't care how nice they are or how good in bed.
How can I be missing out by not doing something I don't want to do? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always think stating an age range can mean you miss out on a really good time
I don't want to shag 18 year olds or people the same age as my parents. I don't care how nice they are or how good in bed.
How can I be missing out by not doing something I don't want to do?"
You're missing out on shagging anyone that asks |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I always think stating an age range can mean you miss out on a really good time
I don't want to shag 18 year olds or people the same age as my parents. I don't care how nice they are or how good in bed.
How can I be missing out by not doing something I don't want to do?
You're missing out on shagging anyone that asks"
I'd have to fit a revolving door. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always think stating an age range can mean you miss out on a really good time
I don't want to shag 18 year olds or people the same age as my parents. I don't care how nice they are or how good in bed.
How can I be missing out by not doing something I don't want to do?
You're missing out on shagging anyone that asks
I'd have to fit a revolving door."
There's a sale on at B&Q... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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More a guideline then a preference. I'm flexible with chatting to women within the 'limit' I've set, but it depends if the other person would be comfortable with meeting someone of my age.
In person, I usually get on with women older than me, just as much as women who are the same age as me as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always think stating an age range can mean you miss out on a really good time
I don't want to shag 18 year olds or people the same age as my parents. I don't care how nice they are or how good in bed.
How can I be missing out by not doing something I don't want to do?"
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