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Does marriage still hold the same meaning as it did 50 years ago?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think it is far more of a throw away thing that it used to be. Marriage used to be something that really was forever, and if the couple had problems, then they had to work through them, as divorce was frowned upon. Nowadays, divorce is a relatively easy thing to obtain, and marriage no longer has the 'forever' meaning it used to, as people know that if things don't work out well, they can just get divorced. It is just seen as a piece of paper these days to some. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It does for us, we have committed to each other with the intention of spending a whole life together. Though neither of us are Christian or any other religion so civil ceremony was all we needed (actually not even that, the marriage was made at the reception where we stated our intention of being together in front of friends. Much more binding than a government contract, or promise to an entity we don't believe in. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"For some yes, for some no."
My family struggle with the fact that I don't want or feel the need to get married. They see it as a disappointment and hope that I might one day suddenly change my mind.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For some yes, for some no.
My family struggle with the fact that I don't want or feel the need to get married. They see it as a disappointment and hope that I might one day suddenly change my mind.
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why change something if its good, don't try and fix something.g that isn't cracked
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of course it still holds the same meaning
The mane buys the licence therefore he owns the woman...simples innit 
Suicide is painless  "
I love that song Suicide is painless .. its a good one. xxx |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"For some yes, for some no.
My family struggle with the fact that I don't want or feel the need to get married. They see it as a disappointment and hope that I might one day suddenly change my mind.
why change something if its good, don't try and fix something.g that isn't cracked
Her"
Exactly.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm not old enough to know"
well I think over the last ten years its even changed for a lot . My two girls only wish to get married if they have a family they say.. I said its up to them as it is . My mum would say to me you don't have kids with out getting married and you stay married for the kids even if unhappy .. well I don't hold same views as my mum .
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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"For some yes, for some no.
My family struggle with the fact that I don't want or feel the need to get married. They see it as a disappointment and hope that I might one day suddenly change my mind.
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Some people seem to think I am missing out by not being in a relationship, never mind married.
I'm missing out in the same way I'm missing a hole in my forehead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm not old enough to know well I think over the last ten years its even changed for a lot . My two girls only wish to get married if they have a family they say.. I said its up to them as it is . My mum would say to me you don't have kids with out getting married and you stay married for the kids even if unhappy .. well I don't hold same views as my mum ."
Well attitudes have obviously changed. And now there's same sex marriage. |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"For some yes, for some no.
My family struggle with the fact that I don't want or feel the need to get married. They see it as a disappointment and hope that I might one day suddenly change my mind.
Some people seem to think I am missing out by not being in a relationship, never mind married.
I'm missing out in the same way I'm missing a hole in my forehead."
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No it doesn't hold the same meaning but times have changed. Instead of "courting" youngsters move in together and then get to know each other, everything is easy to throw away. Doesn't even enter my head that callum should be married before he starts a family. In fact I can't think of anyone I know that went down the traditional route of getting married before having children let alone not living together first
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been married twice... Divorced twice. Content with what I have. It would need to be someone pretty spectacular to make me think about the 'M' word again. |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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divorce was a taboo thing and too easy nowdays took me 25 years to actually marry my husband for various reasons
marriages are more equal now too my mums day it was the woman who served the man im glad that's changed
marriages are also too expensive now |
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"divorce was a taboo thing and too easy nowdays took me 25 years to actually marry my husband for various reasons
marriages are more equal now too my mums day it was the woman who served the man im glad that's changed
marriages are also too expensive now"
I thought your marriage was like that that you served your husband?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think things have changed a lot from when my mum and dad was married .  "
It really has changed a lot and I'd go so far as to say that the reasons for marriage have become invalid to so many people. There's a lot of confusion and cultural discontent, too, on top of the financial burden of being ready to start a family.
Personally, I couldn't be fucked with the fairytale. I've seen friends fall apart from so much neediness and wanting more than they can have, when they thought that having a kid before marriage was enough reason to ignore the fact that they don't have a hope in hell.
A marriage does not make a good couple, an unbreakable friendship makes a good couple, once the chamicals have worn off. Marriage juts seems to turn that into a material possession, in my eyes! |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"divorce was a taboo thing and too easy nowdays took me 25 years to actually marry my husband for various reasons
marriages are more equal now too my mums day it was the woman who served the man im glad that's changed
marriages are also too expensive nowI thought your marriage was like that that you served your husband?
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you are prob right there but maybe that's cos hes an older man and still lives in that era |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I say 50 years but really 20 years 10 years and still changing ."
I'd say you were right the first time. The "Me Generation" really set a lot of today's problems in motion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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50 years ago our parents had been thru tougher times and were probably more willing to stick at it than many of us are today.
Whether that was a good or bad thing is debatable but personally I believe a marriage needs a lot of hardwork if it is to survive. |
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