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im all confuddled..

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I've known for a while that swinging isn't for me. (Dont slate me, im not a hater of the lifestyle i think your all ace)

Im not old, but i do have responsibilities these days compared to when i was younger so am perhaps after something more stable.. its not to say i'm actively seeking Mr Right, but with that self admission am i therefore subconsciously on the look out? Thus meaning that i am looking?,, Meaning i wont find him?

arghhhhh

Disclaimer.. yes i am well aware this isnt a dating site

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

you should look just not too hard....Im on the look out..I just don't get desperate about it..

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I think some are scared of retribution if they do admit they are looking for Mr/Miss Right, from knowing your posts and how you come across in the forums, I would say you are. But what do I know?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Marry me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Marry me x"

no.. lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think some are scared of retribution if they do admit they are looking for Mr/Miss Right, from knowing your posts and how you come across in the forums, I would say you are. But what do I know?!

think the last 3 years in this place ive learnt a lot and would like to think my ways of posting has changed. But thats for others to decide i guess.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

Think its obvious some on here are looking for Mr right but usually its the ones that are in denial. There are one or two open about it and fair play to them

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think deep down we would never let someone special go if we found them on here, looking or not looking

but u cant help feelings and if it feels right sha-zam

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

Good luck to all looking

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By *emmefataleWoman over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I think deep down we would never let someone special go if we found them on here, looking or not looking

but u cant help feelings and if it feels right sha-zam

"
Thats very true.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's fine if you're on the lookout for Mr Right just have fun while you're doing it

Love has a habit of turning up in the most unlikely places, when you least expect it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Get thi sen on PoF.

You're a nice lass, you are hot, and you have tits I'd love to bury my face in.

You'll find someone for sure.

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By *imwildWoman over a year ago

around

"It's fine if you're on the lookout for Mr Right just have fun while you're doing it

Love has a habit of turning up in the most unlikely places, when you least expect it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

honestly thanks for all the private messages (mainly gents) but i am NOT looking..

ive just admitted to myself that this isnt the lifestyle choice for me and that i am open minded to settling down. Life for me is more serious than it was when i was care free and 21..

the main 'battle' within my head (scary place that is by the way) was that now ive admitted it to myself that i perhaps am open minded for something serious, does that mean i am subconsciously looking?

dont worry,, scrap the thread,, i knew what i meant lol

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By *isscheekychopsWoman over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Im looking but from time to time i like to get down and dirty...id like to think that i am honest with myself and others with my intentions...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I often ask myself if I could ever settle for a relationship after being here for 18 months, If I fell for someone (which is highly unlikely)would I really trust them and I know I wouldn't want to share them. That said it would take someone pretty damn special to get me off this site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I often ask myself if I could ever settle for a relationship after being here for 18 months, If I fell for someone (which is highly unlikely)would I really trust them and I know I wouldn't want to share them. That said it would take someone pretty damn special to get me off this site.

Butttttt... you could meet a guy AND carry on the lifestyle.. win win

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If he was happy for me to continue that would be good but if I fell for him I wouldn't want him to and that is where trust comes in. I know couples on here ho "only play together" then I get a message of the guy saying "please don't tell but I want to meet alone" hahaha this really is a crazy place but I love it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was single when I joined .. and I met my man on here .. we now live together after a couple of years of just being fb's .. and we both still enjoy the lifestyle. . So it can happen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Love will sneak up on you and take you by surprise. I would leave here and start with a clean slate. Live life and someone will walk in,stick around and spend the rest of your life with you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Are you scared to admit to yourself that you are looking? Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks as long as you are happy.

Doesn't sound like you'd want a relationship with a swinger. One less place to look.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Are you scared to admit to yourself that you are looking? Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks as long as you are happy.

Doesn't sound like you'd want a relationship with a swinger. One less place to look.

No quite the opposite.. im open minded about finding someone but realistically ive not got the time to have a man in my life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nothing wrong with looking for someone special x x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Butttttt... you could meet a guy AND carry on the lifestyle.. win win

After being introduced to swingingabout 6 months ago whilst being single I have wondered how a relationship would work for me after this. (i am open to the possibility of a relationship in the future tho not actively seeking one)

im fine with 'sharing' a friend /fb...but dont think id b happy sharing a guy who I was in a relationship with..

But then I like the whole lifestyle, the sicial side, the kinkiness etc so think maybe id end up one of the ' soft swap' couples.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's fine if you're on the lookout for Mr Right just have fun while you're doing it

Love has a habit of turning up in the most unlikely places, when you least expect it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think it's a case of going with the flow. If you meet someone who happens to be on this site or similar, then a whole new dynamic takes place. There is a lot of exploring to be done, and a whole lot of talking too.

What you liked when single, you might not like as a couple. E.g seeing your partner with someone else. Evie and I have a debrief after our experiences where we can discuss openly what we liked and disliked. We then set our boundaries accordingly and move forward.

It's all meant to be fun, and when it stops being fun, it's time to get off the tide for a bit.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Don't marry me - people would just do double takes every time they see us

I think you should just take every day as it is and enjoy every day as it is. Life is for living and having fun, how ever you find it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get thi sen on PoF.

You're a nice lass, you are hot, and you have tits I'd love to bury my face in.

You'll find someone for sure.

Dear lord that place is a shallow pool of shxxe if ever there were one.

Hun in the short time I have been on this site, even though I have not met you in person, I have found you to be generous of nature, kind of spirit, very level headed and fun, we are all looking for Mr Right in whatever capacity he may arrive just some of us are to scared to admit it xx

Good luck cos someone as lovely as you will bump into him when the time is right

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Get thi sen on PoF.

You're a nice lass, you are hot, and you have tits I'd love to bury my face in.

You'll find someone for sure.

Dear lord that place is a shallow pool of shxxe if ever there were one.

Good luck cos someone as lovely as you will bump into him when the time is right

Kudos to you Cute for saying, but MissMo, we aren't all looking for Mr Right, I'd probably consider a swinging relationship were such a thing to bite me on the arse, but I'm in no way looking for anything other than NSA

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't marry me - people would just do double takes every time they see us

I think you should just take every day as it is and enjoy every day as it is. Life is for living and having fun, how ever you find it.

Yes I agree & like others have said , when you're least expecting it ! Then you'll find it .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

well this is a swing site

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get thi sen on PoF.

You're a nice lass, you are hot, and you have tits I'd love to bury my face in.

You'll find someone for sure.

Dear lord that place is a shallow pool of shxxe if ever there were one.

Good luck cos someone as lovely as you will bump into him when the time is right

A swinging relationship is that a relationship with another person in which you both choose to swing together, if that is the relationship you choose then you have found the right person for you....in whatever capacity!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

we werent looking when we found each other, in fact, i had been out of my marriage for 3 months and V had had enough of scumbag men that she just wasnt interested.

we started talking, got on, and the rest is history.

i agree with those that say if you look you wont find it as you are _iewing everyone as potential partner material lol.

just chat to people you like (not specifically on here obviously) an dyou never know what situation you will find yourself in.

good luck to you though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Butttttt... you could meet a guy AND carry on the lifestyle.. win win

im fine with 'sharing' a friend /fb...but dont think id b happy sharing a guy who I was in a relationship with..

But then I like the whole lifestyle, the sicial side, the kinkiness etc so think maybe id end up one of the ' soft swap' couples. "

they are the best kind

lol

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By *londeCazWoman over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

"Get thi sen on PoF.

You're a nice lass, you are hot, and you have tits I'd love to bury my face in.

You'll find someone for sure.

Dear lord that place is a shallow pool of shxxe if ever there were one.

Good luck cos someone as lovely as you will bump into him when the time is right

Yep, but my point was not everyone is looking for a relationship. I said I'd consider a relationship but that doesn't mean I'd take up the offer

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get thi sen on PoF.

You're a nice lass, you are hot, and you have tits I'd love to bury my face in.

You'll find someone for sure.

That place is a waste of time and space , I found a lot of men on there should actually be on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Looking is just so tiresome ... and daunting ... and full of disappointment.

Take a back foot, fill your life with good people and be happy with yourself and those around you.

radiance, contentment and happiness all shine thru - but not as much as desperation

Love will come and find you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Live life and someone will walk in,stick around and spend the rest of your life with you "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get thi sen on PoF.

You're a nice lass, you are hot, and you have tits I'd love to bury my face in.

You'll find someone for sure.

That place is a waste of time and space , I found a lot of men on there should actually be on here. "

plenty of fish is fab with added bullshit

at least the guys on here don't blur the lines of intention and most women are left in doubt what they are after

pof gives the opportunity to use the old 'i am looking to settle down' line when all they really want is a gobbly wank and pics of ur tits to show their mates

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

good luck finding your special man . cute..... in the mean time i would like to thank you for all the fun and banter youve given to me and all your other admirers over the time ive seen you posting xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Get thi sen on PoF.

You're a nice lass, you are hot, and you have tits I'd love to bury my face in.

You'll find someone for sure.

That place is a waste of time and space , I found a lot of men on there should actually be on here.

plenty of fish is fab with added bullshit

at least the guys on here don't blur the lines of intention and most women are left in doubt what they are after

pof gives the opportunity to use the old 'i am looking to settle down' line when all they really want is a gobbly wank and pics of ur tits to show their mates"

Spot on

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By *B9 QueenWoman over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Maybe it is my age or experiences, but I have an absolute fear of anything like that happening.

I've had plenty of relationships in the past - been there, done that.

I'm not looking for Mr Right - just Mr Right Now.

But, for those who are, I don't see why it is a problem as long as you are open about it - more for yourself than for anyone else.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Are you scared to admit to yourself that you are looking? Doesn't matter what anyone else thinks as long as you are happy.

Doesn't sound like you'd want a relationship with a swinger. One less place to look.

No quite the opposite.. im open minded about finding someone but realistically ive not got the time to have a man in my life. "

When you find the right one you will make time!

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