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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is it only men who are charming?
Is using your charm or being charming seen as a negative thing?
I've been chatting to a very charming lady and I very much like it.  "
Is she charming the pants off you or being more subtle  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think that if men are charming then women are seductive. Just a _iew
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I tend to agree with that to a degree but in real life day to day situations a man can be charming as a matter of course,a woman can't always behave seductively without people thinking it a little odd
So do you think the equivalent for a woman would be flirty? |
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"Is it only men who are charming?
Is using your charm or being charming seen as a negative thing?
I've been chatting to a very charming lady and I very much like it.
Is she charming the pants off you or
being more subtle "
She was subtle...I'm intrigued by her  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Women don't charm its a mans thing
Really!!! 
I think women do something like a charm but its not called a charm..
What's is called then??
Nagging "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women don't charm its a mans thing
Really!!!
I think women do something like a charm but its not called a charm..
What's is called then?? "
Urrrm... I duno lol surely its the mans job to the charming and the women they do there lady thing .... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Is it only men who are charming?
Is using your charm or being charming seen as a negative thing?
I've been chatting to a very charming lady and I very much like it.
Is she charming the pants off you or
being more subtle
She was subtle...I'm intrigued by her "
I love the word intrigued |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women don't charm its a mans thing
Really!!!
I think women do something like a charm but its not called a charm..
What's is called then??
Haha you said it mate
Nagging "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Right I've given it some thought now. I think both women and men can be charming. It is a 'magical' quality that attracts others. I think it comes with an ability to focus on the other person while being quietly confident about yourself. A charming person exudes a positive energy that acts like a magnet for others.
What do think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women don't charm its a mans thing
Really!!!
I think women do something like a charm but its not called a charm..
What's is called then??
Nagging "
Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it only men who are charming?
Is using your charm or being charming seen as a negative thing?
I've been chatting to a very charming lady and I very much like it.
Is she charming the pants off you or
being more subtle
She was subtle...I'm intrigued by her
I love the word intrigued "
Ooh I do too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right I've given it some thought now. I think both women and men can be charming. It is a 'magical' quality that attracts others. I think it comes with an ability to focus on the other person while being quietly confident about yourself. A charming person exudes a positive energy that acts like a magnet for others.
What do think? "
Sums it up perfectly, I agree |
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"Right I've given it some thought now. I think both women and men can be charming. It is a 'magical' quality that attracts others. I think it comes with an ability to focus on the other person while being quietly confident about yourself. A charming person exudes a positive energy that acts like a magnet for others.
What do think? "
Aww very good |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Right I've given it some thought now. I think both women and men can be charming. It is a 'magical' quality that attracts others. I think it comes with an ability to focus on the other person while being quietly confident about yourself. A charming person exudes a positive energy that acts like a magnet for others.
What do think? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think being enigmatic or intriguing is a different quality that entices by leaving you with unanswered questions and a wish to explore more. This comes from knowing how mych to disclose to whet the appetite while ensuring the promise of satisfying that appetite is just out of reach.
Again both men and women can have this quality too
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think being enigmatic or intriguing is a different quality that entices by leaving you with unanswered questions and a wish to explore more. This comes from knowing how much* to disclose to whet the appetite while ensuring the promise of satisfying that appetite is just out of reach.
Again both men and women can have this quality too
Thoughts? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it only men who are charming?
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My interpretation of the above statement.
It's ONLY men who are DESCRIBED as charming.
But charming in and of itself applies to both sexes.
My real thoughts are charming is passing the salt when they can't reach it... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right I've given it some thought now. I think both women and men can be charming. It is a 'magical' quality that attracts others. I think it comes with an ability to focus on the other person while being quietly confident about yourself. A charming person exudes a positive energy that acts like a magnet for others.
What do think? "
You've thought it out very well.
Charming people can definitely act as a magnet for others |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess another engaging quality is beIng witty. Not cracking jokes all the time but the ability to find humour in everyday things and conversations.
A charming, enigmatic and witty woman would attract me every time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is it only men who are charming?
Is using your charm or being charming seen as a negative thing? "
Its positive if its used with humour and a quick whit its negative if its used in a tacky way and comes across in a sleazy way. I guess it has more to do with who is using it. |
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"Right I've given it some thought now. I think both women and men can be charming. It is a 'magical' quality that attracts others. I think it comes with an ability to focus on the other person while being quietly confident about yourself. A charming person exudes a positive energy that acts like a magnet for others.
What do think? "
That's a type of charm. I married a very charming man, yes it's charismatic I agree, but very mannerly too I think, quite chivalrous in a man. And I think a sunny disposition is part of it - charming people are always smiling while they are being charming. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How does someone become charming?
Fuck sleeping beauty "
But, what about Cinderella? I think i've got some pairs of shoes that may fit her.
...if not. I may just have to go 'grrr, that Cinderfuckingella!!'
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right I've given it some thought now. I think both women and men can be charming. It is a 'magical' quality that attracts others. I think it comes with an ability to focus on the other person while being quietly confident about yourself. A charming person exudes a positive energy that acts like a magnet for others.
What do think?
That's a type of charm. I married a very charming man, yes it's charismatic I agree, but very mannerly too I think, quite chivalrous in a man. And I think a sunny disposition is part of it - charming people are always smiling while they are being charming."
I'd agree with all of that...charismatic is often used to describe a similar quality. Being positive, chivalrous and mannerly would all be part of it in my mind too, when applied to a man
I'm not sure what the female equivalent of chivalrous |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There's a dangerous line to tread between charm and smarm...some people tread it beautifully.
Real charm seems inate.
Trying too hard can be smarmy.
In this environment some people are naturally (at times) trying their best to be charming.
Some don't have it but that's not necessarily a negative as there are many qualities that combine to make someone interesting.
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Is it only men who are charming?
Is using your charm or being charming seen as a negative thing? "
No. I think charming can be used to describe both men and women. Someone who is truely charming just is, they don't need to try or use it. It comes naturally and that shows.
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"Right I've given it some thought now. I think both women and men can be charming. It is a 'magical' quality that attracts others. I think it comes with an ability to focus on the other person while being quietly confident about yourself. A charming person exudes a positive energy that acts like a magnet for others.
What do think?
That's a type of charm. I married a very charming man, yes it's charismatic I agree, but very mannerly too I think, quite chivalrous in a man. And I think a sunny disposition is part of it - charming people are always smiling while they are being charming.
I'd agree with all of that...charismatic is often used to describe a similar quality. Being positive, chivalrous and mannerly would all be part of it in my mind too, when applied to a man
I'm not sure what the female equivalent of chivalrous "
A kind of graciousness I think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right I've given it some thought now. I think both women and men can be charming. It is a 'magical' quality that attracts others. I think it comes with an ability to focus on the other person while being quietly confident about yourself. A charming person exudes a positive energy that acts like a magnet for others.
What do think?
That's a type of charm. I married a very charming man, yes it's charismatic I agree, but very mannerly too I think, quite chivalrous in a man. And I think a sunny disposition is part of it - charming people are always smiling while they are being charming.
I'd agree with all of that...charismatic is often used to describe a similar quality. Being positive, chivalrous and mannerly would all be part of it in my mind too, when applied to a man
I'm not sure what the female equivalent of chivalrous
A kind of graciousness I think?"
I suppose some of it is very specific to the individual and what they perceive as charming. I find a self-effacing guy charming and a chap with humility.
Someone trying to charm me would have the opposite effect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women don't charm its a mans thing
Really!!!
I think women do something like a charm but its not called a charm..
Flirting?"
Its a composed flirt I think is the best way to describe it ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right I've given it some thought now. I think both women and men can be charming. It is a 'magical' quality that attracts others. I think it comes with an ability to focus on the other person while being quietly confident about yourself. A charming person exudes a positive energy that acts like a magnet for others.
What do think?
That's a type of charm. I married a very charming man, yes it's charismatic I agree, but very mannerly too I think, quite chivalrous in a man. And I think a sunny disposition is part of it - charming people are always smiling while they are being charming.
I'd agree with all of that...charismatic is often used to describe a similar quality. Being positive, chivalrous and mannerly would all be part of it in my mind too, when applied to a man
I'm not sure what the female equivalent of chivalrous
A kind of graciousness I think?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women don't charm its a mans thing
Really!!!
I think women do something like a charm but its not called a charm..
Flirting?
Its a composed flirt I think is the best way to describe it ..."
Flirting and charm are different for me. I think flirting is more overt, charm comes from within.
A person can be both charming and flirtatious, one or the other, or neither |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women don't charm its a mans thing
Really!!!
I think women do something like a charm but its not called a charm..
Flirting?
Its a composed flirt I think is the best way to describe it ..."
Flirting and charm are different for me. I think flirting is more overt, charm comes from within.
A person can be both charming and flirtatious, one or the other, or neither |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Apparently, ridicule is nothing to be scared of......"
Even if you are Princess Charming?
Charm is a quality both genders can possess but I think the way we use language means that charming is used for a man and gracious and/or alluring is used for women.
I described some children as charming at the weekend and got called old-fashioned for using the word.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Apparently, ridicule is nothing to be scared of......
Even if you are Princess Charming?
Charm is a quality both genders can possess but I think the way we use language means that charming is used for a man and gracious and/or alluring is used for women.
I described some children as charming at the weekend and got called old-fashioned for using the word.
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Well if being charming and gracious are deemed old-fashioned, it's about time they were made 21st century qualities |
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it's been very interesting reading this thread. American women, particularly southern ladies, are often seen to possess the quality of charm. it is not seen as inherently constrained to that gender, i hasten to add, but is seen as a quality present in ladies. it is used to describe someone who is gracious, well mannered, tactful, and seems to create a relaxed atmosphere and sense of ease in others. it is something which some are born with and others learn, but all who choose to are capable. |
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"it's been very interesting reading this thread. American women, particularly southern ladies, are often seen to possess the quality of charm. it is not seen as inherently constrained to that gender, i hasten to add, but is seen as a quality present in ladies. it is used to describe someone who is gracious, well mannered, tactful, and seems to create a relaxed atmosphere and sense of ease in others. it is something which some are born with and others learn, but all who choose to are capable. "
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"Apparently, ridicule is nothing to be scared of......
Even if you are Princess Charming?
Charm is a quality both genders can possess but I think the way we use language means that charming is used for a man and gracious and/or alluring is used for women.
I described some children as charming at the weekend and got called old-fashioned for using the word.
Well if being charming and gracious are deemed old-fashioned, it's about time they were made 21st century qualities "
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"it's been very interesting reading this thread. American women, particularly southern ladies, are often seen to possess the quality of charm. it is not seen as inherently constrained to that gender, i hasten to add, but is seen as a quality present in ladies. it is used to describe someone who is gracious, well mannered, tactful, and seems to create a relaxed atmosphere and sense of ease in others. it is something which some are born with and others learn, but all who choose to are capable. "
Yes, exactly so. 'Going on a charm offensive', or 'deciding to charm someone' is not the same thing at all - charming isn't something you DO, it's far more something you ARE. (or not!) |
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"Apparently, ridicule is nothing to be scared of......
Even if you are Princess Charming?
Charm is a quality both genders can possess but I think the way we use language means that charming is used for a man and gracious and/or alluring is used for women.
I described some children as charming at the weekend and got called old-fashioned for using the word.
Well if being charming and gracious are deemed old-fashioned, it's about time they were made 21st century qualities
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