 |
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
If someone arranged a week ago to meet you at a given place and time and you haven't heard from him since, would you still go? Is it reasonable to assume some confirmation the day before would be in order? This is how I am with family and friends so I apply the same logic /rules to dates. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Yes I would expect that,no confirmation then id think its off,this does work both ways though,you could just as easily send a text asking if its still on if you're really bothered |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I like to be in contact up until the arranged meet, if no contact within a few hours of the meet I assume it's off.
I don't chase, but I am happy to text to ask if things are still on if they have been chatty leading up to the meet. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Yeah, if someone loses contact prior to a meet. That's a bit daft. And me, personally i wouldn't go.
But, then again. I'm always in touch with those i meet and those i plan to meet. I like to keep in touch so they know that i am interested.
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
No contact for a week? I wouldnt go either. A couple of days is ok but the closer I got to the meet, I'd like some contact and confirmation and saucy messages and then 17 mins before I was due to arrive, a selfie with a vibe in _iew and a message saying 'hey big boy stevie, I can't wait...cum and get me'  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"Yeah, if someone loses contact prior to a meet. That's a bit daft. And me, personally i wouldn't go.
But, then again. I'm always in touch with those i meet and those i plan to meet. I like to keep in touch so they know that i am interested.
"
That's exactly how I expect to be treated |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I like to be in contact up until the arranged meet, if no contact within a few hours of the meet I assume it's off.
I don't chase, but I am happy to text to ask if things are still on if they have been chatty leading up to the meet."
Yes, exactly this, I will ask once for confirmation, but in my experience they get MORE chatty just before a meet, not less so. A lady likes to feel desired - if I had not heard anything for a week I'd have pretty much lost interest myself, wandered off to find a more engaging toy!
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well i would contact them to see if its still on"
 It's up to you both to keep in touch, not just the guy.
If no response then don't go. Find someone that does want to meet. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"If someone arranged a week ago to meet you at a given place and time and you haven't heard from him since, would you still go? Is it reasonable to assume some confirmation the day before would be in order? This is how I am with family and friends so I apply the same logic /rules to dates. "
I like to hear on the day regardless of previous arrangements...if i had not had a positive confirmation then i would assume its off.....  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
If I was meeting you I'd be getting very excited as it got nearer. You would be receiving plenty of messages and also checking everything was ok with you. I would imagine he's got cold feet. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
That depend how far it is, if its more than 7 miles then they have to keep in touch the day before, but if its one mile or so from me, then I would still go and see if they are there and they wouldnt need to keep in contact lol. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Yeah, if someone loses contact prior to a meet. That's a bit daft. And me, personally i wouldn't go.
But, then again. I'm always in touch with those i meet and those i plan to meet. I like to keep in touch so they know that i am interested.
That's exactly how I expect to be treated "
is this where I ask you for your number? Or am I reading the wrong signs? I can never tell haha
(joking by the way) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Oh. And it definately works both ways. Sometimes if i'm doing all the initial messagges it seems like its only me who is interested and I don't want to seem pushy for the meet if I always message.
So, sometimes I might go quiet just to see if they are interested in me. But, what gets annoying is when you'd see a status update or a post saying something along the lines 'they ask to meet but then no longer stay in touch. That's why they don't meet younger
guys' etc etc.
erm, hello?
 |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Well i would contact them to see if its still on
It's up to you both to keep in touch, not just the guy.
If no response then don't go. Find someone that does want to meet. "
If you haven't been in touch he may not have wanted to pester. I do think it's odd there has been no contact, but he might be thinking you've changed your mind too if he hasn't heard from you. A quick text might answer your question much quicker than we could |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
Well I like to have some contact beforehand too. Always helps in building chemistry, etc.....
As it happens I decided to send a text today. I received a reply 2 hours later saying he had assumed we were still meeting. It isn't how I usually like things to be but I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and went.
For anyone concerned. ..this was not a FAB meet. Just a regular guy I met in a bar who asked me out.
He was actually very sweet and just not a great communicator via text. Anyway...nice guy but not for me.
But appreciate the _iewpoints. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
You haven't heard from him, he hasn't heard from you. What's stopping you from messaging him?
