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I'd be lying if I said it was personality alone, while personality is a major factor in the attraction process looks do play a large part....I can't sleep with someone I'm not attracted to both physically and mentally....  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"Question for everyone . Is it more looks than personality you look for in a person?"
Both
While we don't expect supermodels we have to be physically attracted to those we meet. What we find attractive varies from person to person, we don't have a set type.
Their personality & humour will either keep our attention or quickly lose it.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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you don't get your foot in the door without having one or the other...
so if you want to sell yourself on your looks first, thats up to you...
I tend to sell myself on my personality... and it is that that gets me bloody good friends reagrdless... I dont want to play with people I wouldn't be friends with...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here it'd be looks first since that's what you first see.
IRL it's personality.
I know a "fashionista" who people think is attractive but she uses men and is really vile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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most people on here immediately judge on looks I'm afraid, and then some filter on personality aftwards. That's just the nature of the site (and life) in general. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"you don't get your foot in the door without having one or the other...
so if you want to sell yourself on your looks first, thats up to you...
I tend to sell myself on my personality... and it is that that gets me bloody good friends reagrdless... I dont want to play with people I wouldn't be friends with......"
I like that Fabio  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unfotunately for fab people dont click on your profile due to your personality, its all on your avatar"
I think the avatar is fairly useless as a lure to a profile but that's just me personally. It's a tiny image which tells me naff all. |
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"you don't get your foot in the door without having one or the other...
so if you want to sell yourself on your looks first, thats up to you...
I tend to sell myself on my personality... and it is that that gets me bloody good friends reagrdless... I dont want to play with people I wouldn't be friends with......"
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Ok varied comments lol. So if personality plays a factor in things, how can you get to know it if some people go on looks first? You may not be a brad pitt but could have personality like lee evans |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Give me a funny fucker every day of the week
That has to be the Salfordian in you? "
Probably, we're comedically competitive when we're all together at my folks house.
I like a funny guy but not in an "entertain me" way, love to make a guy laugh too, it's very sexy!
Far sexier than a six pack imho but that's just me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok varied comments lol. So if personality plays a factor in things, how can you get to know it if some people go on looks first? You may not be a brad pitt but could have personality like lee evans "
All depends how you market yourself I guess. The forum is a good place for personality to come through. Profiles and pictures also help to convey personality |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok varied comments lol. So if personality plays a factor in things, how can you get to know it if some people go on looks first? You may not be a brad pitt but could have personality like lee evans "
Id run a mile from either lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Same as many others, it's got to be both.
Physical attraction is hugely important, and then I've actually got to like the person and generally humour and intelligence plays a role in that department. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It totally depends why you are on here doesn't it ? I mean , as a couple who are madly in love with each other , for us it's looks mainly . Of course , a nice personality helps , but tbh it doesn't matter that much .
If you are single and looking fir a bit more , it's understandable that personality may be more important .
Some couples love the social side so for them the personality is important too .
But for us , it's the sex , and more often than not , we only meet the same people once , so the looks are paramount .
Yes , we may be shallow , but we know what works for us , and although we have many friends with great personalities in and out of the lifestyle , we have no plans to change |
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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago
not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds) |
Someone said to me you can t wank over personality, bugger I m off for my beauty sleep then instead of another joke book,,
For me,, Firstly,,, Attractive face , then boobs then eyes, then boobs then smile ( thats me cos I've seen the boobies,) then the its personality yeah thats it what the hell its boobs boobs boobs,  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Unfotunately for fab people dont click on your profile due to your personality, its all on your avatar"
I disagree. I have chatted to people with no pics at all because they have a brilliant profile/ personality in mails. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ive met and chatted to some drop dead gorgeous men (chams) and have to say that bar 3 of them.the rest were so far up their own beautiful arses ,i wonder if they ever shagged anyone ? So it has to be a balance of both personality and nice looks.
Ive also seen very good looking women in chams but they didnt seem to have fun ? but liked to stand there and be admired....it was like look but dont dare touch.....   
you mean because they didnt shag you they must be up their own arses   "
Not at all.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok then , what does my profile tell you about me / us
and this isnt a i cant get a meet ploy because we are having a blast , I still believe its about putting yourself out there "
Your profile puts me off because the guy is down on himself. I don't like negativity. I might think he's ace but I wouldn't bother finding out because the profile text put me off.
A person may not have confidence in their looks but I'd prefer to make my own mind up. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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on fab....fire me, personally..... it's all about the creative placement and angle of the skye remote. seriously, is there anything more sexy and curvaceous? 
*removes tongue from cheek* |
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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago
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"Ive met and chatted to some drop dead gorgeous men (chams) and have to say that bar 3 of them.the rest were so far up their own beautiful arses ,i wonder if they ever shagged anyone ? So it has to be a balance of both personality and nice looks.
Ive also seen very good looking women in chams but they didnt seem to have fun ? but liked to stand there and be admired....it was like look but dont dare touch..... "
You hit the nail on the head with your statement, we try to avoid those who class themselves as extremely attractive as most of the time that says it all lol!
I did ask a couple once why they thought they were extremely attractive & they smiled & said because we are...personality any day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personality. I say that because in the past I became attracted to people who initially there wasn't an attraction but that grew because of how awesome they were . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personality. I say that because in the past I became attracted to people who initially there wasn't an attraction but that grew because of how awesome they were . "
This is so true. I've known a guy whose face pic I was not initially that drawn to (not that he's unattractive but not my general look) but as there seemed to be an initial click & we found it easy to talk I let things develop. He had me laughing so much that within weeks I was seriously lusting after him and after about a month I asked for a meet as I was frankly gagging for it.
Now I see him very differently physically than I did initially. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personality. I say that because in the past I became attracted to people who initially there wasn't an attraction but that grew because of how awesome they were .
This is so true. I've known a guy whose face pic I was not initially that drawn to (not that he's unattractive but not my general look) but as there seemed to be an initial click & we found it easy to talk I let things develop. He had me laughing so much that within weeks I was seriously lusting after him and after about a month I asked for a meet as I was frankly gagging for it.
Now I see him very differently physically than I did initially."
That exact same scenario happened to me too but you have described it much better than I could!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personality. I say that because in the past I became attracted to people who initially there wasn't an attraction but that grew because of how awesome they were .
This is so true. I've known a guy whose face pic I was not initially that drawn to (not that he's unattractive but not my general look) but as there seemed to be an initial click & we found it easy to talk I let things develop. He had me laughing so much that within weeks I was seriously lusting after him and after about a month I asked for a meet as I was frankly gagging for it.
Now I see him very differently physically than I did initially.
That exact same scenario happened to me too but you have described it much better than I could!
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Sure you would have aquitted yourself perfectly!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think when meeting someone face to face, its the way the other person makes you feel....how comfortable you are in their company...regardless in how they look....
On here.....some times you need to sift through a lot of frogs to find those who do the same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just "awesome" people into meeting me... its just a skill I have... "
Haha, im being drawn in (think Sylvester the cat floating through the air on the aroma of a cooking chicken) |
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"you don't get your foot in the door without having one or the other...
so if you want to sell yourself on your looks first, thats up to you...
I tend to sell myself on my personality... and it is that that gets me bloody good friends reagrdless... I dont want to play with people I wouldn't be friends with......"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's not a straight forward answer. I don't look at somebody and think "they're pretty so therefore I'm attracted to them...". I may think somebody is pretty but if they don't have a personality where we can enjoy a good craic (queue the shit puns...) Then I'm not interested. |
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"Ok then , what does my profile tell you about me / us
and this isnt a i cant get a meet ploy because we are having a blast , I still believe its about putting yourself out there
Your profile puts me off because the guy is down on himself. I don't like negativity. I might think he's ace but I wouldn't bother finding out because the profile text put me off.
A person may not have confidence in their looks but I'd prefer to make my own mind up. x"
its a difficult one , the folk that ive met say im being hard on myself but id sooner be on the right side of describing myself than trying to lead someone up the garden path , I have also had a fair few folk saying that they found it a breath of fresh air to read a profile and find someone who obviously 'isnt up his own arse ' i think the phrase is
we like our veris to speak for themselves |
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"Ok then , what does my profile tell you about me / us
and this isnt a i cant get a meet ploy because we are having a blast , I still believe its about putting yourself out there
Your profile puts me off because the guy is down on himself. I don't like negativity. I might think he's ace but I wouldn't bother finding out because the profile text put me off.
A person may not have confidence in their looks but I'd prefer to make my own mind up. x"
its a difficult one , the folk that ive met say im being hard on myself but id sooner be on the right side of describing myself than trying to lead someone up the garden path , I have also had a fair few folk saying that they found it a breath of fresh air to read a profile and find someone who obviously 'isnt up his own arse ' i think the phrase is
we like our veris to speak for themselves |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok then , what does my profile tell you about me / us
and this isnt a i cant get a meet ploy because we are having a blast , I still believe its about putting yourself out there
Your profile puts me off because the guy is down on himself. I don't like negativity. I might think he's ace but I wouldn't bother finding out because the profile text put me off.
A person may not have confidence in their looks but I'd prefer to make my own mind up. x
its a difficult one , the folk that ive met say im being hard on myself but id sooner be on the right side of describing myself than trying to lead someone up the garden path , I have also had a fair few folk saying that they found it a breath of fresh air to read a profile and find someone who obviously 'isnt up his own arse ' i think the phrase is
we like our veris to speak for themselves "
You don't need to put yourself down though. Just send a face pic and let them make their own mind up. |
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"Ok then , what does my profile tell you about me / us
and this isnt a i cant get a meet ploy because we are having a blast , I still believe its about putting yourself out there
Your profile puts me off because the guy is down on himself. I don't like negativity. I might think he's ace but I wouldn't bother finding out because the profile text put me off.
A person may not have confidence in their looks but I'd prefer to make my own mind up. x
its a difficult one , the folk that ive met say im being hard on myself but id sooner be on the right side of describing myself than trying to lead someone up the garden path , I have also had a fair few folk saying that they found it a breath of fresh air to read a profile and find someone who obviously 'isnt up his own arse ' i think the phrase is
we like our veris to speak for themselves
You don't need to put yourself down though. Just send a face pic and let them make their own mind up. "
thing is you havent seen through my cunning plan ,,,, im obviously a very handsome man and havent got the time to beat the hordes of lovely ladies away ,
so little time , so many lovers |
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Not read the post so guess this has been said already. Personality by far more important but id be a lier if I said looks don't matter I can't just sleep with some 1 I don't fancy I mean come on the old man needs at least somthing to work with but I know a real good personality can change my opinion on what my eye finds appealing |
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