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it's just a different kind of difficult.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Okay, after reading a whole heap of threads saying how difficult it is for a man on here, I'd like to give a female perspective.
I've been on here for about 6 weeks. I've received well over 100 one liners and about the same number of cock shots. My profile clearly states that I'm not likely to respond to either of them. I've chatted on here with about 40 people. Out of that I've had five meets for a coffee and a chat, to see how we got on. One of those didn't turn up. One turned out to be married. Out of those left, I've had two meets for play. The first one was rubbish. Lasted all of ten minutes. The second one was fantastic. Good fun, great company, mutually satisfying. The way it should be.
Out of all of that time and effort, I've got one decent result. So you see gents, it's just as difficult for a women as it is for a man - it's just a different kind of difficult, is all.
I'm sure other women have stories to match. |
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"Ah ffs don't tell them I was rubbish 
It's ok Ryan, we already knew!!!!! 
I knew cos I read it on the back of a toilet door in Hove.
As you had your cock through the glory hole  "
You should have said it was you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a bloke had written the OPs post....
'Been here five minutes and had five meets already. Fucking awesome site....'
Yeh but he would have meant his five fingers...."
But he gave each one it's own name.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nice from the other viewpoint.
Must admit stating on your profile one liner messages arent replied to doesnt seem to sink in very well i have found.
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I once had a one line message so clever I immediately knew I would meet the guy. So I did, he is ace.
Sometimes better to just think about the person you're faced with in any encounter and instead of deploying a tick list, take as you find.
I'm a prober, I love to probe,(yes mind and body, I'm a pervert) I see if there's something worth exploring before I decide. Not everyone has the confidence/presence to start with more than a how are you -in fact some would see that as polite and courteous(you know those things on most peoples tick list) a shaky start from your POV doesn't mean they have nothing more to offer. |
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"If a bloke had written the OPs post....
'Been here five minutes and had five meets already. Fucking awesome site....'
Yeh but he would have meant his five fingers....
But he gave each one it's own name...."
Curly, Larry, Moe, Stan and Ollie (the thumb). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nice from the other viewpoint.
Must admit stating on your profile one liner messages arent replied to doesnt seem to sink in very well i have found.
I once had a one line message so clever I immediately knew I would meet the guy. So I did, he is ace.
Sometimes better to just think about the person you're faced with in any encounter and instead of deploying a tick list, take as you find.
I'm a prober, I love to probe,(yes mind and body, I'm a pervert) I see if there's something worth exploring before I decide. Not everyone has the confidence/presence to start with more than a how are you -in fact some would see that as polite and courteous(you know those things on most peoples tick list) a shaky start from your POV doesn't mean they have nothing more to offer."
Absolutely agree. But honestly, I just don't have the time to go through all the 'hello, how are you', as polite as they are. A one liner which is funny, interesting etc will always get a reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nice from the other viewpoint.
Must admit stating on your profile one liner messages arent replied to doesnt seem to sink in very well i have found.
I once had a one line message so clever I immediately knew I would meet the guy. So I did, he is ace.
Sometimes better to just think about the person you're faced with in any encounter and instead of deploying a tick list, take as you find.
I'm a prober, I love to probe,(yes mind and body, I'm a pervert) I see if there's something worth exploring before I decide. Not everyone has the confidence/presence to start with more than a how are you -in fact some would see that as polite and courteous(you know those things on most peoples tick list) a shaky start from your POV doesn't mean they have nothing more to offer.
Absolutely agree. But honestly, I just don't have the time to go through all the 'hello, how are you', as polite as they are. A one liner which is funny, interesting etc will always get a reply. "
So, why not filter out guys and you do the searching? I do on here, if you have a strict idea in mind of what you are looking for, surely you'll find it easier (and quicker) to find your own guys that have 50 unsuitable men messaging you.
You have to be a big girl about the knock-backs (which trust me you will get, contrary to the myth all guys will not shag anyone) but from my experience it works well. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Nice from the other viewpoint.
Must admit stating on your profile one liner messages arent replied to doesnt seem to sink in very well i have found.
I once had a one line message so clever I immediately knew I would meet the guy. So I did, he is ace.
Sometimes better to just think about the person you're faced with in any encounter and instead of deploying a tick list, take as you find.
I'm a prober, I love to probe,(yes mind and body, I'm a pervert) I see if there's something worth exploring before I decide. Not everyone has the confidence/presence to start with more than a how are you -in fact some would see that as polite and courteous(you know those things on most peoples tick list) a shaky start from your POV doesn't mean they have nothing more to offer.
Absolutely agree. But honestly, I just don't have the time to go through all the 'hello, how are you', as polite as they are. A one liner which is funny, interesting etc will always get a reply.
So, why not filter out guys and you do the searching? I do on here, if you have a strict idea in mind of what you are looking for, surely you'll find it easier (and quicker) to find your own guys that have 50 unsuitable men messaging you.
You have to be a big girl about the knock-backs (which trust me you will get, contrary to the myth all guys will not shag anyone) but from my experience it works well."
I do search myself and I'm quite happy to do it. I've used sites like this for years and always found that you have to put some effort in to get something out of it. My op wasn't a moan, it was simply to provide a personal view of the other side of this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Okay, after reading a whole heap of threads saying how difficult it is for a man on here, I'd like to give a female perspective.
I've been on here for about 6 weeks. I've received well over 100 one liners and about the same number of cock shots. My profile clearly states that I'm not likely to respond to either of them. I've chatted on here with about 40 people. Out of that I've had five meets for a coffee and a chat, to see how we got on. One of those didn't turn up. One turned out to be married. Out of those left, I've had two meets for play. The first one was rubbish. Lasted all of ten minutes. The second one was fantastic. Good fun, great company, mutually satisfying. The way it should be.
Out of all of that time and effort, I've got one decent result. So you see gents, it's just as difficult for a women as it is for a man - it's just a different kind of difficult, is all.
I'm sure other women have stories to match."
sounds very similar to my experience so far |
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Out of all of that time and effort, I've got one decent result. So you see gents, it's just as difficult for a women as it is for a man - it's just a different kind of difficult, is all.
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Great way of putting it. We may get more results, but I reckon we have a lot more of our time wasted too. |
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"Okay, after reading a whole heap of threads saying how difficult it is for a man on here, I'd like to give a female perspective.
I've been on here for about 6 weeks. I've received well over 100 one liners and about the same number of cock shots. My profile clearly states that I'm not likely to respond to either of them. I've chatted on here with about 40 people. Out of that I've had five meets for a coffee and a chat, to see how we got on. One of those didn't turn up. One turned out to be married. Out of those left, I've had two meets for play. The first one was rubbish. Lasted all of ten minutes. The second one was fantastic. Good fun, great company, mutually satisfying. The way it should be.
Out of all of that time and effort, I've got one decent result. So you see gents, it's just as difficult for a women as it is for a man - it's just a different kind of difficult, is all.
I'm sure other women have stories to match."
There have been 2 mistakes here. Mistake 1 is assuming men bother to read profiles. Mistake 2 is actually by the men in assuming women go weak at the knees when looking at a picture of a hard cock.
The first paragraph of my profile says
Not meeting at the moment. Please do not message me. Only send me a message if you want to go on my block list lol.
I still get people emailing me and yes they do get blocked lol. |
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