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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Perhaps an odd question...
I have recently started sleeping with a new sex partner and he has just told me that he wants me to dominate him. The thing is that I am not dominant by nature (I like to be dominated by very strong, agressive guys) and he is not what I would call a sub at all. The last time we were together he completely and blissfully dominated me and I would have pinned him as the very sexually dominant type. However he has told me that he wants to reverse roles this time and he wants me to tie him down, use a vibrator on him and completely use and dominate him! This doesn't bother me as such, I'm endlessly curious and I do have a dom side to me as well that I'd like to explore... the thing is that I'm completely unexperienced in this area and tbh I don't even know what he is expecting. I could do with some tips :$. I really want to make this a fun and memorable experience for him . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well you may never know unless you communicate with him and share some thoughts. Everyones ideas can be different... he may just want you to be in control, make all the decisions as to what you do, so he can see your mind working and what you enjoy. On the other hand he may want the full bdsm works!
Either ask him, or just have a go and then chat with him after about how it could be improved to be more pleasurable for him.
Try to be relaxed in general and don't feel pressured by it, and enjoy what you are doing first and foremost, and then he should enjoy it too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i would start of with just mild bondage and a blindfold till you are comfortable with what u are doing but its better to discuss no nos before hand so u know how far u both want to go |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Little does he know it yet, but I'm going to dress a 6 foot odd rugby player in suspenders and nylons this weekend. If I can dom him into that he'll be well rewarded!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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None of my subs would allow a novice anywhere near their arse with a dildo.
Role play ia one thing, even then you could find it silly and burst into fits of laughter!!
Remember, whatever you're doing YOU should be happy doing it and not feel coerced! |
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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago
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"Little does he know it yet, but I'm going to dress a 6 foot odd rugby player in suspenders and nylons this weekend. If I can dom him into that he'll be well rewarded! "
Hes a lucky lucky boy |
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By *heWolfMan
over a year ago
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"Little does he know it yet, but I'm going to dress a 6 foot odd rugby player in suspenders and nylons this weekend. "
Ha! Like it will be his first time! Shove a carrot up his arse and throw a couple of pints of beer over him and it'll be like another night at the clubhouse. |
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AdV,
I know many women like the man to take the lead and obviously have only your post to go on as to the type of characters you both are. I do like to dominate - by dictating who/what goes where and when, often with my partner blindfolded so she doesn't know what's coming next or where? Could be ice cubes - could be cat-o-nine tails. Point is I love this control and the effect it has.
However it is, evey now and again, to simply say - "you're in charge". It's very refreshing, to relinquish control and be at the mercy of the other person. In these situations I'm happy to blindfolded and tied down. I don't want control so (within pretty tame limits) I don't want any say in what happens to me or when. I'm quite comfortable with vibrator being used on me or whatever my partner wants to do.
It's probably just this 'break from the norm' (I ain't calling you the norm by any stretch BTW) that is refreshing and exciting for him. As long as you are comfortable taking charge and do get an understanding of what's acceptable to him and what's not then hopefully you can both have lots of fun.
I can see how you might be a bit surprised and possibly wondering if you've seen the real him, or what else is he into? It's probably just the other side of the same coin though.
Good luck
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"None of my subs would allow a novice anywhere near their arse with a dildo.
Role play ia one thing, even then you could find it silly and burst into fits of laughter!!
Remember, whatever you're doing YOU should be happy doing it and not feel coerced! "
I am a novice in taking complete control but I have been on the recieving end of a lot of anal play and this wont be my first experience of giving anal play/using a dildo on a guy. I'm notnervous about that part of the play, just not sure what else I should add in to make it a complete experience. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"AdV,
I know many women like the man to take the lead and obviously have only your post to go on as to the type of characters you both are. I do like to dominate - by dictating who/what goes where and when, often with my partner blindfolded so she doesn't know what's coming next or where? Could be ice cubes - could be cat-o-nine tails. Point is I love this control and the effect it has.
However it is, evey now and again, to simply say - "you're in charge". It's very refreshing, to relinquish control and be at the mercy of the other person. In these situations I'm happy to blindfolded and tied down. I don't want control so (within pretty tame limits) I don't want any say in what happens to me or when. I'm quite comfortable with vibrator being used on me or whatever my partner wants to do.
It's probably just this 'break from the norm' (I ain't calling you the norm by any stretch BTW) that is refreshing and exciting for him. As long as you are comfortable taking charge and do get an understanding of what's acceptable to him and what's not then hopefully you can both have lots of fun.
I can see how you might be a bit surprised and possibly wondering if you've seen the real him, or what else is he into? It's probably just the other side of the same coin though.
Good luck
Those stockings and sussies will be so laddered"
Yeah, I suppose I am surprised at him, but I'm not bothered. I like to try new things and I'm happy to take turns at role playing. You have probably described how he feels pretty accurately there :P. |
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You will come to know that as you get to know each other. I personally liked bbeing told to lie down, stand up etc. Being tied and blindfolded takes the man's control away and that for me was the best part. Not having to ask for this or that but I was helpless and it was done to me. Very erotic. One of the best things about it for the man is knowign you truly want to do this/that/the other to him. When we're in control we (by and large) move the woman into positions we both want and do the things we want - we kind of lead you to some of the activities. For you to seek out and do those activities for us/to us that is a real turn on. Quite simply we love women that want to have sex (not just going along with it). We can't do anything, you have to do it all. Feels wonderful. Hopefully the tie and tease thing offers you some opportunities. You could tie hands above head to the door frame, strap him to the bed or just tie hads together on the bed. So many options - so much time. You will have great fun. As per top of my post - you will learn more and more about each other with each play session. I'm sure he will be taking as much notice of what you like and what you react well to as you will him. |
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"Little does he know it yet, but I'm going to dress a 6 foot odd rugby player in suspenders and nylons this weekend.
Ha! Like it will be his first time! Shove a carrot up his arse and throw a couple of pints of beer over him and it'll be like another night at the clubhouse."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Little does he know it yet, but I'm going to dress a 6 foot odd rugby player in suspenders and nylons this weekend. If I can dom him into that he'll be well rewarded!
Thanks laine, you've given me an idea for later "
something very sensuous about entwining nylon clad legs around each other. |
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True enough Laine - or the shared shower/bath afterwards when various WAGS wander through - my ex was never impressed by that and it was always the new girlfriends too, really upset the applecart (only on the female side).
You both get the experience without the hangover or bar tab - beautiful. Enjoy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perhaps an odd question...
I have recently started sleeping with a new sex partner and he has just told me that he wants me to dominate him. The thing is that I am not dominant by nature (I like to be dominated by very strong, agressive guys) and he is not what I would call a sub at all. The last time we were together he completely and blissfully dominated me and I would have pinned him as the very sexually dominant type. However he has told me that he wants to reverse roles this time and he wants me to tie him down, use a vibrator on him and completely use and dominate him! This doesn't bother me as such, I'm endlessly curious and I do have a dom side to me as well that I'd like to explore... the thing is that I'm completely unexperienced in this area and tbh I don't even know what he is expecting. I could do with some tips :$. I really want to make this a fun and memorable experience for him ."
I ill sort out the top 10 best and send to you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Perhaps an odd question...
I have recently started sleeping with a new sex partner and he has just told me that he wants me to dominate him. The thing is that I am not dominant by nature (I like to be dominated by very strong, agressive guys) and he is not what I would call a sub at all. The last time we were together he completely and blissfully dominated me and I would have pinned him as the very sexually dominant type. However he has told me that he wants to reverse roles this time and he wants me to tie him down, use a vibrator on him and completely use and dominate him! This doesn't bother me as such, I'm endlessly curious and I do have a dom side to me as well that I'd like to explore... the thing is that I'm completely unexperienced in this area and tbh I don't even know what he is expecting. I could do with some tips :$. I really want to make this a fun and memorable experience for him .
I ill sort out the top 10 best and send to you."
That would be very much appreciated :D. |
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Maybe that cause you dont meet bi men.
"None of my subs would allow a novice anywhere near their arse with a dildo.
Role play ia one thing, even then you could find it silly and burst into fits of laughter!!
Remember, whatever you're doing YOU should be happy doing it and not feel coerced! "
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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago
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I would start by asking HIM what he wants or expects from the experience
eg I am meeting a guy tomorrow
He wants to arrive after man number one has already left my place
He wants me to put him on the collar and lead and force him to lick all the cum off me left by number one man
This is what he told me he wants and its what he shall get, the lucky boy
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