Sexual orientation is not as simple as eye skin colour, which we are born with, then largely doesnt change, apart from sun exposure etc. Many people have multiple options, for romantic connection or sexual pleasure, but it can take a long time for people to realise and understand this for themselves. Perhaps if it was as simple as straight, bi or gay, and love and sex in all 3 categories, people would get themselves as soon as adolescence kicks in. But it is not apparently that clear cut, much as some of us would like it to be, or in fact find it for ourselves. Only we can know our true interests, so I cant answer for her. Im guessing that being in a pressured situation has caused her to both understand herself quickly, as well as decide what she wants to do in the short term. Maybe she just was not ready for that commitment, so chose her alternative interest. It may take her some time to definitively understand what she wants, so allow her to do that. Many long time married people have gone on to gay relationships and psychologists have reassessed orientation as not being so fixed, as they once believed. Many things in life we want to be simple but this seems one that is not er a fair number of people. |
