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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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You meet, chat, seem to get on well. But when you start having sex you realise that there's just no spark and you're really not compatible after all.
What do you do?
Hope it's over quickly and just carry on.
Apologise and leave immediately.
Or.......? |
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"You meet, chat, seem to get on well. But when you start having sex you realise that there's just no spark and you're really not compatible after all.
What do you do?
Hope it's over quickly and just carry on.
Apologise and leave immediately.
Or.......?"
What did you end up doing? |
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"You meet, chat, seem to get on well. But when you start having sex you realise that there's just no spark and you're really not compatible after all.
What do you do?
Hope it's over quickly and just carry on.
Apologise and leave immediately.
Or.......?"
.....say, "look mate, you were ok down the boozer but blowjob wise, forget it. Outski. Nowski."  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Show/tell him/her exactly what you want Nd take charge"
Pro-active approach....Good thinking! Just take the lead and do the things that do work for you both. Everyone learns something new from these experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Show/tell him/her exactly what you want Nd take charge
Pro-active approach....Good thinking! Just take the lead and do the things that do work for you both. Everyone learns something new from these experiences."
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
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What do you do?
Hope it's over quickly and just carry on.
Apologise and leave immediately.
Or.......?"
Go for the comedy element: suddenly look at your watch and say you are late for dinner with Elvis Presley, grab your stuff and exit stage left, pursued by bear*. 
*Shakespearean reference for you luvvies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Feign stomach cramps and pretend to throw up in the toilet. Hoping when I come out he's had it on his toes
Ha. I'd ask if you were feeling better and hand you some mouth wash. "
to which I would reply no, then fall on the floor 'unconscious'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Feign stomach cramps and pretend to throw up in the toilet. Hoping when I come out he's had it on his toes
Ha. I'd ask if you were feeling better and hand you some mouth wash. "
to which I would reply no, then fall on the floor 'unconscious' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes one or all 6 of you are just not in the right head space. Usually best to try and get and give something then call it a day. Making elaborate excuses is hard work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What do you do?
Hope it's over quickly and just carry on.
Apologise and leave immediately.
Or.......?
Go for the comedy element: suddenly look at your watch and say you are late for dinner with Elvis Presley, grab your stuff and exit stage left, pursued by bear*.
*Shakespearean reference for you luvvies. "
Shakespeare knew Elvis????  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Feign stomach cramps and pretend to throw up in the toilet. Hoping when I come out he's had it on his toes "
That's exactly what two men I met did to me. Not at the same time I hasten to add. I gave them some medication and sent them on their way rather than prolong the agony of them pretending to be ill.
One contacted me a few months later with no recollection of the event at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can usually tell after a social meet if we will click or not.... I haven't even thought of the scenario you've mentioned.  guess its a good thing we're so very thorough! It annoys some but I'd rather be safe than sorry!!
Oh how I hope this never happens to us lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You meet, chat, seem to get on well. But when you start having sex you realise that there's just no spark and you're really not compatible after all.
What do you do?
Hope it's over quickly and just carry on.
Apologise and leave immediately.
Or.......?"
I erm did this once  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You meet, chat, seem to get on well. But when you start having sex you realise that there's just no spark and you're really not compatible after all.
What do you do?
Hope it's over quickly and just carry on.
Apologise and leave immediately.
Or.......?
I erm did this once "
The carry on bit |
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"Can't believe I'd ever misjudge someone that badly . "
I wondered if it was quite the same for guys somehow.
I had a bad meet lately, horrible kissing and he would not stop. A guy may be able to refuse more easily but are not some women are unpleasant to kiss?
I did eventually bail out when something else occurred but was worried the response might have been unpleasant, or worse.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can't believe I'd ever misjudge someone that badly .
I wondered if it was quite the same for guys somehow.
I had a bad meet lately, horrible kissing and he would not stop. A guy may be able to refuse more easily but are not some women are unpleasant to kiss?
I did eventually bail out when something else occurred but was worried the response might have been unpleasant, or worse.
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It's a worry... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You meet, chat, seem to get on well. But when you start having sex you realise that there's just no spark and you're really not compatible after all.
What do you do?
Hope it's over quickly and just carry on.
Apologise and leave immediately.
Or.......?"
Apologise and leave couldn't just go ahead to avoid upsetting them |
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Pam here. We had this at a meet in a hotel. She was lovely but he was a beast lol. When he was with her he kept saying "go girl go girl do it".
How common and horrid. Turned me right off. I suddenly felt I'll. went to loo suck fingers down throat was sick and said I don't feel well. Yes a tad dramatic but didn't want to hurt anyone. So went home and enjoyed rest of our evening. Sometimes it's nice to let one down gently. Bet they reading this now and saying "fuckers" |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Happened to me once. We were chatting for ages and we got on really well but when met she was not only a horrible kisser but she said to me while kissing her "let me breath"! WTF never in my life a waman made me feel that my kisses are so unwanted! . Anyway I was thinking to drive back home but that was the longest distance I've ever made for a meet so I just decided to carry on and fuck her to get make it worth my petrol. Then I asked her to bend over and she said "Oh NO! I don't like anal!" WTF? who said anything about anal?! . I definitely need to go home lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only one meet where I though why am I here.
It was a mmff. I sat in the loo for 2 hours thinking fuck sake hurry up I want to go home
I had driven the other female to the meet
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
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Go for the comedy element: suddenly look at your watch and say you are late for dinner with Elvis Presley, grab your stuff and exit stage left, pursued by bear*.
*Shakespearean reference for you luvvies.
Shakespeare knew Elvis???? "
Shakespeare WAS Elvis |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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What do you do?
Hope it's over quickly and just carry on.
Apologise and leave immediately.
Or.......?
Go for the comedy element: suddenly look at your watch and say you are late for dinner with Elvis Presley, grab your stuff and exit stage left, pursued by bear*.
*Shakespearean reference for you luvvies. "
Sounds more like Snagglepuss being chased by Yogi  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You meet, chat, seem to get on well. But when you start having sex you realise that there's just no spark and you're really not compatible after all.
What do you do?
Hope it's over quickly and just carry on.
Apologise and leave immediately.
Or.......?"
It happens in vanilla world too doesnt it where youve gone back with a date and thought " WTF am I doing here" ( and you now the other person was thinking the same)-half way through. Never thought about just stopping- seemed reasonable and good manners from both parties to muddle through with minimum enthusiasim and fuss, get dressed and get away ad out of an embarrassing situation ASAP..
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By *atWolfCouple
over a year ago
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If it's 1 on 1, I think it's way to risky to just say not feeling it while they are ploughing away. It might be just a lack of spark but it's a low blow while they are giving it their best shot. I would definitely fake stomach cramp or something then make my excuses.
This has happened to me a few times. One was the worst kisser ever, slobbering all over me. Another was an older guy on Viagra who just kept on and on and on, waaaay after I went very quiet and limp haha. The worst thing was, he started trying to over compensate for it by making ridiculous, mega loud orgasmic moaning noises, like he was cumming but went on for over half an hour. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Start doing baby talk and tell them you love them. "
Make plans for the wedding , ask where they were born so you can get wheels in motion
ask for national insurance number so you can screw them through the csa |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you not know there is no spark before getting your kit off ? excuse my naivety..
I think I would know from the kissing stage. if not before."
you can't tell from a kiss if a man is going to jump on top and ram away for half an hour, with his eyes screwed up tight, gurning his lips and grunting like an ox, trying to make himself cum |
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"Do you not know there is no spark before getting your kit off ? excuse my naivety..
I think I would know from the kissing stage. if not before.
you can't tell from a kiss if a man is going to jump on top and ram away for half an hour, with his eyes screwed up tight, gurning his lips and grunting like an ox, trying to make himself cum "
Yes, I met a guy on one of the dating sites who was one of the best kissers I'd ever met, we were falling into dark shop doorways like teenagers with the passion of it.....but he was dreadful when I slept with him, such a disappointment! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you not know there is no spark before getting your kit off ? excuse my naivety..
I think I would know from the kissing stage. if not before.
you can't tell from a kiss if a man is going to jump on top and ram away for half an hour, with his eyes screwed up tight, gurning his lips and grunting like an ox, trying to make himself cum
Yes, I met a guy on one of the dating sites who was one of the best kissers I'd ever met, we were falling into dark shop doorways like teenagers with the passion of it.....but he was dreadful when I slept with him, such a disappointment! "
it's nice to be surprised when a man turns out to be an excellent kissed and lovely in bed. I had a soft spoken man totally take me by surprise |
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By *riggsyMan
over a year ago
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I think just be honest. There are some times you get on with the person but maybe had a bad day or not feeling it and would be wrong to carry on. Sometimes it's not the person but is yourself not feeling it. If honest that way can either look elsewhere or maybe meet again when situation is better  |
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By *riggsyMan
over a year ago
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"I'm not sure....probably say get off me this ain't happening
You always say what you should say. Never what you actually think. Pfft "
I agree. There is such a word as tact. Nothing wrong with being polite and saying I don't think this is Working, rather than get off me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you not know there is no spark before getting your kit off ? excuse my naivety..
I think I would know from the kissing stage. if not before.
you can't tell from a kiss if a man is going to jump on top and ram away for half an hour, with his eyes screwed up tight, gurning his lips and grunting like an ox, trying to make himself cum Thats just put me off my Treacle Tart. 
sorry! Think George Clooney thougts Now, I really don't want it. "
Ummmm.....how about Justin Bieber!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we had a meet and F knew she didn't want to play, so went to the toilet for a good ten minutes and came back and said, we are going to have to just keep this as a social meet, because ive just started a period!!!!
he soon left  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do you not know there is no spark before getting your kit off ? excuse my naivety..
I think I would know from the kissing stage. if not before.
you can't tell from a kiss if a man is going to jump on top and ram away for half an hour, with his eyes screwed up tight, gurning his lips and grunting like an ox, trying to make himself cum "
This is what I was thinking of. You can't always tell until it's 'too late'. Not sure if 1 or 1 is a better or worse situation to be in. If there was more people there you could move away from the one you're not keen on. But if everyone else is busy.... eek! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If there isn't a spark from the first kiss. Then, i wouldn't want to carry on. No matter how much i try, i won't be turned on at all. I learnt that the hard way once upon a time. That was the longest night of my life.
So, for me, now it's all from the kiss.
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