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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok .... So I've done something I never thought I'd do on here and I've met somebody and we've both agreed that we want more than sex (yay!). He's 40 and I'm 26 ... I've always set my higher age range on here as 43 (because sex is sex). But now that we are borderline relationship .... What are everyone's opinions on the age gap? Personally it doesn't bother me, but I know a few friends etc will have a lot to say!
And before the trolls show up ... I am well aware that this isn't a dating site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly congratulations. I would say, does it really matter what anyone else thinks? It's your life. Do what makes you happy and stuff anyone that has a problem with it. People will only know the age gap if you make a big deal about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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10 years between us, and it works. It doesn't feel like there is that much at times! He's a big kid at heart!
I find that he is more gentlemanly than any other man I've ever known, which I quite like!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok .... So I've done something I never thought I'd do on here and I've met somebody and we've both agreed that we want more than sex (yay!). He's 40 and I'm 26 ... I've always set my higher age range on here as 43 (because sex is sex). But now that we are borderline relationship .... What are everyone's opinions on the age gap? Personally it doesn't bother me, but I know a few friends etc will have a lot to say!
And before the trolls show up ... I am well aware that this isn't a dating site"
20 years younger than greg and bee together ten years have two gorgouse kids together ouldnt be hapier so i say good luk anx sod what any one else thinks xxxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy
thats the down side he will die before you too."
Not necessarily.  |
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thats lovely to hear. Age gaps don't bother me, my friend is 64 and we have been seeing each other for 6 years. My current club buddy is 57. I just have a weakness for the more mature, distinguished guy and at the moment having a riot with my buddy.
Best wishes to you x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy
thats the down side he will die before you too."
Not everyone dies of old age ....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy
thats the down side he will die before you too.
Not everyone dies of old age .... "
no but its more likely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy
thats the down side he will die before you too.
Not everyone dies of old age ....
no but its more likely."
Not really. |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"if you are happy go for it but remember he will be a pensioner long before you!!!! but be happy
thats the down side he will die before you too.
Not everyone dies of old age .... "
I hope they don't but just pointing it out as my hubby is a pensioner |
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Go for it... Your life and yes , some you know may tut tut and judge... That will change once they see that it obvi isn't an issue for you both! Enjoy! Live it and let others see you have no problems re age yourself ... (think. Often , age issues happen when the youger partner very young etc )Our age gap never been an issue for us or anyone.... And we still going strong!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You both enjoy it...I have just moved in with a man off here who is 8 years older than me...makes no difference at all so long as you are happy. Life is too short. Good luck...be as happy as me..xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Been looking at this tv show on sky ... some woman 70s and men 20s and in love ... so I think if your happy it don't matter .. xx"
I echo this, but when I was in my 20s it would have to be a 70 yr old like Honnor Blackman or Helen Mirren to have me fall in love.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok .... So I've done something I never thought I'd do on here and I've met somebody and we've both agreed that we want more than sex (yay!). He's 40 and I'm 26 ... I've always set my higher age range on here as 43 (because sex is sex). But now that we are borderline relationship .... What are everyone's opinions on the age gap? Personally it doesn't bother me, but I know a few friends etc will have a lot to say!
And before the trolls show up ... I am well aware that this isn't a dating site"
If you are happy then go with it. You're 26 so youve done a lot of your growing and 14 years is nothing.
Good luck
We met on AFF 14 years ago, so people so sometimes fall head over heals for a casual encounter.
xxxxxx
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ok .... So I've done something I never thought I'd do on here and I've met somebody and we've both agreed that we want more than sex (yay!). He's 40 and I'm 26 ... I've always set my higher age range on here as 43 (because sex is sex). But now that we are borderline relationship .... What are everyone's opinions on the age gap? Personally it doesn't bother me, but I know a few friends etc will have a lot to say!
And before the trolls show up ... I am well aware that this isn't a dating site"
its up to you but personally 26 is the very lowest age i would be interested in anything below wouldnt appeal to me no matter what but hey if he a good guy and u happy tare on and good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" What are everyone's opinions on the age gap?
I can't think if anything I care less about at this moment in time ... Thanks for asking"
You obviously cared enough to comment?
*cough* troll *cough* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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imo nothing wrong with the age gap. like has said before your both adults, wouldnt be askin on here thats for sure
but if yous plan on making the relationship more,then maybe yous should come off here and give it a go?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" What are everyone's opinions on the age gap?
I can't think if anything I care less about at this moment in time ... Thanks for asking
You obviously cared enough to comment?
*cough* troll *cough*"
Comment ? care
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you find true love...grab it and embrace it! If its meant to be, nothing else matters.
All the comments about dying young etc.....NO ONE knows what will happen TOMORROW! So why waste the precious time you have together now, worrying about what might or might not happen???
You have just met and embarking on a journey that might work out or might not.....just like any relationship! Its a bit premature for people to start thinking of what will happen in old age!
I wish you both a lot of love and happiness and with a sprinkling of magic fairy dust, who knows? You might have a wonderful future ahead! And even if you don't, you will have some happy wonderful memories. Lots of luck! Enjoy this time!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" What are everyone's opinions on the age gap?
I can't think if anything I care less about at this moment in time ... Thanks for asking
You obviously cared enough to comment?
*cough* troll *cough*
Comment ? care
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That question mark is supposed to be a does not equal sign ... Why does that not show up? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our rule of thumb is
(Age/2)+7
Which in his case is 27
But hell, you're almost there so if it makes you happy and he treats you right enjoy! And congratulations |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our rule of thumb is
(Age/2)+7
Which in his case is 27
But hell, you're almost there so if it makes you happy and he treats you right enjoy! And congratulations "
You use a mathematical equation to decide your romantic fate???  |
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"When you find true love...grab it and embrace it! If its meant to be, nothing else matters.
All the comments about dying young etc.....NO ONE knows what will happen TOMORROW! So why waste the precious time you have together now, worrying about what might or might not happen???
You have just met and embarking on a journey that might work out or might not.....just like any relationship! Its a bit premature for people to start thinking of what will happen in old age!
I wish you both a lot of love and happiness and with a sprinkling of magic fairy dust, who knows? You might have a wonderful future ahead! And even if you don't, you will have some happy wonderful memories. Lots of luck! Enjoy this time!! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"disgraceful
Why is it?  it won't last and he will be too old to find someone new wow!! Ray of sunshine today aint we! Lol "
Best mate and wife 15 years age gap. Married 12years.
His parents 16 year age gap, married until death parted them (35+ years)
My sis and first husband, same age, divorced in 3.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Our rule of thumb is
(Age/2)+7
Which in his case is 27
But hell, you're almost there so if it makes you happy and he treats you right enjoy! And congratulations
You use a mathematical equation to decide your romantic fate??? "
Hahah no not at all! It's just something that hung around from school days I think for 'socially acceptable' age gaps (please note the "air finger quotations" around this!) Tbh I've never had to test it....but if you think about it works....14 year old with 14 year old and then age gaps increasing as you get older! |
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"Friends that criticise you about the age gap are not real friends, real friends will be happy your happy"
I disagree. A real friend tells you when they think you're making a mistake and then supports you after you realise they were right. |
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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago
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"I think I've got the answers I was looking for  thanks guys xxx"
good luck which ever way you choose to go its your life and your happiness .
25 years between us lots of tuting etc when we got together been together nearly 6 years getting married soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok .... So I've done something I never thought I'd do on here and I've met somebody and we've both agreed that we want more than sex (yay!). He's 40 and I'm 26 ... I've always set my higher age range on here as 43 (because sex is sex). But now that we are borderline relationship .... What are everyone's opinions on the age gap? Personally it doesn't bother me, but I know a few friends etc will have a lot to say!
And before the trolls show up ... I am well aware that this isn't a dating site"
Good for you ! I think a lot of single younger women are missing out if they havent dated an older man . I know I have so much more to give now than I did in my 20,s . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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its all great and very well age gap relationships that work out but in all honesty can you truly say you would be comfortable if you're teenage daughter was going out with a guy in his 30s our 40s |
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By (user no longer on site)
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its all great and very well age gap relationships that work out but in all honesty can you truly say you would be comfortable if you're teenage daughter was going out with a guy in his 30s or 40s |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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jusr remember, when you turn 40 and want your life to start again because you get that second wind, lol, he will have already had his midlife crisis and want to slow it down.
is ti right or wrong?
thats nobody elses problem than your own, just enjoy being in love while it lasts.
the post about friends telling you your wrong then being there to support you is about right.
just enjoy it.
not everyone can find a feeling that closely represents love, and if you have, then who cares what others think.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its all great and very well age gap relationships that work out but in all honesty can you truly say you would be comfortable if you're teenage daughter was going out with a guy in his 30s our 40s"
30s is still quite young, 40s if he had plenty of money.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Friends that criticise you about the age gap are not real friends, real friends will be happy your happy
I disagree. A real friend tells you when they think you're making a mistake and then supports you after you realise they were right."
And just because a friend doesn't agree with it, it doesn't make them not a true friend |
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Congratulations,just relax and enjoy. Whatever age life is too short not to grab any chance to be happy.
12 years between us, doesn't bother me a jot, he makes me unbelievably happy.
Good luck, Ruby xxx
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