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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
So as not to take Femme's what no longer surprises you thread off topic, I am starting a new thread based on a comment posted there.
"But what does surprise me is how the most unlikely people with the worst profiles sometimes turn out to be the hidden gems!! 
that used to surprise me too like how some strange/weird looking people (strange/weird..for want of a better word) very often turn out to be the most interesting and pleasurable to be around. maybe that comes with age but We all should give EVERYONE at least 1 chance "
I'm supposed to meet every single person who asks? 
Do you have any idea how much time that would take?
Assuming I allow half an hour per person, which isn't a lot to determine if they are pleasurable to be around, it would still be more than a full time job most of the time.
When would I be expected to be able to work and live my life? Do you really think it reasonable I devote my entire life to meeting people I am unlikely to be attracted to just in case there is mutual attraction?
Although I've made a few friends here, that isn't what I am looking for primarily. I have to like someone to fuck them but more importantly, I have to be attracted to them. They may be the most wonderful person to be around but if I don't fancy them, absolutely nothing is going to happen.
Besides, if I met EVERYONE who asked, I'd be wasting a lot of time meeting people I am certain I won't want to shag. Regardless of how amazing someone's personality is, if they smoke, have too much body hair (for my tastes), have facial hair, do not at least trim their pubic hair, are married or attached etc. I will not want to have sex with them.
It's very unrealistic and unreasonable, to say the least, to expect everyone to meet everyone who asks.
Fab is a part of my life and *only* part of my life. Nobody has any right to expect me to make it the main focus of my life, a trial or a full-time job! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I sometimes just get a feeling about someone so will reply to someone I might not have done otherwise. In my experience, that either goes incredibly well or very badly.
I certainly wouldn't be able to reply to and meet EVERYONE who messages me, but sometimes you just have to go for it and give some one the benefit of the doubt and see where it takes you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sometimes just get a feeling about someone so will reply to someone I might not have done otherwise. In my experience, that either goes incredibly well or very badly.
I certainly wouldn't be able to reply to and meet EVERYONE who messages me, but sometimes you just have to go for it and give some one the benefit of the doubt and see where it takes you."
I could easily meet EVERYONE who messages me 
But i do see what you mean, you just have to make a choice and go with your instincts |
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I do think you over analyze on certain things. It just boils down to using fab as to how you want to. No one is holding a gun to your head and telling you to meet everyone single person on here. Its the person's opinion on that matter. We don't have to follow everything someone says on here... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You wrote more on the post than I did through the whole of GCSE's  
PMSL - just sprayed weetabix on my phone. "
*Disclaimer- I will not beheld responsible for any damage to electrical goods* |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I do think you over analyze on certain things. It just boils down to using fab as to how you want to. No one is holding a gun to your head and telling you to meet everyone single person on here. Its the person's opinion on that matter. We don't have to follow everything someone says on here... "
Over-analyse? Me? Surely not!
I'm just getting irked lately by people - mainly men - telling others what they should do. It's rude not to reply, we should give a chance to everyone who asks, we shouldn't say we don't fancy black/white/asian/green/tartan people yada yada yada
Yes, he's entitled to his opinion and so am I. And my opinion is that these guys should get a grip, realise they could be the most fantastic guy in the world but not everyone will fancy them and nobody owes them anything.
Ok, I'm a day late with my rant (sue me  ) but too many people on here have unreasonable expectations and need to realise they have no automatic right to anyone's time and attention.
Everyone will have criteria and preferences that exclude someone. Big deal.
Next time someone turns me down I'm going to whine it's not fair because I'm really kind to kittens and help old ladies across the street. That entitles me to sex dammmmit!
Yeah. I probably am taking this too seriously. I'll get more coffee and consider getting laid. |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"You wrote more on the post than I did through the whole of GCSE's
PMSL - just sprayed weetabix on my phone.
*Disclaimer- I will not beheld responsible for any damage to electrical goods* "
This suggests you may be held accountable for other things. What can we blame you for?  |
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By *am123Man
over a year ago
essex chelmsford |
"I do think you over analyze on certain things. It just boils down to using fab as to how you want to. No one is holding a gun to your head and telling you to meet everyone single person on here. Its the person's opinion on that matter. We don't have to follow everything someone says on here...
Over-analyse? Me? Surely not!
I'm just getting irked lately by people - mainly men - telling others what they should do. It's rude not to reply, we should give a chance to everyone who asks, we shouldn't say we don't fancy black/white/asian/green/tartan people yada yada yada
Yes, he's entitled to his opinion and so am I. And my opinion is that these guys should get a grip, realise they could be the most fantastic guy in the world but not everyone will fancy them and nobody owes them anything.
Ok, I'm a day late with my rant (sue me ) but too many people on here have unreasonable expectations and need to realise they have no automatic right to anyone's time and attention.
Everyone will have criteria and preferences that exclude someone. Big deal.
Next time someone turns me down I'm going to whine it's not fair because I'm really kind to kittens and help old ladies across the street. That entitles me to sex dammmmit!
Yeah. I probably am taking this too seriously. I'll get more coffee and consider getting laid. "
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I do think you over analyze on certain things. It just boils down to using fab as to how you want to. No one is holding a gun to your head and telling you to meet everyone single person on here. Its the person's opinion on that matter. We don't have to follow everything someone says on here...
Over-analyse? Me? Surely not!
I'm just getting irked lately by people - mainly men - telling others what they should do. It's rude not to reply, we should give a chance to everyone who asks, we shouldn't say we don't fancy black/white/asian/green/tartan people yada yada yada
Yes, he's entitled to his opinion and so am I. And my opinion is that these guys should get a grip, realise they could be the most fantastic guy in the world but not everyone will fancy them and nobody owes them anything.
Ok, I'm a day late with my rant (sue me ) but too many people on here have unreasonable expectations and need to realise they have no automatic right to anyone's time and attention.
Everyone will have criteria and preferences that exclude someone. Big deal.
Next time someone turns me down I'm going to whine it's not fair because I'm really kind to kittens and help old ladies across the street. That entitles me to sex dammmmit!
Yeah. I probably am taking this too seriously. I'll get more coffee and consider getting laid. "
Which bit are you to? Just asking on the off-chance you want to bring me coffee or help with the getting laid part  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah but the guy who posted that says he won't talk to people who are not verified or who don't have a pic so it's all bollocks really lol "
Absolutely as every time someone posts about their profile, people pounce on and criticise it saying it should have this this and this yet I have seen some profiles with no photos, one line/paragraph and a long list of verification's not obtained at clubs! Guess some people just get on and do very well without moaning on the forums and the guy that posted (if he is bi) could clearly be missing someone who could actually be just what he is looking for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Crikey I can't understand why someone is getting so het up about what someone else wrote on another thread!! Ignore and move on for goodness sake  or you'll end up writing a Thesis at this rate!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You wrote more on the post than I did through the whole of GCSE's
PMSL - just sprayed weetabix on my phone.
*Disclaimer- I will not beheld responsible for any damage to electrical goods*
This suggests you may be held accountable for other things. What can we blame you for? "
where there's blame there's a claim |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Crikey I can't understand why someone is getting so het up about what someone else wrote on another thread!! Ignore and move on for goodness sake or you'll end up writing a Thesis at this rate!!"
Are you discriminating against theses? They may be the loveliest theses you've ever known. Give them a chance!
Everyone should reply to all theses!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Crikey I can't understand why someone is getting so het up about what someone else wrote on another thread!! Ignore and move on for goodness sake or you'll end up writing a Thesis at this rate!!
Are you discriminating against theses? They may be the loveliest theses you've ever known. Give them a chance!
Everyone should reply to all theses!!!"
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By *ingjayMan
over a year ago
exeter |
It's sotlrta like the dating game, women basé EVERYTHING on looks, they go for the good looking jocks who are just up for fucking them about, then they whinge about how they get fucked about, I'm not the prettiest guy but I get my fair share cause girls I meet are shallow single minded judgemental freaks, and they are pretty fit!!! You shouldn't meet everyone but maybe you should consider just talking to someone who you don't just judge on looks alone, sex ain't just based on attractiveneas and dicksize, although looking at fab that's all its about |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's sotlrta like the dating game, women basé EVERYTHING on looks, they go for the good looking jocks who are just up for fucking them about, then they whinge about how they get fucked about, I'm not the prettiest guy but I get my fair share cause girls I meet are shallow single minded judgemental freaks, and they are pretty fit!!! You shouldn't meet everyone but maybe you should consider just talking to someone who you don't just judge on looks alone, sex ain't just based on attractiveneas and dicksize, although looking at fab that's all its about"
I've never been in the least bit interested in the size of any man's cock. Far more men obsess about that than women.
As for attractiveness, there are a lot of things I consider before I even think about what someone looks like.
Male model but can't string a sentence together - no thanks
Average looking but witty, intelligent and interesting to talk to - far more chance
Average, average, average - probably not because I can get that anywhere and this place is about fantasies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try more sex Op.
It can help with keeping things in perspective. "
Yeah, with everyone
Some single males fail to realise how many mails couples and females attract.
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Try more sex Op.
It can help with keeping things in perspective.
Yeah, with everyone
Some single males fail to realise how many mails couples and females attract.
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And how many are from chancers who want to meet immediately and/or don't fit what the profile asks for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you are taking this all too seriously."
I would agree with that and also everyone is entitled to an opinion without someone ranting over it if its different to their own. |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"I think you are taking this all too seriously.
I would agree with that and also everyone is entitled to an opinion without someone ranting over it if its different to their own. "
Ha. I'm entitled to my opinion too then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try more sex Op.
It can help with keeping things in perspective.
Yeah, with everyone
Some single males fail to realise how many mails couples and females attract.
And how many are from chancers who want to meet immediately and/or don't fit what the profile asks for."
Most.
I've been here as part of a couple before, to amuse myself I would reply with a shorter message than they wrote. Most took the hint. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try more sex Op.
It can help with keeping things in perspective.
Yeah, with everyone
Some single males fail to realise how many mails couples and females attract.
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Im not sure what point you're making? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Try more sex Op.
It can help with keeping things in perspective.
Or I can rant when things annoy me and feel instantly better "
If that works for you then I couldn't agree more. Better out than in as they say. |
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By *ee Viante OP Woman
over a year ago
Somewhere in North Norfolk |
"Try more sex Op.
It can help with keeping things in perspective.
Yeah, with everyone
Some single males fail to realise how many mails couples and females attract.
Im not sure what point you're making?"
That meeting everyone who asks, on the off chance they are great company, isn't practical and suggesting anyone should is ridiculous. (And as Evie pointed out, hypocritical from someone who states he won't meet everyone and give them a chance). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you are taking this all too seriously.
I would agree with that and also everyone is entitled to an opinion without someone ranting over it if its different to their own.
Ha. I'm entitled to my opinion too then."
An opinion is one thing bitching over another's is just sad you need to get a life and concentrate on more important things. |
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Just let it go now...why stress over what a complete stranger put on the forums on a sex site. We can't control what others think or say...You have a different opinion than the said person and that's fine but to berate him on his opinion is slightly unfair...people including you are allowed choices in life..its your choice in how many people you meet on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try more sex Op.
It can help with keeping things in perspective.
Yeah, with everyone
Some single males fail to realise how many mails couples and females attract.
Im not sure what point you're making?"
How many mails do you receive? And how many would you be prepared to reply to daily? 10,20,30? How many would you meet, daily?
Couples and females can receive many more.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Try more sex Op.
It can help with keeping things in perspective.
Or I can rant when things annoy me and feel instantly better
If that works for you then I couldn't agree more. Better out than in as they say. "
Much better in then out and perhaps in again, I think.
VV - I understand your rant. As hypotheticals go it would take up a lot of time. Reality then takes over and we know not one person would ever do this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Try more sex Op.
It can help with keeping things in perspective.
Yeah, with everyone
Some single males fail to realise how many mails couples and females attract.
Im not sure what point you're making?
How many mails do you receive? And how many would you be prepared to reply to daily? 10,20,30? How many would you meet, daily?
Couples and females can receive many more.
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I must be missing something here. What does the number of mails I receive have to do with anything I've said? |
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"never had a fancy a fuck from a lady .. so never had the chance to delete .. ignore or say no thanks lol
and would you? "
i doubt if i would .. as it happens i have ... just for a laugh .. in the spirit of my post |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's sotlrta like the dating game, women basé EVERYTHING on looks, they go for the good looking jocks who are just up for fucking them about, then they whinge about how they get fucked about, I'm not the prettiest guy but I get my fair share cause girls I meet are shallow single minded judgemental freaks, and they are pretty fit!!! You shouldn't meet everyone but maybe you should consider just talking to someone who you don't just judge on looks alone, sex ain't just based on attractiveneas and dicksize, although looking at fab that's all its about"
What rubbish, I might base as others do but what is good looking to some may not be so to others and in fact I have been mucked about by those that weren't particularly good looking but came across lovely in their messages, swings and roundabouts really isn't it.
And I wonder if the girls you have met read the forums and have seen what you call them |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I tried to read it all but my eyes got tired. Think I have the gist enough to comment. I do give a lot of people a "chance". I rarely delete or say no thanks after only looking at a pic. If I'm mentally tired I don't talk to anyone much. If I'm looking to meet I talk to pretty much everyone |
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