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Swinging ....is it dying a death???
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"I have noticed a change in the type of guys who are on the site nowadays, there seems to be a lot more who want & expect quick sex & then move onto the next, it seems to be a numbers game lately with a lot of guys seeking opportunistic sex. Not what swinging used to be about. Mind you I've been around long enough to have seen this happen before x" It's sad really that it happens, as it makes things harder for genuine people who appreciate all the aspects of swinging, the banter, the friendships, the fun etc | |||
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"Yep, it gets a bit soul destroying somedays, gone are the days of developing something mutually beneficial & satisfying. " Exactly, and the social side is very important, far too many people want action instantly and move on. | |||
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"Very true, although single women are being in-fluxed with escorts and women wanting payment for services. It's turning out to be a mire for everyone." That's true I have my kik username on my profile and I have had two women up to now messaged me saying they are escorts and a price list people don't get that swinging isn't just about sex it's about the socialising aswell | |||
"Very true, although single women are being in-fluxed with escorts and women wanting payment for services. It's turning out to be a mire for everyone." To me there is a very real distinction between swinging and escorting. There are websites to suit both, so I'm not quite sure why escorts would bother on here when other people are offering the same without clock watching for free. | |||
"Very true, although single women are being in-fluxed with escorts and women wanting payment for services. It's turning out to be a mire for everyone. To me there is a very real distinction between swinging and escorting. There are websites to suit both, so I'm not quite sure why escorts would bother on here when other people are offering the same without clock watching for free. " That's what I told them when they messaged me why would I pay for it when I'm on a swinging site lol x  | |||
"After being on the scene for a number of years (on and off) I've noticed that swinging is becoming more and more in decline. Arranging meets, finding people to play with is getting harder and harder, and in many cases months apart. Also the influx of time wasters and 'paid professionals' on sites has increased dramatically. Has anyone else noticed this? " Don't say that i have only just joined, I have been on a few sites but this is the first one that people actually arrange socials/meets | |||
"After being on the scene for a number of years (on and off) I've noticed that swinging is becoming more and more in decline. Arranging meets, finding people to play with is getting harder and harder, and in many cases months apart. Also the influx of time wasters and 'paid professionals' on sites has increased dramatically. Has anyone else noticed this? Don't say that i have only just joined, I have been on a few sites but this is the first one that people actually arrange socials/meets " There are genuin swingers on hear you have just got I make yourself stand out and show you genuin too | |||
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"Arranging meets, finding people to play with is getting harder and harder, and in many cases months apart." Yes I'd agree, I find myself chatting to fewer and fewer women on here these days, and outside of those there's next to no one I feel like pursuing to try and arrange a meet with. | |||
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"Very true, although single women are being in-fluxed with escorts and women wanting payment for services. It's turning out to be a mire for everyone. That's true I have my kik username on my profile and I have had two women up to now messaged me saying they are escorts and a price list people don't get that swinging isn't just about sex it's about the socialising aswell " Nobody has as yet messaged me a price list and I have been on here ages. | |||
"Gentle distraction, I've tried several times to read your posting but my eyes keep floating back to your avatar pic. Yummy!" Hi and thanks for the compliment xx | |||
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"How does it work via twitter?" We usually need groups of guys so this works better as they contact our swinging profile & actually meet up. | |||
"Gentle distraction, I've tried several times to read your posting but my eyes keep floating back to your avatar pic. Yummy! Hi and thanks for the compliment xx" You're so welcome x  | |||
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"Gentle distraction, I've tried several times to read your posting but my eyes keep floating back to your avatar pic. Yummy! Hi and thanks for the compliment xx You're so welcome x "Feel free to message me  lol | |||
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"I do think that many guys joining not knowing anything about "swinging" . They see the word "sex" and their hormones kick in ..Some choose not to get to know the etiquette involved and treat it as "instashag" , others find out more before joining. Those who know more about it and have been in the "scene" sometime ,tend to be the ones who dont have trouble getting meets "Oh and before im single man etc bashing im not....i tend not to intentionally look at womens profiles though some i have managed to catch site of just look like a young woman seeking total adoration from the guys and have no meets....just webcam.....but like i said...i havent really preused a lot of womens profiles....so apologies to those who are not seeking adoration | |||
"It's become more mainstream, and invaded by opportunists and idiots, but far from dying. At the end of the day, the choice is yours." i concur,,,,,,,,,here here!  | |||
"I don't think swinging is dying a death i think the problem, if that's what you call it, is because now days its so popular and almost mainstream people are in no great rush to arrange meets. I first stated doing this 13 years ago and then there was no swinging sites i used to arrange meets through the old MSN chat rooms and back then there wasn't anywhere as many people as there is now so you made more of an effort, now days being able to meet is so easy there's no rush to get one, i think people are more flippant over it as there are so many more to choose from, which in itself is going to make it harder as your competing against so many more people " here here! | |||
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"I think there seems to be a new breed of swinger,,,,,,,,a lot of young people have now cottoned on and I'm not sure they are as free spirited as the old school,,,,,,,,some seem to talk a good game, some seem to get off on the thought of swinging,,,,,,,,lots of buff bodies, which is great to look at but do they really wanna swing or just get off on being told they look great or only swing with equally buff bodies no older than 35,,,,,,,,,timewasters, game players,,,,,,,,it all seems to be changing. We all have ideas on who we would like to meet, we all would love play, to many people with to many rules, do's and dont's. be free people, relax go with the flow, chat have fun,,,,,,,,and of course great shared sex,,,,,,,,,,I thank you people, be free, Free as a bird,,,,,,,,,nice one Cyril, peace........x" That is true there are a lot of younger glam people who think they are a cut above the norm but there are still enough real swingers to keep things ticking over. | |||
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"Before the internet we used "THE LOOT" & "DESIRE" which were great then things got commercial with the internet." What was the name of that little mag with all the contacts in ??? kin braindead today...well ok...everyday | |||
"Before the internet we used "THE LOOT" & "DESIRE" which were great then things got commercial with the internet." yes,,,,,,,,I got great meets from the loot,,,,,,,,,lol, how things have changed. | |||
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"Maybe it's because we primarily meet in clubs but it's certainly not dying out in our experience. " I was going to say something like this. Also, my expectations have changed. I no longer spend as much effort trying to arrange meets with local single guys who, more often than not, cancel last minute. I now go to parties, clubs, and socials, meet and chat to nice people, then shag them! 
I believe that's what swinging is about. | |||
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"Before the internet we used "THE LOOT" & "DESIRE" which were great then things got commercial with the internet. What was the name of that little mag with all the contacts in ??? kin braindead today...well ok...everyday "The mag was "Experience". I spent the best part of the 1980s answering ads from there, and it was a huge waste of time, effort, and postage! | |||
"I personally feel that the advent of free swinger sites has caused that change. Because a lot of swinger sites are free to join, you get all the flotsam and jetsam joining, many of who don't even have a clue about swinging, or aren't even swingers themselves - they'd do better to pay a prostitute to get off with. When I first got into online swinging over 10 years ago, you had to pay a yearly fee to join a site, even just for the bare basics, and it was a much better world for swingers then. Doesn't really take a lot of thinking about in my opinion." We have used internet sites for 14 years and never paid for any of them. Many of the sites we've been on are now pay sites. They seem no different to when they were free. The club scene is definitely changing though as far as we can see. There seem to be far more socialites and far fewer players than when we first went to clubs. | |||
"Maybe it's because we primarily meet in clubs but it's certainly not dying out in our experience. I was going to say something like this. Also, my expectations have changed. I no longer spend as much effort trying to arrange meets with local single guys who, more often than not, cancel last minute. I now go to parties, clubs, and socials, meet and chat to nice people, then shag them!
I believe that's what swinging is about." | |||
"years ago i used msn and yahoo and it was great fun and not as mainstream as it is now here seems to have an influx of people wanting to meet within a 1st message and they don't understand what is swinging, sadly some seem to think its a way of getting laid
"But swinging is "a way of getting laid". The people who refer to themselves as 'true swingers' just like a long chat and a drink before they fuck. | |||
"years ago i used msn and yahoo and it was great fun and not as mainstream as it is now here seems to have an influx of people wanting to meet within a 1st message and they don't understand what is swinging, sadly some seem to think its a way of getting laid
But swinging is "a way of getting laid". The people who refer to themselves as 'true swingers' just like a long chat and a drink before they fuck. " | |||
"It's sad really that it happens, as it makes things harder for genuine people who appreciate all the aspects of swinging, the banter, the friendships, the fun etc" Just because some people don't want exactly what you want, doesn't make them any less genuine. | |||
"Maybe it's because we primarily meet in clubs but it's certainly not dying out in our experience. I was going to say something like this. Also, my expectations have changed. I no longer spend as much effort trying to arrange meets with local single guys who, more often than not, cancel last minute. I now go to parties, clubs, and socials, meet and chat to nice people, then shag them!
I believe that's what swinging is about." | |||
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"years ago i used msn and yahoo and it was great fun and not as mainstream as it is now here seems to have an influx of people wanting to meet within a 1st message and they don't understand what is swinging, sadly some seem to think its a way of getting laid
But swinging is "a way of getting laid". The people who refer to themselves as 'true swingers' just like a long chat and a drink before they fuck. "Well said | |||
"have you considered it's actually getting more popular and there is now more competition therefore making it harder to get meets ? "I don't think it is, especially if you look at the geographic of who is starting to swing. Mainly young women 20-25 (on here at least) all quoting the same ' young woman (age) looking to meet men and women. Even weirder they are all the same height - when you message them you get a reply of asking for your email so they can send pics followed by a price list. And with the men they vary in age but instantly want a meet after message one, and if not successful you get a barrage of abuse. More than anything people have stumbled across swinging and think it's a way to earn money or get an instant shag without any effort. | |||
"have you considered it's actually getting more popular and there is now more competition therefore making it harder to get meets ?
I don't think it is, especially if you look at the geographic of who is starting to swing. Mainly young women 20-25 (on here at least) all quoting the same ' young woman (age) looking to meet men and women. Even weirder they are all the same height - when you message them you get a reply of asking for your email so they can send pics followed by a price list. And with the men they vary in age but instantly want a meet after message one, and if not successful you get a barrage of abuse.
More than anything people have stumbled across swinging and think it's a way to earn money or get an instant shag without any effort."Yeah, but that's a problem with the internet, not with swinging. | |||
"have you considered it's actually getting more popular and there is now more competition therefore making it harder to get meets ?
I don't think it is, especially if you look at the geographic of who is starting to swing. Mainly young women 20-25 (on here at least) all quoting the same ' young woman (age) looking to meet men and women. Even weirder they are all the same height - when you message them you get a reply of asking for your email so they can send pics followed by a price list. And with the men they vary in age but instantly want a meet after message one, and if not successful you get a barrage of abuse.
More than anything people have stumbled across swinging and think it's a way to earn money or get an instant shag without any effort."There is a lot more to swinging than a profile on here. And I suspect that that comment is as valid when aimed at you as it is when aimed at the people you criticise. | |||
"It's sad really that it happens, as it makes things harder for genuine people who appreciate all the aspects of swinging, the banter, the friendships, the fun etc Just because some people don't want exactly what you want, doesn't make them any less genuine. " | |||
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"I was reading in a paper it said swinging was a very middle class thing to do. ? Not sure if that right myself and why they should say that. Swinging has now become very common I think and with free sites you get a lot of dreamers . I do feel its not full of people married or long standing partners and playing away as its a lot easier than having an affair now you just shag and go . Is that real swinging not really but a lot think it is. "I do feel it is full , lolol why I said not full god only knows my crap spellings xx I think shag and go is the thing a lot are looking for there fix and not getting to know people well how it was years ago. | |||
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" Exactly, and the social side is very important, far too many people want action instantly and move on. " I want more of the social side too and am trying to organise a social in London if you can make it down | |||
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"To be a swinger you need to be part of a married , committed couple that have sex with others but do not attach emotionally to the 'others'. Each and ever single on here is NOT a swinger. They are just having sex. I don't think swinging is on the decline. I believe that people don't abide by definitions and will join anywhere to get sex. There are now tons of 'hook up' sites where people aren't interested in judging and moralising with other users can meet for N.S.A sex and they don't need to pretend to be swingers. Swinging is a frame of mind, a wisdom , a way of life. A fuck's a fuck. " | |||
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"Didn't know swinging was the preserve of married couples.....oh heck. Better get rid of my male friends who aren't attached. "I slipped up with saying 'married' I meant part of a couple who recognise themselves as in a committed relationship. Not necessarily having been through a ceremony. | |||
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