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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always said that rejection is part of life. It's how you deal with it that matters. I like to think that I handle it well, and try to seek the positive from rejection as "what can I do better next time?"
On here? it's not real rejection. So I don't give a fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now"
I know that one, bad vibes hardly make you " the temptress"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now"
when i was married if i didn't instigate sex i didn't get any!!
got rid of him last year  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here no....its a big shop window and im sometimes seen as the "value" range by some....their loss cos im a decent enough bloke blah blah......in real life maybe... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A rejection is only a rejection when the "rejectee" thinks it is. It could also simply be seen as "different strokes for different folks" ? "
Wot you talkin 'bout Willis..???  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now
when i was married if i didn't instigate sex i didn't get any!!
got rid of him last year "
I didn't get any either. He didn't sleep in my bed. Just me and the cat. Which he was allergic to  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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doesnt bother me what so ever some will like me some wont. I cam across an expression today that i thought was quite amusing and suits this thread nicely.
"i'd rather be someone shot of the finest 18 year old whiskey, than everyones same cup to tea" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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doesnt bother me what so ever some will like me some wont. I cam across an expression today that i thought was quite amusing and suits this thread nicely.
"i'd rather be someone shot of the finest 18 year old whiskey, than everyones same cup to tea" |
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"I've always said that rejection is part of life. It's how you deal with it that matters. I like to think that I handle it well, and try to seek the positive from rejection as "what can I do better next time?"
On here? it's not real rejection. So I don't give a fuck."
That's the definition of rejection on here... Not giving a fuck. Or getting one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would guess just about every guy still here after 12 mins is used to it but accepting it? I would say in reality it varies with each day sometimes its what a bugger others its hey ho and the odd time its relief but accepting it is never a problem that's life but I would be a liar if I said I wasn't disappointed at times as I only contact people I am attracted to. |
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on?? question is do you take it on the chin??"
I wear my big girls knickers of course I know myself and have confidence in myself |
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rejection on here can take several forms from people blocking you to unpleasant emails. Luckily I havent suffered either yet (and no thats not a cue for you lot to send me a load of random dear johns )
on here its mostly just about 2 or more people having fun and doing what they all want to do. if someone doesnt want to play then thats cool and just walk on
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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on?? question is do you take it on the chin??
I wear my big girls knickers of course I know myself and have confidence in myself "
So yes I take rejection on the chin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now
when i was married if i didn't instigate sex i didn't get any!!
got rid of him last year
I didn't get any either. He didn't sleep in my bed. Just me and the cat. Which he was allergic to "
LOL!
we might as well have been in bunk beds.
onwards and upwards |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it would depend on what the rejection was to how I would take it. I'm quite a sensitive little soul at heart.
On here I'm not emotionally involved with anyone so can't see being rejected as an issue. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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Generally it doesn't bother me as I seldom ask people for a meet, so it's not a factor. However, on the odd time I have requested a meet and feel that I strongly match what they are looking for and then get blown out, I do feel a bit puzzled and deflated. I just build a Voodoo Doll likeness and spend the rest of the week chucking darts at it and sitting on it when I need to fart. |
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"When I was married I wouldn't try to instigate sex as he would be nasty if he didn't want it. It's made me wary of approaching men now"
Same for me. I was made to feel like I was attacking my ex if I started anything but the one time I rejected him as I was knackered after a really ling day at work I got it in the neck!!!
It still does affect my forwardness in instigating sex even though I know I won't get the same reaction as before. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't care about on this site. But I would never approach anyone in a club. And it is this reason why we have never played I assume. It's all to do with my lack of confidence and fear of rejection. I get so frustrated with myself for not approaching anyone but I just can't, even with a drink in me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you can't handle rejection then swinging is not for you
I disagree we are on here for a reason where we don't appeal to some and they may reject it does not mean we don't appeal to others "
I agree with Misscheeky... It depends on how you are rejected. Some ppl can be very cruel and vile when a polite no would surfice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care about on this site. But I would never approach anyone in a club. And it is this reason why we have never played I assume. It's all to do with my lack of confidence and fear of rejection. I get so frustrated with myself for not approaching anyone but I just can't, even with a drink in me.
X "
amber u can sit with me..I wont even grope |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you can't handle rejection then swinging is not for you"
That's rubbish! You could say the same about dating, applying for jobs, all sorts, rejection is a part of everyday life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't care about on this site. But I would never approach anyone in a club. And it is this reason why we have never played I assume. It's all to do with my lack of confidence and fear of rejection. I get so frustrated with myself for not approaching anyone but I just can't, even with a drink in me.
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amber u can sit with me..I wont even grope "
*cough cough coBOLLOCKSugh cough* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes we float someone's boat sometimes we don't....it's not an issue. However if getting meets is important to your self esteem then you are likely to take it as a rejection and feel it more.
Being rejected when emotionally involved might make it more difficult to let go and move on. |
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"Are you fearful of rejection or do you take it on the chin and move on?? "
Not fearful of anything. Miffed if rejected for a job as only apply for ones I really want. Upset but don't show it if girls *reject* me for their dad. On here? Oh please! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On here its forgotten about within 5 seconds
In real life I was once rejected by someone I was crazy about, I now have no fear as I know that nothing will ever make me feel as shit as that did. |
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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago
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On here it doesn't bother me. I wouldn't shag me so although I send messages, no thanks is the default setting for expectations. Interest is a positive rather than lack of interest being a negative. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In real life I was once rejected by someone I was crazy about, I now have no fear as I know that nothing will ever make me feel as shit as that did. "
^^^^ I know that feeling. I was in love with him and it still hurts! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to think I don't particularly like/fancy everybody so I think it's unreasonable for everybody to like/fancy me. (Even tho I'm gorgeous lol) Just part of life I suppose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing ventured, nothing gained.. Though I'm sure I've ignored the wisdom behind that many times and on occasion discovered that the fear of failure/rejection is far more crippling than the failure/rejection itself...
Sadly that knowledge probably won't make a massive difference to decisions about future endeavours! |
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...and fuck it. 
