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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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to do to me?"
It is, unsurprisingly, a FAQ on this site and there is, of course, nothing wrong with asking the question.
I am curious to hear how people respond to it, whether they enjoy "painting" a picture of things to happen during the anticipated meet. Is it more a male or female thing, is fun or boring and how do you respond?  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I draw a blank when I'm asked that question. I need inspiration that is more than a photo "
I do, too, to be honest and I always thought that perhaps I lack imagination as it does nothing for me to paint a picture of a scene with somebody I have not met yet. Maybe it is more a male thing ?
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"i hate it when people ask me questions like that, i just say its on my profile.
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I have done so in the past - I also feel that my profile says a lot about who I am and the rest is better left to the one to one meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would much rather play things by ear and let things happen more or less naturally rather than make a detailed "plan of attack" for a meet, but it's good to know if there are some definite no-nos so that you don't do anything that is not liked in the heat of passion ... because I would be horrified |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've found with my vast experience of men that the ones that talk a good game don't play a good game. With only one exception. After hours of talking about sex I'm done with that man and bored. The occasional flirty/naughty text can be exciting but long,drawn out stories bore me to death |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've found with my vast experience of men that the ones that talk a good game don't play a good game. With only one exception. After hours of talking about sex I'm done with that man and bored. The occasional flirty/naughty text can be exciting but long,drawn out stories bore me to death "
You phrased it so much better than I could. For me it takes away any anticipation and makes it actually less likely that I would want to meet that person.  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Obviously I want to be in the room with you both
Especially Aphrodite 
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Would you wish an upfront "plan of attack" ?;-) Careful how you reply as Minxie and I are both watching |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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""I'd take you to a restaurant thats got glass tables so you can watch yourself while you are eating. """
Cool - so you WOULD NOT ask for the plan of attack beforehand presumably? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've found with my vast experience of men that the ones that talk a good game don't play a good game. With only one exception. After hours of talking about sex I'm done with that man and bored. The occasional flirty/naughty text can be exciting but long,drawn out stories bore me to death
You phrased it so much better than I could. For me it takes away any anticipation and makes it actually less likely that I would want to meet that person. "
no expectations either. Nowadays men want to know exactly what they are getting in case you don't come across with the goods. Those men can whistle for it. The men that turn up and are happy with whatever happens tend to be more spontaneous and exciting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A plan of attack I don't think so, but agreement and discussion on the things that both turn you and play it by ear when you meet, at least that sets a fire of interest, an expectation of desire. But defining a plan leaves out the most important part of play, that it's supposed to be different and sexy and random. Not a robot like script.. Let the moment take you and be as damn dirty in that moment I say., |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Expected questions about anal,cum swallowing and tying up etc get answered but doesn't mean I will do everything with everyone. Might not be in the mood for it. On here I'd expect to be asked my interests as I don't list them. I hate it when a man says what would you do to me because I'd tell him and he would run away or say you're not coming anywhere near my arse!!  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Expected questions about anal,cum swallowing and tying up etc get answered but doesn't mean I will do everything with everyone. Might not be in the mood for it. On here I'd expect to be asked my interests as I don't list them. I hate it when a man says what would you do to me because I'd tell him and he would run away or say you're not coming anywhere near my arse!! "
I can go along with that - some questions are necessary to manage expectations and avoid an unsuccessful meet. But you would not say exactly what you d do at any given moment, right? |
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""I'd take you to a restaurant thats got glass tables so you can watch yourself while you are eating. ""Cool - so you WOULD NOT ask for the plan of attack beforehand presumably? "
Not at all. Anticipation is key. Would you read the last paragraph of a book first ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right here goes.
Firstly I'd Like you to open the door to me - I think it always helps.
We'd have a warm embrace and maybe even a kiss or two.
Then I'd pick you up in my arms and take you to somewhere a bit more comfortable (call me old-fashioned) and place you down gently.
I'd explore your body to find what gives you to most pleasure and concentrate on those areas for some time.
Wed make mad passionate love until we collapsed from exhaustion and cuddle whilst looking into each other's eyes after being mutually satisfied.
Then you can kick me out.
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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""I'd take you to a restaurant thats got glass tables so you can watch yourself while you are eating. ""Cool - so you WOULD NOT ask for the plan of attack beforehand presumably?
Not at all. Anticipation is key. Would you read the last paragraph of a book first ? "
I must confess re the book that I have done this once or twice and then lost interest in reading the entire book. Good analogy actually! |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Right here goes.
Firstly I'd Like you to open the door to me - I think it always helps.
We'd have a warm embrace and maybe even a kiss or two.
Then I'd pick you up in my arms and take you to somewhere a bit more comfortable (call me old-fashioned) and place you down gently.
I'd explore your body to find what gives you to most pleasure and concentrate on those areas for some time.
Wed make mad passionate love until we collapsed from exhaustion and cuddle whilst looking into each other's eyes after being mutually satisfied.
Then you can kick me out.
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I am dreaming |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Expected questions about anal,cum swallowing and tying up etc get answered but doesn't mean I will do everything with everyone. Might not be in the mood for it. On here I'd expect to be asked my interests as I don't list them. I hate it when a man says what would you do to me because I'd tell him and he would run away or say you're not coming anywhere near my arse!! I can go along with that - some questions are necessary to manage expectations and avoid an unsuccessful meet. But you would not say exactly what you d do at any given moment, right? "
you have to have common interests I think. I don't just want to lay back and let a man do his thing but to go into every detail would be the end to any attraction for me. I usually ask a man if I'm allowed near his arse because it's very intimate and not all men like that. I don't then give a blow by blow description of what I will do. Better to see what happens on the night |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right here goes.
Firstly I'd Like you to open the door to me - I think it always helps.
We'd have a warm embrace and maybe even a kiss or two.
Then I'd pick you up in my arms and take you to somewhere a bit more comfortable (call me old-fashioned) and place you down gently.
I'd explore your body to find what gives you to most pleasure and concentrate on those areas for some time.
Wed make mad passionate love until we collapsed from exhaustion and cuddle whilst looking into each other's eyes after being mutually satisfied.
Then you can kick me out.
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she might want to pick you up and carry you to the bed |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right here goes.
Firstly I'd Like you to open the door to me - I think it always helps.
We'd have a warm embrace and maybe even a kiss or two.
Then I'd pick you up in my arms and take you to somewhere a bit more comfortable (call me old-fashioned) and place you down gently.
I'd explore your body to find what gives you to most pleasure and concentrate on those areas for some time.
Wed make mad passionate love until we collapsed from exhaustion and cuddle whilst looking into each other's eyes after being mutually satisfied.
Then you can kick me out.
I am dreaming "
Have you seen my pics? - It may be more of a nightmare  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right here goes.
Firstly I'd Like you to open the door to me - I think it always helps.
We'd have a warm embrace and maybe even a kiss or two.
Then I'd pick you up in my arms and take you to somewhere a bit more comfortable (call me old-fashioned) and place you down gently.
I'd explore your body to find what gives you to most pleasure and concentrate on those areas for some time.
Wed make mad passionate love until we collapsed from exhaustion and cuddle whilst looking into each other's eyes after being mutually satisfied.
Then you can kick me out.
she might want to pick you up and carry you to the bed "
She's be exhausted before we even had sex if she tried that |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Right here goes.
Firstly I'd Like you to open the door to me - I think it always helps.
We'd have a warm embrace and maybe even a kiss or two.
Then I'd pick you up in my arms and take you to somewhere a bit more comfortable (call me old-fashioned) and place you down gently.
I'd explore your body to find what gives you to most pleasure and concentrate on those areas for some time.
Wed make mad passionate love until we collapsed from exhaustion and cuddle whilst looking into each other's eyes after being mutually satisfied.
Then you can kick me out.
she might want to pick you up and carry you to the bed "
I was very pre-dick-table |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Right here goes.
Firstly I'd Like you to open the door to me - I think it always helps.
We'd have a warm embrace and maybe even a kiss or two.
Then I'd pick you up in my arms and take you to somewhere a bit more comfortable (call me old-fashioned) and place you down gently.
I'd explore your body to find what gives you to most pleasure and concentrate on those areas for some time.
Wed make mad passionate love until we collapsed from exhaustion and cuddle whilst looking into each other's eyes after being mutually satisfied.
Then you can kick me out.
she might want to pick you up and carry you to the bed
She's be exhausted before we even had sex if she tried that "
Maybe, but what a lovely way to be exhausted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fear it's more a want of an erotic dialogue so the guy can knock one off. It's not going to happen because I'm not here for his entertainment.
A discussion of what is off limits on a meet is fine. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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she might want to pick you up and carry you to the bed I was very pre-dick-table
I hope sex with you is better than your jokes  "
No it is not, I am afraid. This is the best I can do... downhill ever after... |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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""I'd take you to a restaurant thats got glass tables so you can watch yourself while you are eating. ""
good toonDont get side tracked
but it has some great horn and sax input..  "
Nothing wrong with that I guess... what reed size?;-) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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she might want to pick you up and carry you to the bed I was very pre-dick-table
I hope sex with you is better than your jokes No it is not, I am afraid. This is the best I can do... downhill ever after..."
Oh well - I'd still make love to you. |
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""I'd take you to a restaurant thats got glass tables so you can watch yourself while you are eating. ""
good toonDont get side tracked
but it has some great horn and sax input.. Nothing wrong with that I guess... what reed size?;-)"
not to big for ones mouth but does need lubrication to achieve the correct sound.. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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she might want to pick you up and carry you to the bed I was very pre-dick-table
I hope sex with you is better than your jokes No it is not, I am afraid. This is the best I can do... downhill ever after...
Oh well - I'd still make love to you. "
Thank you for considering
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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""I'd take you to a restaurant thats got glass tables so you can watch yourself while you are eating. ""
good toonDont get side tracked
but it has some great horn and sax input.. Nothing wrong with that I guess... what reed size?;-)
not to big for ones mouth but does need lubrication to achieve the correct sound.."
Trust you to bring in lubrication... this is or rather was a nonsmutty thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
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our reply to this is nothing at all
we prefer to do things with you rather than to you
doing to you sounds to us like we are going to do all the work erm nope lol |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"our reply to this is nothing at all
we prefer to do things with you rather than to you
doing to you sounds to us like we are going to do all the work erm nope lol"
Another really good point - the phrase would suggest a rather passive approach! |
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""I'd take you to a restaurant thats got glass tables so you can watch yourself while you are eating. ""
good toonDont get side tracked
but it has some great horn and sax input.. Nothing wrong with that I guess... what reed size?;-)
not to big for ones mouth but does need lubrication to achieve the correct sound..Trust you to bring in lubrication... this is or rather was a nonsmutty thread"
its an obvious side effect when ones reed is being blown.. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I always struggle with the question "so what are you into?".....my mind goes blank  "
It is possibly because in the normal process of communication we "court" and flirt with each other, get to know the other person... so that blunt question would easily put somebody on the backfoot I think |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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""I'd take you to a restaurant thats got glass tables so you can watch yourself while you are eating. ""
good toonDont get side tracked
but it has some great horn and sax input.. Nothing wrong with that I guess... what reed size?;-)
not to big for ones mouth but does need lubrication to achieve the correct sound..Trust you to bring in lubrication... this is or rather was a nonsmutty thread
its an obvious side effect when ones reed is being blown.."
Now I have blushed successfully! |
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""I'd take you to a restaurant thats got glass tables so you can watch yourself while you are eating. ""
good toonDont get side tracked
but it has some great horn and sax input.. Nothing wrong with that I guess... what reed size?;-)
not to big for ones mouth but does need lubrication to achieve the correct sound..Trust you to bring in lubrication... this is or rather was a nonsmutty thread
its an obvious side effect when ones reed is being blown..Now I have blushed successfully! "
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I have found that having a social meet first helps discuss desires and boundaries. Depending on how the meet goes of course...sometimes shyness makes it a little more difficult. But it is not because I express what I like or desire that it will automatically happen. What really is crucial for me is that, if I meet to play, the person respects what I do not like or do not want to do. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"I have found that having a social meet first helps discuss desires and boundaries. Depending on how the meet goes of course...sometimes shyness makes it a little more difficult. But it is not because I express what I like or desire that it will automatically happen. What really is crucial for me is that, if I meet to play, the person respects what I do not like or do not want to do. "
I agree with the idea of a social meet - it helps in more than one way identify if there is genuine chemistry |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I do hate it when I'm asked that, my reply is normally make you cook me tea then let you do my dishes and then my washing. It sometimes works lol "
So what you are saying is that women ask that question, too? I was under the impression it was more of a male thing?
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By (user no longer on site)
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ha ha but i do have you thinking now
ive found the nights that are planned are never a good a the ones where we go with the flow
although we like to know boundries as theres nothing worse than doing the one thing that you find the biggest turn off |
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Undressing someone mind is sometimes the real start of foreplay, be it by laughter or a sudden meeting of minds. You can talk on here forever with someone but it is only when you meet do you understand what boundaries there are  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"so what are YOUR boundries "
Most of them are in my profile really and as I always meet socially first I kind of know whether the next meet will be on or off. Does that make sense?
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"so what are YOUR boundries Most of them are in my profile really and as I always meet socially first I kind of know whether the next meet will be on or off. Does that make sense? "
You are looking for a spark before a second meet then |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"so what are YOUR boundries Most of them are in my profile really and as I always meet socially first I kind of know whether the next meet will be on or off. Does that make sense?
You are looking for a spark before a second meet then"
Absolutely - could not have phrased it better myself. But then, you knew that anyway |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago
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"makes perfect sense to me
must remember to look at the words on profiles not just the pics he he "
Again, that makes complete sense. I look at the write up of a profile as much as at the pics. I am not looking for grammar or spelling as such but eg a text speak profile does nothing for me so there would not be a spark.
In my experience on here profiles cand what is between the lines can be very much part of a bigger picture. |
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"makes perfect sense to me
must remember to look at the words on profiles not just the pics he he Again, that makes complete sense. I look at the write up of a profile as much as at the pics. I am not looking for grammar or spelling as such but eg a text speak profile does nothing for me so there would not be a spark.
In my experience on here profiles cand what is between the lines can be very much part of a bigger picture."
As in life what is not said is sometimes louder than what is said  |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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"to be fair i do read the profiles as we hate wasting our time on people who dont match us "
Exactly - it does give you a reasonably good idea whether somebody is remotely compatible. |
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By *phrodite OP Woman
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In my experience on here profiles cand what is between the lines can be very much part of a bigger picture.
As in life what is not said is sometimes louder than what is said "
Totally agree |
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