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By *-and-K OP Couple
over a year ago
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There have been several topics on here regarding how people dress for meetings.
So just thought I'd throw in a few observations we have noticed.
Couples/singles dressing up, ie turning up in suit tie polished shoes, evening dress etc may make a nice first impression. However it does not always make for a nice couple to chat with or play with.
Couples/singles turning up in trainers, denims, sports shirt etc. May not make a first impression but and its a big but. These people always seem to be the down to earth man in the street types and will always make you welcome and at ease. Nothing worse than feeling on edge at a meeting to spoil the atmosphere.
Parties we have attended with a mix of both types always but always seem to end up with the suited and booted brigade making excuses and leaving before the fun starts, much to their loss we have seen.
Which brings us to the crux of this discussion. Is there room in swinging for the class system of the UK to raise its ugly head? Do you allow the way someone dresses to affect your opinions of someone before you get to know them? |
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By *exeteraWoman
over a year ago
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In my opinion if the person is comfortable in what they're wearing then this follows through in how the act/interact etc. My only must have is personal hygiene, I know that this should go without saying but unfortunately from reading previous threads it doesn't. I suppose it also depends on where one is meeting too but if I'm not comfortable in what I'm wearing I find it does have an effect on how I interact. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To me and I stress me alone I speak for no one else here not even my husband - I dont mind what someone wears as long as they are the type of person I want to meet.
I have heard people moaning about people turning up to socials wearing jeans - BUT when I have asked what I should wear to socials I was told wear what you are comfortable in. I live in jeans and vest tops 
I like to make an effort if I am meeting people doesnt matter if its a social or a 1 on 1 meet. I would never expect people to do the same tho cos then I would get bored with all suits or all jeans 
To me (and again I only mean me) its the differences that make us who we are, as long as someone is clean neat and tidy I am happy to have a coffee with them.
Shona
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't have a problem with people who dress smartly, be that casual in jeans or more formal attire. I'm a little off-put by facial piercings but I'm sure they're nice people underneath all that jewellery and in a social situation if we got chatting to a nice couple who did have f/piercings then I'm sure we'd put our concerns aside and have some fun with them.
Our only no-no is bad hygiene. If someone can't be bothered to shower, shave and smarten themselves up then we can't be bothered to let them touch our bodies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There have been several topics on here regarding how people dress for meetings.
So just thought I'd throw in a few observations we have noticed.
Couples/singles dressing up, ie turning up in suit tie polished shoes, evening dress etc may make a nice first impression. However it does not always make for a nice couple to chat with or play with.
Couples/singles turning up in trainers, denims, sports shirt etc. May not make a first impression but and its a big but. These people always seem to be the down to earth man in the street types and will always make you welcome and at ease. Nothing worse than feeling on edge at a meeting to spoil the atmosphere.
Parties we have attended with a mix of both types always but always seem to end up with the suited and booted brigade making excuses and leaving before the fun starts, much to their loss we have seen.
Which brings us to the crux of this discussion. Is there room in swinging for the class system of the UK to raise its ugly head? Do you allow the way someone dresses to affect your opinions of someone before you get to know them?"
For me it's not what someone wears - it's who is wearing it, how they present themselves and how they wear whatever they are wearing.
The same outfit can be worn by two different people and you like one person but not the other.
If someone turns up in overalls cos they've lost all their clothes on a flight you can still find the person underneath attractive.
If some miserable , pie eating halitosis ridden axe murderer turns up in sequins you can still see underneath the designer dress.
Got to say - read your post several times and i'd say I can read what you think but i'll hang fire n see if it turns out to be  x |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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I make an effort when I arrange to meet someone, so I expect that they would too.
Dont mean suit and tie by any means but I wouldnt be impressed if someone turned up in their scruffs looking like they have just come in from doing the gardening...sweet smelling or not
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There have been several topics on here regarding how people dress for meetings.
So just thought I'd throw in a few observations we have noticed.
Couples/singles dressing up, ie turning up in suit tie polished shoes, evening dress etc may make a nice first impression. However it does not always make for a nice couple to chat with or play with.
Couples/singles turning up in trainers, denims, sports shirt etc. May not make a first impression but and its a big but. These people always seem to be the down to earth man in the street types and will always make you welcome and at ease. Nothing worse than feeling on edge at a meeting to spoil the atmosphere.
Parties we have attended with a mix of both types always but always seem to end up with the suited and booted brigade making excuses and leaving before the fun starts, much to their loss we have seen.
Which brings us to the crux of this discussion. Is there room in swinging for the class system of the UK to raise its ugly head? Do you allow the way someone dresses to affect your opinions of someone before you get to know them?
For me it's not what someone wears - it's who is wearing it, how they present themselves and how they wear whatever they are wearing.
The same outfit can be worn by two different people and you like one person but not the other.
If someone turns up in overalls cos they've lost all their clothes on a flight you can still find the person underneath attractive.
If some miserable , pie eating halitosis ridden axe murderer turns up in sequins you can still see underneath the designer dress.
Got to say - read your post several times and i'd say I can read what you think but i'll hang fire n see if it turns out to be x "
Completely agree - we love dressing up some of the time, dressing down at others but would not ever judge anybody for what they are wearing.
For us it is about personalities every time |
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i quite like a gut in smart casual dress, jeans, shirt untucked, nice shoes etc
that being said it is not the be all and end all. If i am meeting them it is because i hae got to like them through chatting on here or msn.
Personal hygiene goes without saying - like a person to smell nice
if i am meeting a person i will tend to dress wearing something that shows off what i consider to be my best bits - legs and boobs  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree with Jezebel
As women, we are rather expected to dress up to please
I won't entertain a man at my place in trainers or jeans no matter how smart
First impressions count
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I'm curious as to why you think wearing jeans makes a bad first impression?
I literally only own jeans, some smarter than others, but I always turn up in a smart pair of them, with a shirt etc etc... but if someone said no jeans to me, well I guess the reply to that would be no el_nino as I'd have no options, lol |
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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago
a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5 |
"I agree with Jezebel
As women, we are rather expected to dress up to please
I won't entertain a man at my place in trainers or jeans no matter how smart
First impressions count
I'm curious as to why you think wearing jeans makes a bad first impression?
I literally only own jeans, some smarter than others, but I always turn up in a smart pair of them, with a shirt etc etc... but if someone said no jeans to me, well I guess the reply to that would be no el_nino as I'd have no options, lol"
I don't like them simples
I would never dream of wearing jeans on a meet so dont expect my guest too
its personal choice again |
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"I agree with Jezebel
As women, we are rather expected to dress up to please
I won't entertain a man at my place in trainers or jeans no matter how smart
First impressions count
I'm curious as to why you think wearing jeans makes a bad first impression?
I literally only own jeans, some smarter than others, but I always turn up in a smart pair of them, with a shirt etc etc... but if someone said no jeans to me, well I guess the reply to that would be no el_nino as I'd have no options, lol"
mmmmmmmmmmm dreaming of el nino's bum in a nice pair of tight jeans |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we go to a formal functions(referring to swing functions) we dress up, as it is part of the event and we would not spoil things for others.
It is all about being yourself and remaining true to yourself so therefore, as many things, a personal choice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree with Jezebel
As women, we are rather expected to dress up to please
I won't entertain a man at my place in trainers or jeans no matter how smart
First impressions count
I'm curious as to why you think wearing jeans makes a bad first impression?
I literally only own jeans, some smarter than others, but I always turn up in a smart pair of them, with a shirt etc etc... but if someone said no jeans to me, well I guess the reply to that would be no el_nino as I'd have no options, lol
mmmmmmmmmmm dreaming of el nino's bum in a nice pair of tight jeans "
I think you are dreaming of el nino WITHOUT the nice jeans and who could blame you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I agree with Jezebel
As women, we are rather expected to dress up to please
I won't entertain a man at my place in trainers or jeans no matter how smart
First impressions count
I'm curious as to why you think wearing jeans makes a bad first impression?
I literally only own jeans, some smarter than others, but I always turn up in a smart pair of them, with a shirt etc etc... but if someone said no jeans to me, well I guess the reply to that would be no el_nino as I'd have no options, lol
I don't like them simples
I would never dream of wearing jeans on a meet so dont expect my guest too
its personal choice again "
Not knocking your choice, you are entitled to it, just why limit yourself. Don't think there'd be anything someone wore that would put me off personally.
Just to be pedantic for the sake of it, lol... I would never dream of wearing a short skirt on a meet, doesn't mean the person I'm meeting can't!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i always show of my best asset if the person comment on a perticular part of body wear something that will show it off for them to see more better.
in saving that one guy's nearly popped out when met with low cut top. i did have to remind them that they are real and can be touched as he could not belive that they were real.
but most guys like my bum so wear tight trousers so it can be seen when walk in front of them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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any guy turns up with a suit on near my door the first thing i think is oh shit sherrif officer or debt recovery lol!!
i dont care as long as they clean and smell nice !
as for me meetin its always hair done, make up on sexy undies and dependin where im meetin ,usually a casual dress or that im not a fancy clothes wearin person i prefer to be comfortable!
if its a social its treated the same way as any nite out with full on glamour!xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i always show of my best asset if the person comment on a perticular part of body wear something that will show it off for them to see more better.
in saving that one guy's nearly popped out when met with low cut top. i did have to remind them that they are real and can be touched as he could not belive that they were real.
but most guys like my bum so wear tight trousers so it can be seen when walk in front of them."
I love to wear a low cut top as if you bend forward you can get a guy to fumble his words. |
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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago
a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5 |
"I agree with Jezebel
As women, we are rather expected to dress up to please
I won't entertain a man at my place in trainers or jeans no matter how smart
First impressions count
I'm curious as to why you think wearing jeans makes a bad first impression?
I literally only own jeans, some smarter than others, but I always turn up in a smart pair of them, with a shirt etc etc... but if someone said no jeans to me, well I guess the reply to that would be no el_nino as I'd have no options, lol
I don't like them simples
I would never dream of wearing jeans on a meet so dont expect my guest too
its personal choice again
Not knocking your choice, you are entitled to it, just why limit yourself. Don't think there'd be anything someone wore that would put me off personally.
Just to be pedantic for the sake of it, lol... I would never dream of wearing a short skirt on a meet, doesn't mean the person I'm meeting can't! "
I dont limit myself
I open myself up to meeting non jeans wearing men which is great
I dont like them unless men are gardening in them
Its just an issue of making an effort to me
I equate jeans with being scruffy therefore dont wish to meet a man wearing them on a meet or date
oh and I quite like men in ladieswear so I would prefer you in a skirt
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont limit myself
I open myself up to meeting non jeans wearing men which is great
I dont like them unless men are gardening in them
Its just an issue of making an effort to me
I equate jeans with being scruffy therefore dont wish to meet a man wearing them on a meet or date
oh and I quite like men in ladieswear so I would prefer you in a skirt
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Ok, seriously just asking still... but why does it mean they haven't made an effort just because they are wearing jeans? It means the difference between having pulled one pair or trousers out of the cupboard as opposed to another? |
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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago
a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5 |
"I dont limit myself
I open myself up to meeting non jeans wearing men which is great
I dont like them unless men are gardening in them
Its just an issue of making an effort to me
I equate jeans with being scruffy therefore dont wish to meet a man wearing them on a meet or date
oh and I quite like men in ladieswear so I would prefer you in a skirt
Ok, seriously just asking still... but why does it mean they haven't made an effort just because they are wearing jeans? It means the difference between having pulled one pair or trousers out of the cupboard as opposed to another?"
I just dont like them
It really is that simple
Its no different to you liking a lady in a red dress as opposed to a yellow dress |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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jeans are fine el nino as you can get some very nice jeans and a shirt nice shoes no white socks and top of my list are clean smelling breath and smelling nice...then guys you got me and take me home to f**k me.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing nicer than watching a great looking bum in a good fitting pair of jeans (ohh hell wheres the drooling smilie??)
My husband only has 2 pairs of trousers (for weddings funerals and job interviews) the rest of the time he wears jeans.
The ones he wears for taking the rubbish out are very different to the ones he wears when taking me out.
Scruffy ripped jeans for gardening smart bum hugging jeans for me watching him walk in 
So El Nino get your jean clad bum up here so I can see if it looks as good covered up
Shona
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We think it shows respect for the people your meeting if you make an effort.
Would hate to open the door to find someone like Frank Gallagher on the doorstep!
XXXX |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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we always make the effort to look our best,for meets.mrs saucy can take 2 hours to get ready.sometimes by the time shes ready.i look at her and wish we were staying in.i always dress my best,sorry this does mean jeans.my ass is my best feature.then we go to meets,sometimes the people dont even look like theyve changed.track suits,or worse still shell suits.the female hasnt even put a little make up or perfume on.sorry but if your gardening this is ok.not for meets.  |
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The clothes do not make the man… or woman.
I’ve had people turn up in suits and formal wear… they look like ironing boards! I meet people for relaxed company and fun, not to escort me to a corporate function.
As long as they are clean and have dressed with a sense of style (not turning up looking like Ali G) then I prefer people to wear something they will be relaxed in. Jeans and trainers wouldn’t bother me as long as it didn’t look like they had just been fixing the car in them... not to mention most good jeans and trainers cost more than regular shoes and trousers.
Think of all those diet adverts where the guy is wearing jeans and a t-shirt…. wouldn’t tell one of them to piss off at the door
It's not like he'd have them on for long anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we always make the effort to look our best,for meets.mrs saucy can take 2 hours to get ready.sometimes by the time shes ready.i look at her and wish we were staying in.i always dress my best,sorry this does mean jeans.my ass is my best feature.then we go to meets,sometimes the people dont even look like theyve changed.track suits,or worse still shell suits.the female hasnt even put a little make up or perfume on.sorry but if your gardening this is ok.not for meets. "
oooooooo controversial! Do females have to wear make up to be sexually attractive ? Serious Q ? |
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if we going to a house i wear jeans and a top but if we going for to a bar or club then the good jeans,boots and shirt go on and the good after shave on..
have everyday stuff and going out stuff i thought everyone was like that lol |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"we always make the effort to look our best,for meets.mrs saucy can take 2 hours to get ready.sometimes by the time shes ready.i look at her and wish we were staying in.i always dress my best,sorry this does mean jeans.my ass is my best feature.then we go to meets,sometimes the people dont even look like theyve changed.track suits,or worse still shell suits.the female hasnt even put a little make up or perfume on.sorry but if your gardening this is ok.not for meets.
oooooooo controversial! Do females have to wear make up to be sexually attractive ? Serious Q ?"
why take the chance. |
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oooooooo controversial! Do females have to wear make up to be sexually attractive ? Serious Q ?"
No but lipstick leaves such a lovely red ring on the shaft of a cock....I call it 'The ring of confidence' |
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"we always make the effort to look our best,for meets.mrs saucy can take 2 hours to get ready.sometimes by the time shes ready.i look at her and wish we were staying in.i always dress my best,sorry this does mean jeans.my ass is my best feature.then we go to meets,sometimes the people dont even look like theyve changed.track suits,or worse still shell suits.the female hasnt even put a little make up or perfume on.sorry but if your gardening this is ok.not for meets.
oooooooo controversial! Do females have to wear make up to be sexually attractive ? Serious Q ?why take the chance. "
Ha! Spoken like a man pffft |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
North of The Wall - youll need your vest |
"I dont mind jeans actually, as long as they arent hanging half way down his arse, showing his knickers.... 
What sort of men do you know!!! "
Some very strange ones obviously.... say no more |
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By (user no longer on site)
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oooooooo controversial! Do females have to wear make up to be sexually attractive ? Serious Q ?
No but lipstick leaves such a lovely red ring on the shaft of a cock....I call it 'The ring of confidence'"
Jane ! You can put as much lippy on an ugly cock as you like. It's still an ugly cock ! |
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oooooooo controversial! Do females have to wear make up to be sexually attractive ? Serious Q ?
No but lipstick leaves such a lovely red ring on the shaft of a cock....I call it 'The ring of confidence'
Jane ! You can put as much lippy on an ugly cock as you like. It's still an ugly cock !"
What the feck does an ugly cock look like?...... |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
glasgow |
"we always make the effort to look our best,for meets.mrs saucy can take 2 hours to get ready.sometimes by the time shes ready.i look at her and wish we were staying in.i always dress my best,sorry this does mean jeans.my ass is my best feature.then we go to meets,sometimes the people dont even look like theyve changed.track suits,or worse still shell suits.the female hasnt even put a little make up or perfume on.sorry but if your gardening this is ok.not for meets.
oooooooo controversial! Do females have to wear make up to be sexually attractive ? Serious Q ?why take the chance.
Ha! Spoken like a man pffft "
who else are yous trying to impress.  whats pffft. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we always make the effort to look our best,for meets.mrs saucy can take 2 hours to get ready.sometimes by the time shes ready.i look at her and wish we were staying in.i always dress my best,sorry this does mean jeans.my ass is my best feature.then we go to meets,sometimes the people dont even look like theyve changed.track suits,or worse still shell suits.the female hasnt even put a little make up or perfume on.sorry but if your gardening this is ok.not for meets.
oooooooo controversial! Do females have to wear make up to be sexually attractive ? Serious Q ?why take the chance.
Ha! Spoken like a man pffft who else are yous trying to impress. whats pffft. "
Well ..... I have a colleague who swears she wears her make up for herself, to make her feel good and keep up her confidence when she's out. She does not wear it for men ( she says ) and she does not want a man.
Do lesbians wear make up ? |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"we always make the effort to look our best,for meets.mrs saucy can take 2 hours to get ready.sometimes by the time shes ready.i look at her and wish we were staying in.i always dress my best,sorry this does mean jeans.my ass is my best feature.then we go to meets,sometimes the people dont even look like theyve changed.track suits,or worse still shell suits.the female hasnt even put a little make up or perfume on.sorry but if your gardening this is ok.not for meets.
oooooooo controversial! Do females have to wear make up to be sexually attractive ? Serious Q ?why take the chance.
Ha! Spoken like a man pffft who else are yous trying to impress. whats pffft.
Well ..... I have a colleague who swears she wears her make up for herself, to make her feel good and keep up her confidence when she's out. She does not wear it for men ( she says ) and she does not want a man.
Do lesbians wear make up ? "
theyre not as fussy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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were what can come off very easy and that mean it could be my jeans which just slip over my waist and hips with out opening. due to some good breathiing exercise so it fast removal that shocks the guys. |
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By *-and-K OP Couple
over a year ago
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I'll expand this a little, mainly because I have seen this mentioned a few months ago.
I have just seen a reply to another topic mentioning dirty fingernails.
So does this affect your meetings like dress code does?
My thinking is this.... a guy may have a heavy manual job, which has the knock on affect of ingraining dirt into both the skin in his fingers and nails. No matter how much scrubbing he does, it will not move it all to the point it looks like he sits behind an office desk all day.
Does that make him an unsuitable playmate? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'll expand this a little, mainly because I have seen this mentioned a few months ago.
I have just seen a reply to another topic mentioning dirty fingernails.
So does this affect your meetings like dress code does?
My thinking is this.... a guy may have a heavy manual job, which has the knock on affect of ingraining dirt into both the skin in his fingers and nails. No matter how much scrubbing he does, it will not move it all to the point it looks like he sits behind an office desk all day.
Does that make him an unsuitable playmate?"
Not unsuitable but less attractive the same as spots or someone who sweats more than average. |
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