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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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hi
was wondering if anyone else
has had it with all the rejection and timewasters |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If its affecting you that much I think you should be taking a serious look at what you're doing on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sometimes yes. unless your one of the lucky ones i guess. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I quite like Johnny Depp. As an actor that is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Little bit of an insult to people who suffer depression to be honest
Her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had it way before I joined here. Met some nice people here that take my mind off it |
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no ..if a website depressed me i would stop using it ...seems obvious to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think what you mean is "feeling a little down in the dumps due to rejection" as opposed to actual depression. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a website.
What's to get depressed over?
I'm way more depressed about Utd's form this season tbh!! |
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Maybe this isnt for you xx im on here as a mf couple and I don't care what anyone thinks of me xx |
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Ermmm the short of it is no...I do think maybe you need to take a step back from it all... |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
"hi
was wondering if anyone else
has had it with all the rejection and timewasters "
it may be that swinging and seeking sexual partners on the web is not for you. how do you do in the outside world meeting people.
expressing yourself and making that connection over the internet is not for all.
have you tried going to a club ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Are you having a laugh? |
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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago
Leeds. |
You mean not having pussy on tap like you thought it would be on here has pissed you off. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
quite a lot of people lose their mojo, get really down, take a break as it all too much with the 'arse hole' people..... there is usually a simpering thread a day.
depends who posts it though that determines the answers... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Err ......... no.
This site, for me, is for some light relief (so to speak)   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am receiving counselling at the moment |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
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No offence, OP, but after using the Green Arrow, I can see that this site may not be for you. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Angus & Findhorn |
"I am receiving counselling at the moment "
good luck with that, connecting with the counsellor is really key and if you don't with the first... ask for another.
it worked wonders for me a few years ago.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jeezuz H! Another one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am receiving counselling at the moment "
watch out for the bj's  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always say to any guy i have referred to the site if you cant handle rejection the site isnt for you as its more common on here than anywhere else, especially as a single guy, when you had the great idea to join for "wall to wall action" so did about 500 other guys, that may be more appealing to the people you would like to meet |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"hi
was wondering if anyone else
has had it with all the rejection and timewasters "
When sex and the pursuing of it becomes so important that the lack of it depresses you, its time to step back. Sex is supposed to be a part of a happy and well balanced life, not the only thing in it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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has been coming on for awhile and come to a head at xmas where I was a wreck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP... You aren't alone...
There are many on here, or who have left, because they take rejection to heart...
They feel crushed, pushed down, "depressed"... At this point, as some of the helpful comments have suggested, you may consider leaving, or like me....
Thick skin and DILLIGAFF...!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If your depressed the forums are the last place you wanna be.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take a break...
Websites are not right if you cannot function in real world.
Give yourself time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always say to any guy i have referred to the site if you cant handle rejection the site isnt for you as its more common on here than anywhere else, especially as a single guy, when you had the great idea to join for "wall to wall action" so did about 500 other guys, that may be more appealing to the people you would like to meet"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP with respect I really think you need to take a break from here if you think the site is making you depressed.
I took a break last summer as my confidence hit a low and my mojo has buggered off to the far flung corner of the earth somewhere but I've never felt depressed.
I hope your counselling works |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think rejection can be upsetting & a blow to your confidence, time wasters are frustrating ~ but none of this should be depressing.
Have a long hard think as to whether this site is for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You should come off if this is the trigger then.
If it not helping hide your account for a while and get well.
Her |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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im not sure its a trigger but just wanted to find out if others have had the same or is it just me o |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A wank and a glass of water, twice a day should see you OK. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has been coming on for awhile and come to a head at xmas where I was a wreck"
This isnt the best place to bare your soul honey.
Find somewhere else to chat. |
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Sex is not the be all and end all.
I've lost my mojo, but I'll know it'll come back eventually. So I'm levelling 11 characters to level 90 on World of Warcraft whilst talking crap on the fab forums.
If I feel a bit horny, I have a right hand. |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"im not sure its a trigger but just wanted to find out if others have had the same or is it just me o"
concentrate on feeling better about yourself first happy thoughts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can imagine the knock backs single men get.
But your behind a computer screen, it can only hurt face to face and with feelings involved.
Get well soon.
Her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has been coming on for awhile and come to a head at xmas where I was a wreck
This isnt the best place to bare your soul honey.
Find somewhere else to chat."
agreed
Its not a laughing matter or something to make fun out of |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has been coming on for awhile and come to a head at xmas where I was a wreck
This isnt the best place to bare your soul honey.
Find somewhere else to chat."
Why people chat and help each other here all the time. Why I love this site its not just sex its about people who at times need to off load and chat and see they are not alone when feeling low. your ok op .. you will find some here have had this here and not from maybe being on fab but things going on in their lives . xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Get a grip of yourself man! If it's genuinely making you depressed, switch the damned thing off. A tinpot swingers site is hardly worth getting yourself depressed over.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has been coming on for awhile and come to a head at xmas where I was a wreck
This isnt the best place to bare your soul honey.
Find somewhere else to chat.
agreed
Its not a laughing matter or something to make fun out of "
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"Get a grip of yourself man! If it's genuinely making you depressed, switch the damned thing off. A tinpot swingers site is hardly worth getting yourself depressed over.
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i agree .. give fab a rest |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nah don't give a flying fig really. If you are worried about the opinion of others you are on the wrong site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If it is seriously making you depressed, you need to seek professional help. Depression should be taken seriously as it can very quickly turn very nasty and change who you are.
You need to focus on you and you are the best person to do that-there's not a meet in the world that will fix the underlying issues which make you react the way you are to how this site is working out for you.
Depression is not an attractive trait and it is not conducive to building self esteem and confidence.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dude seriously, depression, get real.
I been on here for 2-3yrs and still not had a meet. Had a lot of timewasters, fake profiles, escorts and mostly just no one attracted to me.
Yes it hurts, i have zero luck going out as well.
Fact is a single female on here even with just one non nude photo will get 100s of messages so to stand out, you gotta be something damn special, esp since a lot want someone whose been verified with meets.
I love sex, i wish i could do it everyday, its been 3yrs since i even had a cuddle.
I am depressed but a long list of reasons, i been diagnosed as bi-polar, but the last thing you wanna do is moan about it to everyone. Women like confidence, they dont wanna know about your depression etc |
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By *roggMan
over a year ago
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perhaps change your approach to people on here and you live centrally in the country and visit clubs etc to meet people who are genuine and socialize more. I am sure that many feel a bit depressed if things don`t go their way on here and like others have said take a step back from it or consider whether being on here is suitable for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think a good woman would listen
The man needs a bit of help but seeking comfort here.
It's not good bail out for a bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't get it?....if it's screwing with your head to that degree close your account.
Good luck.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hide your account take a break |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hide your account take a break "
have a Kit Kat |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sex is not the be all and end all.
I've lost my mojo, but I'll know it'll come back eventually. So I'm levelling 11 characters to level 90 on World of Warcraft whilst talking crap on the fab forums.
If I feel a bit horny, I have a right hand."
I love wow! I'm playing Sims 3 atm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. If something online was making me depressed, I'd stop using the website. This probably isn't the place to frequent if you have issues with rejection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"sometimes yes. unless your one of the lucky ones i guess."
This |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hide your account take a break
have a Kit Kat"
Mmm chocolate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dude seriously, depression, get real.
I been on here for 2-3yrs and still not had a meet. Had a lot of timewasters, fake profiles, escorts and mostly just no one attracted to me.
Yes it hurts, i have zero luck going out as well.
Fact is a single female on here even with just one non nude photo will get 100s of messages so to stand out, you gotta be something damn special, esp since a lot want someone whose been verified with meets.
I love sex, i wish i could do it everyday, its been 3yrs since i even had a cuddle.
I am depressed but a long list of reasons, i been diagnosed as bi-polar, but the last thing you wanna do is moan about it to everyone. Women like confidence, they dont wanna know about your depression etc"
Some single females do, some don't. |
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"It's a website.
What's to get depressed over?
I'm way more depressed about Utd's form this season tbh!! "
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I love wow! I'm playing Sims 3 atm "
Sims 4 coming soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The moment I felt this site made me feel depressed Ide leave |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't understand why you are getting no interest, but maybe if you are feeling low, that is coming across in your messages? It is supposed to be fun on here after all. I am sorry that you feel the way you do, as others have said, it might be good for you to take a step back and enjoy other things for a while. Good luck  |
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"It's a website.
What's to get depressed over
I'm way more depressed about Utd's form this season tbh!!
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I seriously think you should come off this site, speak to your councillor and your close friends and family. At the end of the day people on this site (and me included) don't know you and so can't seriously make a positive comment....look back at the answers to your post. One has to have skin as thick as a rhinos on here and if one is a tad fragile for one reason or another than you need need to take stock. Come off this site and concentrate on sorting your head out. This site will still be here in the coming years and hopefully you will be in the right place then. Good luck and COME OFF HERE. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love wow! I'm playing Sims 3 atm
Sims 4 coming soon "
Oh yes!! I just need to buy Sims 3 pets then Sims 4 I miss wow though  I've also preordered watchdogs vigilante edition |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has been coming on for awhile and come to a head at xmas where I was a wreck
This isnt the best place to bare your soul honey.
Find somewhere else to chat.
agreed
Its not a laughing matter or something to make fun out of "
Agree. |
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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago
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"Little bit of an insult to people who suffer depression to be honest
Her"
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"hi
was wondering if anyone else
has had it with all the rejection and timewasters "
You need to leave the site if it is affecting you in this way, this life style isn't for everyone. Hope you're ok. Z |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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thanks ive had some lovely message in my inbox |
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"hi
was wondering if anyone else
has had it with all the rejection and timewasters "
In answer to your question hun yes, lots of guys get quite down about it. It may not be a good place to be if you are a bit low anyway, people here can be very hard hearted.
Good luck xx |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"hi
was wondering if anyone else
has had it with all the rejection and timewasters "
I think i am going to echo what most other people have said...
if the site is having that effect... why on earth would you put yourself thru it...
it is suppose to be fun, if it isn't fun, then walk away!! |
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"quite a lot of people lose their mojo, get really down, take a break as it all too much with the 'arse hole' people..... there is usually a simpering thread a day.
depends who posts it though that determines the answers..."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has been coming on for awhile and come to a head at xmas where I was a wreck"
Perhaps you have conflicted feelings with this morally.. Since birth we are drip fed what's acceptable and this lifestyle is outside of that. Don't over think it and seize the day! If you don't feel comfortable with it now it is unlikely to change. |
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Are there 2 issues here - firstly feeling down/dismayed and secondly how you filter and choose your potential partners. If you are seriously emotionally low, please do something about it, as it is an illness, just as if you had a physical ailment. Otherwise, look at what emotional support you need. If youre single, noone knows you swing or are on here etc, then I guess it could be tough. Think around the problem for personal help to uplift you. Now the second bit - how are you choosing and filtering your meets? You will get better at identifying the good from the crap over time. Choose verified people only to increase reliability. Speak on the phone prior to meeting. And always trust your gut feel! Use fab to back up your swinging in the real world, not as your solitary route to this. For now- take care of yourself, and decide what it is that you need that will lift you. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting I find this site helps me get out of depressive periods, pop on meet up with funny FwB go do something that makes us giggle then some quality bedroom time after, nothing better for picking you back up.
One thing is say is try reading.f through some.statuses and find one you find.funny or interesting and send a message starting a convo about it. Don't be looking for sex just treat it as a chat on any other site, usually you get a far better response than the trying to set up a meet messages, and there's no expectation for you so there's no feeling let down.
of you get one we'll and make each other laugh then think about a meet, but otherwise the chat is fun by itself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Little bit of an insult to people who suffer depression to be honest
Her"
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op by your own admission you are already depressed. The site didnt cause it did it ? However it seems that it using the site is a contributing factor. Of course being depressed you just want to feel good and depressed people use many different ways to feel good, sex being a common one.
Of course if you were a bi 21 yr old female, size 8 and hot this thread would be full of sympathy and you would have a full supportive inbox. That should tell you all you need to know about this site, dont take it seriously. You will feel better soon im sure, ride it out m8. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In between the utter lack of compassion from some above, there is some good advice OP.
The site can be a bit addictive but if it's making you feel worse then delete your account and don't return until you're in a better place.
You're better off with decent human contact rather than cyber people who tend to turn into keyboard warriors. I'm sure this thread has not made you feel any better.
Good luck |
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"hi
was wondering if anyone else
has had it with all the rejection and timewasters "
This is a website to arrange meets for casual recreational sex. If it makes you "depressed"  ...you need to have a serious talk with yourself. Oh, and get a life!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In between the utter lack of compassion from some above, there is some good advice OP.
The site can be a bit addictive but if it's making you feel worse then delete your account and don't return until you're in a better place.
You're better off with decent human contact rather than cyber people who tend to turn into keyboard warriors. I'm sure this thread has not made you feel any better.
Good luck "
Ditto |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Little bit of an insult to people who suffer depression to be honest
Her
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Look I had this myself when my dad died for months I never knew it until .. one day reading here a post and it was like they was chatting about me. People who know me know I am a very positive person and I could not see it .. as never lost a person so close and depression set in for months ... friends helped me and time . Now the op may have other things going on we don't know about and of loading here a little if it helps him I am glad ....We are in cyber space here and its not real half the time .. And yes it can get people down as it gives them hope of allsorts . Depression is like a very dark hole .. But theres a light if you look hard at the end .. But you yourself have to wish to go there and get out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The black dog of depression is a crippling thing.
It shouldn't be taken lightly.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course if you were a bi 21 yr old female, size 8 and hot this thread would be full of sympathy"
I doubt we'll ever be able to test this theory. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rise above it.... Play them at their own game |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The black dog of depression is a crippling thing.
It shouldn't be taken lightly.
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I HAD A BLACK DOG . Winston Churchill suffered from depression, on and off, throughout his life, yet still led the country through the Second World War. He called his depression a Black Dog that followed him around.. The Black Dog has been used as a metaphor for depression from antiquity to the present day. To bring the campaign to life . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depressed? Bit of a dramatic statement...
I'm fed up, emotional and down in the dumps at the moment but wouldn't claim to be depressed. Especially not over this site... |
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"Of course if you were a bi 21 yr old female, size 8 and hot this thread would be full of sympathy
I doubt we'll ever be able to test this theory."
haha, really you think it needs to be tested ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One solution.....delete profile and leave fab. Looking at some of the replys lets just hope the chap dont jump off a cliff. Wrong place to ask for advice. Maybe ask your doctor for advice not a swingers site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of course if you were a bi 21 yr old female, size 8 and hot this thread would be full of sympathy
I doubt we'll ever be able to test this theory.
haha, really you think it needs to be tested ?? "
Well, a 21 year old, size 8, bisexual female is unlikely to ever start a thread about depression caused from this site through lack of success. |
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"Of course if you were a bi 21 yr old female, size 8 and hot this thread would be full of sympathy
I doubt we'll ever be able to test this theory.
haha, really you think it needs to be tested ??
Well, a 21 year old, size 8, bisexual female is unlikely to ever start a thread about depression caused from this site through lack of success."
Really ? That shows you havnt read all the posts by the OP and also that you dont know very much about depression. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting I find this site helps me get out of depressive periods, pop on meet up with funny FwB go do something that makes us giggle then some quality bedroom time after, nothing better for picking you back up.
One thing is say is try reading.f through some.statuses and find one you find.funny or interesting and send a message starting a convo about it. Don't be looking for sex just treat it as a chat on any other site, usually you get a far better response than the trying to set up a meet messages, and there's no expectation for you so there's no feeling let down.
of you get one we'll and make each other laugh then think about a meet, but otherwise the chat is fun by itself"
Couldn't agree more sexy pants |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you need to take a break. Not going to tell you to man up as I have no idea what's happening to you outside of Fabs an don't want to contribute to any issues you might be having. People have different levels of resilience.
Sounds like you're running low on confidence. Try doing a few social events (non-fab) with mates. Sometimes, it's just about going out, having a good time and seeing where the night takes you. We get so wrapped up in sex that we forget we're also enjoying that person's company. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Of course if you were a bi 21 yr old female, size 8 and hot this thread would be full of sympathy
I doubt we'll ever be able to test this theory.
haha, really you think it needs to be tested ??
Well, a 21 year old, size 8, bisexual female is unlikely to ever start a thread about depression caused from this site through lack of success.
Really ? That shows you havnt read all the posts by the OP and also that you dont know very much about depression."
I didn't realise you had both my medical records and browser history to hand. Wrong on both accounts.
Anyway, I think you missed my point so you could have a pop. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've realised that it's not personal. A meet came straight out of the blue for me. Keep the faith  |
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Fer fuck's sake what's the matter with people, where the hell does this compulsion to lash out at someone for admitting weakness comes from, have you all turned your insides into cold hard stone just to get a bit of nsa???
Sheesh, have some compassion for a change why don't you people........ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've realised that it's not personal. A meet came straight out of the blue for me. Keep the faith "
I know the op say fab .. But it could be 101 things why he is feeling low and 9/10 there are other things that can trigger it off . |
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it could be that you gotta be cool,relax, get hip stay on those tracks, take a backseat ,hitchhike, take a long ride on a motorbike ..or anti psychotics work for me . . . . .sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fer fuck's sake what's the matter with people, where the hell does this compulsion to lash out at someone for admitting weakness comes from, have you all turned your insides into cold hard stone just to get a bit of nsa???
Sheesh, have some compassion for a change why don't you people........"
I've been depressed for nearly 4 years, my heart is literally stone from all the shit that's happened, I don't know if the op is depressed or just looking for sympathy but it should never be joked about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a website.
What's to get depressed over?
I'm way more depressed about Utd's form this season tbh!! "
This |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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thanks for all your messages ,starting to see reasoning why ,will decide whether to stay or not when my site supporter membership ends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thanks for all your messages ,starting to see reasoning why ,will decide whether to stay or not when my site supporter membership ends "
Use this site as a tool for your own desires OP, you certainly do not have to conform to what anyone else states here and that includes myself. One tip though is to have no expectations. The tool I would suggest you use this as is for socialisation on the net bearing in mind never to take anything personally because none of us know you so none of us should be judging you. The only right we have is judging (assessing) you in relation to ourselves, for ourselves (and that's more specifically for meets).
Looking at history another famous person suffered with depression on and off, and he was a Master in helping present day mental health experts in the field of psychology: Karl Jung. You have done the right thing in seeking help and talking therapies is something I'd advocate, so I hope you have an excellent counsellor. If you have family and friends in whom you can trust, then get them to support, sometimes just as a listening ear and other times to ensure you are not isolating yourself.
Depression works on three aspects of our lives and this is where you begin to treat it, or at the very least prevent the depression from spiralling to worse levels. Help your physical body: sleep, nutrition and exercise. Depending on the severity of your depression, you may need antidepressants (or short-term anti-anxiety meds), but not all depressive disorders requires these. Do talk to your GP (tip: look at your GP's practice online and see if any of the GPs specialise in mental health, or ask the receptionist... all doctors are not the same and unfortunately not all are up to the mark with mental health).
Socially I have touched upon - do not isolate yourself. Do find activities that can give you pleasure.
Psychologically - counselling is a great start but the hard work comes from within. Some of your mental constructs may have to change. The easiest one is to refuse to take things personally that simply cannot be personal. You may FEEL the offence but acknowledge you're feeling it due to your weakened state. It does get easier (in time) to brush off the negativity of others, but probably not yet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some things I've only touched upon, there is a huge amount of info that you counsellor should be able to access, if not then your GP. Do look after yourself and if you find you're ruminating (over-thinking) then occupy/distract your mind... eg reading, but if your concentration levels are down then I'd suggest a movie.
Good luck. |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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"If your depressed the forums are the last place you wanna be..... "
no sometimes I am in stitches with some of the threads on here |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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Methinks this is just a ploy by another single guy who has only been on here for a few months and has had no success in what he considered could be an "Instant Fix" site!
Or I could just be totally and utterly wrong! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Methinks this is just a ploy by another single guy who has only been on here for a few months and has had no success in what he considered could be an "Instant Fix" site!
Or I could just be totally and utterly wrong! "
Why assume something negative? Even if it is a ploy, will it directly affect you? |
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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago
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depression is an awful thing .. I know |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Methinks this is just a ploy by another single guy who has only been on here for a few months and has had no success in what he considered could be an "Instant Fix" site!
Or I could just be totally and utterly wrong!
Why assume something negative? Even if it is a ploy, will it directly affect you?"
Funnily enough I was about to type something similar. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Methinks this is just a ploy by another single guy who has only been on here for a few months and has had no success in what he considered could be an "Instant Fix" site!
Or I could just be totally and utterly wrong!
Why assume something negative? Even if it is a ploy, will it directly affect you?Funnily enough I was about to type something similar. "
Sometimes it would be nice if people haven't something positive or constructive to state, they zip it. |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Methinks this is just a ploy by another single guy who has only been on here for a few months and has had no success in what he considered could be an "Instant Fix" site!
Or I could just be totally and utterly wrong!
Why assume something negative? Even if it is a ploy, will it directly affect you?Funnily enough I was about to type something similar.
Sometimes it would be nice if people haven't something positive or constructive to state, they zip it."
Naaaaa wont happen on here, that then takes away the superiority complex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chin up mate. The site's not that bad. You need to use it in a way that is fun and enjoyable for you. Just keep note that you won't always be meeting off here. It's not the be all or end all but don't let it put you down.
...it's not worth being depressed over.
Hope it goes well and looks up for you on here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I know about rejection on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Methinks this is just a ploy by another single guy who has only been on here for a few months and has had no success in what he considered could be an "Instant Fix" site!
Or I could just be totally and utterly wrong!
Why assume something negative? Even if it is a ploy, will it directly affect you?Funnily enough I was about to type something similar.
Sometimes it would be nice if people haven't something positive or constructive to state, they zip it.Naaaaa wont happen on here, that then takes away the superiority complex."
Sadly true.
IF the OP was using this as a ploy, then being empathic on this thread may not be of any use to him BUT looking at the bigger picture it may help others. (so much for me losing my nice side  ). |
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"Methinks this is just a ploy by another single guy who has only been on here for a few months and has had no success in what he considered could be an "Instant Fix" site!
Or I could just be totally and utterly wrong!
Why assume something negative? Even if it is a ploy, will it directly affect you?"
Exactly, admitting to being depressed about it in here is hardly a strategy to get laid, I would assume a guy is actually pretty depressed about it!
Having sex is often just one way we can temporarily relieve a bit of the stress in our lives, chasing the dragon I call it (even though I know that is a drug related phrase I use it to mean getting a fix of whatever you need).
I can understand why people in all kinds of situations come here for all kinds of reasons, and I see no reason why we shouldn't strive to help each other find a bit of humanity here too.
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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It never fails to surprise me the people who needed a wee lift from the forums at some point in the past, how they forget.
A kind word cost me nothing, it may make a difference.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It never fails to surprise me the people who needed a wee lift from the forums at some point in the past, how they forget.
A kind word cost me nothing, it may make a difference.
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"It never fails to surprise me the people who needed a wee lift from the forums at some point in the past, how they forget.
A kind word cost me nothing, it may make a difference.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Methinks this is just a ploy by another single guy who has only been on here for a few months and has had no success in what he considered could be an "Instant Fix" site!
Or I could just be totally and utterly wrong! "
Its amazing at times reading the forums how 2 faced people can be. Its not that many years ago you were bleating wow is me about loosing your job and having to leave Hull. You were depressed looking for sympathy and a little comradery and now you feel the need to be derogatory casting aspersions. I hope the next time you feel down the same is dished out in a similar manner you can't deny it would be justifiable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It never fails to surprise me the people who needed a wee lift from the forums at some point in the past, how they forget.
A kind word cost me nothing, it may make a difference.
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I couldn't agree more sadly some spiteful people take far more pleasure in putting the boot into others to make their lives a touch less shitty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Chin up mate. The site's not that bad. You need to use it in a way that is fun and enjoyable for you. Just keep note that you won't always be meeting off here. It's not the be all or end all but don't let it put you down.
...it's not worth being depressed over.
Hope it goes well and looks up for you on here.
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Well said Popeye lad
the site can piss you of a bit when you can't get meets ,your not on your own we all feel like this at times ,just go with the flow an keep searching ,good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It never fails to surprise me the people who needed a wee lift from the forums at some point in the past, how they forget.
A kind word cost me nothing, it may make a difference.
I couldn't agree more sadly some spiteful people take far more pleasure in putting the boot into others to make their lives a touch less shitty. "
Often the same people on thread after thread its a little sad really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not going to pretend there haven't been times when this site didn't make me feel frustrated by my apparent lack of pulling technique, but then I stopped worrying and saw it as another tool in discovering my sexuality.
I may never get a meet on there, but I learn about sex and more importantly myself so much using Fab that I no longer care. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fer fuck's sake what's the matter with people, where the hell does this compulsion to lash out at someone for admitting weakness comes from, have you all turned your insides into cold hard stone just to get a bit of nsa???
Sheesh, have some compassion for a change why don't you people........"
Couldn't agree more. I am reading a lot of stuff on here and thinking what the hell!
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